What is your 5 year old going to do at an adult bday!! Dad is right you prolly want a few drinks and to let your hair down lever her with dad
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Guess Iām the odd one out. Iād definitely want to take my 5 year old with me if i was going to the beach. Ima single mom, I brought my baby when he was a baby to Costa Rica. And again, when my son was 4, and my daughter was 11 months old brought them both to Maui! They were very safe. So Iām sure your daughter would be safe going with you to Arizonaā¦ if you really wanna take her with youā¦ Just sayin 
And if you want alone time, then leave her with him.
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Everyone deserves a break once in a while.
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Moms need time for self. No guilt. Enjoy.
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No you are not being selfish ! You have to have time to yourself too! If you donāt take care of you first no one else will, you have to be good to you so you can be good for others you love! Stay safe and have fun!
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We all need time to ourselvesā¦ Go have fun momā¦
Enjoy yourself! Us parents are humans too & we need to do fun things for ourselves also! Plan another event for you & her! But take time to relax & enjoy life!
Iām turning 30 in November and I plan on taking a trip, either with my bestie (her 30th is 10 days before mine) or by myself. I have a 2 and 4 (they will be 3&5 at the time of my birthday) they will be staying with family or their dad. Donāt feel bad at all. You arenāt just a mother. You are still an individual who needs individual time.
Itās called self care. We need and deserve it.
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Follow your heart and try to help your daughter to understand what is best for her while you are away at the beach.
Youāre not selfish at all. When coparenting, you need to take their views into consideration too.
Iām sure she will have a fab time with dad. Make sure you enjoy every moment 
All mom 's and dadās need adult time, you deserve it donāt feel guilty. Bring her back something nice. Enjoy!!! <3
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No I think your ex is right for good safe . And you should make time for u by your self itās good to get out there. Happy birthday too . Injoy your day hun . And if you feel bad I take her out after you time away .
No - it is only for a weekend not a month or so - just relax and enjoy yourself. Her Daddy will keep her occupied and happy to be with him.
You are absolutely not being selfish, Iām sure youāll still feel a little bit guilty but get over it lol you also deserve some time to yourself!
It is not selfish to have alone time.
But, I donāt understand the safety concerns. Kids go to the beach all the time. Thatās the only part that confuses me.
But, enjoy yourself. Alone time is great. I always miss my kids when we go somewhere without them but I totally need the adult time sometimes. Even if we just go to dinner alone I feel guilty, but then I realize how nice it is to not have to worry about them while we are there.
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Selfcare and I think your ex is right and maybe he knows Mama needs time too. Stop beating yourself up you need some me time. Go enjoy! All moms deserve this!
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Take a break and have a good day enjoy yourself and your husband and when you get home sheāll be happy to see you guys.
Donāt feel guilty. Itās ok to have alone time. Enjoy and have 
Mums/dads deserve āmeā time too! Youāre not being selfish at all
You are very lucky that her dad is willing to keep her, take that time to rest and relax. If you carry a 5 year old , you certainly WONT get any R&R. Make the most of your time alone, you donāt know when that alone time will vote around again
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Nothing wrong with me time but I donāt understand the safety concern comment?
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No, self care. Good for you and enjoy it
Buy something special for your daughter, a souvenir, like a seashell collection.
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to have some time for yourself. When you are together you give her all your attention so this is your time. Have a Great Birthday and enjoy yourself. You deserve it. Have fun and enjoy the waves. Stay safe and you will be a better Mom for it. More relaxed and decompressed. So see you are doing it for her too. Lol 
Your not being selfish. Itās you time,everyone needs it.
Go have a great time. A five year old could care less. She will be with Dad! The 2 of you can do something special together the next weekend,
Sheād be bored. Go renew yourself so you can be a more refreshed mom when you return.
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Go alone and enjoy the peace and relaxation.
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You deserve YOU time! Donāt feel guilty!
Not selfish at all in fact itās very healthy and necessary to take care of ourselves. Canāt fill from an empty cup
Hell no go alone !!!
Itās YOUR Birthday have a wonderful time xx
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Motherās need a break. 
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You deserve the break. Enjoy your time away and bring her something back she will like. And maybe after you get back and are relaxed you two can do something she will enjoy.
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No, take the break, soak up the sun and silence. Enjoy your time
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Not selfish. You need to take care of you so you can take care of your daughter. Do not feel guilty. Go and get the rest and relaxation you deserve 
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take that trip relax have fun no stress no responsibilitiesā¦ Iām doing the same in June for a week with friends and I Canāt wait
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Im in AZ come pick me up. 
have fun!!
Sounds nice. There will be other times. Rest. Sheās in good hands
i totally understand how you feel! i feel that way when doing something i know my 4 year old son would love. but itās okay to take a little break!! you need to take care of yourself too!
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As moms we always feel bad for taking time for ourselves. Donāt feel bad, you deserve a break. Good moms take breaks, itās how they stay good moms. 
Far out I take time to myself and damn I enjoy it.
Youāre not being selfish. Everybody needs me time to recharge and relax.
In that case
Leave her with her dad
Its only a few days
No your not being selfish
Why guilty? Sheās with dad. 50/50 is a great arrangement. Youāll have chances to go to the beach with your daughter many times in the future 
Happy birthday 
Everyone deserves me time whether mom or dad. Glad you can co-parent like adults and she will have fun with dad too! Maybe one time he will want a break and you allow that too!
Taking some much needed time for yourself is not selfish!
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Stop the self inflicted guilt trip, honey! You NEED some time off to sit, smell the sea air and watch the waves. When you return you will feel fine and have a refreshed and replenished Mom to give to your dear little girl. Stop beating yourself up!! <3 PS Happy Birthday!! <3
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Enjoy it you deserve it she will be ok with her dad. I feel the same way even if I go somewhere and not take them
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Enjoy your birthday, let her stay with dad. Not selfish at all
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No you are not selfish.
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I donāt think your selfish.happy birthday
.enjoy
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I understand dad worry but life got keep moving on If u need time to ur self and agree w dad it not right or safe right now for child to go I would ask him keep her while u gone when u come bk just get tested first make sure u donāt got covid bc we mother sometimes need break is it selfish 100% but it good selfish bc when u take care ur self u be better take care of ur daughter and not like u canāt come bk get tested then plan mommy and daughter weekend when it ur time w her ā¦
No not selfish, go enjoy alone time
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Would you tell your daughter itās selfish if she asked you this?
There will always be mom guilt girlfriend. But you also need time to your self. 
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Girl itās ok to have āme timeā. Other bitches leave their kids home alone to go clubbing, booty call etc. All that tells me youāre a bad ass momma. 
sheās gonna be with her papi. Breath and relax. HAPPY BIRTHDAY 
Mama sometimes no matter how much we love our babies ,we need that alone time!Donāt feel guilty!You can take her another time go have fun and enjoy yourself !My husband and I went to Jamaica when our kids were in Elementry school had the time of our lives.Kids were a little upset but the next year we took all of them to the ocean for vacation !Youāre NOT being selfish Little mama!Why your X worried about your daughter going ?Itās not like you would let anything happen to her !
Have fun !
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No youāre not being selfish. Time out for yourself is good. Enjoy ur trip
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A happy mom is a great mom! She can go next time, enjoy that time that breathing room, you deserve it
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Donāt feel guilty, you canāt live from an empty cup. She would probably get bored and you wouldnāt be able to do what you want to do ā¦ Which is nothing. Let her have a good time with her dad and you do you!
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Go alone and enjoy yourself.
Nope. You need this time. Too many moms donāt take time and will be in the physc ward in five years because they didnāt clearly take time for themselves . Dont ware yourself out before its too late , mamma . Trust me . Iāve been through all of that plus more .
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Maybe Dad could plan to do something special with her.
Go momma , you deserve it by yourself
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Take her and Dad will have to get over himself ! Worry makes waste!!
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You do you boo boo, that baby has a dad thatās taking care of her. If you really want to, celebrate with her when you get back. Iām sure sheāll be down for some cake lol
Enjoy yourself and let the dad have daddy daughter time
Not selfish at all. Enjoy every minute of it.
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Just make sure that she has a special birthday. It is not a sin to enjoy your own special time alone.
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Go to the beach, and enjoy your alone time
Go and enjoy!!
There will be more vacations
Donāt feel guilty. We all need alone time once in a while.
If you donāt take time for yourself,you wonāt be able to take care of family,GO and enjoy your alone time and bring her a present when you come home energetic and ready for another chapter in this thing we call life,enjoy
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It is not selfish. Everyone needs alone time from time to time
You need some alone mom time we need breaks to go enjoy yourself she will be fine!!!
Girlā¦ Go enjoy your short period of rest.
Sometimes momās need that time away from the hectic place
You deserve a vacation, go and enjoy.
Everybody needs some time to recharge. Go and enjoy yourself. Your daughter will be ok. Take her a souvenir when you go home.
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Its not wrong to want a few days alone. with or without a SO. My SO and I have gone way for the weekend alone, with NO guilt what so ever. we all need it. Take it when and where you can.
You deserve some time off. Go and enjoy!
Take some time for yourself, you have plenty of time to take her when your feeling better! She probably wouldnāt even remember the trip!
Self care is not selfish. Go and enjoy yourself.
Self care is important for mommas. As long as she is in good hands itās fine. If you take time for yourself once in a while, you will be a better, less stressed parent.
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You are not being selfishā¦she needs to stay home with Dad especially with covid still around
Take your vacation! Itās not selfish to want some time to yourself. Mothers are held at a different standard when it comes to time with the children but we deserve some time away too. Take that vacation and enjoy yourself, especially since you know your little one will be taken care of.
Time out just for you is very important and you are suffering whatās known as " Mother Guilt " and we all get it at times so just relax and re charge and know that your daughter is in safe hands
eat cake 
and have a little tea party with her when you get back she will remember the tea party forever the trip is for you donāt feel guilty
Go on your mini weekend vacationā¦ enjoy have fun and at the end of your trip buy your daughter a small vacation present. She will love it and you just thank the daddy for talking you in to giving you a weekend that you didnāt realize you needed
Go for it. In a few years she wonāt think twice about banning YOU from HER outings! Does her Dad go on breaks without herā¦?
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Not at all.
As for as dadās concerns, he canāt put her in a bubble forever. He needs to lighten up.