No fucking wonder he doesn’t want you going, you broke a door bc you’re mad???
I think that if this is a real story it is a sad situation. You need to get out of this relationship because that probably isn’t his niece. He is probably cheating on you.
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I have a very close relationship with one of my uncles, he was like my second dad growing up, but I can guarantee you that I would not do something like that! We go fishing together, sometimes he takes me out to lunch more so after my dad passed away, but what you are describing does not sound like a healthy uncle/niece relationship at all. If she really is his niece, it’s incest… Isn’t it awful weird that this niece just showed up out of nowhere after 20 years?? She’s being nice and understanding because she’s in on it too. She’s simply playing a role and they both think you’re dumb. God helps them that helps themselves mama, LEAVE!!
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Well you’re all over the place, but what I got from this is…
You don’t trust your husband. Must be a reason that you’re not saying. Are you sure she’s his niece…
You hubby should be encouraging his niece to start life, working, school, whatever. Not ride with him. For conversation? Hmmm
Your bible tells you over and over to get the helk away from that controlling SOB.
Something sound fishy. Godspeed
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Take your beautiful children and leave!! You are worth more and you know it!! That’s not his niece!!
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Leave him and have a nice peaceful life you will love!
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Let him go and let him pay child support.You deserve better.The relationship with his niece does not sound right.Maybe they are lovers.Be smart.
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That’s no niece!!! Wake up girl!!!
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Honestly when I read stuff like this I don’t even understand how this is even a thing. Like tell him to spend ALL his time with her cause you’re OUT. NEVER beg a man to chose. He should want to be at home with you not galavanting with some girl who probably isn’t his niece. Eff him.
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That’s not his niece 
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No way that’s his niece!! Don’t let him fool you!!
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Lol we all had the same thought. I’ve also heard a similar story about a “niece” wasn’t the niece but a gf pretending so they could spend more time together.
That’s his mistress. Wake up
. Better off without him.
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Yep, you’re crazy. I’d leave you too, insinuating hed have an inappropriate relationship with his own niece, and then busting a door down. If this was a man having this behavior, everyone would tell you to get out and fast.
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This is a very sad situation, I would be like you, I would not trust that situation at all. She is young and looking for a good time, my opinion only. It would be easy for him to fall for her. I would have had him to stop it right from the start. You should be the one leaving, I know you have the kids at home, and that makes it even harder for you to make the necessary decisions. I am praying for you to have the strength to make the right decision for you and your family. But don’t let him walk all over you. Stand up for your self and stand your ground. With love and prayers for you and your family
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He shut you out of the bedroom when your daughters or sick or the baby is crying? Ummmm… I’d be concerned with him around my girls and would question why your being shut out. There is something off about that. Also a " niece" he just met? There is more to that. I’m with everyone that says that is NOT his niece.
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The only women a man can prioritize above his own wife are his mother and his own daughter. Anyone else, should not be kept on top of his wife as you are his life partner. You both have taken vows to be together with eachother till the end in all good and bads. Secondly, the fact that he is completely ignoring you and treating you bad on the other side going out sharing rooms with niece and stuff is super cringe btw… being his wife you have all the rights to question him where he spends his time and you can definitely tell him if you dont like a certain thing and if he is really a caring husband he ll stop doing that for the sake of keeping his wife happy … if he ain’t doing that… LEAVE THAT MAN! from what i have read above u r making compromises since so long its high time u show him some real space so he can start valuing your presence in his life. The more u stick wd him he will take u for granted.
this is weirrrrrrddddd
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Ya know, I just, well I guess….oh man I can’t even come up with anything to say other than “THERAPY”
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My ex had an uncle do this too. “A Lome lost daughter”. It A whole ordeal. This girl was literally sleeping in their bed with them and eventually kicked his aunt out the bed… he left his wife bc “she was crazy”. Left and came back several times (bc he was a lazy bum and she paid his way), each time bringing said daughter. That’s incredibly inappropriate and made me instantly think about them. That is not his niece.
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That’s weird af to be taking his niece out to bars and shit it’s not his daughter so why tf he being clingy
They’re either lying to you and it’s not really his niece, or she is his niece and their relationship is inappropriate. I could understand if maybe he raised her like a dad would, but that’s not the case. Sounds quite off to me.
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Before you read all the comments about “cheating” you need to talk to your man & leave religion out of it. You need to speak with him about his priorities & if they aren’t you, then it’s time for you two to go separate ways. It’s not fair for you to be at home all day raising his family. So if he really wants to leave, then it’s time for a divorce & make sure you’re taken care of at the end of the day.
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Are you sure that’s really his niece
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That’s not okay for a man to spend that much time with his “niece” that’s weird and if he’s willing to leave his family over it, yea something else is going on. And he’s gone all week then come home and go out with her and you at home. Wow
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Go as fast as you can
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Get out ,file on him ,get child support and spouse support, he is a narcissistic cruel man
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First red flag is why do they necessarily have to be at a bar every weekend? If they’re family frfr then why cant they have family time at home with his wife and kids? Makes u question if theyre even related
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That’s not his neice 
sorry dear!
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Kick his ass to the curb! Scumbag is a creeper!
umm what am I reading… girl… this sounds shadddyyy… run. now.
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Are you 100% it’s his niece? Strange he’s spending all his time with his ‘niece’ and not his new baby
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I think you are in the right. I think that would be highly inappropriate of him to do.
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It’s his blood relative? And you’re worried about her going to work with him? What if she needs the money and working with him just happens to be the best way she can make a living right now?
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There is always 3 sides to the story, this story was all over the place. I think y’all are both acting like children. Also not being equally yoked and on the same page regarding marriage and children should have been discussed/discovered before even getting to the next stage.
This has red flags 
all over it and I highly doubt that’s his niece. Trust your gut instinct.
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If that is his niece then he’s in love with her and you got bigger problems.
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why put that out there on Facebook?
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Thats not his Niece.I would start asking family members who she is.If they cant tell you,Youll have tour answer
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You won’t find your answers in the bible, and you won’t find them looking for fair, you need to start looking at yourself and treating you with respect, until you do that you won’t be able to deal with any situation
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If you don’t mind me asking how old are you ?
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Definitely not his neice lol
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Have you verified with the family that she is a real niece?
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Babyyyy, that’s not his niece. That’s code for side chick. He’s taking advantage of your kindness. You deserve better. 
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Your not wrong. Your partner is feeming for his niece. Wants to feel like a wild young thing by taking her out. Get out now while the getting is good and do yourself and niece a favor by discussing WHY you left him.
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Big red flags. I’d just let him go, get him out of your life
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Not to sound rude but did you even hear what you just wrote he just met his niece in her 20s if it’s his niece why is he just now meeting her when she’s in her 20s and why are they going out constantly together instead of him seeing her parents and her and the rest of the family with you and your guises child it’s very strange and I highly doubt that’s his niece…… not to sound rude but I highly doubt your children are the only ones calling him daddy🤷🏻♀️
Everything about this feels off. You seem like a good hearted person that you’re actually considering his feelings in all this I wouldn’t worry if you are in the wrong because you have every right, as his wife and mother of his kids to have a say and speak up when something doesn’t feel right. Also, I’d bust open the door to get to my crying baby too. Don’t mess with a mama bear! You’re not crazy… you were using your instincts as a mother. Praying for you mama 
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You wrote a whole novel and left out some important points, such as: Is this his BIOLOGICAL niece? Why is he just meeting her? What is going on where she just popped up in his life? TBH it appears that you think these 2 could be fooling around. If that’s really his BIOLOGICAL niece and he’s not a creep, I can see why he would get mad. 
I know I would be DISGUSTED if someone was accusing me of sleeping with one of my relatives. Then the last time y’all went out instead of enjoying the evening, you basically started an argument and he took your a** back home. Maybe instead of staying home with the kids 24-7 you should look into things to do outside of the house by yourself. Maybe even a part time job. You do see like you can be a bit much. You’re breaking doors down and 
, that’s not normal or rational behavior. He did EXACTLY what I would advise a female to do if a man was behaving like this. I recommend that you get some counseling IMMEDIATELY.
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I would question if that’s even his real niece.Their behavior says NO unless they both don’t care because it could be not a 1st niece but like an adopted niece or something or they just didn’t grow up knowing each other like that so to them it wouldn’t feel like it’s wrong so either way confront him and say no more of her or your gone.Its not appropriate they just met
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Not trying to stir up more drama but I saw a movie on Lifetime where the husband’s “long lost” daughter showed up to live with them, and it turned out it was all a lie, and she wasn’t even related to him! The wife caught them having relations:face_vomiting:
I personally don’t think it’s appropriate what your husband is doing and I’d tell him that, and that he also needs to put a stop to it.
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Um what?!? You do sound abit crazy and needy but he also sounds seedy asf or a liar, messed up
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That’s way too many red flags, why would they be sharing a hotel room? Doesn’t make sense.
You have every right to be upset because this doesn’t sound right at all.
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First make absolutely sure it’s his niece and if so just stop. The going out is not necessary as you all could be at your home getting to know each other. But for work. If she’s really blood family it shouldn’t be a big deal.
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I don’t think we can collectively help you get your husband to see your perspective when you are unable to see his. He reached out to you and you rejected his efforts or did I misread that part of your message? You should consider seeing a counselor for a few visits alone and then see if your spouse will agree to couples therapy.
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Wow that is extremely weird…I think they are both lieing to you…definitely a big red flag
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Is this a real post? You can’t be that blind the the fact that he cheating on you?
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His “niece”??? You aren’t falling for that, are you?
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Ok first of all, that’s not his niece. They’re lying to you. Second, close the damn bible and open your eyes. The man is an abusive narcissist. It’s 2022 honey, gather your stuff, your children, leave and go heal. You don’t need to stay in a toxic situation.
This can’t be real. Riiiiight?!
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I’m sorry, I would REALLY QUESTION if this was his niece.
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Girl he’s cheating 
I’m sorry it’s not his niece
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This all just sounds like a giant toxic dumpster fire. 
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I doubt it’s really his niece. He’s cheating on you.
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Take a stand. A married man should not be alone w a young beautiful female for extended periods of time much less sleeping together in the same hotel room.
Tell him it’s her or you and if he chooses her then he’s out of the house.
Call the entire family and tell them what’s going on.
Let her be shamed. Let them get in on it too to support you.
Change all your passwords.
Move the money around to your own account.
Hold your ground.
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I see nothing wrong with him wanting to get to know his niece. Or spending time with her. HOWEVER I do see something wrong with him spending ALL his time with her especially as it is always ALONE with her.Questions: Why does it have to be solo time EVERY time? Why can’t you and your children be present, as in hang out and get to know one another as a family? WHY would he share a hotel room with ANY adult female outside of his wife? **Are you sure she really is his niece? As disturbing and disgusting as it is there are sick people out there who do sleep with their relatives. My advice is if you want to save your marriage invite him to marriage counseling. You can’t force him to go or to stay married. If he is throwing his marriage away over THIS then he doesn’t deserve you.
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How old is he? Idc the relation its weird to be hanging around someone a lot younger than you that much. Get ancestry dna , that man is probably lying to you lol
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Personally I highly doubt a 20 something year old niece would be comfortable spending that much time with her uncle, and sharing rooms together etc. this kinda sounds like it’s all bullshit on his part
Reminds me of that true crime about the daughter who met her dad after i think 18 years and they fell in love and got married, had a child… Well didn’t end well. Hope all goes well for you but there are many red flags.
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does he even have siblings?
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She’s not his niece…. Trust your gut & let him leave.
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I don’t believe for one second that is his niece!!!
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Get Rid of him!!! Divorce him! If he can’t provide any one on one with you, He isn’t worth your time. First things First, Find out for sure if this chick is really his niece. If she’s not ditch him….
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I think u already knows what is going on with them I have never heard of a man being so closed to his Niece also what does ur heart tell u to do if I was u I would let him go any man treats u like that he doesn’t deserve you… praying for you hope u find peace 
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His “neice” he JUST met in January😐
And has since been spending all his free time with, going out to bars together, dinners, and now wants to take her on the road with him to SHARE a hotel room and spend all of their time together
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Sooo, what sibling is this “niece” from? Why is he only now meeting her? Have you bothered asking other relatives, like your mother in law, if that was her granddaughter? This really sounds like an affair more than a relative!! Sus af!!!
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He’s cheating with his "niece"
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Yikes, this whole thing is just messy. My husband would never spend this much time with his nephews let alone a niece nor would I…sounds like there is more to the story we don’t know
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That’s not his neice. He’s having an affair with her.
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Ohhhh girl I would definitely not go for this!! To me it sounds like that really ain’t his niece!!! I would def be doing some back ground checks and buy one of those tests over the counter and get dna from the both some how to see if they are related but even if they are related it seems a little fishy to me anyways I understand uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters all family wanna know one another and spend time but that seems creepy to me if he just met her in Jan and already staying in same hotel rooms alone and all I said… usually if you have a gut feeling about something follow that gut feeling because something don’t seem right I pray we are all wrong and it is his niece but I just don’t feel like it is prayers for your situation and prayers for your peace
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Wait a few days and then read what you have written here. Does he support you emotionally? You have just had a baby and he wants to spend time going out with his “niece”. He needs to spend time with his baby too but it sounds like he wants all the attention and if it is not on him then he looks elsewhere for it. He sounds very selfish and you need to stand your ground on your boundaries because he is overstepping the line. Of course you will feel insecure and doubtful because he is making you feel that way. I know a man who married his cousin and another man who went out on a double date with his wife and his girlfried who was his “engaged secretary” .
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I don’t think that’s his niece… have YOU personally looked into her or did he just tell you that’s his niece from a sibling you’ve never met…. Not meeting your niece for over 20 years is odd. Taking your niece out to bars is odd. I mean, I’ve gone out drinking with my sister or a group of my family but I’ve never gone out to a bar with just one uncle and then worked with him and slept in the same hotel with him… it’s odd. It’s odd he got irrationally angry over it and the fact that the “niece” was so understanding… I’d think if it was a normal family relationship she would be hurt and upset about it, not just trying to “understand” you. Aka, I don’t think it’s a niece and she probably knows that ultimately your husband will handle the “you” situation and knows he will find a way to fix their plans together.
I do disagree with busting a door down. If someone wants to put distance and walk away from a fight, they should be allowed to. I’m confused about the sick kids part and baby crying because you don’t say where they’re at? Or why it matters.
Idk this whole thing is a weird mess. Y’all need some counseling.
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Go here and read the summary. This shit happens all the time. Get a DNA test.
Shewww. I immediately went to - that’s NOT his neice! And if it is, they are doing something family members shouldn’t do 
Run, and run fast!
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Okay what? English this time.
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Where there’s smoke there’s fire.
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This is a crazy story of his niece, he dont wanna marry u but sits in hotels ad bars with his"neice"wow sis u can believe that, he fooling u big time
If I were you, I’d definitely not be happy, for many reasons. Just from he information you give, I am seeing red flags pop up everywhere. If he is so unhappy with your feelings about this situation, it’s time for you to sit down and figure out what you really want and how to get it. One thing that did catch my eye was …“I think I’ve sacrificed much, being at home with children all day… never leaving… I think He’s being inconsiderate.” Did you make the decision together to be a SAHM? Or was it him or you that made that decision? Another bothersome issue for me is you being home with a baby and no car. I understand the costs of having multiple cars, we’ve had just 1 off and on the past 2 years for various reasons. However, when our kids were little and I was a SAHM, we both had a vehicle. Sure there may be other options available to you, but are they cohesive to what you would possibly need them for? At the end of the day, what matters is you are all happy and comfortable with your situation. You don’t mention much about how this long lost niece came into the picture, which I would have concerns with. Wishing you the best, it would absolutely suck to divorce with having a new child, but never ever stay in any relationship solely based on having children. As hey get older they pick up on everything, their little brains are like a sponge!
He’s a cheater and a narcissist! Get away from him. Before his inconveniences become too much if a problem! Meaning you and the kids.
Ok… hear me out 
are you sure she’s his " long lost " niece?
He sounds very childish and immature.
Follow and trust your gut .
I’m sorry your going through this . I do wish you the best 
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Well your bible is not going to help you. It sounds like he likes her that way and he wanted alone time with her. Are you sure this girl is his niece?. I wouldn’t even want to be with a guy that is like this. He sounds very disrespectful. You need to take your kids and leave.
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He’s trying to make you the bad guy. He is hiding something. God doesn’t want you to treated like this either.
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That’s not his niece girlll!! Wake up
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I would definetly move on, sounds way too fishy for me. Nothing right about that situation, leave and get on with your life with someone that puts you first, not someone that causes all that drama
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Don’t let him gaslight you. Go with your gut.
War Room girl, I’m pretty sure that’s not his niece. Your not needy your just trying to protect what’s yours. Omgsh yup nope he’s sleeping with this woman. Document everything give him his danm space since he wants it and work on you and prayer. Focus on you and the kids cus right now your husband is in a snare. You got a harlot on your hands. Sorry your going through this and your being awfully nice. Nope I’m a Christian too but I’m also a alaska native woman and omgsh I would go savage. Cus You know that saying: 'Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.”
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Karen Lockwood 
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Uhhhhh that is not his niece
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Move forward . He is so gaslighting you and he is the narcissist and the immature boy man . Take your children and love them and never let a man treat you this bad again.
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Everyone here keeps saying that it’s not his niece… bit that’s crazy. Either it is his siblings daughter and his blood or it’s not. If she family, then she’s family
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