I feel like my daughters teacher bullies her: Advice?

I just need to vent. So the last two days of school before Christmas break, I kept my kids home from school cause all they had planned was movies. My son is in kindergarten, and my daughter is in 7th grade. Apparently, my daughter has a science teacher who isn’t the nicest to her. My daughter is very smart and has always loved school; she’s even got her future university picked out; she wishes to attend Harvard University. Well, this teacher is always on her, and on the last day of school, she told another student who happens to be my daughter’s best friend, told this young girl, I don’t think Jocelyn is going to pass 7th grade. Umm, excuse me? I’m sorry not only is that rude, but very unprofessional! This isn’t the first time she’s said something snide to her either; it’s come to the point where my daughter broke down in tears last night saying she doesn’t want to go back to school. So I’ve decided to remove her and switch to an online school till we move. I’m going to be calling the school board tomorrow to make a complaint. I don’t tolerate bullying from other children, and I sure won’t tolerate it from a grown adult.

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Wow! I am so sorry. This teacher should be fired.

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Coming from a teacher- There’s always two sides to every story.

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Her teacher saying she might not pass the grade is “bullying”? :roll_eyes:

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I Am sorry call the school and don’t give up. He’s a bully

Good on you, do whatever is necessary to protect your child.

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Before you do anything I would ask for a meeting with the teacher.

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When i was in 6th grade i had a teacher bully me too my mon got tired of me crying and went to the principle had a meeting with him and the teacher and chewed them the hell out said if it happended again she would take action. . . it never happened again i had a great mom

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This happened to me in high school. A teacher straight up told the entire class I was dumb (I struggled with algebra) and that I wasn’t going to ever go to college. I left school that day sat in my mom’s car she looked at me asked what was wrong I broke down in tears my mom quick flipped that car around and went into the school and went OFF

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Or maybe instead of talking her out of school just take her out of that class

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Yes make sure the teacher said it . Today the teachers don’t say anything about other children at all .

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Definitely call the school board

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I agree it is very unprofessional however there are two sides to every story. How did you find out she told your daughters friend this? Have you spoke to the teacher?
I ask this because we had a similar issue with my oldest son in 3rd grade. Unfortunately it came out to be an issue with the teacher.
I hope it works out.

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I had a 7th grade math teach ask me what part I didn’t get; the easy part or the easier part. My mom didn’t believe me at first she called one of my classmates and asked her and this girl repeated it verbatim to my mom

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Coming from a teacher and I’m a parent of a middle school girl, and I’m not excusing any behaviors. But, there are always two sides. My daughter has told me things her teachers say as well. I have to take some of them with a grain of salt. Have you talked to the teacher? Maybe email her and cc the principal on the email. The school board is not the correct way to go.

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School board won’t do anything about in class concerns. Bring it to the Principal.

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Confront the teacher herself. I have had issues like this in the past.

Thank you for listening to your daughter and supporting her–too many parents do not do that. My youngest had a bully teacher in 2nd grade–while she was not a victim herself, she came home terrified over what the teacher was doing to other students (she really picked on black boys I found out when I volunteered in the classroom to keep an eye on things). Bullying effects all students not just the victims–so please report them

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I would contact the school about that. Secondly good job for choosing to remove her. We did something similar with my second grader because her anxiety got so bad around a teacher and hed refuse to let her use the bathroom… anxiety = stomach issues and it got to the point she had an accident in class because he would not let her go period no matter what.
Due to the nit so nice nature of kids with things like this we gave her the option to switch out of his class or move schools all together.
She was going to a doctor for the anxiety and even had meds for the stomach issues prior to this teacher problem.

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I had a teacher like her. I was a straight A student before her, and after her class I would just quit for the day and it was only my second period. She called my mother and complained that I never spoke in class discussions so I tried to speak up and she would call and say that I wouldn’t stop speaking out in class. Couldn’t win, told her to shove it and dropped her class.

I’d be setting up a meeting with the teacher, you child, principle and vice principal and the director of the district. All need to be involved all at once so there is no he said she said. That’s awful. I dealt with something similar and put that man in his place. His behavior changed immediately

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Definitely fight the school board on the issue my brother went through that same thing and the school its self wouldn’t do anything but the school board fired her because it wasn’t the first student she was doing it to
Having a teacher bully you is very impactful make sure you check up on her because depression is something very serious especially at a young age when being bullied by someone who is suppose to teach them and treat them kindly

My daughter’s 1st grade teacher bullied her for months before I realized it and it changed her personality. She called my daughter lala laylaland because she would look around and did it in front of the class so the other kids started doing it and my daughter came home in tears. I almost beat that teachers ass. Then my daughter began shutting down and started saying things like its because I’m dumb and I’m too stupid. Then the last straw her teacher told her she wished she didn’t come to the school anymore. So I had that horrible witch fired!. Protect your kids!

Have you tried speaking to the teacher? Then perhaps the principal?

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That’s confidential information and she should not be discussing any student with another u should speak to the principal if they don’t do anything go to education dept of your state

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Wow way to squash a baby’s dreams

Definitely contact the school

when I was in high school I had a teacher tell me id never make it past 11th grade before I dropped out because I wasn’t smart.
I stood up on on my desk told her to kiss my white A**… I went to the principal called my grandparents they came up with the school super. and she was gone from the district my grandpa was pissed I was bullied by her and shamed for my learning problem

So many people have thanked you and I want to thank you too. Growing up my mother believed adults over us. I dealt w a teacher bullying me, my mother never knew because she wouldn’t believe me. Take action and give your baby a kiss because not every kid feels comfortable confiding in their parent. :hugs:

Some years ago a female 2nd grade teacher told my granddaughter “she was so stupid that even God couldn’t love her”. Granddaughter ended up being almost a straight A student who went on to college.

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I had a nurse in high school bully me. I had extreme anxiety and would eat lunch in her office with her because of it. She was understanding at first but I went in one day … in tears expecting her to help me and she laughed and began insulting me, saying everything the person had said to me was true. I filed a complaint with the vice principal and nothing was done because she was popular and well liked by the staff and the students. I wasn’t taken seriously and nobody believed my accusations. :woman_shrugging: I ended up switching schools for senior year. She retired a few years ago but still has strong connections to the school and my brothers go there now. They’re so much more popular than I ever was and thankfully don’t have to deal with a quarter of what I did from the students or the staff.

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My 7th grade teacher told me I would never last in highschool, I still remember her comments today as a 25 year old. Take this as far as you can go! Shame on teachers for making children feel anything less!

This happened to us when my daughter was in the 9th grade a very new science teacher did the exact thing. She also said something very inappropriate to my daughter in class in front of everyone. I went to the principal. The teacher apologized to both myself and my daughter. And we filed a formal complaint, which went into her file. And it would be seen if she ever were to be reviewed for a promotion or raise. My daughter is still at this school 3 years later.

That is completely unprofessional and a horrible thing to say. Let your daughter see you stand up for her. I had a similar situation with a teacher. I ended up going to the school board and ultimately switched schools. This teacher bullied my child from loving school into hating school and her grades slipping. Not my child, bitch. My daughter moved schools and was right back to herself. Im not saying it has to be that extreme for your daughter but don’t let that teacher harm her love of learning.

If I were in your position I would call the school and speak to the principal … I would ask for a meeting with that teacher and find out exactly what is going on … if this is true and this teacher is bullying your child there should be consequences … I would make sure that she received a severe consequence

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I have incorrectly overreacted to a teacher by only basing the situation on that of what one of my kids told me happened. As much as the mama bear in you wants to come out, I would acknowledge what your daughter is telling you but also talk to the teacher to make sure everyone is on the same page. It will save you any embarrassment and back-pedaling and maybe even improve your daughter and her teacher’s relationship. Most teachers applaud parents advocating for their child and taking an interest. That is excellent of you to be doing that.

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I remember clearly getting bullied by my 3rd grade teacher and I’m 25 now. My parents did not tolerate it and set up a meeting with the principal and a few others. Long story short she almost got fired and she never bullied me again

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Teachers do bully too. Good for you for being there for your kid- not all parents would take these steps.
And let’s hope your complaint on this teacher stops her from bullying another poor kiddo.

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That’s so sad :disappointed: unfortunately I hear the same type stories from my son about his teachers. One even whipped his binder across the room and broke it, another time he was made to walk around with a fractured ankle all day, they didn’t believe him and wouldn’t allow him to call me. I live in a small town, there are no options for other schools. Going up against the school or school board here is also not an option. They are all friends and cover for eachother. It’s sickening.

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Stand up for child don’t let this person ruin everything for her

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Umm I would go straight to that teacher…face her personally and ask her WTF is up. :angry: No one…whatever…the circumstance is…should ever make your child feel less then.

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I would confront her.

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Sounds like a bunch of he said she said crap, I would be checking with the teacher

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I personally would go right to the teacher and talk to the teacher. We had a teacher do this to our son. We confronted him right to his face about the crap he was doing to him. Said we will go to the next level if it didn’t stop. So many disheartening things were said to our son!!! Why let a teacher “ruin” your child’s schooling? Put a stop to it!!

Go to board of education my son was bullied for being adhd told he needs meds stuck in a corner best believe once I had proof I had her ass fired

Never trust third hand info and not from kids. Gotta verify before taking extreme measures like this.

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I’d go straight to the teacher and confront her straight up and to people saying there’s always two sides no wonder kids are afraid to speak up nowadays cause adults are quick to not believe them I’m sorry but if my child tells me something and crying you bet your a$$$ momma gonna believe her you always believe your kids no matter what unless proven otherwise

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Be aware that kids may make situations seem worse than they are but also keep in mind that I had a few horrible teachers growing up, some of them just down right nasty and bigger bullies than the kids, and no one believed me just because I was a minor, this is all from 5th-12th. That being said, email the teacher and if it continues bring the principal into it, if it’s not handled after that then go to the school board

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I requested a meeting with the teacher who tried to bully my twins. I actually ended up having 2. The first was just me and the principal. It was productive because he knew beforehand where I was coming from and had my back when she tried to gaslight me. Which I promptly called her out on. Good times, man.

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I had an English teacher like this. Basically made it clear that she didn’t like me because of the family I come from and the jobs they work. I was never super hurt by it, I only told my parents to vent about it more than any other reason. I totally did not expect that my mom and dad would storm the school the following day and confront her face to face and get principal involved. Everything stopped after that. She treated me like the rest of the students from there forward. Now that I’m an adult with my own children that’s exactly what I would do as well… especially with the fact that its gotten so bad she’s crying and hurt over it.

Hell no, absolutely not! If I were you I would of gone to the school & complain because that’s very unprofessional of the teacher to say anything rude to a child! I’m afraid to let my soon to be 5yr old go to school because of this crap. But best believe if that happens to my kids this mama is not letting that shit go. I’m extremely over protective of my kids. I will talk to my kids about teachers/staff talk rude to them.

People like that teacher is why kids kill themself Take care of this soon as you can

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Teachers r people and most r idiots, I’d do the same

I’d take her friend with u to confront

I would call the school and speak with teacher and principal.
I had a Geometry teacher in my sophomore year of High school who was an absolute WITCH. Many of my classmates hated her. I remember specifically she called my entire class “stupid” — exact word.
She used to pick on me because I asked to sit closer to the front because I was sitting near people who were constantly chatting.
My mom called & they started questioning students. She was fired soon after. Her getting fired was never my intent but that’s what it came down to because she was such a nasty person and I couldn’t stand taking her verbal abuse, neither could my classmates.
If anyone EVER messed with my kids, I would stop at nothing to have something done about it, justified of course.

Why would u keep them home on movie day? It still counts towards their attendance and probably doesn’t set the best example. I would set up a meeting with the teacher and hear them our. I know we like to think that all of our teenagers are angles but we know they are also testing the waters. I worked at a school where the girl with the best grades had such an attitude problem. Give the teacher an opportunity to let you know what is going on in his/her class.

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First and foremost. Go straight to the teacher. Confront them head on. If that does not help, go to the principal. And if nothing is done and it is still happening, then you go to the school board

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Why are the science and math teachers always assholes? Every math and science teacher I’ve ever had or met has been an asshole.

I would absolutely confront her. That is a :100: unacceptable. I would raise hell.

Request a meeting with the teacher and the principal

I was a victim of a teacher bullying me. She gave detention if my pencil lead broke. She would make me take tests while others played games. I tolerated it for a long time because i thought she is my teacher i should respect her. It finally became to much i was failing math and couldnt do anything to make this woman happy. I finally turned to my mom and she confronted the teacher and the principal and then went to school board. She lost her job and with in a month i was passing math with a B.

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Just calling the school board will do nothing

There are teachers like that out there. Most are not like that but some are. Me and some of my sisters experienced this bullying growing up. My mom didn’t stand for it and would complain but it really never did much good except make us feel better.

There are good teachers and bad teachers like the police and this behavior is unacceptable and the school needs to be notified ASAP even though they may not do much cus they don’t take anything seriously anymore and with the recent suicide of a child they should but they too busy trying to figure out what they doing

My daughter had a teacher like this. He even refused to meet with me at parent/teacher night. It was ridiculous! Shes an easy going person so all I could think of is that he targets certain kids (the assistant principal knew about his behavior already). I insisted that she change class and then she excelled. Nice to know now that I think of it, that she’s more successful than he’ll ever be. Karma…

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My son had a teacher like this in third grade. He moved to 4th grade the next year so he was stuck in his class twice. He was terrible. I pulled him from school until it was addressed. It stopped when he realized that my son had a family don’t play. Some teachers should not be teachers period

You need to go to the teacher, then principal, superintendent, lastly the school board.

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Straight to the teacher about it, don’t even blink. This has happened a couple times in my kids life and the only way you deal with it is head on. Speak to the teacher first, make it known you won’t tolerate your child being bullied. If after a few days, you don’t notice a change in your child, go to the principal. Few days after go to the board if need be.
Your child is the gauge on whether the classroom environment is healthy.

Omg all hell would’ve broke loose if it were me! You go girl! I would’ve fought for disciplinary action.

No saying it didn’t happen but I wouldn’t go to the school board before talking to that teacher and the principal at the same time. Maybe the friend lied or stretched the truth on what was says because she knows her friend doesn’t like the teacher. I would never go for someone’s job with out At least getting their side of the story.

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Yep teachers can ruin things for kids. Not fair!

I would start with the teacher and then move your way up… i have dealt with my daughter (shes 10) being bullied since 1st grade, so we start every year with informing her teacher how involved we are and that they will be hearing from us immediately should there be ANY issues. If the teacher doesnt resolve the issue to your satisfaction andots hindering your childs growth education wise or emotionally or mentally etc then you go to the prinicpal then school board… then switch schools then same process then switch school or home school… we had to switch schools and i am already int he process of having to homeschool my daughter but mostly due to attendance laws and covid … i dont believe i should to get a dr note every time she is sick… if i say she is sick and needs to miss school she does period sometimes she needs family time or random mental health days with her mother to learn to take care of herself geeze

Why the school board, confront the teacher directly.

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Omg confront that teacher (non violently) and tell her your are firm in saying she is to quit picking on your child or else you will be making sure the Principal hears about it or you will go to the media if its ignored.This can destroy your child’s progress in her future.Stay strong mama

First, I’d confirm if the teacher said that. I used to be a para pro for elementary school, and you’d be shocked at the stuff the kids told us, that we knew was not true. The child who told you the teacher said you daughter was failing, may not be repeating the teacher word for word.

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I had an English teacher to talk to another class about my daughter when she was a Junior in High School. I went and talked to the Principal and Scheduled a meeting with her. She denied it. I told her word for word, what she said. She started stuttering and I told her to keep my daughter’s name out of her Mouth. I transferred my daughter to another class. That next year, My youngest son was assigned to her. I quickly went to the Guidance Counselor and had him removed from her classroom. Afterwards, she wouldn’t speak my daughter’s name. I never could find out why she didn’t like my daughter. I hope you remove your daughter from this situation.

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So you have a meeting with the teacher and principal. Explain your concerns. I had to call the day before winter break, because a teach told the whole class “there’s no doubt I bet your parents want to choke some of you”… I was like excuse me. I called the office. Complained and found out that teacher had a few other complaints. We are distance learning.

I would email the teacher and cc the principal and a superintendent. My daughter had a science teacher in MS that made her sit on the floor in the front of the classroom because if I remember correctly she was a little chatty. (It’s been a few years) my daughter was so embarrassed and humiliated in front of her peers. The principal made excuses for the teacher but I didn’t let it go and made them switch her out of that class because it was the only one class she had issues. Fast forward to her freshman year and she was the victim of bullying that made her feel suicide was her only way out, thank god she survived. I refused to stay quiet on the issue and it put a target on her back. The principal found fault with my daughter at every chance she got. She ended up having my daughter arrested and taken to JDC for assault after my daughter and her friend got into a Scuffle and they both fell down. They made her write a formal letter of her side of events without us present and attached her to police report. They told her they had cameras that caught the whole thing. We went and picked her up at JDC the same afternoon thankfully, a few weeks later we had to appear in front of the prosecutor and my hubby insisted on an attorney. Good thing too, the attorney dug and their was no video, just baseless accusations. My daughter got a formal warning and as long as she stayed out of trouble until she was 18 it was sealed. That was her last day within that school Corp because no one would even return my emails/calls they wanted to pretend it never happened. She ended up graduating HS a year early and I do believe it’s because we didn’t allow the school system to rip her apart.

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I would report that teacher also. She violated several rules. One you dont tell another student about another students grades. Second, being rude like that is not ok. And third you need to take it up with the parent. There is confidentiality laws. I would be up all over that teacher.

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When I was a teacher, a student reported to the principal that I hit him. The principal interviewed SEVEN other students regarding the incident. They all told the truth. I did NOT hit him. The student was mad because I disciplined him…

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Definitely have a conversation with the teacher and the school board. I would also include your daughter in that conversation just to get both sides.

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Are there other witnesses? One student and one teacher? She said, she said…Have you documented the other incidents? Calling the school board will win you NO points. Go through the chain of command first. It’s only fair.

My daughter has a teacher like that too. She’s in 6th. She doesn’t learn the fastest when it comes to math and she’s on an IEP because of it. The teacher has literally said things to her like, your in 6th grade, you should know this stuff by now, it’s not that hard to do. First off I don’t think a teacher should ever say anything to a student like that especially in front of the entire class. She already has a complex because she’s not on the same level as everyone else and whats hard for one may not be hard for another. We all learn on different levels. Yesterday she started her Monthly. She has severe cramps and I leave medicine at school for her for her cramps. She told the teacher yesterday she needed to go to the nurse. The teacher told her she could wait and never let her go. I was livid when she got home and told me that, because at this point she’s in tears with cramps. I called the school and told them what had happened. I told them my daughter shouldn’t have to answer out loud that’s she’s having period cramps and needs medicine. I think asking to go to the nurse is sufficient. They emailed the teacher supposedly and said it would be taken care of. Today she went to that same teacher and asked to go to the nurse to get her medicine. The teacher asked her again in a really snotty manner, even after supposedly receiving an email the afternoon before regarding the situation, why she needed to go to the nurse and that she feels like she goes to the nurse way to much. She did this in front of the entire class. I’m trying to reevaluate my emotions before I contact this lady tomorrow because I would like to talk to her with a level head and not just out of anger and hurt for my daughter. I think you getting her switched was probably the best thing to do or maybe get a different teacher. Unfortunately I don’t feel like schools take it seriously when it comes to the teachers being nasty to kids. They always think it’s the kids fault because kids will be kids and that the teacher can do no wrong. Good luck with your situation. I hope everything works out for the best. :heart:

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My daughter went through this in first grade with a teacher not ready to teach younger kids. I spoke to the principal immediately about it and changed her teacher around December when it all got out of hand and she came home crying that she was singled out and talked to mean everyday.

It’s pretty darn sad a teacher acts like a child when they are supposed to be teaching against bullying! Personally, I would go to the school and show her a thing or four

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Oh helllll no. I would be at the school. Talking to the superintendent and demanding an in person school board meeting

I’m not defending bullying kids or making excuses for the teacher so please don’t take it that way. I would just like to point out that 7th grade girls can be dramatic and make things up so maybe approach the teacher and principal first and get the other side of things. I say this because I remember telling my mom that my 7th grade math teacher hated my guts and that he was failing me without teaching me how to do the work right. My mom stormed the building ready to raise Cain only to discover that I had made it all up because I wanted to cover my ass for not doing my work. All that said if it is true then absolutely address it. Don’t just yank her from school without explaining exactly why to the principal so they can address it.

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Then take your ass up there and stop it! You àre her her biggest advocate. Start at the bottom and go all the way up until someone listens. Thats what I had to do for my daughtee.

One bad teacher can really hurt

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I do believe you need to be all up in her shit along with principal vice principal counselor school board superintendent put it all in writing. Have your daughters friend write a statement to submit with everything. Make phone calls and push push push

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See if the school has a liaison and talk to that person also.

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Home school is the best bet to get her a decent education these days. And, as far as Harvard, count that out too. They’re as worthless as public education.

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You need to address this with the school ASAP. Period.

I agree with everyone, email,cc principal, superintendent. Keep track of everything. She should be fired!

Also I would call the teachers board and report her that way to

I’d call the superintendent of the school district as we as taking it up with the school board. I’d also consider calling an attorney…

Complain to the principal or Superintendent

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I’d light her ass up! Period! Unacceptable.

I think home schooling is safer and less stressful for child

Good for u . I would do the same thing .