This post makes me appreciate even more the fact that I don’t celebrate superficial Hallmark holidays including Valentine’s Day. My bday is Mother’s Day as far as I’m concerned and I never want my kids to celebrate me on a day society tells them they should, I want them to celebrate me when they feel the desire to do so.
That’s gratitude for you, sweetheart. Just look after number one, sod 'em. You are worth more than that.
You’re not overreacting. It’s not even about the material gifts, its about just acknowledged or appreciated enough to have him even consider getting a gift. But I can understand why you’re not sure if these feelings are ok, cause its easy to look at it as ‘waaah I’m complaing I didnt get a gift’.
You need to sit your family down and talk to them and tell them how you’re feeling. And explain its not about the material side of it, you just want to feel acknowledged and appreciated for all the hard work YOU do.
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Being thankful and appreciative is something you and your hubby WANT to instill in your children. It is NEVER too late to learn! Gifts and STUFF don’t really matter. We all accumulate too much worthless STUFF. But a letter, a drawing, a card or a few special words even an “oatmeal & toast” breakfast in bed for mom would be SO nice! 
Let it come from then… Tell them how you feel Let, but say it in love. Let them see how creative & loving they can be! 
Don’t complain or scold them. This is about love & learning. 
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I go buy my own present and then tell him I bought my own gift
Yes you have a right!simple as that
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All I got was a two sentence post on Facebook from my husband. My ex husband took our daughter to buy me flowers before he dropped her off at my house that morning. That’s all I got for Mother’s Day.
You deserve to feel special. I’m petty so if I were you I’d not get your husband anything. If your sons suggest getting a present or your husband mentions he didn’t get anything I’d feign stupidity and say something like Oh, I didn’t get anything, not even recognition on Mother’s Day so I thought we weren’t doing gifts for special occasions any more. But keep in mind I’m also single so my advice might not be best
Well in all honesty it’s not Wifes day it’s Mother’s Day and since Dad doesn’t want to show the boys how it’s done that falls on you so you should take them out to a store and say hey since you guys didn’t buy me anything for Mother’s Day I’m going to give you guys each some money you guys can buy me something. Teach them young.
I wouldn’t do shit for none of them for a week… I guarantee you the appreciate you then… that is so wrong I’m sorry you didn’t get anything for mother day.
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I got hugs and messages.
Has he been this way since before you married him? He might think you are ok with it, if you haven’t told him your “love language”. Sit and tell him how you TRULY feel. He won’t know if you don’t tell him.
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That’s bs. Not overreacting. 
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Those are true real feelings. It just sounds like hubby doesn’t have that special touch. Not many men do, they are hard to come by. On the other hand, it sounds like he provides for your family, you have beautiful kids and overall a “family”. Something that many desire and don’t have… Like me. Try to talk to him and tell him how you feel. That you would like for him to at least try. Sometimes they need to be trained slowly.
I would go on a weekend vacation with some friends… Let him deal with the day to day for the weekend… go pamper yourself!! you deserve it!!!
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Once I was told… you aren’t my mother…its up to the kids. I stopped doing everything for him… it changed real quick . I dont ask for anything but at least appreciate what I do.
My husband is the same way. He no longer works but is awesome to cook clean etc. My son now almost 23 makes no effort. I sometimes would like to not get anything for both of them on any holiday to teach a lesson but I dont 'cause my heart and soul says nope.
Hugs to you, I’m in the same boat. None of my kids acknowledged me. I quit being upset about it years ago so now I do things for myself. This year I planned a weekend get away to the beach. You need to do the same.
I am sure you are not the only mother this happens to , they don’t moan about it get on with life
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Tell him how you feel!!! It’s not about material things just little things like having your children make you breakfast or clean up a homemade card something acknowledge what you do for them let him know don’t hold in your feelings it will eat at you and if you’re anything like me you’ll start to resent him…talk you your husband
You have let him be that way and he has gotten use to always being reminded. You have never made it to where he has to remember. You cannot change someone after many years of them being use to one way.
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Verbalize your feelings to them. Make them aware. Then they can’t say they didn’t know how this hurts you. Sometimes in life you gotta lead the horse to the water.
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If you feel it, it’s valid. Sending you so much love. 
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Same. There’s only so much women can just “let go” until it’s to the point where were like “wait a minute…” And think of everything. It’s worst when you want to talk to your husband about what’s bothering you and then their just watching TV or something. Like HELLOOO lol idk. I think it’s just a man thing. And it’s annoying
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Yes you do! I am feeling the same way. Never appreciated. Never acknowledged! My husband is the same way
Just awful, that your not appreciated. I wouldnt do shit. Let them feel that shit.
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Go on vacation by yourself. I guarantee you they will be running to roll out the red carpet for you when you return. I’m mad that they’re taking you for granted. #YouAreValuableDear:heartpulse:
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What’s 17 years I was married was Mother’s Day Ever acknowledged in my home I’m going to be 65 years old next month and I can tell you on one hand how many times I asked you received a gift however not warm has any of my three children forgotten me to me that is the best gift of all
As parents and partners we have to make sure we teach those around us to be considerate of others and have them understand its not always all about them .
Your actually teaching people in your house that your not worth celebrating , Raising a family IS just as hard if not harder than a paid position at times ,So no excuses for your husband either , Show anyone you dont matter and believe me you wont matter, Even a breakfast or a simple hot drink made in the morning would of been nice , Like I always say ,Learn to set limits as a giver because takers have none !! Ask your hubby if he’d work for free ??? No pay ,No acknowledgement or respect in his position ? I bet he wouldnt ,So whys he expecting it from you then ?? its a team effort ,Your not their servant !!!
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So sorry…you have EVERY right to feel unappreciated or unloved…you deserve to be celebrated…you need to tell them that you were deeply hurt…especially since you do so much…ugh…hugs to you
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Has anyone besides myself noted how often folks Need validation for having feelingsfb that Go against those of their partner / loved ones…
Dear you are No question within your rights … OF COURSE YOU DESERVE ATTENTION, GIFTS , APPRECIATION, DIGNITY…MY LORD YOU DESERVE HIS EFFORTS to please you…
OH gosh i was yelling, , i was but not at you…
THIS was my story…
He made me feel like a nothing…
I mattered Not. My feelings mattered NOT. I remember the hurt I felt after tearfully distraughtly telling h1im how it made me feel when he continued to rape me in my sleep… i had No value…no worth.
I HAVE so many memories I could share with you…
… i finally left … he got our son to stay with him… i rejected his attempts to 'to try again ’
So he taught our son to call me names ; to humiliate me publicly…
. If you want to try you might tell him how you feel…idk
Keep your expectations low…
I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers:heartpulse:
My kids are the best. When it comes to my husband, I have learned to buy my own gift.
I feel you, 100%. No card, gift,barley an acknowledgement of the day. Same happens for birthdays and other holidays in my life.
No your not overreacting, my mom went through this with my dad. I think you need to stick up for yourself and tell him how you feel, because you are allowed that, you know? 
Tell him it makes you upset that he doesn’t buy you gifts so your no longer going to wash his clothes or do anything for him bc you feel unappreciated! Don’t make his plate, don’t bring him home anything and you better not wait for him to eat . And get you a Rose and wake him up in the middle of the night. I’m saying girl, gift yourself!!! You deserve it!!!
Yes u have the right . I was in your shoes before so now I just go buy me something just in case they don’t get me something or I tell them now. I have 5 kids and hubby is the same way as yours and never told my kids to tell me. I always get him something but now my youngest goes with him.
Damn im so sorry ur so underappreciated…yes u should feel however u feel.
You’re not overreacting, however, he may not have seen it with his own parents. I had to teach my husband my love languages
Gift giving is not his love language. You can’t change that. Buy yourself something
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I don’t think you are overreacting … obvi material things aren’t what matter but if I am getting your point correctly
The fact that he would’ve gone and tried to pick something out for you even if it was horrendous lol or useless it’s the point that he went and thought of you and tries to get you something … remember you are amazing ! They love you … and thought they ar wheels for forgetting …
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I hear ya!! My husband doesn’t do the gift thing either neither does anyone in my family but then again we are not all the richest people either. When I want something aI go and get it myself because I deserve it and want it. I don’t wait for any occasion like a birthday etc to get anything. Been married 44 years and the only thing my husband surprised me with were flowers when our second daughter was born. But we do go out to eat for our birthdays and anniversary so that’s something.
Tell dad they replica him. If he gets into it so will they. Even a colorful pic means the world to momma when gifted on Mother’s Day.
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I didn’t get anything. Either.
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You deserve what you allow. Js
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Kill That. when you want a gift gift yourself on him and inform him of what he’s purchasing
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I taught my kids to give and they are grown now and very giving even though their father never gave gifts.
Sad u didnt get even a card…not to mention he is teachn the boys the same respect as ur receiving…NONE…sorry for u…u deserve alot Mom!
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I think I would be forgetting a few important occasions for the men in my life…let them feel exactly how you feel…forgotten and hurt.
Communicate ALL of this to HIM!
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Dont buy him anything for Father’s Day this year, instead buy YOURSELF something… see if he even. notices!
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Every cent, dollar, thought. Spend on yourself. Make a garden of the things you think they would have got you.
Sit the boys at the table. Give the supplies to make cards and tell all the men in the family that mothers day is the day that everyone in the house shows appreciation for the glue that holds the family together. No exceptions husband too. Crack the whip
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I think you are totally justified. It sucks to feel unappreciated. It seems as though your boys have taken after their father. I think it’s perfectly appropriate to sit down with your sons and tell them how you feel and what would make you happy for a change. A lot of times it just doesn’t occur to men/boys. You’ve got to let them know in order to give them the opportunity to change.
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Don’t do crap for none of them see how they like it , if the kids old enough don’t even make dinner let me get it themselves 
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You have every right to feel disrespected. You are way to giving to your family and they have not thought at all how much you do for them. Cut back and have a family meeting to help them understand they need to show you their appreciation. $$$ does not have to be spent, they can make you breakfast or dinner, or do their own laundry or vacuum. They can step up!
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My feelings would be so hurt
I totally relate to you 100%
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Well I didn’t get anything from my kids either but I thank God for life but being you are married you deserve something I bet if you hadn’t cooked they would of recognized then try it then say this is for my day I refuse to cook today.
I must admit I forgot birthdays. But mothers day , Xmas and Easter are so commercialised. No excuse for missing them .
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I can relate to you My sons are 41 and 26 not a card or nothing but I remember there bday Christmas
14 yrs and you expect different outcomes??
Well I got a card from my youngest daughter that wasn’t even signed or in the envelope… I don’t care all about the gifts but to not even sign the card was the biggest hurt… Sounds like your family is taking you for granit and do not realize how much you do… Husband should be showing the boys how a man should respect and acknowledge thier partners when they get one… Sorry you were left out on your special day…
You do deserve to feel let down. You need to forget them once…but dont know ages of your sons but they will learn from your husband how to treat their future wives. Teach your sons these special occasions mean alot. Mothers day. Valentines day. For sure. Xmas n bday also. But u need to tell your husband he needs to be more thoughtfull. Teach his sons by taking them out to buy you gifts for mothers day. Closed mouth will never be fed.
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No you are not over reacting; at all. I have a situation some what the same but not married; my kids never send anything for any holiday ; they might text me; I’ve always done for them no matter what. So I definitely know how you are feeling. 
I have the right to feel some kind of way absolutely. He is not being a very good role model for those boys you share You are special. Don’t ever forget it
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Just leave the house for a few days. Switch off your phone. Leave a note that mummy is taking a break. Trust me by the time you get back you will be smothered with hugs &kisses:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
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You are not overreacting. Next Holliday, your birthday, your anniversary, tell him what you are getting for yourself and be done with it.
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Announce you are going on strike. Post a list of grievances and times for discussions.
Same 
I can’t 100 percent relate
This year was my 30th birthday my husband didn’t even say happy birthday and then never texted or called me until the next day to top it off he spent 500.00 on car parts 
guys just don’t get it I just spent all of Mother’s Day planning a surprise party for him his whole family came I bought him a treager ect every one pitched in with stuff to go with it and what not big bbq his mom made an amazing cake with his baby photos and I was kicking myself in the ass cause I got to watch three baby’s do the same old same old dishes laundry clean clean fall asleep sitting up so tired for my birthday my anniversary and Mother’s Day your not alone
It’s sad because us mom’s shouldn’t have to ask. I’d definitely start to skip out on spending money on them.
No momma ur not over reacting. U have been a giver so much that ur boys forgot that they can do that too to you, and thought of just taking… Stop being a a giver too much so they would wonder why the sudden change
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So stop giving him something act like it’s just another day
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You are not alone!!! All I got from my daughter was a text about 11pm . Here is the good part! My boyfriend , myself and a child I raised and her bio mom went out for lunch.I had to pay for my meal !!!
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I know how it feels my dear. Indeed you need to feel valued and appreciated. Again your husband could be a very busy man and he forgets.
Mine doesnt buy me anything either …38 years last feb not a thing on the second for our anniversary and nothing for vday it sucks when i bought him stuff for both
Have you ever heard about “the five love languages”? Look at it. Sounds like gifts might be your love language. Gifts make you feel loved and part of the way you show love it by giving. His is probably not. So he does not understand that it hurts you to not receive a gift on special days. Look it up and see. It might help. It helped me understand relationships.
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Def have a right to be upset and I would communicate that with him… What he don’t do another one will so he better step it up and it’s not so much the gift it’s the thought but us women need material items from time to time or just a homemade item to show some love and appreciation
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You are loved believe me, buy your self something in their name and it’ll make you feel a little better. ( works for me cause my husband is an ass but leaving ain’t an option ) get yourself a buddy like texting friend so that when your feeling down you have someone to text and help cheer you up. Me and my BFF do this we’re miles away it’s so easy
I completely understand and my heart goes out to you. Unfortunately as a child I took on don’t expect anything and you won’t be let down. And when I did get something I was so so happy. I learned later that was not the best way to see things but boy did it help me my first mothers day, as a mom of 4 married and worked full time when I got nothing it came in handy. This last mother’s day, no gifts but ft with all four who are all grown and gone. God gives me all I need and the rest is gravy! I pray there are better mother’s days a head for you.
Just stop buying for him. It worked for me.
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Mother’s day is totally overrated, commercialized, a Hallmark day. Every day is Mothers day.
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Remember your She Shed !
This was the exact thing in my marriage and after over 20 years I’m now divorced and happy. I will no longer settle for bare minimum I was tired !
No, I know how you feel. I buy myself something just to feel good
I’m in same boat nothing for birthday or mother’s day from kids or anything so I don’t get hubby anything for father’s day or birthday
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I hear ya. My son’s dad is the same way! It’s so hard not to feel hurt, but it does. Sorry you are unappreciated. Just like you I get him something as well. We as moms I guess need to show our sons that us moms need to feel loved as well so maybe telling the boys to color you a picture? I started doing that with my son 
Im sorry your family is different but im sure they love and appreciate you in another way! You should talk to your husband let him know how you feel ! Even if its a little something its the thaught that counts rt?
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I can relate to this. I feel like mother’s day for me is always a regular day, I make them breakfast, clean cook dinner like I do any other day but father’s day? he wants to get out the house and go here and there with kids.
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I have been with my husband for 40 years and we have 3 daughter’s ( lost our middle daughter) my husband always told me that I don’t buy you stuff on that day buy I buy it in my on time. I can say the only time I got a present was on our first anniversary a bouquet of carnation( my favorite) and when I was in the hospital for 8 months. I know he loves me and shows me in his own way and he told me more then once that he loved me just because I was his baby momma but for me as a person and that I was his solemate for life. My husband passed away last July.
Almost 14 yrs , uhhhh , from the first year, you should of fixed this , also , how old are the boys ? He works , you’re the home maker , instill traditions and family togetherness , there’s still time .
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Yr special. I get you. Small gift be Sweeet
I got a call from my kids saying I love you. That’s all I needed. I’m sorry you feel so down. Hugs
Oh hell no! Don’t do shit just do you treat yourself don’t cheat yourself… if you died today they would not even care … better make yourself happy and don’t worry about making ungrateful people happy even if it’s your family.
It is hurtful - but he’s learned his behaviour will be tolerated because as you say he never buys you anything but you still do for him. I’d talk to him and explain it’s hurtful to you and could he please try to remember special days even if it’s just a card or acknowledgment of the day x
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You definitely have the right to feel some type of way, because it’s one day that belongs to you and you didn’t feel appreciated. It really is the little things that count. But don’t “forget” about Father’s Day. You know better so do better. Voicing your concerns about feeling unappreciated isn’t u called for and you have the right. It isn’t what you say but how you say it. Happy belated Mother’s Day. Regardless of who does what, just remember how much you rock and how things really couldn’t run smoothly without you.
My husband waits till that day and goes out and gets something and gives ot to me. And to me its not even about that. I feel like each parent should make a point to teach their kids why we have these days and that its important to show each other that we respect and are grateful for them and what they do for the family. That’s all moms are after. A little appreciation with a personalized touch. Everyone can go back to the little assholes that they are. Just give us one damn day a year. Thanks
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I dont really believe in these commercialised days but my mother used to make a big thing of picking a bunch of violets and writing a poem or painting a card for her mother so naturally I learned to do the same for her. My grown up children usually send me a gif or make a phone call. I really dont need more.
Teach your kids by example and by making the time for them to make you a card. You arent your partners mother so dont expect him to buy you flowers. However you could say to your children “Goodness me I do hope your Dad hasnt forgotten mothers day. His mum may be upset shall we buy her some flowers. You can buy me some if you want.”
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Go out and buy yourself something nice. I always do that for myself on my birthday and Christmas. This way I never have to expect nothing . Never disappointed. You know your worth!
You’re not overreacting, but that’s men for you unfortunately
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