Been there the chick didn’t care my ex had a family so papers was served now I’m happily married again to wonderful man who accepted my kids right away . My kids were old enough to see what was going on and they were like mommy leave him.
I’d keep my mouth shut. Hire a PI or a friend with a good camera & get every bit of evidence you need to take him to the cleaners! See how much she likes your hubby when he’s broke from paying child & spousal support…
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Let that piece of trash have him. He’ll just do the same thing to her at some point down the road…
Time to fix that hussy good 
I wouldn’t waste my time confronting the woman. She clearly knows about you. You have your proof already. I would just leave him. He wasn’t scared to get caught by flaunting his relationship in front of your children.
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Your husband is the problem the women owes u nothing
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Please do not confront, get proof and file for divorce. It will not make you feel better.
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Women on here defending the other woman is sickening. Yes, he is at fault FIRST. BUT this woman knew he was married with a family and still CHOSE to insert herself into their marriage, in front of his kids. Apparently woman code doesn’t exist amongst many of you. Absolutely confront her! Let her know what a lowlife she is! I’m sure she’ll address her husband first, but this woman needs to be put in her place and called out. All y’all defending her obviously don’t realize that if women didn’t CHOOSE to get involved with married men, then there’d be a hell of a lot less situations where this happens. If she had said no, and the next he approached said no, and so on, he’d not been able to cheat so easily. Plus, op needs closure. If this is how she gets it after marrying this pos and having kids with him, LET HER DO IT.
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Bruh! I’m gonna tell you now running up on a woman who is dealing with your husband will get you beat up these days. If your husband isn’t going to stop dealing with her that’s between y’all not her, he entertaining her willingly. If you’re not planning on leaving or he doesn’t stop talking to her then what’s the point of confronting her?
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I wouldn’t tell her him I had proof hit him in the wallet alimony and child support 
she ain’t going to want to be with him when hes broke
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I wouldn’t leave and uproot the kids from their home… He’d be the one leaving!! Put his crap on the porch and change locks
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Don’t confront her if your opinion mattered to her she wouldn’t have gotten herself involved to a man with a family. It will only hurt you in the end, just walk away
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I wouldn’t waste my time confronting her or him. She knew he had a whole family, you are not going to make her stop or guilt her. She obviously doesn’t care. I would try to get concrete evidence before i said anything, will be very beneficial in court. Get your ducks in a row & put him out. It’s time for you to take your peace back.
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Nope. I dont agree with this. You confront him. You leave him. She may be a shady bia, but she doesn’t owe you anything. It’s your husband, if he didn’t pur himself out there you wouldn’t be in this situation
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Hang in there, it does get better. Kick his ass to the curb, once a cheater always a cheater! Find someone who love’s you and your family. God bless you!
Yes no need to confront her. She knows he has a family. Just do what you gotta do to move on. For your own sanity.
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Go see all the best lawyers in your town
Then pick one for yourself
The others won’t be to represent him after seeing you
Protect yourself!
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I don’t think there is any need to confront her because she already knows you exist and obviously doesn’t care. You already KNOW your husband is not doing right by you, there is no need to confront her because even she stops he’ll get someone else to take her place. The issue is with your cheating husband decide what YOU want to do. Two choices 1) Stay and see if you BOTH want to work on your marriage because he has to put the work in too. or 2) Leave a toxic situation. But what will never work is confronting the other woman because you’re not married to her, so focus on what your own moves are going to be because remember your Husband is making the choice to cheat.
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You don’t have to put up with that crap When someone cheats on you they are telling you that they don’t care about the life you’ve built together you your children or anything else
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Don’t lower yourself to her level!!! Yes she knew he was married but she did made any vowed, he did
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what i would do is when kids are in bed - confront him about this so u can get things done like talk to your lawyer ect. about this get help where it is needed for yourself and your kids
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You do what you gotta do, if that’s is to confront them both you do that, dont leave your home with your kids let them 2 shady ass C#$ts run and live a happy life together, she wouldn’t want him for much longer when he has no where to go and he lands on her door step… girl if you feel like it will help you confronting the 2 of them, then you do that, because at the end of the day YOUR VOICE matters! So vent let the bitch know she can have your leftovers. Wish them the best of the luck. You’ll be the better for it in time to come xx
Don’t leave your home. Put him out. The judge will want the kids in their normal environment so make him be the one to leave. This will continue if you chose to give him another chance. A mistake is what you own up too. He didn’t. He lied. He doesn’t respect you or your family. He puts his needs and wants first. You deserve better
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Dont say jack! Get a lawyer first see a couple if them even free! Get your documents in order. Do what you need to do to protect your children. In family court your actions matter big time! Be above reproach! Remember that if you divorce she may become their step mother like it or not! How you conduct yourself now will way on your children’s lives forever! Success is the biggest revenge! Get control of your emotions!
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First you need to get on his phone again and send yourself alllllll the proof. Then get pictures of them together since you know where they are. THEN you confront her. I’d do it in public & loudly, infront of the other moms. Then you go home and throw his stuff out. She’s gonna immediately call him so he’s gonna be freaking out the whole way home. Don’t answer your phone or the door. Next day you go to the lawyer
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Is she your friend? Is she your family? Does she owe you anything? Not too sure why you’d confront her…she obviously doesn’t care about you, you already have your answer. What if she beats your a** for confronting her? Is there any good outcome that could come from confronting her? Leave her be… leave him be too. Get yourself paid from alimony & child support then find someone better.
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I agree with a lot of the other mama’s get all your ducks in a row first. Make sure you get all the proof so he can’t try to wiggle his way out of it with you or the court because the moment he even has an inkling that you are on to him, he will delete everything and start being more careful, you need to catch him now and get everything you need while his guard is down. If you have the money, maybe even hire a private investigator. Get as much proof as you can, get a lawyer, file your petition for divorce, and then confront him with everything, then give him the divorce papers and tell him to get out!!
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Leave him, don’t confront her because she doesn’t care, if she did she would not be with him. Leave him, don’t give him an explanation he knows. Leave and be happy that is best for you and your kids and the best revenge is for him to see you happy without him.
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I’m sorry (your) husband hurt you, have your evidence for court, do not confront the woman tho, she has no obligation to you, yes she sucks, but you don’t know what he’s telling her, so address your husband’ you and your babies will be fine
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I am sorry to say that in a court of law, it doesn’t matter how much proof you have of his infidelity. What matters is what is best for the kids. Conduct yourself with class.
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Screenshot the proof and get a lawyer. File first. Don’t confront.
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I’d advise that you get a lawyer before you do ANYTHING. Do not speak to him. You already have proof that he’s cheating on you. Screenshot EVERYTHING that you can use in court. He will lose everything.
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It will probably be a waste of your time and emotional energy to confront her. She knows what she’s doing, and so does he.
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I would confront her. Let her hear your side. Who knows, maybe he has been lying to her whole time too. Maybe he tells her that you live together for kids and that your separated. Maybe he just wants both and thinks lying to both he can have both? Maybe she doesn’t know the whole truth either…he doesn’t deserve either of you to be honest. Dirty mutts should lie alone until they clean up
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I’d serve him with divorce papers at a location him and her were at together. With texts, pictures, etc. in a folder so they can’t deny it.
Don’t waste your energy, just pull up and ask for a divorce. Set everything down. You could even say to her “I really hope you didn’t know.” She’ll remember it forever. Good luck. 
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It will be ok in time hun. What doesn’t kill you, will only make you stronger. Never settle for less than, when you deserve better. You gonna find someone who truly love and appreciate you and would never do anything to loose u
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Write them both off. Don’t even bother with the other woman. Collect evidence. Lawyer up. Move on. You wasted enough time on him.
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She knows but guess who also knows? Your husband when he married and had a family with you. Two wrongs don’t make a right but confronting her isn’t going to get you anywhere except for cause more problems. Leave him now.
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I wouldn’t give either of them the satisfaction of confronting them.
I would thought take screenshots of everything and keep the proof.
I would get organized and moved when he is at work so he comes home and wonders “what the hell”.
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See a lawyer and sue her for alienating of affection, she knows he’s married and has kids didn’t care and won’t as long as she’s getting what she wants. Hit her in the pocketbook big time. Make her think again before ever doing anything like this to someone else.
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I would not confront either one of them. Get ALL your proof together. Name her in the divorce. And have him served when he is with her in public.
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Confronting people won’t do anything. She knew and did it anyway. You aren’t going to shame her into leaving your husband because she is not worried about him leaving her. She’s not your issue. It’s your husband who treated you all with disrespect. They both knew and did it anyway. You need to plan on moving forward if you are done with your husband. Talk to a lawyer and cut your losses.
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I know you are wanting to confront her to get closure. How is the commu inaction between your soon to be ex and yourself? Just get all the receipts of the I fidelity and try to make plans for yourself. Start saving money that he has no access to. Plan very carefully
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Everyone is atta king the other woman. But honestly. It’s the husband’s fault.
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It won’t matter to the cheating women she’s probably done it before,make him pay child support
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Confront him, not her. He is to blame, he made the choice.
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Don’t get angry, get even. Plot your revenge before blowing all your gaskets in anger . That would be a complete waste of your energy
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Ask him right out if he is. Instinct is usually right
I wouldn’t confront neither of them I would gather all my proof and let him find out when he’s served he’s a liar and will never be honest with u but if you are going to confront anyone You only need to confront him, his vows are with you . As for her she’s trash knowingly messing with a married man. He may have lied to her too claiming you all are separated etc. Cheaters lack integrity and go to great lengths to lead multiple lives. They’re both rubbish. Hugs , you don’t deserve this make copies of all the info you found file your papers. Extend grace to yourself, love on you, heal & move fwd. Seek a lawyer sue her for alienation of your husband’s affection also seek morality clause where she won’t be able to be present while children visit for overnight etc. Hugs. You will get thru this.
Dump the loser and make him pay child support and all you can.
He went to far having her around your children. Holding hands in front of your children. Confusing your children. You will be better off without him. Take your proof to a lawyer, file for divorce, and when you have your chance I would let him know how wrong he is for doing those things around your kids.
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Email yourself screen shots of All texts
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Best wishes as you deal with this mess
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He’s the one to go after. He also knew he was married with kids, and he did it anyway.
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Screenshot everything and send it to yourself so you have concrete proof for court. Set up a personal bank account and drain your joint account. Then get a good lawyer and divorce him. Take him for all the courts will give you and your kids. Use the money to get your own place if the courts award him the home or to pay bills while you adjust if they award you the home. Do not let him take advantage of you like this and hurt your children like this. Also, remember, if he has any retirement savings like 401(k) or the others…you will be entitles to half so be sure to include it in your divorce papers! Kids are resilient and will survive the divorce. It will be hard at first, but they will adjust. Being around a happy mom will help them.
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Please don’t confront her … granted she isn’t innocent but your husband is the one you need to deal with.
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Get all the proof you can and get a lawyer. Don’t say a word to either. They both don’t deserve to know what’s coming their way. Protect those babies of yours and get out now. Good luck mama and I’m sorry you have to go through this crap.
Confronting her would be a waste of time. I would go ahead and get an attorney, gather all your evidence, get your finances in order, the attorney can help direct you with everything you need to do. Then have him served papers and tell him to move out. I know this will be hard on the kids, but it will be better for them in the long run. As tempting as it might be to bad-mouth your soon-to-be-ex in front of the kids, don’t. It’ll hurt your kids even further and make you look bad to the judge. Let your kids see their strong mother handle this like the bada$$ that she is. I speak from experience. Hang tough, and do what needs to be done.
Your kids will adjust. It’s definitely hard and you just feel so guilty for changing their lives so drastically. But sometimes it’s just for the better. Obviously he is not willing to own up to his mistakes and and learn from them. So I would say there probably is no chance of salvaging this because both people have to work hard for that to work. Good luck.
get the proof and get a lawyer start putting money back get enough money and kick him out divorce him and get alimony cause once a cheater always a cheater
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And confronting her is going to do what? If she doesn’t appear to care now, she won’t after. However, on the flip side, he could be playing her, too. You know that common scenario. If he’s cheating and obviously doesn’t care to quit since he’s been confronted, you have two choices—walk away and find happiness with your life, or stay and live in frustration and sadness. We only have control of what we ourselves do, not our partner. And the proof—it only tells you you aren’t insane, which cheaters like to make you think you are after they’ve been caught. Confronting him with it doesn’t matter. He knew you’d find out eventually. It’s your choice to make, good luck.
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Sorry, I know the feeling
I agree 100%! If you stay, what are you teaching your children? It’s O.K. to cheat while your married???
I went through the same stuff with the gut feeling. Let’s just say when my gut says something I listen now
I personally would not confront her, because he is the one that took vows of loyalty to you, not her. I’d collect the evidence (screen shots, photos, whatever) and then set up a separate bank account if you don’t already have one. This really sucks, it’s awful he did this to you. And trusting your gut can be hard sometimes (I know from experience!) so I applaud you for listening to it regardless of the timing.
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Do what will give you the most peace in your life. I wish you the best. Oh, and don’t stress it. Karma will play out. 
It takes two to Tango,one to say no no,he is just as much at fault as she is
Get your kids out of this because their father and mistress will try to turn the children against you.
I must be petty because I would light his clothes on fire in the front yard and I would be knocking on her door.
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First off ~ go to an attorney & get some professional advice about what is going to happen next.
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Sorry 
know the feeling. Things will never go rite for him in life hurting loved ones,
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Drain the bank accounts then get an attorney. Don’t forget to learn passwords
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Why confront her? Confront your husband and based on his response, you either decide to leave or stay. Don’t belittle yourself.
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I did that once on his iPad. Then I took pics. Amazingly when he got back they were deleted b/c his phone synced.
I said BE OUT BY TOMORROW.
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Collect, document, save, and plan… Alllll in silence. Then boom. So sorry this is happening! So sad!
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Take the screenshots. Get the evidence. Get you a nest egg. Keep your cool. Stay stone cold solid. Leave the mistress alone. Secretly seek legal advice. Keep all your cards hidden until you have to play them. Do not go off crazy on anyone. Don’t give them any reason to keep the kids from you.
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Confront her why? She knows he has a wife. Time to move on, sis.
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I would do that, I would get a lawyer , get everything proofs bank accounts act like nothing
And serve him w divorce papers in front of her !
Like here is you cake you can have him. I would plan
Time to get in her butt for breaking up a family not only that it hurts the kids worse
So sorry for you,definitely wouldn’t hang with him!
Confront your husband not the other woman although I understand your frustration that another woman could do that to another woman.
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Document everything, get a good attorney and suprise him with papers.
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Don’t do it. Just PLAN your exit and file for divorce.
No sense in fighting for someone who has already emotionally left the relationship. You deserve happiness and you won’t find it in confronting someone who does not have any control over.