Can you post for me, please? I just need to vent. I’m a mom of 4 boys. I have been married for almost 14 years. I’ve been feeling sad, hurt, unappreciated by my kids and husband. Well, today I didn’t receive anything for Mother’s Day. I’m a stay-at-home mom, so I’m the one who looks after the kids and takes care of the house and does the cooking. My husband is a very hard worker and provides for his family, and he is gone most of the day. He is not the typical husband who goes out his way to get me a gift for any occasion. Not for anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s, Mother’s Day, Christmas. The only time he does gives me a gift is because I mention something about whatever holiday or special occasion is coming up. But if I don’t mention anything, I don’t get anything. On the other hand, I always try to buy him something for every occasion. And for Father’s Day, I always take the boys to the store and let them pick something out for him. I know a relationship isn’t based on material stuff, but I, for once, want to feel special. Am I overreacting? Or do I have the right to feel some type of way?
Nobody will ever mimic your heart… don’t give and expect in return…
You Need to bring appreciated more you need to sit your husband down and tell him the way you feel. And hopefully he’ll understand
Just remember he is teaching his sons these things. Not ok!!! Especially mother’s day. We teach people how to treat us. If you feel bad say something
Go on strike. Then they’ll notice. 
Unless you sit him down and actually say something to him it won’t change. People can’t change things unless they know
Being the mother of boys I know first hand that the sentimental stuff is beyond their comprehension. If it wasn’t for their wives and girlfriends I wouldn’t get anything either. They only call when they need something. My daughter on the other had is always thinking of me. I’m telling ya it’s a boy thing! You want something nice, GO BUY IT YOURSELF, Cuz you are worth it. They just don’t know how to show it.
I have 7 children. When they were little, I didn’t get anything from my husband. When I asked he answered, you’re not my momma. It was very hurtful.
You don’t need gifts to feel special. Getting a happy mothers day and spending the day with your family is good enough. Appreciate what you do have.
Take the credit card and buy yourself something super nice!!!
Id make sure to communicate that. Men really dont know unless you tell them as annoying as it is
No. You are NOT overreacting! If I were you, I would feel the same. I think you should talk with your husband and tell him how you feel. Its nothing wrong for you to get recognition sometimes. Special on those days.
You maybe overreacting, you should have let him know exactly how important this was to you a long time ago. I am engaged to a man who isn’t a gift giver, we were angry with each other on Mother’s Day and I didn’t receive a gift. Nonetheless I am not angry because I have received so many lavish gifts tht I don’t even care tht I didn’t get anything. I did mention it to him and now we have a date and he said he has some money for me (which isn’t sentimental at all) but it’s to shut me up. My point is if you want a gift, mention it and see what he does. DONT get him anything for Father’s Day.
Him!!! A woman shouldn’t have to be neglected by the simplest of things.
I would sit your husband down and let him know that those small things make you feel good. The fact that he thought of you (on his own) and got you something…big or small… Its just simply the thought that counts. Especially being a stay at home mom… Those moments are what get you through. i totally understand because I am a stay at home mom too .
Hopefully your husband will understand where you’re coming from.
Sometimes daily life/tasks get in the way of the small things and maybe he just needs a little reminder. Good luck!!
My son is 22 and has never remembered mother’s day… he doesn’t even know when my birthday is lol. -shrug- my boyfriend of 12 years always remembers… but im pretty sure he only remembers because facebook reminds him lmao
So sorry you need to feel appreciated no you are not wrong!
First of all, nobody has the right to tell you how to feel, second of all, its not about material things like you pointed out. A handmade card would have done wonders, or even going out and picking flowers from a field, so dont let anyone make excuses. You should have been recognized. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY.
Stop being materialistic. Plain and simple
Girl you need to have a sit down with your husband and tell him exactly how you’re feeling and that you want to feel more appreciated. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and the first 6 years he didn’t buy me anything unless it was for Christmas or my birthday. I sat him down one day and told him exactly how I felt and we have come up with a plan either I go out to the store and buy something for myself with money that he gives me or he goes out and picks me up something. It’s just a simple little things like that to make a woman feel so much better. Best of luck and I hope that you’re able to get through to him 
The way I had to break it down to my husband is that there’s 365 days in a year, if he’s too lazy and unappreciative to do something genuine to make me feel loved and appreciated 4 of those days (Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, birthday and anniversary) he needs to figure out his priories because I won’t stay in a marriage where I’m not one. Tell him once and don’t tell him again, if he continues to ignore your feelings on the issue go on strike, don’t buy things for him, don’t go out of your way to make him feel like he’s any more worthy of feeling special than you are.
go out of town without them.
Your not over reacting, some guys don’t get how hurtful they can be by not showing any appreciation. Time to stop buying them things. Don’t get him ANYTHING for Father’s day. See how he takes it. Then just maybe he’ll know what it feels like.
Id say something for sure. You shouldn’t have to hide your feelings. Its not about"the gift" its the loving thought behind it. You’re human. You have feelings and its normal. If alll else fails. Id buy my own gifts!! 
good luck!
It’s very sad you feel this way and this is why learning each others love language is so important.
Same boat!! But I had to buy my mil a mother’s day gift from him so it hurt more. I just decided I’m going to buy myself a gift bc y not!
Welcome to my world! I haven’t gotten anything for my birthday, mother’s day, or Christmas in I dont know how many years!
I know how you feel, but your husband should set an example for your boys otherwise they will do the exact same thing. I have 2 boys off my own, they’re grown now and all I ever get is happy Mother’s Day mom. They never really had an example growing up
How was he when you guys were dating? If he did those things then, then it’s in him to do it. Which means he’s stop trying.
No you aren’t over reacting. Your husband sounds like an unappreciative selfish prick. Make sure you return the favour on Fathers Day, his birthday and Christmas
It’s totally understandable!!
Same here, my husband didn’t even say happy Mother’s Day, he didn’t get me nothing for my birthday. My mom organized a bbq for my birthday and he tried to take credit for it but I called him out on it. But he went out of his way to give his mother money that we both work hard for and let me tel you his mom HATES me since the day we said I Do ! For Father’s Day I order a custom made perfume bottle with his initials engraved and all I get is a shit 
Stop buying him gifts see if he noticed or not.
Reciprocate the same to your husband on Father’s Day. Maybe then, he will understand how you feel. Gifts aren’t everything but just being acknowledged and feeling appreciated goes a very long way.
Girl I have 4 sons and a husband (we’ve been married for over 21 years and together for 26 and there were more years that I got nothing for mother’s day so you either just deal with it cause you love them no matter what they can gift you cause sometimes being a mom/wife you are under appreciated… so my motto is you have two choices “BUILD A BRIDGE AND GET OVER IT OR GET UNDERNETH IT” But for God sakes stop airing your dirty laundry here on FB CAUSE IT TRASHY.!
You have the right to feel however you feel. Sounds like it is time to have an honest conversation.
This hurts my heart. I’m sorry. Buy something for yourself each year. I bought myself a puppy this year. Lol
Stop doing things for them. Stop putting icing on the cake for them.
I said to my ex one year are you takin kids to get me mothers day stuff he said no you got a new fella its his job now n walked out luckly was wi decent bloke back then … fathers day rolled round gets a phone call why aint i got card or out off kids … i just replied you got new mrs its her job now … n for last 13 year never bought him a card ect since n now kids old enough now they dont bother with it after he told my eldest when he was 19 your to old for cards now dont expect out till 21st … he said dont bother c
Listen to yourself I didn’t get anything I didn’t get anything it sounds like a child when you get older in life you don’t expect gifts. I never get gifts for Christmas or birthday or anything the biggest gift I have is my friends my family guide into spending time with people. You’re depressed because you didn’t get a present something a child would do
Not at all!!! You have every right to feel this way.
I don’t have kids yet, but my husband is the same way. He thinks all holidays and birthdays are a waste of money. 
No I would feel the same way . Tell him how you feel . Communication is key .
I feel the same way.
I was told you aren’t my mom from my EX husband!
Girl my mothers day was the same way. I have 5 children my oldest being almost 17. Finally yesterday i let my husband and my older kids have it. I told them it wasn’t even about gifts or anything but the fact they didn’t even spend the day with me, they all hid in their rooms playing on their phones or games while i still did my everyday routine. I asked them how they would like if i didn’t do anything special for them on their birthdays. Then my brother showed up with a dozen red roses and a very special card for me which i was not expecting (i did help raise him) and after loosing our mom last year. Im really all he has left as a mother figure. I think the kids and husband got my point. You have to say something to them or they are gonna keep doing it but you are def not over reacting.
No you your not … just play same games see how they react when you don’t give 
something we have to give the same energy they give
If you don’t do or say anything, you are doin your daughters in law a disservice. I can assure you they will do the same to their wives. Have a family meeting and explain to them in very direct words how you feel. Unfortunately, men don’t mean to be oblivious but they are. If you don’t tell your young sons how to appreciate their wives/girlfriends who will??
It’s ok when they don’t buy for you, just buy for yourself , as long as their not expecting any gifts from you either
Well if he’s never done it before, why expect something now??? If he needs reminders, start throwing hints a week in advance of what you want and go from there.
Remind him, he needs a heads up! Trifling but if it works go for it.
Sounds like you need a new husband 
. And I don’t wanna hear none of that “ it’s not about the gifts “ bullshit… that’s not the point . She just wants to be shown some appreciation . Considering she said she never gets anything for any holiday is definitely messed up. I’m sure over the years it just made her feel less and less appreciated . As a man and father of boys he should be guiding them on how to treat a woman especially their mother .
I’m married 25 yrs 3 kids when we met… young… to this day I get nothing … but I try to remember what I have n what he does every day…
You are NOT overreacting!
I felt so much love them I instantly felt heartbroken when my almost 18yr old read me this…
Mind you I have had no physical help from their father in the last 6yrs I was a single mother of 6 kids for almost 5 yrs with a full time job… Then I hear the word grandma… I am sorry they have hardly ever really been around their grandmother… Not that I don’t love the woman… But it really hurt me for her to get recognition when I raised him and his brothers and sister with absolutely no help from Grandmas…Grandpas… Aunts… Uncles… Or Dads
I’m so sorry. I would mention it to them. It’s literally not hard to know when these special days are. There are reminders everywhere for months. Hubs is being lazy and I wouldn’t settle for that. Your kids are this way because of what they have seen from him. You deserve better.
So sorry to hear im riding on the same boat my hubby told me i get everything all year long its true but like i told him its the small details that matter hell even flowers from my garden would have been great. 
Then you go celebrate by yourself. Leave the kids with him, have dinner,go to a spa,movies…whatever you like.And stop buying him gifts, just have your kids make him a card.
You absolutely should and are aloud to feel hurt! Important events are usually the same “date” yearly! I would let him know how much you are hurt by his inattentive nature and lay down clear boundaries about your future expectations. If you have to force some amount of attention on the really special days, seems he shouldn’t take such a good wife and mother for granted!!! Happy-Happy Belated Mother’s Day, I’m sure you are doing a fantastic job! 
My advice to you from now on on Mother’s Day take the day for yourself go where you want and do what you want enjoy your whole day doing you… I’m sorry they didn’t do anything to show you thee appreciation you deserve it can be very hurtful… and as far as your hubby goes remember this on Father’s Day cause my husband did the same to me so when Father’s Day comes oh he’s getting a surprise alright but it won’t be in his favor!!! Honey do you all day longgggg
It’s your love language love! Some peoples love language can be affection, gifts, touch, ect. Everybody loves differently and that’s ok! Maybe have a talk with him about what’s bothering you and explain to him your love language and figure out what his is and maybe it will click in his head.
I didn’t get anything either but then again I don’t expect anything… yes its very nice to feel appreciated and valued and I completely understand where your coming from with that but motherhood is about the craziness of taking care of a home and everyone in it. We all willingly took it on and I personally don’t expect to be showered with gifts from my kids or anyone else for doing something that I chose… spoil yourself, buy yourself gifts… I am sure I look at it differently than most… I really never have been one for material things… A simple happy mothers day and enjoying the day with my family will always be enough for me and is more special than any gift I could have been given… instead I am just grateful for the time spent with my family for all of us being happy and healthy…
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You ate not overreacting.
You have every right to feel neglected and taken for granted.
Don’t buy his ass shit i bet he notices…
Ya know this was my relationship for 16.5 yrs with my kids dad. He never got me anything. Hell my kids wouldn’t have even gotten gifts for birthdays and other holidays if it wasn’t for me. I dont understand why this is so hard for so many men. How hard is it to be like here is a single rose, a card, something. It dont take much to make most of us woman happy.
I think it’s a man thing, not that he doesn’t care, just doesn’t think of things like that, especially if he has things to keep up around the house. Take a red marker and circle the important dates. Oh, and Happy Mother’s Day
I don’t think it’s the material gift you’re actually after. You’re after the feeling of being appreciated, and the gift is a way they could of done that. You’re not wrong to want to be appreciated and you absolutely deserve it!!!
I think u need to tell him how u feel
Or take a day to yourself and say here are the kids I’m going out
You HAVE TO communicate with him…
You cant expect him to read your mind.
Talk to him Once about, say Exactly what you just said and DO NOT make it seem like a “Your doing this wrong” convo…
Make it a “I Need this please” Convo…
And I bet he will get it.
My wife and I never give each other gifts, we get what we need and that’s about it… We have been Married for 41 years… For Mothers Day I made her Breakfast, lunch, and Dinner… But I do that all the time. I help with chores around the house and we are very Happy…
Tell the fan:
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY
And that she is doing a great job by just being by her children’s side, and taking care of them . One day they’ll see the great, amazing mother she is (her boys) .
My husband was same way. I just started buying stuff for myself and stop getting him gift. That open his eyes. Just pick some yard flowers for me. It’s not about money but good to get surprise.
You have every right to feel this way mama. But, you need to talk with him.
All you can do is talk to him. I’m the type that I would rather my husband show me appreciation every day instead of just one day out of the year.
I feel your pain and sadness. I made my own pot roast and cake for Mother’s Day.
My husband says, I’m not his mother…so…
My ex husband was like that. I had friends that would get the kids and go find a small token for me.
I feel the same way. My daughter is 18, i went to her work for breakfast since she was working so she paid for that but my fiancé did not get me anything and we have a 10 month old together.
It might not be the answer you were looking for but … I buy my own gifts for Christmas & for Mother’s Day. Because if I don’t, I usually won’t get anything either.
Doing this has kind of opened my partners eyes. He’s getting the hint & is getting better at making sure I get something on these special days.
I bought my own Mother’s Day gift. Along with the gift bag & tissue paper. I gave it to my oldest daughter to put together & give to me.
you are being taken for granted ! And you are teaching your sons that it is ok to treat a woman badly . I too was married for 20 years and my husband bought me nothing even when I demanded him to buy me a gift and I also left and got a divorced just before the 20th year anniversary - don’t wait 20 years have for husband read this , it is a form of spousal abuse to emotionally hurt your spouse by making them feel unworthy !!!
Appreciation can be shown at different times & in so many ways. As a person who doesn’t celebrate holidays, it means so much more to me when my children show me appreciation on days that’s not set as a “holiday.” Seemingly your kids are too young to buy you gifts, but I think it’s great that you are instilling in them how to show appreciation/gift giving as a way of showing appreciation when it’s the day set for father’s day, but also show them that gift giving & showing appreciation can be an anytime thing to do.
If you feel your husband should be showering you with gifts for holidays (anytime I’d say) if you have not yet addressed this with him, you really should. Closed mouth’s don’t get fed. If you have already discussed it and he hasn’t taken note and made changes concerning gift giving as showing appreciation, then maybe take a look to see if he shows you in other ways appreciation…? Either way, keep your head up and pray earnestly on the matter.
To be honest that is the reason why i work so I don’t need to be shown by anyone that i am appreciated if i want something i buy it my kids don’t always get what they want but they have what they need i will try to teach them to be appreciative because that is something their dad didn’t do with me long story short i rather be alone with my kids taking care of them and myself without needing a man to give me gifts only because i remind him of the special day’s
Stop cooking 
straight sandwiches ~ an know more fabric softener in clothes
Start sending yourself gifts!
This is were “love language” comes into play. Acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, and quality time- you need to know yours and his and the same goes for him. For me personally I perfer words of affirmation, my fiance perfers acts of service and quality time. We have fought about it before and what it came down to was we were “speaking” differently to one another without knowing what was being said. I think you just need to have a heart to heart with him, and make it known that small things actually mean more to you than what he may originally realize.
We all deserve something to know our worth as a mother but sometimes just a simple chore they can do is even exceptable but I feel you cause I know I do a lot for everyone in my family and I really didn’t get much either… and yes if I don’t tell my boyfriend he won’t remember either sad but true!!! Happy Mother’s Day beautiful lady
Well being it’s been going on 14 years and you haven’t said anything it tells him and the boys your fine with nothing…tell the husband you expect something and remind him…you get treated the way you allow it…
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I buy my own present for all of the holidays. It’s been like that since we married. Now that my kids are grown they get me presents for all the holidays.
I have 4 boys ,only recieved 1 card, and 2 text messages. One that didn’t call he let my grandson call me but he’s only 2 ,so I understand your pain and disappointment, I was a single mother of 3 of them alot of years…
100% you’re not in the wrong to feel upset. My hubby even celebrated mothers day for me as a dog mom. Happy dog mom day he said. We have two large dogs and they need as much attention as two toddlers. You 100% should be shown appreciation. Two ways to go about this. You can either be honest with him and tell him how you feel, or wait till fathers day and do NOTHING for him. When he asks why say “oh I thought we weren’t getting eachother gifts for mothers and fathers day”…
Not overreacting. Put in that same amount of energy when it comes to him, on all occasions.
You are not overreacting. Your husband could even get the boys to make cards or something for you. Happy Mother’s Day
You’re not overreacting Mother’s Day comes once a year every single year you guys have been together for 14 he has known that it was coming don’t get him anything for Father’s Day
Sorry for your Mother’s Day mine was hard because it’s the first one with out my mom who Died in December. I hope you have a better Mother’s Day in the future and again sorry for the bad day!
Girl same HERE .but our budget is so tight all the time its the little things they do that really count .so do the same to him equality all the way
Wrll i can’t give you anything except a verbal belated happy mothers day you are appreciated. I can relate…
Dont buy anymore gifts this year.
My kids never get me anything ones 19 she lives in idaho and ones 27 lives in Washington I’ve cried so hard.
I’d say Mother’s Day is every day, but in this case, it seems he doesn’t make her feel special, or give a “just because “ token. I’m sorry, remember next month is his turn, pay back is a 
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