I found my son looking up inappropriate things on youtube: Advice?

I have a six-year-old son, who I found out is looking up “Naked ladies on YouTube” or “Pictures of naked women.” I don’t want to hear about the whole “children shouldn’t be on the internet” it’s going to be fixed, and I know this already. But I’m a single mom, so how would I go about speaking to him about this? When I have no idea if this is a normal age for that to start or get curious about their parts.

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I think they have a YouTube for children or you could put parental settings on whatever smart device your child is using

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This is a totally normal age to start getting curious. Kids start to become aware their bodies are different than the other gender around age 3-4. It’s also normal for kids to discover masturbation at this age. They are discovering their bodies and are curious. Definitely sit down and speak with them about their growing body. You don’t want to shame this behavior, it’s normal!

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At that age it’s pure curiosity. Talk to him. Let him know it’s not appropriate and set up the parental settings. It doesn’t need to be a big deal.

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My son is 5 and already knows I have different parts than he does. Its something I thought he was mature enough to know. And he doesnt question much anymore. I would sit him down and just explain that girls and boys are different in many ways and we cant judge them for that. It went really easy for me, but I was also a single mom for awhile so my son would cannon ball into my bath water or cosleep so when he asked I answered his questions.

I would just ask why he was looking it up and is there anything he would like to know about women.

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From everything I know and have talked to people about. That is about the age of curiosity. Usually the “show me yours and ill show you mine”

Ummm parental setting on any device for kid’s and wouldn’t have these problems…

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I went through the same thing with my son. It was because he had a friend who had heard things from older siblings and the younger boys got curious about what they were talking about. I sat my son down after taking some time to breathe and think, and I asked him why he was looking at it, if he had any questions about what he was looking at and that he wasn’t in any trouble, but if it happens again we would take his iPad away. His bio dad and I did this with his bio dad on FaceTime so he could be a part of the conversation too. We also put parental blocks on his iPad after that.

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No it’s not ok for him to be doing this, there is a kids you tube that you let him be in and it’s much safer but you still need to closely monitor what he does through it the day.

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I would just lock down what he can look at on the internet I caught my son looking at that someone told him to on the school bus we had a talk I took his stuff away and gave it back to him when I was ready and when I knew that he couldn’t look it up . I haven’t had a problem since. I also started taking him to and from school so he didn’t ride the bus anymore.

“But I’m a single mom”
TF has that got to do with anything? Monitor your kids
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I nannied a little boy about that age, absolute angel, and once found out he had searched “people butts, wagina and penis.” Completley normal curiosity. I just explained to him that I can see everything he looks up, that it was inappropriate and not what the computer is used for … and that there are some very bad things he might accidentally find on there.

My son found pornhub thru advertisements on YouTube when he was 7 even with parental controls :unamused: I told him they were actors in a different kind of movie and not to think its any kind of realistic. I tried not to make a big deal out of it but told him stuff like that was meant for adults. I don’t want him to be embarrassed or ashamed and have weird problems later in life over it. I would restrict time on the internet and make sure he understands what he sees online is NOT reality

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Need to adjust those parental settings. But it probably wouldn’t hurt to start talking about grown up things. Find a guy who he could confide in to talk/ask questions

My daughter undid her parental settings and googles sex🤦🏻‍♀️ She just turned 9! I asked why, she says because all the kids at schoil, 3rd grade, talk about it and she wanted to know what it was. We had A LONG TALK that I hadn’t planned for another 2 years, and she’s lost her electronics. This world has kids growing up too fast. You are not alone!

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Ask him why and answer any questions appropriately. In the end everyone is curious

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My son did this as well. In society today kids in school hear and see things or on TV etc. It spikes their curiosity. I think it is normal. I was a single mom at the time also. I explained to him that his curiosity and feelings were normal but he was too young for these things and it was inappropriate. He understood but a few years later he looked at porn on his ps4. Ugh. The struggle

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Use YouTube for kids. Problem solved.

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I caught my son doing the same thing. All guys look at it at some point when they’re older, so I didnt want to shame him for it. I just told him he isnt even old enough to know which sites will give him viruses on his phone or not, and to stay off of it until he is paying his own bill.

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Most devices have parental controls! Put a password in, restrict content, disable certain apps, set time limits and down time.

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You can imagine what came up when she typed that. I explained that isn’t even normal, not what men and women actually do in the bedroom. I’ve cried my eyes out!

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Iam a single mom too went through something similar had to delete YouTube from her tablet and no more borrowing phones only on tv with an adult around. The pediatrician said when they start going “potty” parents should start explaining all that because they will always get curious. And when they start going to school it’s another whole level of curiosity just Answer his questions and explain about private parts and how different men and woman has it and that he’s not supposed to watch these things isn’t for his age and mamas please be careful with YouTube it might be a distraction but it’s trouble too.

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My son started trying to look up boobies and naked girls at 6. It is normal and i just sat him down and explained that i understand his curiosity and its normal and nothing to be embarassed about but the computer isnt the place to find answers and he could ask me anything. He is now 15 and normal and not damaged by curiosity nor internet :joy::joy: that worked for us

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Maybe get a kids book about anatomy

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Hes curious and needs the talk. Dont shame him for being curious. Give him the talk!

He might be curious. Simple as that. You said you’re a single mom so maybe he wants to know why your body is different from his. Try just sitting down and explaining simple anatomy to him and differences between male and female. Obviously within his understanding of words. He wasn’t looking up sexual things. He was looking up a woman’s body. There is a difference. Just talk to him and make it clear if he has questions he can come to you and that you will do your best to explain to him any answers he seeks.

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If their old enough to look their old enough to learn and be taught before someone else teahes your child their way

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If it is on a personal device of his own, I recommend downloading family link to your phone and his device, you can monitor and set limits and see all the activity he does every day. I have it for my daughter it it works great. Good luck!!!

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You can put it in a kids only you tube

My kid looked up sexy boobs at eight years old I just kinda made it not embarrassing

I have youtube kids download on my sons tablet only kid friendly videos.
Youd just have to sit down w him and explain he may be curious but dont be to harsh cause it may back fire. I’d definitely download kids youtube

My question is why is he looking it up if he didnt get to it from an advertisement maybe you should ask him why he looked it up cause where else would he get the idea from but from an adult or another child who might need help!

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I don’t want to face this!!!

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Mine have no free-range access to devices, and my oldest is turning 17. Period. If they are bored, they read a book or craft.

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My son did the same thing… About the same age… I child locked EVERYTHING on his tablet… no YouTube or web browser now and I have to type in a password each time he wants to download a new app… I wouldn’t be to hard on him because it is normal to be curious at this age… I just let him know the things he is looking up are not appropriate for kids, and that is why his tablet is child locked now… AND asked if he had any questions.

My son did this around the same age. I told him it was against the law and both he and I could get into a lot of trouble with the police if he did that. That was the only thing that worked. I tried from a different angle but telling him we could go to jail was what worked.

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Curiosity, nothing to be mad at. You can let him know that you can provide him with pamphlets or educational videos from the library (that’s what my mom did). My cousins and I would find shows on tv or the internet as kids, and have completely healthy lifestyles.

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There is a youtube for kids where they can look up stuff like that nothing above a g or oh rating

6!? What the fuck was he watching before

Show him what he needs. Use an anatomy book. Hes not doing wrong. Its not innapropriate. Hes curious.

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Of course your child is curious. Talk to him. He isn’t looking for sexual pleasure. He’s looking because he’s curious about the female body.

Nessa Q

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He’s curious about what he sees. Talk calmly to him. It’s the human body.

Please don’t demonize his sexuality. Have an age appropriate talk with him about sexual urges and curiosity. We are mammals and sex and masturbation are normal. You got this, momma.

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I had this talk with my son already , normal

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It’s a simple curiosity. Just ask if he has questions

My son did this hes also 6. We just had a talk with him about how that’s inappropriate and not ok to do. Then he lost YouTube for a few weeks and only had Netflix.

Download kids tube and delete you tube. It’s all kids and no ads or commercials

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6 is when my son first did this. I talked to him about it as best I could and hen I didn’t have any more problems until he was 13🤷‍♀️ good luck

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Are you sure it’s him looking it up? :thinking:

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Censor his access to the internet. Get him kids YouTube. You have a responsibility to monitor what he watches and has access to. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it, but have a honest conversation, normalize his curiosity, but limit his access.

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Im surprised u wasnt told " take him to a therapist !! If ur dad or boyfriend or a guy friend around have them talk to him… It b less embarrassing… My boys did it .

Put blocks on internet so he can’t get to them anymore

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Don’t switch to “kids” YouTube either. I can promise you the filters are NOT what you’d think they’d be. Anyone who thinks giving their kids “kids YouTube” makes it suddenly safe and kids friendly is sorely mistaken. Internet use needs to be monitored and supervised at all times. Otherwise, block the feature completely only allowing certain apps to be accessed. Apps that YOU have explored and KNOW for sure are appropriate. Have a frank conversation with him. He is either just curious or has been exposed to something through a friend or family member.

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Well we’ll . Last time someone in our family member was doing that it was a teen . The cops showed up at the parents door saying if who was so and so ? Yes so tell you baby boy sometimes that’s not right to look at inappropriate stuff because who knows what charges you and who is looking or what ever so I told my kids this story about what happen to that person and they know the consequences.

I don’t think it’s something to be crazy worried about, and I think it would make him feel embarrassed if you pointed it out as you’re his mom. He could be in just a “curiosity phase”. I’d be more worried if he was looking up VERY specific things.

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Talk with him let him know that it’s okay to be curious but it’s not okay to look at naked women. Maybe make an account for him with parental control. No half naked women or anything will pop up if you set it you him being under 18. That’s what I do. We tried kidstube but hackers were hacking in and showing clips of people killing theirself or telling kids how to do it. Step by step! So we deleted that app

If he is looking it up online, it is time to have the talk and equate it to his level of comprehension. Age is irrelevant. Throw in some conversations about consent too. Start now.

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Time to put a password on your computer and only let him on it when you can supervise him

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I’m gonna be ‘that’ mom. Just because i have had a different experience with this. My younger sister and i are 12 years apart. When she was 6 my mom caught her looking up things like that, nudity, sex, porn etc. She was molested and thats why she was looking that stuff up. So always just be sure to know the other signs that may point to that.

A sad as it is, kids today are growing up waaayyyy to fast and it’s become a generalized normal for kids at the ages of 5-10 to know about sex and other practices. Whats even worse is some states actually have sex education classes starting in kindergarten teaching them they can identify as x amount of things.

My hope for you is this is just something normal for him and he learned it from school or TV.

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Hasn’t happened with my own kids but my younger brother had an early curiosity too. My parents had never really hid much from us and were factually honest with us from a really young age. If he’s curious I wouldn’t shame him but give him some facts on anatomy. Sometimes honesty is enough to gross out a young child enough that they’ll steer clear of it for awhile. We were mortified having the talk with our parents so we tried to avoid situations that would earn us another detailed talk lol kids are going to learn about that stuff wether you feel they are too young or not so I feel it’s better they get the info straight from the parents vs kids from school, older kids or other adults.

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Censor his searches and have an open conversation about anything hes curious about. He’s probably just curious

I think that’s the age they become curious but not in a sexual way .

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Yikes it’s a bit young I think but maybe I’m just getting old lol. Tbh I wouldn’t worry about it, hes just curious and with the internet these days kids get curious younger.
I would ask a male relative or mate to speak with him or you could ask if he has any questions about the body. I wouldn’t say to him you found him searching as it might embsress him.

If he’s old enough to look it up, he’s old enough for you to have serious conversations with him about male and female sexuality. You know how much detail your child can handle, but children are much more aware than we believe. Shutting down or curtailing access without having these conversations will only intrigue him more, and these kids are e-smart as hell. No amount of “monitoring” will keep a child from seeing something they really want to see. You can either let the kids he goes to school with control the narrative, or you can.

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Perhaps get him a
magazines play boy or hustler and explain that the internet is magazine’s dangerous tell him the best place to look at them would be in his room

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Definitely do some app checking and parental controls. But as most everyone else suggests, he’s curious, not sexual. A friend of his might have said something about seeing a naked lady or something like that. Just have an open and honest conversation with him and answer his questions, and then explain it’s not the right way to behave.

Anatomy book? Maybe he’s just curious about the differences.

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Have a guy friend have the talk about his body

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My 7 yr old is banned from YouTube. I’ll let him watch it when I feel he’s mature enough for it.

At 6yrs old??? Are you people crazy??? There is no need for a 6 yr old to be sexualized. I’ve raised 3 boys didnt go through this until they were 9 or 10 yrs old. There is no reason kids should learn anything more than what their private parts are properly called or the opposite sex and their private parts and that it’s not ok for anyone to touch their private parts and they arent allowed to touch anyone else’s private parts. Let kids be kids. Play tag, kick ball, ride a bike unplug them from electronics. There is no need for children to have internet for anything other than school assignments or keeping in touch with family. Which should all be supervised anyways.

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Perfect opportunity to begin a child friendly introduction to human bodies.

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Yes this is normal and if you make a huge deal about it,then he will be more interested to find out what the big fuss is about.

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Thats not normal for a 6 year old.

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Download youtube kids

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My nephew googled ‘little girl boobs’ at like 7. I think it’s normal to be curious but the internet is scary.

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6 is first grade — nope to nope :-1: Block those sites

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I mean, it seems like childish curiosity.
Side note: why we gotta have internet? 70’s playboys were ‘classy’ with naked ladies of course. But nothing like the shit we see now.

I don’t know what your relationship is with your son. As in if you all have casual open conversations about everything and anything. At an age appropriate level.

Yet I was a single mom for a large chunk of my sons life.

This very same thing happened, yet he was about 14 at the time. Yet when he was 10 the school he went to had iPads for work. So the kids had iMessage. Needless to say, young ladies were making their profile pictures very inappropriate for 10 years old.

Also my son at like 9/10 wanted a girlfriend because his friends had them.

I shared that to Just to give some content here.

What if this was me, would sit down and just ask him why he is looking these up? Are his friends at school talking about women and their bodies?

What are you looking for ? Assure him that nothing he says will upset you and that your just trying to understand the change in what he is interested in.

Giving him a safe place to speak and share his ideas and feelings is always I feel a good way to start.

Just like having a conversation with anyone… trying to understand their perspective is important on so many levels.

Once he opens up to you , then I would go from there.

Also for me early on I explained to my son at different age levels. What type of relationships are with other people. It can be with a man or woman. Yet none the less one built on friendship , respect and compassion is the best.

Yes when he was older and in his late teens we went further into the whole sex is ok talk to and that as long as it is something both parties want to do and are having fun.

Beside you know resetting the parental controls and all that.
Pro tip never set the code as 1,2,3,4 because I have done that and surprise my son was like … “mom you know we have a special code to put in to watch cool movies on the tv, it’s 1,2,3,4”
I was like nooo you don’t say. :woman_facepalming:t2: he was ten at the time. Haha thanks for that one direct tv

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I’m also a single mom and I take a very pragmatic approach to answers. This book might be good to read together. An informed kid is a smart kid IMO. Who Has What?: All About Girls’ Bodies and Boys’ Bodies (Let’s Talk about You and Me) Who Has What?: All About Girls' Bodies and Boys' Bodies (Let's Talk about You and Me): Robie H. Harris, Nadine Bernard Westcott: 9780763629311: Amazon.com: Books

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I mean he’s gonna find out anyway ! And It could be men he’s looking at ijs

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Be glad he’s not looking up naked men!!!

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You delete the app and block it.
And have a talk with him about it.

Honestly I say you should talk to him about the human body, both men’s and women’s. Let him know the human body is a natural thing but that if he has questions or concerns he needs to come to you not the internet. Also see if anything inappropriate has happened to him, or if maybe a kid at school had prompted this curiosity?

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Well it’s natural talk to him about it! The more you try to take it away the harder hell fight for jt. If you make it normal then it won’t be a big deal

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I had this with my son around that age, he had been around a older child (a friends child at a play center) and he had apparently told my son to look for naked ladies, boobies and pu##y pictures on Google :grimacing::dizzy_face: I only found this out as it’s a shared google account so anything g he looks up comes on my search bar ok my phone I was gobsmacked had no idea how to react he was 6!? But I sat him down and asked him about it and why he did it, I could tell he was mortified by what he had seen, but he has seen myself naked and soed understand the difference between a man and a woman’s body, never thought I’d have to have that convo with a child so young :joy:

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Firstly enable “Safe search” on Google. Then if he has an ipad, you can also enable the safe search on that too. Maybe sit him down and have a talk about anatomy with him. He’s 6 so he maybe just curious. By talking about it frankly, without using any nicknames and without embarrassment etc, you make it easier for him him to approach you in the future if anything does ever come up.

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I raised my teenage sibling & found porn sites on his laptop. I kicked open his bedroom door & threw the laptop & his phone against the wall. But hey that’s just me​:woman_shrugging: to each their own. Now I have 2 sons & their uncle has made them fully aware of the consequences :joy:

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That is young, but now a days the world is so sexualized. Everything is! He probably saw something on TV, or heard someone talking about it in school. Personally I would explain to him that those kinds of things are not for little boys, and that looking it up out of curiosity was understandable but not to do it again or he would be in trouble.

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All children go through that at different ages, if you’re really concerned get him some counseling.

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At 6 years old I don’t believe this is normal. My son’s 11 and just started be coming curious. I’d talk to him and see if anyone has said something to him that brought this curiosity up.

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Download kidstube. Only children’s shows allowed. And you can save yourself that talk for a few more years :joy:

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Talk to him openly I’ve always done that with both mine 8 and 10 since they were little. I have a open door policy they watch YouTube and if I don’t like what they are watching or listening to I tell them and they ask why and I explain and they say ok mommy, and they listen to me. However we have an internet free house except for my phone.

The human body is an incredible biological machine. Its A&P, science, taught in high school whether you like it or not.
As for teaching kids young, I’m glad.
We have too many misinformed or just NOT informed kids about the ins and outs of sex and the human body. PRETEENS are having sex, no condoms or BC, ignorant to how sex works. Then we have 12 and 13 year olds having babies or catching something that cant be cured. All because a bunch of prude parents are too embarrassed to discuss the body’s natural urges and functions and hand their kid a hand full of condoms. I’d feel good knowing my child is informed. No you dont have to go into the nitty gritty detail at 5 or 6, but if they’re curious already, feed their knowledge.

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I think it’s very normal to be curious. My advice is to talk to him age appropriate conversation about it’s natural to be curious but it’s inappropriate to look at these images, but don’t shame him Then set parental blocks.

What was a normal age for us to be curious is now a much younger age. So he is curious now and you will have to be open and honest with him. Let him ask questions and feel its ok. Dont shame him but allow him to be curious but set some limitations to what he is asking. Good luck. There is no rules about raising kids. Cause all kids develop differently

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Time to have a real talk to him he’s curious tell him the truth and explain everything properly! Dont lie and dont hide

Ask him what he’s curious about and explain anatomy to him. It’s perfectly normal for him to be curious. You definitely need some parental controls on his devices though.

There’s nothing shameful or wrong with curiosity. I’d speak gently with him about it and ask if he has any questions about what he was looking at on the internet. Perhaps, as others have suggested, an age-appropriate book about the differences between child vs. adult and women vs. men’s bodies. I’d then tell him that it’s not safe to be searching for these things online at his age. Be honest and make him comfortable with asking you his questions rather than having to look online. My son has a kids kindle instead of an adult tablet for this reason, but he’s totally comfortable asking us questions about things like that and we always just answer him in a age-appropriate honest way :upside_down_face:

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I’m not a super strict parent and I think he’s probably getting close to the age of curiosity so I would have the super lame anatomy talk with him lol but we really don’t set screen time limits but I HAVE banned YouTube in my house. I couldn’t stand it anymore. The weird stuff they’d get into and the absolute fixation and obsession even on parental controls. It has worked wonders for us even though at first it was definitely like taking a vice away from an addict. I don’t regret it. They find some workarounds, like Ryan’s world on Hulu or some little clips that pop up on their amazon free time on their tablets but that doesn’t bother me nearly as much. But more than taking away youtube I’d try to approach the anatomy talk for sure.