He has a work wife. Big whoop
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Personally keep out of his work, thatâs for him to sort, and why are you so worried about a women he works with messaging him esp if youâve seen the messages and they are bossy lol, I think your trying to control everything because your scared he will leave where as he will leave if you try and control him no man will be controlled forever, I think hes old enough to sort his own work out tbh I dont think you need to be angry, upset or uncomfortable with his work
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If she was new too maybe she thought Iâd like to find a friend .lots of people share numbers in work but if you are so insecure of yourself you will lose him.stop acting like his boss and act like a partner.
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You are making a FAR bigger deal out of this than need be
So she comes across as bossy
They started the same time they trained together WHO CARES to be honest I can understand why he didnât tell you if this is the over thinking and ridiculousness you put into it there is no way you would of accepted it
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I canât deal 
crazy much?
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Block her on his phone or have him block her
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Donât listen to ANY of these dusty women telling you your boundaries are toxic. He INTENTIONALLY hid the fact he has been texting another woman because he knew it cause an argument. If he knew it would then it would clearly make you uncomfortable. Yet he is still okay with doing that? He shouldnât do anything behind your back that he wouldnât do with you right next to him. To me thatâs sketch and he needs to prioritize how you feel more than texting this other woman when there is no reason at all to text her. Block her from his phone or tell him to block her and end all communication.
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He is lying. Too many wrongs.
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WaitâŚare you sure youâre 37??? This is insane and funny!! I see why the hell he didnât tell you! You canât say all these things of how you trust him and blah blah blah and then turn around and have such an issue!! He must be a good one to still be there with you!! This is just too much! 
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You are showing how much you donât trust him and you sound a bit controlling and need to calm down.
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I feel bad for your husband honestly.
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Is your man good looking or just an average JoeâŚhere ?? Some but not all married men canât turn down any flattery from a female co-worker âŚI mean heâs got her numberâŚand she has his .I work in a factoryâŚand have no oneâs number thereâŚto exchange phone numbers âŚitâs the beginning of an relationshipâŚwork and out of workâŚ
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You are over reacting
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This is so stupid. Why doesnât the admin approve shit beforehand. Has nothing to do with being a mama either.
My marriage is so easy going and drama free, I loooove listening to all the drama spill at work
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Since he was trained by her he may have felt that he had to exchange numbers when approached by her to do so, you did say that she was pretty bossy in her messages. He may have even forgotten at the time that you had asked not to do that as you said months had passed. You checked the messages and they seemed perfectly fine work wise. The whole âdid you get stuck working a double?â Maybe they saw each other at work and complained that another shift is short and they have all been having to pull doubles. It was a work question. If you feel that insecure then check the phone bill, it will show texts in and out from that number and see if any were deleted. Sit back and watch his behavior but the more you harp on it, youâre honestly going to push it away:
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In my opinion if he feels like he has too lie about something so harmless than maybe take a step back and think about it. Apart from him lying I think you have a lot of growing up to do to in the relationship departmentâď¸
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I kinda had the same issue with my now husband and a manager at his work. I even met her talked etc. I trusted him but not her she started texting him jokes at first then a little more then that he told me about it and showed me, he played nice with her cause she was giving him more work hours. But one day she asked him to go for a walk during his lunch. Shit he panicked and called me she knew he came home for lunch everyday. Long story short I called her myself and set her straight. She started calling me and harassed me so I went with proof to HR and they transferred her. It was wrong of him hinding it from you, but it is something you need to talked to him about. Clear things so that it doesnât fester. Good luck.
Feel crossed girl, thatâs exactly how my last relationship went and came to a crashing end.
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You say youâre not threatened by this girl but you sure sound very insecure and a bit controlling. If your husband needs your permission to exchange contacts with co workers and any other people he meets outside your home⌠I feel sorry for him. And if you keep making a big deal out of everything, then heâs going to start hiding things from you
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Iâm not trying to be rude, but wow. I think you have the reins a bit tight and the horse will buck. Iâll admit Iâm a medium jealous - I try not to without reason, and if I start without reason, I approach hubby about it. I also think whatâs good for the gooseâŚ
Iâve given up a couple friends who couldnât respect boundaries and so did he, out of respect for each other. I donât ask him to not make new friends and vice versa. We both also realize weâre human and sometimes we misjudge things (like, giving a phone number to someone and not thinking itâd be an issue to find out it is to the other person). We discuss it and move on.
What I have learned, and I think he has too, the horse will eventually buck.
You obviously donât trust him, or you have deep seated trust issues, either way you need to talk to a professional about this problem
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Youâre making something out of nothing. I would be annoyed with you if I were your husband. This just seems like a giant case of insecurity or he did something in the past that you arenât telling.
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Psh heâs with u why worry about him screwing around? Life is too short to worry about infidelity
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Some of the people on here are even more toxic than my ex. Sure he couldâve forgotten to tell you, but for 3 weeks straight? Intentionally keeping something from you IS lying because itâs holding back the truth, keeping you in the dark. Trust, Iâve been there. I forgave multiple times and these were red flags that I ignored. Thatâs not okay. If he knows you like you say he does then he clearly knew that it was the respectful thing to tell you, just as you wouldâve him. Respect, communication and honesty needs to go both ways in a relationship, not just one. Your feelings are valid. 
I will say, though, maybe try going to see a therapist (if you want to continue growing your relationship with your husband). You both have some growing to do and could benefit from it. Best of luck to you love.
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I can see why he didnât tell u. The fact that u feel like he should have to tell u he gave a workmate his number and the whole I donât meet new guy friends shows a lot of insecurity. You say you trust him but show that you donât. If heâs one of the good ones that means he can keep a simply platonic relationship with a female. So stop worrying. Why people get so jealous I will never understand. If he cheats on you or would cheat on you, why would u want him? My thoughts are, you have what ever friends u want because should you choose to step out and disrespect me, I donât need you in my life. Simple as that. I shouldnât have to control my man or tell him who he can be friends with. You keep acting like that, heâs gunna leave. Js
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everyone is saying you need help yada yada but it is 2022 and anyone can switch on you in a dime. youâre just being cautious so you donât get screwed and there is nothing wrong with being cautious so you donât waste your time on someone who doesnât deserve it.
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Why so insecure though? If heâs always been good to you and so on? Talk about your feeling with him, but be careful, people need room to breath and Iâd personally feel really hurt if my spouse was in a way over something this trivial.
If youâre uncomfortable all the time like this, itâs not fair to either of you. Maybe you need to make a decision or find some mid ground
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I only got to exchange numbers and Iâm gonna say⌠LINE CROSSED !!
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Everytime you express an insecurity about something, you go and say that youâre not bothered by it but you are. You canât be on here asking for advice about something then claim youâre not bothered by it at all. It doesnât work that way. The only way to move forward is to be honest about your feelings.
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The fact that you chose to sit and write a 10 page essay on how your NOT bothered by this only shows the complete opposite that you are certainly insecure and bothered by this! Either accept what is or move on but this is a bit over the top for one phone number!
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Does he tell you when he exchanges numbers with male coworkers? I know itâs hard but be honest with yourself and him about your jealousy or it will crash your relationship.
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You say one thing but yet your here asking strangers for adviceâŚlol which us messed up cause we ONLY hear your side of the story and its the way you want us to hear it⌠I have customers numbers in my phone. for 1 cause im like everybody else ppl dont remember ppl number anymore. 2 i can reach them if needed without going to the shop to get their number. DONT mean i/ him/anybody has the number cause there something going on with.
Relax n grow up if you say yall love n bond is strong then yall are ok
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Youâre going to mess it upâŚthatâs why itâs called the Green Monster! Be Loving, Proud of him and Trust him.
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He shouldnât have lied and hopefully you can make him understand how devastating loss of trust is in a relationship. With that said, I think your rules related to work communication are unnecessary and inappropriate. Men can have women friends and vice versa. If he is open (phone access, etc ), understands why lieing to avoid ownership of an action is worse, then trust him. Perhaps you should attend a work function and meet his female coworkers.
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Ok⌠So⌠first of all that was a lot to read. You keep saying one thing then contradicting it. The whole post. So Iâm confused. Like you say your his 1 and only serious relationship and then you say heâs been hurt by so many girls. Or you say you donât care but then you say your super bothered. Figure youâre feelings out. Now itâs ok that your bothered by the fact he didnât tell you he had her number. All these ppl saying youâre crazy or insecure are being ridiculous. My man would never take any females number and not tell me st least who she was and why he had her on his phone. I agree thatâs just basic respect you give your partner so they donât have to wonder or worry. And that doesnât make you insecure but so what if you are. Wtf. Being insecure is really hard and ppl acting like itâs something you can control obviously have never felt that way. You canât just all of a sudden be secure in yourself one day. Itâs an actual mental condition. Wtf. Some of you ppl are seriously really terrible. So what if you are ok. Well hereâs the thing the first person who woukd know youâre insecure would be your man. He should know that. And any man thats worth a sh1t will never do anything to make his already insecure gf feel worried. Itâs not his problem? I hate when ppl say that. It kind of is your problem if you have an insecure gf. Itâs really not that hard to help her feel more secure and if a man really loves you he will do things to build up your self confidence and make you feel secure in your relationship. If he knew you would have an issue with the girls number its his job if he loves you and wants to be with you to let you know just for your own sense of security. Duh. Ppl saying he shouldâve lied cuz youâre insecure are completely terrible people. You donât rip an insecure person down and do things to add to their insecurities and hurt them on purpose. Yeah cuz that will really help fix anything right. Wow. He could have told you. But he didnât. With that said he also let it slip to you in a way that obviously tells you heâs not really hiding anything. Sheâs so irrelevant to him that he didnât think anything of telling you she text him. Just talk to him. Donât be this MUCH though. Itâs alot.
It doesnât sound like he hid it at all
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I think you can be cautious of him doing this. If it wasnât a big deal then why wouldnât he tell you? Sorry I donât think itâs insecure. If youâre questioning it then something is going on⌠especially if you havenât had this feeling before. Maybe itâs not a serious thing but if it is bothering you and he wonât do anything about it I would question him. My husband and I went through some things with texting. If your feeling some sort of way about it then there is a reason.
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Sounds a bit possessive. Let the man got to work in peace⌠you checked the phone their was not anything shady⌠let your good guy be a good guy
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Just say your jealous. Itâd be easier and faster to read
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He shouldnât have lied but it seems like even if he told you, you still would have been mad⌠Girl, he is a grown man. If he wants to or not want to be in work gossip he knows how to do not be involved. If you trust him, heâs a good guy, and you know heâs faithful then who cares. If itâs just about work let it be. You being controlling about it will bring more fights then the actual work drama.
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DudeâŚâŚ I have everyoneâs number from work. It makes work so much easier! You have issues that you are pushing off on him. We donât tell one another every time we add a contact that is of the opposite sex! Also, talking to someone of the opposite sex is not disrespectful to your relationship unless you have ulterior motives. Clearly you are a jealous person and need help. Thatâs a YOU problem.
If I were him, I would be done! Check my phone if you want to but thatâs the end of our relationship! Psycho
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It doesnât sound like he hid anything from you. He told you simply how he received his schedule. He probably didnât mention it beforehand because he didnât feel there was anything important to mention at all. You are never going to move past this unless you are honest with your partner and honest with yourself. You are definitely jealous some. And thatâs okay. Just be honest and let him know that in the future when it happens you would like for him to please let you know and explain it to you so you understand.
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Oh godddd. I exchange numbers at many jobs. You can be surprised how much it helps to have numbers if you need to call out or if your running late. It is very common to also ask if they worked a double or something cause she might be wondering why she didnt get to work a double. Your way over thinking it. Sure wish i had a girl who was about me as you are with him though lmfao
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Like mothers have said, if he wants to cheat, he will.
You are threatened by her. Otherwise you wouldnât have even questioned it and wouldnât of made this post 
Thatâs okay, but donât let your insecurities cause problems with you and your husband. And cause him to start venting to other people (or her) about you stressing him out about having her number.
If you truly trust him, then it shouldnât be an issue. Especially when they havenât said anything inappropriate to each other, but if you have a gut feeling more is going on or might start going on between them then you donât really trust him.
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If sheâs a gossip, sheâs digging for info. She asked about work. 
The fact you are bothered by something and someone who âdoesnât bother youâ tells me the exact opposite.
Iâm glad you arenât a military wife bc we get and send texts and chats 24/7. Even to ppl not in our sections. 
Doesnât men a anyone is cheating or behaving in an untoward fashion.
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Work is work. She trained him and he had her number while he was in training. Itâs not like he can go back after training and say delete my number because my girlfriend doesnât feel comfortable with you discussing work with me. The way youâre behaving is exactly the reason why he didnât tell you about it in the first place. You should be saying to him instead; I wish you trusted me enough that I wouldnât be upset youâre in communication with ANYONE at work about work. I would have understood had you told me and I do understand NOW. Itâs not a problem.
Youâre creating a situation if you do not trust him.
Until and unless he starts giving you reasons not to. People make new friends, it is allowed and normal.
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Holy Wow. Thatâs an extremely long post for a whole lot of nothing. This post and all the overthinking and immaturity behind it is exactly why he felt telling you he exchanged s with his Trainer would cause an argument.
She is also sending him the schedule. This sounds like she is above him in position, as a boss, even if she doesnât officially have the title yet. The rest of your concerns as to her telling him what to do and sounding bossy lmao is becauseâŚ
She is his Trainer
Checking to see if he got stuck working a double, or how a shift went etc⌠and being concerned about his welfare âŚwell thatâs her being a good Trainer. You are spinning something out of nothing and i feel that you are having to reach pretty far to do it.
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You sound super toxic and insecure. Get it together and leave that man the hell alone. Take a yoga class or a chill pill, god damn. I canât even believe I read that whole post full of nonsense. Your possesive, and extremely controlling and thatâs super unhealthy, have you considered therapy to work on your personal issues?
Trust is a must have and from your post it doesnât sound like it exists in your relationship. You may say you would have been âfineâ if he wouldnât have hidden it from you, he obvious felt you would flip out and wanted to avoid that so omitted the exchange. One thing Iâve learned âpick your battlesâ if someone is sneaking around on you thatâs on them not you, negative energy given to insecurities is a waste, if they are gonna do something inappropriate they will do it regardless of the attention you give to worrying about it! Sorry I really do wish you well just adding my opinion.
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When you make the choice to live your life for others, it can lead to insecurities and normalize familiarity in self betrayal.
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I canât believe women like this are married but I canât get a text back. Possessive much. what did I just read!
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Sounds like he didnât outright lie, just didnât tell you. I have given my number or Facebook messenger to any coworker that wants it. It helps improve communication. There is drama everywhere, even when I was turning wrenches in a garage. I think he is handling it well listening but not engaging.
If you show controlling tendency it could destroy a relationship.
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You sound a bit crazy and possessive. If you arenât threatened like you say let it gooooo.
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Tell me you r insecure without saying youâre insecure.
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About her texting him get his phone and reply back yep heâs home with me
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Drama much? Iâve got all kinds of coworkers phone numbers bosses, peers, male, female, younger, older, etc⌠most exchanges are work related but not all. Doesnt sound like hes done anything wrong. Just because youâre together doesnt mean you have to tell each other everything. Build your bridge and get over it!
Its unsettling that he had to hide a number from you incase of an argument.
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I should be all kinds of upset at my hubs he gets all kinds of phone calls and text from the two females that work in the office at his job at varying hrs of the day even days off and sick days heâs the lead builder in the field at his job but he has a female office manager and female secretary they HAVE to communicate with him about ordering materials getting measurements on certain site ectâŚitâs mostly work related but sometimes itâs to bitch about each other I donât feel threatened at all by it, itâs his job itâs what pays our bills. And he did not have to check with me in order to give his number to them itâs necessary and heâs been there 6 yrs.
So, Iâve had to learn thisâŚânot everyone is like me.â Crazy right!? Lol but this is something Iâve had to learn in all aspects of my life. Not everyone has the same values or expectations as I do. And thatâs ok! I think you are so focused on how you are and what your expectations are like when you said you block random guys trying to be your fb friend or you donât get any new guys number because that is disrespectful etc. Thats how YOU feel and choose to act for whatever reason. Doesnât necessarily mean that your partner or friend feel that same way. Most guys are âdumbâ when it comes to women flirting with them or they donât see it as deep of an issue like we tend to do. I donât think this should be cause to start going over every moment from your past with him and analyzing what is a truth or a lie. I think that he hasnât given you any real reason to not trust him. I think maybe he was trying to protect you from spinning out on this situation knowing how you might already feel some type of way. And is there a reason you go straight to cheating? Has he cheated in the past? Have you been cheated on where this is bringing up old trauma? Have you cheated and feel guilty? You canât truly be in a real relationship without trust. So maybe itâs time to reevaluate the relationship.
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Lol ummm ur overthinking WAAAAAAAAY too much 