Gain your independence and leave
He has no regard for u or your kids or your marriage
Get this poor example of a father to your kids out of their lives
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Why do you assume YOU’D be the one to leave? File for spousal and child support+parenting plan.
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Leave asap. My now ex husband cheated on me the night of our wedding I forgave him. I went through his phone and found pics of this girl he was w before they were new and stamped w a date. He tried to hide them in a file on his phone when I confronted him he tried telling me it was porn. He then started the I feel like I’m suffocating I need space I need me time etc. He cheated at least 5x that I know of with multiple evidence and he tried denying it. He then left me for another girl. I being dumb took him back and we went on a trip to Nevada then when he brought me home he said he had to go drop the bikes off at shop and he sent me a text to tell me he wanted a divorce. He left me for my daughters bio dads ex wife
Counseling & prayers
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Get a job…your own bank account…your own car etc…after you have this baby and get on your feet…and get rid of him…you can do this…
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File for divorce half of it is yours
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Go and see someone to talk to. You need to realise your worth 
… he doesn’t.
Please don’t make this behaviour ok because it’s not.
I left with 4 small children and lived in a tent for over a year because anything was better than compromising myself, my happiness and self worth.
The big picture here ?
Your children are watching.
Be the role model that they need so they can value themselves and make good choices.
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You need to move on girl.
Sounds like you are doing many things on your own already. Start saving up slowly so after your on your feet from the second baby you and the two kids can move out. I think you’ll find just how much happier you’ll be once he’s out of your life. You deserve so much better!!!
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Leave and don’t look back once a cheater always a cheater
Yeah, I had to leave my ex-husband because he was a narcissist and a cheater, just like your husband is. In fact, your situation sounds a lot like mine was.
I had a 3 1/2 yr old and everything was in my name (despite me leaving FT time work when I had our son to be a SAHM) and he made a point of not bothering to pay bills (because the money he earned was HIS money and felt he should be able do whatever he felt like with it - even if that meant blowing all the money on booze and shit and not bothering to pay any bills) and leaving him meant walking away with nearly 10K of debt in my name - created by him - and having to support myself and my kid on my own after not having worked in nearly 4 years.
It sucked pretty bad, especially cuz it took me forever to find a job and while I was on social assistance, they were only giving me $925/mo and the cheapest place I could find to rent for my son & I was $850/mo. Also, due to not having worked for so long, and it being in the middle of a recession (2009) I ended up with some pretty crappy, low paying jobs when I did find work (and was constantly getting laid off from jobs I’d get after only a couple months or so, due to shortage of work), and childcare cost me pretty much every thing I earned. Had to do a lot of bargaining and pleading to find a way to get it to cost only 2/3 of my money. And I just did everything I could to make it work. I went to the food bank every couple weeks, but usually still didn’t get enough food to last us 2 weeks, so I would just not eat some days to make the food last for my kid so he could eat everyday. It’s what parents do: Whatever we have to, to make it work.
It sucked hard and was a pretty shitty time for me. Yet, it was STILL better than how I felt when I was staying with an asshat who treated me like shit and didn’t love or respect me nearly half as much as he kept claiming to, whenever he got caught with his bullshit and wanted to keep his reign over me, so he could have his cake and eat it too.
I also spent years working my damn ass off, got into warehouse work which paid better than most jobs available then; went back to school, got an MOA diploma, got a job in healthcare, started making way better money. Spent 3 years in healthcare then parlayed my education, training & experience into a job with the federal government. Making absolute bank now. I earn twice as much as my common-law husband. I don’t even have a wage - I have a yearly salary. 
Look, moving on and starting over is DEFINITELY hard. It’ll be a fucking struggle. But it actually comes with the potential to remake your entire life into something that works BETTER than what you’ve got going on now. Where is staying with him getting you? Nowhere but depressionville, am I right?
You don’t have to stick with a mistake just because you spent so long making it. Starting over is hard, but staying with someone who makes you feel like the shit they found on the bottom of their shoe for the rest of your life is actually a whole lot harder. Give yourself a break. You deserve way better. You should go out and create the better life you deserve. 
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Look up narcissist… gas lighting… and mental and emotional abuse
Why do women always feel the need to say they are stuck that is not true! After you have that baby girl get you a job save up some money and leave he is not going to change and you’re kids absolutely do not need to grow up thinking that is an ok situation to be in! You got this!!
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Time to get your own bank account and find a family lawyer. You might be able to find one calling your local women’s or family shelter ( they usually have counselors, lawyers, and people who can advise you to make a plan)
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To me the fact that he doesn’t really see his other kids that often would be a major turn off… Is that how he would be to your kids if you divorce? Think about it. A good father does way more than giving money and honestly, $1,000 a month for 2 kids is not really that much. If in doubt tell him to consult a family lawyer and go to court.
Also if your kids need clothes go to a trifth store (it’s really cheap and you can find clothes in really good condition or barely used… I’m not ashamed to buy at thrift stores for me and my family)
Also do you work? If not maybe you need to to help out your husband with expenses.
The law is very clear… First children have priority and having more children in a new marriage doesn’t take away the responsibility with previous children ( because obviously if you decide to have more children is because you evaluated the situation and determined that you can continue supporting the first ones and afford new kids… That is what the judge told to my ex)
Throw the whole man away
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Unbelievable! Focus on having your baby get through your recovery and hopefully you can get a plan with the help of an attorney, friends,
You need to leave his a**
Have him served with a no contact order, pack his shit, change the locks and file for child support AND a divorce
Jade Knight any similarities? Lol
You already know what you need to do.
Get a plan together and quietly execute once you’ve healed from delivery. Don’t let on to what you are doing. Open your own bank acct. Make copies of all financial documents. Make copies of car keys. Tell someone you can TRUST what’s happening. Get a free consultation with a family attorney. Find a therapist. When it’s time…put your plan into action. You deserve so much better.
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Pray, go to a pastor for marriage counseling, get baptized in Jesus name for the remission of your sins, receive the Holy Spirit speaking in tongues as the Spirit gives you utterance. Set your mind on holiness, goodness, seek the Lord in all decisions. Pray without ceasing…He will forgive you and will strengthen you and set you both on a path of righteousness. Don’t let the devil beat you down and have his way in your lives. With God all things are possible…He can mend broke marriages, broken hearts, and lives. Don’t live beneath a God given privileged life. He alone can pull you through anything!
Start a new bank account in your own name and start putting money in there. You will be surprised at how quick you can build that account to enough to move out to a new place.
You can do it. You have to really want to though.
Honey I know it’s easier said than done but I think it’s time to move on. Your kids deserve a better role model than that. Not only that but YOU deserve better than that.
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Start a piggy bank. Start saving. Start planning.
And then leave.
It will never stop. And
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!
He is manipulating you.
Biggest hugs💛
You can do this mama.
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I think it’s time to kick him to the curb.
Kick his sorry privates to the curb! You and your family deserve so much better!
And the courts will have him share his money and half of everything else LEAVE HIM NOW!!!
Call a lawyer, please. You need to get out. I left my ex-husband when I was a week away from giving birth. You may feel like you can’t, but I promise…when you make that first step, you really can.
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to the curb with him
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You are worth better than this. It may seem hard and complicated, but at least moving on now will be better than living with this crap for the rest of your life.
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I’m so sorry to hear this and what a awful situation your in. I will say tho you can do better and there is better out there. There is so many organisations that can help you please speak with your gp as what he is doing to you is abuse. He thinks you have nothing else but I promise you there is. Please keep us up dated. X
Leave him. Make him pay child support for the next 20yrs.
Of this is true, why do you share the same bed and have sex . I don’t think so.
Get out, start over.
Sort out your own bank account, go ask for help with your council for housing, get all your thing’s into place and when you can leave, take the car you need it for your kids, try taking out half of whats in your joint account but gradually
Why did you marry him KNOWING he’s a scumbag? Once a cheat always a cheat
He knew full well what he was doing and he’s blaming you because he’s a dick