My husband has his own business. Therefore he hires his own employees. He has built a landscaping company up from nothing to something we can live off, plus some. My issue is, I feel like he only hires beautiful women…literally, every single woman that works for him is so pretty, and it makes me insecure. They have outings all the time for work that I am not invited to, and I feel like sometimes he works later than he should because he comes home at 9 pm sometimes and I know he isn’t actually working that late since most of the landscaping that gets done isn’t happening in the dark… One girl, in particular, contacts him all hours of the night, and he tells me, " I have nothing to worry about." But I feel like I do. I feel she should not be texting my husband in the middle of the night, but he always says it’s work-related and that’s it. Am I wrong for feeling some way?
Go with your gut!!! I just lost my husband of 8 years to a female from work his story sounds very similar to yours the girl would even contact me telling me it was nothing
Definitely red flags all over this!!! Start investigating, get his phone if possible… it sounds like you already know something is up. I would start packing up bags or if you want to play the same game, find yourself a side piece as well.
If he can, why can’t you?
Listen to your gut. Something isn’t right here. For any special outings, especially outside of work hours, you should ways be there. I’d start making your presence known and show up randomly at all hours of the day just for a quick hello or for lunch or whatever. Also, call into WAR OF THE ROSESSSSSS. Good luck!
Ok, I would start by asking for his phone. If it’s just work then he should have no problem sharing to put you at ease. As far as the company outings, you’re a big part of the company. I’m sure without your help and support the company wouldn’t be what it is now. You should atleast be invited, whether you can or want to attend should be left up to you. Sometimes it really is just work. I personally worked for a company where my boss left at 2:30 and I didn’t leave until 9. The last week of every month I would have to update him on what shipped, numbers, etc. when I shut down the office for the day. So he was prepared when him and his boss came in at 5 the next morning. I worked for them for years so I knew his wife and children personally. She knew if it was my name/number coming across his phone or he was calling me it was strictly business.
So let’s be honest: if your gut is alarming… well then you either 1) don’t trust him or 2) there’s a good reason not to. Either way it’s a problem with one of you or both.
Miss/Mrs. Susie homewrecker is everywhere. She doesn’t have even be attractive or intelligent. So I wouldn’t worry your mind about what the females actually look like.
Now you need to sit down and have an adult conversation with your husband. You thoughts, feelings, concerns and expectations of him. A female messaging my husband at night would be a huge issue for me. If he wants to be single and live that life, bye 
. If he wants to be married then act like it. He should be able to set boundaries as a boss and husband. If he doesn’t respect you then he will just turn this into a fight. But sis, protect your peace and maintain your head about you. Going crazy and losing your mind in the fight will only label you as “crazy”. He will NEVER listen or care about what you have to say if you act like that. Never escalate yourself in a fight.
If he continues and doesn’t feel the need to act like he’s a husband then you know your answer. Either way, YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN WHATYOU FEEL RIGHT NOW! Maintain your value. 
You have every right to feel this way. My husband had a coworker that would text him on his off days and late at night. When I questioned it he said it was always work related. I told him there are work hours for a reason. It continued. Of course, he was having an affair with her. I knew it from the first 1am text. Professionals don’t take texts unless an emergency at 1am. If you can, check his phone. But, by doing that, trust is already out the window and that’s very hard to repair. I don’t think it ever gets fully repaired. Stay strong. You deserve better.
A few things, if I was in your situation, I would do the following:
1)Confront him about it and explain to him that it’s not professional of himto be taking calls at odd hrs from ANYBODY; 2) Sometimes having attractive girls for business is a good thing because they can bring business using their looks or they are heard more, so it can be good for business, however, he can’t cross that line where he wants an attractive girl for business and starts fraternizing with her too much; 3) acting like a jealous wife will push him to her, he’ll start thinking about how much difficult his life is with you, keep appearances, and a straight head…If you think you can’t, PRETEND!; 4) he may not be having an affair but it seems to me like it might be heading that way! 5) if he goes out with his “co-workers” than you tag along! If he acts defensive or like he doesn’t want you around, you’ll have your answer! Do not threaten to leave him unless you plan on actually doing it!
I hope I was able to help a bit! Best of lucks!
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This would make me feel insecure too:(
he is cheating on you so you should tell him you want a divorce
Always go with your gut
Yea that’s sketchy shit
Go with your gut. Your not wrong
Why aren’t you invited to work events/outings?
What the hell could she be texting your husband that is landscape related In the middle of the night? I would absolutely not be ok with any of this.
Try to learn the business and work for him too 
Go with ur gut momma! Bc I’m sorry but all landscaping questions can be asked next day don’t nobody need to be texting ur hubby at night. And no way would he be working til 9pm. Gurl handle that!
I’d personally set some boundaries… there’s no reason she needs to text him all hours of the night. Maybe have a talk with him and say “listen this makes me feel insecure, it’d make me feel a lot better if she would talk to you at normal hours, like maybe not after 7-8pm” and just see what happens.
Hot women are doing landscaping? That’s odd itself. Dont even see any women at all doing that
And texts in the middle of the night? Where are the boundaries? I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this 
Good God the amount of insecure women is unreal. Attractive women are much better to look at! It’s called self-esteem cuz it starts within!
Definitely listen to your gut ! It’s always right !
Yeah, he is cheating. But sadly, you probably love him more than you do.yourself and you want to see the best in him and make it work. You need to love yourself enough not to allow someone to lie to you and treat you as if you aren’t smart enough to figure it out.
Link your phones together so you get his messages lol. You can even Link it with a pc. If it were me, next message he gets from a woman outside of working hrs, it call her and completely go off on both of them. Then I would fire her. If he got a problem with that them he be fired too.
If you’ve spoken with him about it and Nothing has changed. he’s kinda picking shady behavior over trying to make you feel secure in your relationship. And no employee should really he texting her married boss like that. If you’ve pointed it out… IDK. Go with your gut
Oh wow….red flags all in that!!
Why can’t you go to the work events ?
Are you married to my ex 
as I say ex!!! Did that too me all the time
She doesn’t need to be texting him throughout the night over landscaping…that doesn’t even sound right…hes hiding something…and you should be allowed to these outings your his wife.
Its never nothing. Trust your gut it tells you what you need to know.
Two words… TAKE HALF!!! U might want to open u a savings account and stack your own money because baby ain’t no way in hell it’s just company business
Im sorry your husband doesnt consider your feelings more.he seems pretty selfish and immature. You shouldnt have . to remind him he is a married man and that he shouldnt be still out scoping the pretty women out. Maybe he isnt ready to be married.talk to him.tell him how you feel. If he gets defensive sadly theres your sign.
I would trust your gut I mean not many beautiful women do landscaping I’ve never seen any anyway 
an the text in the middle of the night is weird also.
Watch dirty John season 2
Let him know what’s up. And go to the events if you know when and where they are. And let all the girls know he is off limits and if they are caught there will be a nasty confrontation
I’m so nosey, I wish we got updates on these anonymous questions.
He is definitely up to NO GOOD!! Get prepared because when you set boundaries…he will drop you like a hot potato, been there!!
This is what cheating looks like. Take that from someone who has been the cheater, the cheated, and the other gal in my early days. He is CHEATING.
Hiring attractive people is not a cause for concern…but texting with them all hours is!!
Do some investigative work to get proof, then get a lawyer.
Your husband should WANT you at work events with him! YOU should be the reason he pushes to keep hus business afloat! Call me crazy maybe but I dont care.
Sorry to hear, same with being married to a politician… excuses they have… yeap he’s cheating and the lady has no respect for his family and esp you as a wife. Time to get his balls straighten up or cut… he will always be the way he is… hes a pervert!! I’m glad I’m divorce don’t have to deal with that kind of crap… my ex-husband still doing what he did to me… it’s normal life for him I guess…
He may hire attractive women because it’s good for business. Men like to look 
if you have an issue with an employee messaging your man, talk to him, set boundaries and see what happens. Maybe he is cheating, but maybe he’s not.
I will say this I worked for a landscaping company for years, and there was nights we wouldn’t be done till 9-10 or even 11 at night starting at 5am. It can happen. But I will say go with your gut if you feel something is going on then bring it up. The gentleman I worked for was always flirting and such.
Hell nah! Time to stash money for a egg nest! I’d be starting my own business and having my friends text me at all hours of the night pretending like clients and tell his ass its work related. See how he feels about it. Get a PI. My EX husband use to do this crap and he was meeting other woman going to casinos spending all our bill money. All that screams something is going on behind your back. I’d show up with lunch for him daily in sexy outfits and strut my shit right in front of her and kiss him right there. Mine was sleeping with the ceo of the church. 
I would have no problem with the hiring of pretty women. Respect goes a long ways, and he is being disrespectful. Stop dealing with it!
Gut instinct is usually right!!
Ya something ain’t right.
That exact thing happened to me with my EX husband! ALWAYS trust your gut!
It’s his business so he makes the rules for the events and makes it so you’re not allowed to attend?! That’s messed up. Is his whole crew women? Something feels fishy to me too.
Won’t hurt for you to show up after hours!
Yup plan something for yourself, obviously behavior weird and yea go with your gut, your gut is never wrong, if u feel something is up trust it.
My husband has his own business also and let me just say he knows better to hire any women. Sounds like you need to put your husband and them women in their place.
Start stashing money and talk with a divorce lawyer. Find proof. Screen shots texts between them- prove he’s cheating and you will get half of everything. Screw him. You have every right to feel this way. Every time my partner said I had nothing to worry about sure enough I did! Follow that gut feeling and look out for your self. I’d even call that women and very kindly talk with her (record the conversation and at the end of the conversation make sure you say and by the way this being recorded) or text her but I feel like over the phone would be better. I’m sorry this is happening to you. But don’t let him play you- he will probably try to pull every excuse out his bumb don’t fall for it- let him go and move on I promise you will be much happier after you heal your heart.
Trust your gut. It is always right. ALWAYS!
Turn up out the blue and find out🤷♀️
Always go with your gut instinct
Are you serious? Read what you wrote, and answer it yourself.
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Cheating, I’m sorry I’d beat that hass!!
I’d say he’s cheating 
there’s no reason for some of his behaviors and why as his wife you can’t come to your husband’s business functions
Honestly you don’t have to be nasty about it… So many people are filled with so much hate and damage that they are telling you to go act out of anger. If you feel he is cheating. Sit him down. Talk to him. Go to one of his events or even reach out to that woman. If you think he is cheating then you have your answer. Pick up and move on. Once they cheat, they will always do so. Whether it’s in text form or physically. If you can accept living that way then stay but I would say pack up and move on. He is dealing with his own issues and you don’t deserve to feel that way about yourself.
He is cheating. Your intuition is right
Def not working that late… Me and my husband have our own landscaping business and dont work that late into the night. And why not work with him! Me and my husband work together daily… Its our business! You said it was his business but you are married to him so its yours as well and you should go to all events as you please.
Does he let you read the messages? Take his phone and text her yourself. Nothing business related can’t wait until the morning.
We owned a landscaping company but I was totally involved, worked right along with my husband. Can you do that? Mine was never interested in hiring women, He was too worried about sexual harassment as a business owner. Luckily none ever applied
Show up or look at the texts
He needs to learn how to separate home life and work life. He should leave his work matters at the door!! I would not be okay with a woman texting my husband during any hours of the night. That’s family time!! It would make me insecure too. I’d just have to invite myself to some of those things but if you’re like me, someone has to be with the kids.
Damn lots of insecurity on this thread
Why not you work for him as well ? 
just don’t go asking questions you don’t want to hear the answer too…
Hellll no!. My ex husband owns a very well established landscape now total tree service an no way in hell I would stood for that! No way. If your instincts are telling you there’s sumthing up follow it! Your right!
I would break her fucking face sorry now
Wtf?! Why tf would you NOT be invited?! That’s all kinds of f’ed up!! Divorce!! Take half his 
!!
You should 100 percent be apart of events and such it’s a small company and your his wife the hell I wouldn’t
I work for a landscape company and I got with my husband from working there so I would say no don’t trust it women only have bad intentions walking into a job of all men. Thankfully for me I just water flowers I’m by myself most of the day the way I like it ! Good luck!
Next time ask to see the text
Is your husband really attractive or what’s the carrot he’s dangling in from of these “beautiful women”.
Weather he is cheating or not you’ve got 2 issues to deal with
- his work schedule and his employee messaging at night is not okay if it’s every day.
- your insecurities, weather he’s cheating or not. Work on your self worth and workout or do whatever you need to do to feel “attractive”.
My fiance owns a landscaping company too. I got to work with him sometimes… This whole thing just sounds weird to me
Always trust your intuition. Period.
I’m super laid back and easy going, but I felt this same way w my ex. I’m just not the type to even care, but my gut was telling me otherwise. When I look back my gut was right all along.
Plan well, whatever you decide to do, plan very well.
I’d totally be suspicious too!
He needs to create boundaries with his employees, period. When the work day ends they shouldn’t be contacting him unless it’s an EMERGENCY which really for the type of business there shouldn’t be many. If he can’t do that for the sake of you twos relationship then I’d probably give him an ultimatum.
If life has taught me anything, its always listen to my guy. So listen to your gut. Your gut is telling u something isn’t right mote than likely there is something. I would sit down and talk to him about how u feel. His body language will tell u all u need to know. If he gets super defensive than u already know.
Nope it not wrong for feeling wht u do . So maybe one night seem interested in what hes doing to find out details get a GPS tracker dont feel insecure. Your beautiful . Way I see it is u will find out if hes lying or if hes being honest but at least u will then know if what he is saying is true or not …
My spider senses are tingling 
I’m so uncomfortable for you. This ain’t right
That’s a big no for me
Trust your gut. This is just not normal
If it was my husband’s business I would show up whenever I would want.
He’s a landscaper not a doctor there is absolutely no reason a employee needs to be contacting him all hours of the night that’s ridiculous
I can see it from both sides. However, with that being said. Anytime I had a “gut feeling” it was always right. My intuition has never let me down… so always go with that.
My brother in law takes my sister to his worksite all the time. Just to show her that side of the business and stuff. She goes to outings with him when she has nothing else to do at home. Also he didn’t hire women at all.
Something doesn’t seem right…
Never present a case without evidence.
Not invited to your own company functions? Get dressed and show up, after all, you’re half owner of that business.
Wtf is she texting him for though??!!! Have u seen the messages or does he tell you what it’s about. That’s not professional that’s weird.
Pretty weird that you aren’t invited on the work outings… and seems like he’d gladly show you the all hours texts to put your mind at ease. Trust your gut. He’s failing you by not making you feel like his queen, even if he isn’t being unfaithful.
Trust your gut. No way they are just talking business late at night unless it’s the oldest business in the history of the world. 
Technically it’s 50% your business too. I would remind him of that when he’s not inviting you to these so called “outings” or when his hoochie mamas are calling and texting him at all hours.
Trust your gut!!! Womens intuition or what ever!!!
Mmm… You have every right. Sit him down and lay it all out. Tell him how you feel and how it can change to make you comfortable as well. Start inviting you number 1, no texts n calls after work hrs unless a call out ect. Thats crazy
What is there to possibly talk about regarding landscaping at 10pm? Big NO in my book.
Sounds like you need to take a bigger role in the company that feeds you. All that sounds typical to me. He might be prepping for the next day, etc. Hiring attractive women is how you feel about it but imagine all the crap they bring to the table all day. They’re employees just like the men with problems and issues, not prospective love interests. He’s your husband so trust and communication are a must. I always had questions that needed to be answered about whatever sometimes it was at night. My husband used to get texts from his employees at whatever time. I’ve also seen the same thing happen with my step dad when he was in charge of a team. There was never anything going on, it’s just part of being a boss of people. If you feel it in your gut check it out without a doubt but don’t let your insecurities run rampant when it comes to your relationship and your livelihood.