Go enjoy your time and bring her back a little trinkets
Let that guilt go girl!
No u enjoy yr break away
Go and enjoy your trip!!! Sheâs with her dad and sheâs fine! Itâs good to get away by yourself once in a while.
Enjoy yourself ! 
I would feel guilty too. I feel so much mom guilt if my kid doesnât experience or get everything I do⌠but I donât have as much help. If you and father are 50/50 and he ask you not to, as long as she will safe and taken care of then have fun! Youâll have plenty of chances to take her as she gets older. She wonât be able to do too much being so small anyway. Have a little fun and be care free without worrying about or being concerned and on top of your baby. Just relax a little. Itâs all good!!
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Pleaseeeee enjoy it!!!
Iâm sure you donât want to have kiddie fun for your birthday. Go on and enjoy yourself she will be fine. Happy early birthday.
Enjoy you little birthday vacation & have a good time
GO ENJOY YOURSELF! There will be other times you can take her. Mom needs some relax time. I WISH I could get away by myself for a day or just a could hours haha. Enjoy it and let the guilt go
lol fuck no. enjoy ur kid free time
Yea right. You are NOT selfish. Me and my fiance went on a week long vacation without my 5 year old or 1 year old. Why? Cause I didnt pay a bunch of money to haul around 2 kids who do nothing but whine and complain and just want us to buy them stuff and blah blahâŚAnd im not sorry either. I enjoyed my vacation and I was actually able to relax and have fun after being around them and putting someone elseâs needs first 24/7 365. I put me and my fiance first for once and we were able to enjoy ourselves. The kids will have plenty of other times that they can go. That one was for me!
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I would of taken my daughter but if you needed alone time then do what you gotta do I guess. You can take her another time.
Enjoy yourself! Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting time by yourself
I feel this way, my birthday is next week and I was telling my fiancĂŠ I wanted to go to an Amusement park but Iâd feel bad if we just did us two because I feel like excluding our daughter and he told me parents need to have fun too sometimes, itâs okay to have mommy time especially cuz your daughter is with her dad
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Her birthday is meant for HER. YOUR birthday is meant for YOU! Enjoy your time mama
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No! We are all guilty of mom guilt but you also deserve YOU time! enjoy & make it up to her by doing something special when u get back
Donât feel guilty. U need your alone time to just do you. Go for it and enjoy
This grandma of 66 says you are not being selfish at all. Have a happy birthday and you and daughter have birthday cake when u return
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No I donât think that you are being mean at all when you get back or before you go and when you do have her you can either ask her what special meal would she like to share with you that the two of you can cook together or go out and eat at a special restaurant together her choice to celebrate I donât think 5 year olds really remembers birthdays to much Hun but you can still make it special with her
Mum guilt gets us all the time, but us mums do need time to ourselves as well, refreshes us and makes us feel happier, you could always have an extra birthday when you get back and do something with you daughter too 
It is YOUR birthday and a healthy relaxed mom will benefit her too!!! Enjoy your well deserved time to re-fuel that momma tankâ¤ď¸
Safety Concerns? What are you planning on doing
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Young one - All Mommas need time out every once in a while. Donât feel guilty at all. Besides you gotta be you - sometimes itâs better that the lilâ ones donât see thatâ:yum:
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You are NOT selfish. Go and have a good time!
Take the trip, respect dads wishes, enjoy yourself and plan a getaway in the future that you both will enjoy together!! I completely understand the mom guilt, but you deserve to relax and just decompress. Every single human needs that! happy Birthday
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Sometimes you need me time âŚto reconnect with yourselfâŚnothing wrong at all
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Not selfish at all⌠but I donât understand safety concerns?? Does Dad take her on vacation, does she ever get to go on vacation? Why wouldnât she be safe with Mom?
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Everybody needs time to their self every once in awhile not feel guilty
Even moms deserve a break, donât feel guilty for taking some time for yourself thereâs nothing wrong with doing something for yourself. Have a nice trip and enjoy your birthday 
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You shouldnât feel guilty. Sounds like you were both smart parents. Especially if youâre going to be drinking at all itâs better leave her home with him.
No go enjoy your time
Use the time for yourself. You have to take care of yourself to take care of your daughter.
I take my son to the beach all the time. Heâs 6
And has gone since he was a baby. Something could happen right at home too. How can he say you canât take her to the beach? Its comments like this make me glad I have 100% full custody of my son.
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5 kids here wish i had the opportunity to do anything alone. Not being selfish at all. Parenting is hard work and you need that time for yourself. Go enjoy your mini vacay you deserve it.
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What safety concerns?
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If you & dad are in agreement, thatâs fine. Itâs great to see 2 parents putting the child first.
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We as moms still need to be WOMEN! Show your daughter that self love is major key to your own happiness! Donât feel guilty mama! Or I should say, I donât believe you should. I think you deserve to have your own time. Youâre a mother but youâre also a woman. We gotta show our kids that self love!
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Not selfish at all. Enjoy your bday and the beach
Something like going to the beach, unless youâre going with a bunch of friends and going to be drinking I feel like itâs not really that fun by yourself. 2 years ago for my husband and iâs anniversary we decided to go camping and we camped by this beautiful Creek that had the most beautiful rocks in it of all colors. One day when we went down to the creek, I really missed our daughter. She was about the same age at four and a half. I stood by the creek and I imagined her jumping and playing in the creek and picking out rocks with me. We stayed by the creek for about an hour and the entire hour I picked out like 30 rocks to take home to her. The whole time Iâm talking about her and thinking about her when I was supposed to be spending time with my husband and enjoying the creek with my. All Iâm saying is if youâre doing something that you usually wouldnât do with your child itâs a lot easier to focus on yourself but when youâre doing something that your child would love doing with you itâs really hard not to think about them and miss them and wish they were there with you.
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Go girl you deserve it take her to the park before or make cookies itâll be just as exciting for kids that age it really is the little things
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The fact that you have guilt about not taking her says a lot about you as a good mom in general. This screams you need some alone time mama. Take it and have funâ¤
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Nope! Go and enjoy some time to yourself! I always find Iâm a much better parent if I manage to get some âmeâ time
Just because youâre a mother doesnât mean you arenât still a human. You deserve alone time and self love. Treat yourself.
Iâm taking a birthday vacation next month and my boys (4&7) are staying with grandma. Donât feel guilty, sometimes we need adult time
Self care is important
As a mom of 5 I would love for a trip to the beach alone to be able to just sit and listen to the waves
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Completely not selfish!!!
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Go by yourself and enjoy your time.
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You are not selfish. You deserve time alone.
I would so go alone and take some me time. You deserve it.
Itâs one vacation you need some time alone too
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You are not selfish. Moms need breaks too. Go on your trip and have fun!
We moms need time to take a deep breath. We all suffer mom guilt. Just think how much better you will feel when you get back. Which in turn will rub off positively to your daughter. So it is a win for her in the end cuz mommy had some down time.
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Nah momma, go enjoy your birthday!
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Self care is NOT selfish and it doesnât mean you donât love your child! Go! Enjoy the time alone! You deserve it! Dump the mom guilt! Trust me, I used to suffer from this a lot, and I regret not taking the time and chances I had to go and do and take better care of myself. You can always plan a little trip for you and your daughter later on. For now, take the time you need to rest and then come back to a fresh start more relaxed and mentally prepared. Youâll thank yourself later!
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You need to do things to take care of yourself. Iâm a bit concerned that he has âsafety concernsâ about a beach trip; it seems irrational and overprotective. But you shouldnât feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Our culture only inflicts this guilt on women, and itâs wrong. Plus, 5.5 hours each way for such a short trip is a lot for a 5 year old.
My husband and I try to get away four times a year. Once during each season. We do not take our 6-year-old or our teenagers. Self care is important and as much as you love your child you need adult time.
Letâs make self care a thing.
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You shouldnât feel guilty about going and doing fun things without your child. We mothers need and deserve time to ourselves. Bring the little some cool souvenirs and tell her she can come next time. Or if you want you can just tell her you have a boring business trip and skip telling her about a âfun placeâ at all. Either way you shouldnât feel guilty because we all need time to ourselves
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Donât you dare feel guilty for one second!!!
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Take a mom weekend and go by yourself 
I know itâs hard to go on vacation by yourself but we do need a break away from the stress of daily life and even family life sometimes.
Maybe dad can do something fun with her that weekend or something so she doesnât feel bad about not being able to go if she does feel bad.
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Go and have fun girl! Do not feel guilty! Mamaâs deserve some time alone!
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Enjoy yourself!! Your daughter is taken care of, so you most definitely deserve that time to yourself I understand the mom guilt, but you deserve alone time
All Mummaâs needs a break sometimes, go on your vacation and have a well earned break.
Puerto Penasco?
Go. Have fun and be safe. you deserve it. Bring her a cute necklace or bracelet.
I went on my first adult vacation in 2018 to Disney world with my hubby and his brother and missed my 3 kids so much but I knew they would call me every night and could call me anytime during the day. It was my first time being away from them for more then a work day. And then this Sept Iâm taking another adult only vacation with my hubby, brother in law and mother in law back to Disney world and my kids will be 16, 12 and 9.
They where 13, 8 and almost 6 when I did my first adult only vacation.
Thatâs a control thing with her dad. Go and take her and if donât like it tell him to take you to court over it. My birthday is tomorrow and I want my kids with me tomorrow night. Itâs dadâs weekend but they will be with me for my birthday. And if he donât like it, then he can take me back to court. Does he not let you take your child to the grocery store? Because things happen there too? Things happen just while walking or eating.
Go alone! 
You need to know you.
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You go girl! Everyone deserves time to themselves. It helps to decompress, take care of yourself. Youâll be an even better mom when you get back.
I took my daughter on every outing. Looking back on it, there are times I wish it was just my husband and I. Go & have fun or relax. Have fun sitting on the beach. Next time take her, itâs not like she wonât be doing stuff with dad.
Self care is more important. I do something once a month alone. No husband, no kids, no one to bother me. I enjoy the quiet.
I couldnât go on vacation without my son, he would never understand and I would feel guilty for leaving him so wouldnât have a good time, has your child ever been to the beach? If you donât have a problem doing it then go
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No. Go and enjoy it alone. There will be another time to take your girl
Go check it out on your own and check out spots you can take your daughter to next time!
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Getting our on your own is good for you. Do it. Donât feel bad about it.
No! Not even a little. Go and enjoy yourself, go and be alone and do whatever you want. Itâs ok. You do not have to feel guilty I promise.
And besides, if itâs cold and rainy as you just said, she just gonna get sick sitting on the beach anyway 
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I know all to well how hard it is to leave your children to do something for yourself. It took me years to buy my lunch or treat myself without feeling guilty. I sometimes still have trouble spoiling myself. But sometimes you have to be selfish and go enjoy yourself alone and in peace.
You will both benefit from it and you can always take her away with you next time x
Thereâs nothing wrong with taking a break. Youâre lucky to have her dad to take her for you. Itâs still your choice. If youâre not taking her because heâs telling you not to & his reasoning isnât legit then donât let him control you. I mean what safety concerns? Is he saying youâre not capable of watching your own child on vacation? Youre feeling guilty for a reason.
I always take my children everywhere with me. I surely wouldnât let the dad dictate what you do with the child.
My self care is pedicures.
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You deserve time for yourself also
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This is just your anxiety talking. Go, be by yourself and disengage from your daily life. Sit on the beach. Read a book, eat some great food.
Turn off your phone and just enjoy the moment. 
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Itâs ok to take time to yourself momma you can take a trip to an amusement park or somewhere fun with your daughter another time. Enjoy your alone time on the beach!
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Mine told his Dad and I to take a trip by ourselves for some alone time. He is 10 but so mature for his age. He told me he wants to stay with his great aunt and take care of her.
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I wouldnât think there are any safety concerns going to the beach⌠But besides that no you shouldnât feel guilty. You deserve a break
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If itâs 50/50 through the court and your weekend with her then he canât tell you she canât go as long as he knows where you are
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Go yourself. Enjoy the time you are looking for.
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No itâs not selfish. Your daughter has a responsible parent that will be taking care of her needs. You will be taking care of your mental health needs and be able to continue parenting in a good way.
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I always enjoy a break but I do worry about my child.
Thatâs just me. I donât know how to relax anymore
Go and enjoy yourself. You can always take her on a special trip that she would enjoy.
Enjoy your time mama! There are many more beach trips you can plan with her in the future and it sounds like she will be fine with dad. Enjoy yourself
Do it by yourself. Youâll come back refreshed. If you take her you wonât. We love our kids but alone time is so precious.
Ah mom guilt⌠honey take yourself and treat yourself, and bring her back something to show that you didnât forget about or stopped thinking about her.
My husband and I went on a five day vacation. We didnât take our kids. The guilt will go away. Enjoy alone time.
Enjoy time to yourself! Youâll both get over the separation. Its only 3 days. Tell her when shes older she can go. Plan a mom/daughter day either before or after your vacay⌠get mani/pedis, have lunch or dinner at a fancy place or go to movies. Shes only 5 sheâll be fine!
Enjoy yourself some ME TIME!
SHE WONT MIND
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No you arenât
Us parents need unwind time too
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blame it on the dad as the reason she canât go lol
Heâs being selfish. I take my six year old everywhere. Heâs been to beach many times.
Iâd say go and enjoy yourself but I think you should ask her what she wants
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