I have a question for you, ladies. I need advice on what to do. Okay, so my daughter is about five months old. She is with her father right now until court next month. I have joint legal custody and visitation. She has a HORRIBLE cold. I’m very scared and feel helpless right now. He doesn’t want to take her to the doctor. She is already immune-compromised due to a very bad illness when she was very little. And she is a preemie, so that contributes to the immune-compromised. She needs to go to the doctor, but her father won’t take her. What should I do ?? I’m so scared because when she had her illness a few months back, she was on a breathing tube for several days. As I said, I have joint legal custody so I can call the doctor and make the appointment, but I can’t take her because I only have visitation. What should I do? I’m very worried. Please give me advice mommas
Call cps! Say your the mother and hes denying her medical care! And tell them the situation
Call the police have a welfare check done on her
Welfare check. Call the police.
Cal cps and or the cops and have a welfare check done ig she needs to go she needs to go
When you visit call the ambulance!
Make that appointment your self tell them dad will take her if he doesn’t they will know something is going on and the should give him a call
And police! Ask since you have joint custody what can be done.
Welfare check. Praying for your little one!
Call cps and the police
You can take her in on one of your days.
Call your attorney for advise, or call the cops and get that baby to an urgent care…you’re the mother…doesn’t matter about visitation
Call child protection on him, she needs medical attention
Our Dr has a 24 nurse line. They didn’t want to see my infant for chest congestion and cough unless he had trouble breathing or started to run a fever. Maybe see if yours offers one and call them?
What you should do first is call the police & have a welfare check done on your child, tell them the situation. Then you should call cps next. Good luck.
Call CPS or the police dept and make them do a welfare check.
Yep welfare check hopefully u have it in text saying she needs to go and him refusing this could help u out so much
To be honest he probably did take her to the doctor and they don’t give meds to babies that young and probably was told what to do to make baby comfortable and ride out the cold.
Take her anyway i would just sit atound do something
Welfare check. Call cps local dhs call the police station and talk to an officer about it. Joint legal custody means you both have rights to medical! Not just him.
Call division of youth and family services and explain the situation. They will likely send someone to investigate.
Call the police tell them to do a well check and tell them she needs to go!
Take her on one of the days you have her.
If you don’t have your daughter how do you know she has a cold
Call and do a wellness check
Have the police do a welfare check and explain she needs medical attention
Call the 24hr nurse, let them make a decision on whether she should be seen or not. If she needs to be seen, involve CPS to make sure she gets in.
Call the police and cps
Maybe dad is the one w custody and has the baby…and obviously thinks its not necessary …but instead of seeing dads view lets all side w mom who for whatever reason does not have custody.
You can’t treat a cold
Well its rsv and flu season, I would have someone do a check in on her, because both require a lot of attention especially for a 5 month old.
A better question is why did mom lose custody?? If she was all perfect she would have the baby and then be able to care for her.
Call the police non-emergency line. Let them know what is going on. They will go check it out. If he has taken her, they may ask for some form of proof. If they feel it is bad enough they may call for an ambulance themselves. Or offer to escort him to urgent care. Calling DHS won’t work right now because it is an immediate concern and they take time to get out there.
Talk with a lawyer and ask what you can do… child endangerment? CPS? Someone that can help you either enforce him taking her in or maybe finding him neglectful of her needs medically
Call the cops and do a welfare check
Call cps or the police for a wellfare check
How the fuck u loose custody of a 5 month old. Are yall married
Could be rsv. She needs to go to Dr.
Agree wellness check from police
Call the cops to do a welfare check up
I’d be calling 911. And getting her an ambulance
Get this shit on record now. Call the police.
It will get your daughter the care. And get it on paper
Call the police. Your still her mother. Mothers go to no end
Right it down on calendar of when he has her and when u have her it will hold up in court but first u need to call your attorney. And ralk to him r her about what to do
Are there any other family members a part of your babies life that you can speak to about the child’s wellbeing?
If she had a bad cold there is nothing the Dr will do can’t treat a cold just have to ride it out I’m sure dad knows what he is doing and has talked to the Dr
She has a cold, that is NOT a reason to call the cops 
. If you have visitation, there is usually walk in clincs open 24 hours a day you could take her to. Unless you only have supervised visits, in which case there is more to this story. The doctor can’t treat a cold, I would imagine Dad is keeping an eye on her and her symptoms and will take her to be seen if its neccessary.
Call u doctor, talk to them they might give u some meds.
Whoever Barbra is and blocked me! You’re such an asshole!! Who wishes that upon any child!! You don’t even know the whole story. She was reaching out for advice not for some bitch to wish her kids to go to foster care!!
Doesnt matter why mom doesnt have physical custoday… what matters us baby’s health. It is better error on the side of the baby seeing the doctor and it just being a cold …but being as its flu season…I’d have the baby seen by a doctor. If dad wont take baby , with joint legal custody you should be able to take baby yourself. Otherwise contact your CPS worker and request and welfare check.
make a court appointment asap
With all the sickness going around I wouldn’t play I’d dial 911 give them his address 
She needs to be seen even if he thinks it’s a " cold " I took my son to the doctor 3 weeks ago for what I thought was a cold even the doctor felt like it was a cold… guess what RSV…we have been battling everything that comes with and now in the hospital bc of pneumonia… it’s better to have her checked than not too.
I think you need to get cps involved. Or call the police and see if a police officer can go check on the child
Take her to immediate care next time you have her
If you have joint custody then y ou can take her. Of course you would need to get the insurance card if you don’t have a copy.
Call EMS TO SHOW UP AT THE ADDRESS TO HAVE HER CHECK WITH A SECOND OPINION
The police aren’t going to be able to do anything except tell you to check with your case worker on what steps you can take.
If you’re so concerned why dont you have her😯 ??? Poor baby😞
Call your social worker and let them know about your concern
Unless she is running a high fever or legitimately having trouble breathing a cold is no reason to take her to the ER. First of all she will pick up much worse diseases as well as take away time from people who actually need emergency care.
Call her pediatrician in the morning. Tell them the symptoms and they’ll advice you on whether to bring her in or not. I’m assuming if dad has legal custody over her he probably has some idea what he is doing too.
I mean if you’re really scared she could be life threateningly sick then call an ambulance to his house to check her out
Girl I would be violating whatever order is in place and take my child to the doctor and face the consequences when they come
Instead of going straight to getting CPS and cops involved I would tell him if he did not take her u were going to call them. Bc once they are involved it’s hard to get them uninvolved. If he does not take her within those 24hrs following then call. Bc be may have taken her already but is just trying to make u mad about it and stress. Hope she gets better soon. 
You either have joint legal custody or you don’t. My ex and I have true 50/50 and he can take my kids to the Dr.
Due to the fact she is a premie, she needs checked out. Rsv hits fast and hard and is nothing to fool around with. Call your case worker and let them know she is sick and he hasnt taken her to be checked.
Don’t know where you are but if your that worried why didn’t you take her to doctor before handing her over .Ring police ask for a female cop to with male cop for welfare check . But think hard before you ring because for one action there is a reaction so don’t do some thing that will upset your exhusband things will go haywire
Wow what happened that you only got joint legal custody and visitation 
I would talk to CPS and ask what can be done if you feel that the baby is they sick.
Why can’t the women in this group understand that fathers are allowed to make decisions for their children too. There are three sides to every story. The father clearly is a good father if he has custody of his daughter. Fathers are able to make educated choices for their children. She has a cold. If he felt it was severe enough I’m sure he’d take her to see a doctor. The mother doesn’t even know for sure whether he has taken or called the doctor that’s treating the kid. If she was having trouble breathing he is smart enough to see that and get her treatment. Stop jumping to conclusions that he needs cps or the police called because he doesn’t jump with the mother says to jump.
You know hard it is for a court to take custody from a mother?? I fought 2 years to get my stepson from his mother. So if her father has her, he knows best and you need to stop. He obviously knows what hes doing.
Ask him if he will allow you to take her. Maybe he can reassure you that he will if there’s reason or a cause to. Offer anything she might need, a humidifier and saline drops. I’m not sure about cold meds that young but maybe the doctor can direct you to something. They have homeopathic options as well.
You have the right to pick her up and take her in cause with all the illness and colds can be quite a serious cold or progress into one. And if he doesn’t let you call for a wellness check and they send in officials to medically check her out. I had to do that when my ex didn’t believe me my daughter overdosed on her depression medicine. It was a medical emergency. . Good luck .
If you have visitation take her when u have her to the doctors… Or if you feel it’s urgent possibly call ems or the police to do a well welfare check on the baby?
Call the court and tell them your concerns
I honestly feel like this question is a set up for court. Its ridiculous.
Call your local police. See if it’s child neglect being as she has a history.
U cant go get her take her then bring her back?this technically an emergency i would n keep all documents. And text to.show the judge next month…my x is like that but we dont have court set visitations i have primary n if she needs to go to the dr i go get her because he wont take.her nor will he call to get her insurance info if he were take her
Go to court. Emergency hearing.
Even if you have visitation, you have joint custody. You can take her to the doctor.
Wow, please avoid some of the comments on here from people who need to step off thier high horse! I would keep messages etc saying that you believe she needs medical attention and him denying to do that. If you have joint custody then you CAN still take her, you do not need anything with her insurance etc they will have that or back bill. Call someone if needed an explain the situation that you believe she needs medical attention but because he has her on his visit time now you can not and he refuses.
My immune compromised kid has had a ton of colds that haven’t required drs visits. You may be overreacting. And if your not fb really isn’t going to be able to help much. 
Bring her in!! I went to the hospital two days ago and said it was a cold. I came back today and still in the hospital cuz of pneumonia
I disagree. My husband was a wonderful man to everyone but me and my kids. My son with severe asthma would have died 10 times when he was a kid. He’d get mad everytime I’d take him to emergency and then when I’d get there they would ask me why I waited so long. I know exactly how you feel. I’d call an ambulance and send it to his place and at least they would be able to tell him if they thought she needed to go due to her past history. They won’t charge if they don’t have to take her. This might work in your favour in a custody battle.
Her cold can turn into puemonia very quickly, if you have joint custody take her to the dr. Yourself.
Call in a well child check on him and the cops will go check on the baby
Or maybe call the dr. and get the dr. to call him.
Stop being catty ladies, it’s not a good color on you.
Also because I have been in this exact same situation at some point: if you have weekend visitation and you think she might can wait, find an open clinic on the weekend and take her then. document freaking everything. make sure that you have everything in writing from the doctor on heading from the doctor’s office. make sure judge and lawyers get copies especially if she ends up on medication or ends up in the hospital. this will come in handy if he refuses to give her medication. if you do not have visitation that is unsupervised at some point, or you think that she cannot wait for whenever this is, I would call the non-emergency number for the sheriff’s office and ask them to just do a well check. Explain the situation so at least it’s documented somewhere that someone in a medical capacity had eyes on her at some point if things go south, and that you were trying to do the right thing by getting her help even if no one else wanted you to. also get copies of the call-in documents from the sheriff’s communications center and copies of the report from the well check after 24 hours of it being in the system if you can. like I said above distribute it to as many people as needed legally. If you do not already have an attorney, find one. also see about guardian ad litem.
If you have legal visitation, take her when you have her. Just because you don’t have primary care, doesn’t mean you can’t take her to a doctor. My son’s father has taken our son to the doctor a couple of times during his visits and he doesn’t get much in the way of visits. 1 overnight per fortnight, 1 day per fortnight plus 3 dinner visits per fortnight
Call for a welfare check. File for emergency custody.
Facebook is never the answer when it comes to the health of your children. On another note, the father has full residential custody of the infant. There is a reason for that. This mother obviously has failed her baby at some point to lose custody. For the moment she still has her legal parental rights but has no custody. At her last visitation when she noticed the child was sick she could of informed herself. There are women who can not handle co parenting and are always looking for ways to get back at the fathers. This is sad. Figure out what you need to do right to have your baby back in your custody instead of creating unnecessary scenarios to be vindictive. I.e. looking for suggestions on fb to call the cops or cps on the father over a cold. If the baby truly is sick I’m sure he can handle it.
Her daughter is 5 months and a court felt it necessary to take her child away from her. Yall are ridiculous to think this woman has any say so. Taking a child from the mother is the hardest thing to do. Do your research before getting pissed at me for being honest.
I don’t think there’s really anything that can be done for a cold, it has to run it’s course. If she’s having a hard time breathing and you can see her struggling to breathe- she may have RSV and that does require medical attention whether he likes it or not.
First of all why do you only have visitation and you are the mother?
Just go get her and take her.
First thing’s first. CONTACT A LAWYER to answer your questions. Each state is different when it comes to parental rights. There are many options for free or low cost legal advise; you need to utilize those options.
Call for a wellness check with the police.
Call cps about your concerns, I’m sure they can lead you in the right direction. Prayers your baby is okay!
I’d call the dad and tell him either one of y’all take her to the Dr immediately or you’re calling CPS and the police to get it done! I’m sure he doesn’t want either of those places involved in his life! He doesn’t know how sick that baby could really be! SMDH!!!
Main priority is the baby. If you feel like it’s necessary & especially baby has insurance I don’t see why dad wouldn’t take her.
I would probably go to the cops and explain the situation to have them go with you to avoid any problems with baby dads. It doesn’t hurt to go just to make sure everything is okay with baby. It ain’t about YOU or DAD it’s about BABYS HEALTH!!!
First of all- calling CPS , y’all need a reality check, this will not only possibly remove baby from dad, but mom too. CPS is corrupt and literally makes money off of removing children from the home.
Secondly, dad may have already consulted the doc. If the doc has decided it’s a cold, (like mom said) A half decent doc doesn’t give antibiotics for a cold. A cold is a virus. A virus cannot be cured with antibiotics. A bacterial issue, can, such as pneumonia. A decent doctor would advise any parent, of any type of child (premie or not) how to make baby comfortable without dosing with OTC meds or unnecessary prescriptions that will harm her in the long run.
Hate to be the one to make the whole page angry… Mom is already pretty angry she doesn’t have baby. Mom is already angry dad isn’t asking how high when she says jump. Dads can take care of babies too.
Learn to coparent better- because at some point, he will ask you to do something and you will brush him off.
(And queue the peanut gallery and some ultra-extra dramatic stories of bad-dads)