Leave her ass and don’t look back.
Texting and calling and sending nudes to someone other than your significant other is wrong. Doesn’t matter if you’re not having sex you talked about it and planned on doing it it’s still the same thing I wouldn’t trust her I would pack up and leave.
That’s a little personal. And I find it very offensive
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You can’t. Because if it were the other way around, she wouldn’t‼️
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Divorce. She doesn’t even have remorse.
Pack her bags and show her the door
Nah that’s still cheating
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I would sit down and have an honest and open conversation about feelings and needs that are potentially not being met. Depending on how that goes then open up a conversation about monogamy/polyamory and what your boundaries are around that. Being open and honest on both sides can help you understand each other and figure out where you guys are at in the relationship.
You can’t trust her especially if she thinks that is harmless! Divorce now!
You WILL never get over this I don’t care what BS someone tells you. You will question everything they say and do (even things you normally wouldn’t bat an eye to) out of fear of them being dishonest. Staying with them will turn you into someone else, you will lose yourself.
So you have a choice lose yourself or lose them?
Jesus shit. Good bye! I would leave! She doesn’t see anything wrong with her actions!
Simple answer… You can’t.
She’s not trustworthy.
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How are you believing the gaslighting bs excuse from your wife?! Tf 
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You can’t because it was not harmless
Leave, she has no morals
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ahhh… technology, isn’t it great…
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If the whore doesn’t see a problem ( a serious one at that ) she’ll never stop and she clearly doesn’t love NOR respect you at all. Leave her ass and find a real woman . She’s giving us a bad name…on behalf of us loyal women… WE DO NOT CLAIM HER 
Shes for the streets!!
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You can’t. Leave her.
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They’ve had sex if she can show her parts to this co worker.Shes a liar
I know it hurts to think about your life, marriage, spouse, and future. The whole world probably feels like it’s turned upside down. Unfortunately, cheaters always downplay the affair when they’re caught. They were definitely sleeping together. You can’t trust her, honestly. It will never be the same. I’m so sorry. I’ve been where you are and I know how painful it is right now. I stayed for several years trying to make it work and I regret trying for so long. I hope you will find the strength to walk away.
Leave and take her for everything she has got
You can forgive but you’ll never forget and that trust may never come back. You have to do what’s right for you, sometimes it’s more painful to hold on then to let go.
I’d leave her if it was me. Just being honest. That’s so disrespectful, and disloyal. I’m sorry:cold_sweat:
Bye B**** lmfao. Don’t waste time settling for someone who wants everyone.
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Im so sorry you have to endure the pain. But you need to think about yourself now, you need to think about how its effecting your mental state, your emotional state and your feelings. How did it make u feel when u caught her? How does it make you feel when you think about it. If its not healthy for you you need to put yourself first. Shes clearly put herself first in this situation as shes not thinking about anything but her pleasure and cant admit to her wrongs instead of manipulating you to think otherwise as well as being a narcissist. So pleasure yourself and leave for your own well being. Again im so sorry you have to endure this mental and emotional pain 
sending alot of healing and guidence to you at this time 
Pay more attention to her
Highly doubtful it’s the first time she’s done that. Time for divorce.
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If she is doing that then that would be the next thing coming
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Sorry dude- but if after 19 years she’s acting like this……I wonder what’s she has done in the past and that your clueless to. A woman don’t just one day decide oh I’m sending a necked pic.
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Would consider this the same as cheating. The move away from that whole mess.
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Time to get the hell out of that marriage, nothing is right about her actions or her response. Get a damn good attorney so you don’t end up paying her monthly alimony!
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Simple, you absolutely cannot trust them.
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That’s emotional cheating. I wouldn’t be able to trust the person after that.
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Wow that’s your first red flag 
her saying it’s not cheating is a big issue !! Right out of the gate she’s obviously feel no remorse or guilt for what she was doing and with out those she has no intentions or changing those mistakes either 
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19 yrs is a very long time, try marriage counseling first and then go from there.
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That’s cheating !!!
I know you’re feeling .
They work together so they see each other every day how do you know if anything is going on at lunch? Just asking
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You cant, get rid, that is absolutely disgraceful behaviour and is absolutely cheating
Sorry to say, but I’m betting she’s done this before and with other people. And I also bet she has slept with others as well, and also believe she’d keep doing it, even if you all tried to make it work together. Sending nudes and such to anyone but your SO, is cheating in my book. I don’t think I could ever trust that person again. Seems like you’ve outgrown each other, or at least, she’s outgrown you and your marriage. Don’t settle for this behavior. Please respect yourself and get out now. 19 years is a long time to be with someone but if she truly valued your relationship, she would have sat you down and talked about her feelings and issues, not send nudes to a coworker.
That’s cheating !! Ummmm nawwww exit stage left.
The trust is gone.
How would she feel had you done that? Its an emotional form of cheating to be able to allow yourself to another even if sex isnt happening. So sorry but if shes doing this…this is the first step into going further. The act of physically cheating hurts for sure but for me its the emotional aspect that gets you open to another that would do it for me.
Went through the exact same situation. When she said they weren’t going to meet up, I promise you they had talked about it. Had you not caught her, they would have. Period.
As far as you, your wife cheated on you. Period. Don’t let her gaslight you (Google it) into thinking she didn’t. It wasn’t harmless, it causes harm, heartache, trust issues, you’ll be hurt for years.
Now, you need to figure out if you’re staying or not. Did she take accountability? Will you have access to her devices whenever you want? Will you know what she’s doing? How will you trust her again? You got this. It hurts. But you got this.
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I’m so sorry, I would sit down and talk with her, talk about your feelings and boundaries. Also let her talk too, find out why she made the choice to do that. I’m a fan of total communication before deciding on throwing anything long term away especially someone I love. Also I’m not condoning what she did. I just think communication right now is so important.
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So she cheated. Leave her.
Listen, I know I’m probably gonna sound like a huge optimist here, but, the Bible says love (forgiveness) covers a multitude of wrongs. First of all it doesn’t matter what the “world” thinks. If you want to keep your marriage, sit down and discuss not yell, with each other to find out if you both love each other enough to work through this and what she is lacking between you. Clear communication helps. Seek some Christian counseling or guidance from a seasoned/trusted person who is grounded in the Lord. There are usually emotional reasons for women to stray/flirt, so you will need to work on a broken piece in the relationship. If there’s not enough real love for her to want to stay, you’ll never stop her from straying. Then you may have to diligently do what is necessary at that point. Our world is quick to judge and divorce and move on but no one ever said marriage or life would be easy or make all the right choices. It can be done- marriage is continual work or there is no relationship.
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Divorce. Immediately to save yourself from future pain.
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Oh. HELL. no !!! This is cheating. Run. Run far and fast. Would you do this? Will you trust her again? There is your answer. You deserve better.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I pray you get the answers you need. I personally would leave.
Cheating isn’t just sex. It’s emotional conversation, sneaky texts… all that. I’d leave. No doubt. She can have the coworker.
Speaking as someone who has done it. Not sending videos or nudes but speaking to another man while being married. It wasn’t harmless. Anyone saying well pay more attention to her it’s not an excuse. My husband was spending more time on video games than with me we stopped talking for 2 years. What I did was no excuse. I never had sex with anyone else I never had done it before. I was lonely. But it was never an excuse. We worked through it cause I decided I wanted him and our family and our marriage. I cut all ties with the other person. He gave up video games. She has to admit what she’s done. It is a form of cheating and it’s not ok. If she can’t cut it off and decide she wants you and your marriage than maybe it’s best to end things.
You can’t…. RED FLAG
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That is cheating no matter how she puts it.
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That is cheating! The trust is gone. It is so hard to regain that back. I’m sorry this happened.
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Omg, she is looking for fun with others.
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You can’t. That is cheating. Normally once a cheater always a cheater. I’m so so sorry.
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That’s crossing the line. I’d get a divorce and leave. Game over!
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Harmless? Absolutely not. If the roles were reversed I’m sure she would be livid. It’s cheating. Putting myself in your shoes, if my SO did this, I would leave. No one deserves that.
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That would be straight divorce got me.
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you don’t. They already disrespected you and your relationship, physical just the next step… most likely already done. Sorry.
Just because it wasn’t physical doesn’t mean that it’s not cheating. And they were talking about meeting up, if you didn’t catch her on her phone she probably would have went through with it. Flirting is sending a cute pic of yourself, being a hoe is sending your snatch to someone who is not your husband. I would talk to your wife and tell her to go pack a bag for a few days. Think about it, is this something you always want to be in the back of your mind every time she’s on her phone. Trust is gonna be real shitty if you choose to stay and it will take a lot of work to gain that back,
For her to have the audacity to fully believe shes not cheating has got to be the dumbest excuse, but what I hope is you arent believing her 
Its cheating! And I hope you have the logic to not let love blind you. Remember that a cheater will possibly (cheat) again if they find you weak minded and she will think you forgave her once so she can do it again. Theres a reason they went looking elsewhere and Trust is hard to get back once it’s lost. The diseases people carry now days is another reason to let her go. Even though she may or may not have had physical contact, its possible she will and then your screwed if she gives that nastiness to you. So choice is yours.
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She may not have actually done the deed but the intent was most definitely there and for me, that would be enough. Without trust you have nothing. I’m sorry your feelings are hurt but remember that life is to short to waist it with people like that. Leave and don’t look back, life could be much happier for you a year from now. Wishing you the best!
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Personally, I would leave and consider that cheating. Whatever you choose, I hope you find peace.
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Get A Good Divorce Lawyer what she is doing is just the same as Cheating…
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That’s cheating and she’s gaslighting you. Time to hand her the divorce papers.
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The fact that you had to ask strangers if this is ok is scary to me…get rid of the cheater making you second guess yourself!!
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Sex isn’t the only form of cheating! She obviously planned to so how can you ever trust anything
Divorce you bearly catching up to her bullshit
Don’t trust her you should leave her 100 percent if she loved you she wouldn’t have ever did it an that is 100 percent 
facts
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You dont you get up and leave and get a divorce
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You cannot trust her. Only you can decide if you want to try to save your marriage.
She cheated already. Shes telling u they never did the deed. All lies. Leave her ass
Okay, so everyone will have an opinion, because everyone is different. For me, pictures and videos isn’t cheating. It’s like watching porn.
This being said, if you and her discussed what is okay and not okay within YOUR relationship, and this goes against it, I’d leave.
But that’s just me.
Do the same and see how they react
It was being kept from you, I feel that’s the issue, either an emotional cheating or physical One. For me it is the same it’s just the secrecy, they new it was wrong otherwise they would be open about it surely.
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Tell her bye and she can go be with the coworker.
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It’s a hard no from me.
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This may seem hard to comprehend to some, but give her unconditional love… sounds weird I know. She may be dealing with a past trauma and it’s causing her to be unhappy in her life right now.
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That’s not your wife it’s the person she’s sending it to.
You don’t trust that person. It’s time to move on
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She is trying to minimize her wrong doings. Then trying to say she didnt do anything wrong. Im sorry but she is being a floozy and id reccomend getting a divorce. There is no forgiving that. And from what she saidz it doesnt seem like she is too remorseful either.
Sorry this happened to you 
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You have to ask yourself are you willing to tolerate this behavior? If not walk away. It’ll happen again exspecially if it’s just swept under the rug. Sending light and love 
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Right n I have a bridge over ocean in Nevada
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Nope. She definitely slept with or is sleeping with.
No married woman that ISNT cheating is going to be sending those types of videos to someone else.
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Not at all. Tell her bye!
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They already have done it! Smh don’t waste your time believing in someone who doesn’t care about your feelings .
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Emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating. Just because she hasn’t gotten physical with him doesn’t mean it’s not cheating.
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I’m so sorry, you can’t trust her.
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That is so inappropriate.
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Leave her. You deserve better 
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Breach of trust, even if they never touched. I’d leave. Up to you.
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Nothing happened because she got caught . Now I bet she will hide her stuff now … I would be out of there in a flash !!
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Uhhh signs of get the heck on with your life . It’s those texts and sneaky conversations that cause cheating . I myself would count that as cheating sex or not
Call him to pick her up. She belongs to the streets.
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Ew have a better life that’s not ok
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So sick A serious problem.
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She didn’t have sex bc you caught her. Eventually it would’ve happened. You can’t trust her no more but if y’all are willing to do the work you can start to try again. (This takes time)
She doesn’t have the right to decide if it was harmless. Do you feel harmed? Then it was harmful. If she can’t even admit she hurt you and was wrong now what is gonna happen later? What bullshit will she feed you when she does have sex with someone else? People that have no accountability can’t be trusted. She can’t even take the first step and admit she was wrong. That’s not ok. You deserve more.