This has to be a troll
I see why he was given the total choice of when he wants to be around yâall. First off we didnât need to know anything about his moms relationship with your now husband, it still doesnât make you look better IMO. Let kids be kids if they come to you and complain that itâs giving them nightmares then I would understand but you doing too much
Little kids should not play violence games they canât separate reality versus fantasy however your step son is old enough . Tell him not to be letting them play those games however I donât see anything wrong with horror movies if it makes you feel better have them watch them during the day. With all this said though kids will learn one way or another you canât shield them for life. Boys will play with guns and pretend to shoot just let them know no in school and explain why. Get some nervous guns and play guns.
Why are people so hell bent on raising whimps?
Children will play that way regardless if they have exposure to horror and gore movies/games. Theyâre becoming their own person and like to learn about the what ifs, which you usually see in their play.
Just talk to them about it not being appropriate at school or when around younger children.
My 12yr old has been watching âscaryâ movies since 8 or 9 yrs old. My 8&6yr old get spooked easily so I wonât try with them yet
This boys will be boys nonsense is just bullshit! These boys are young impressionable little people. I would be livid if this happened to my 6 and 7 year old. The world is messed up enough so wanting them to stay innocent and not exposed to such violence is your job as mom. Do what you need to do to keep your kids safe. If the 17 year old is refusing to come over then so be it. He is old enough to know that he was wrong. You protect your young kids.
Iâm going to take wild guess, are you Bible thumper? Cause it sounds like you are religious person.
Bruh⌠mines almost 8 and plays battle royal with me. Itâs literally not that deep. I mean she donât go around telling people she loves to kill people in games thatâs a little weird. But too each their own. I wonât be putting my child in counseling over a game period. But what ever floats your controlling heart. ďżź
Youâve entered them into counseling for this?!? đŽâđ¨. You canât just have a calm conversation with your kids? Might want to sign yourself up tooâŚ.
So you are mad because your BOYS have active imaginations, and know that the movies and games are fake? Oh the horror!!! You would hate me as a mother⌠My 9 year old Loves everything spooky/creepy/Gorey/horror related. She knows itâs all fake but loves it anyway.
Let kids be kids never we all played games like that at that age they will be fine.
I grew up watching horror movies, those are the best movies! And theyâre video gamesâŚâŚ VIDEO GAMES! Itâs them connecting with their older brother and having fun. The only one who needs counseling is you and learn how to drop being so over controlling. Also good job on potentially destroying your husbands relationship with his eldest son, hope youâre proud of yourself.
as someone who has teens and a 9yr old! I donât bubble wrap them j allow them to watch horror movies play violent games because they are taught whatâs real and whatâs fake!! I also grew up playing mortal kombat I havenât killed anyone and I use to love playing with toy guns
Whatâs really the issue because I donât see what the ex wifeâs infidelity has to do with anything? Hope weâre not playing good mom bad mom game here.
Your over reacting.
Boys are so different to girls.
Your boys as much as you hate to admit are boys⌠and you my have been trying to keep them in a bubble and their outlet has been their older brother.
Your scared Your going to raise a terrorist??? Let me tell you sonething⌠you either allow your kids to be kids at their maturity level or when they get a chance they will still do they things they they wanted to do without your consent. This comes from me a only child whose mother overprotected me and Iâm 48v years old now and I no relationship with her at all.
I got one have 3c kids and they are great kids, hard working and I have given them the ability to make their own choices sometimes with my direction.
That God we have a great relationship.
You can only manipulate your kids doings, thoughts, and curiosity for so long. But good luck.
How is he waking them up? Do they all share a room and they hear it qnd wake up? It sounds kinda weird that heâd actually wake them up purposely to do thatâŚ
I think you should seek counseling. These are all normal childhood things. Maybe some parenting classes too. Sounds like you are the one with the issues,not EVERYONE around you. Why does it matter how your husband and his ex split upâ:rofl: happens all the time. People make mistakes. Move on. Get help for yourself before you destroy everyone around you.
how did u not notice them watching these thinfs if it haopened so often
Grow up theyâre just kids,and all family.jmo.I also think youâre the one that should seek counseling,boys will be boys,again jmo.
yes and think u r over reacting
As a mother who watches horror movies and plays video games as a career, I guarantee those things will not affect your child.
They are bonding with their brother and as said in multiple comments, boys will be boys.
Video games are normal for children, especially younger males, you shouldnât control what your child likes or wants to watch so strictly. Instead teach them that those things arenât real and itâs okay to enjoy them!
My oldest is 8 and started playing Apex Legends with me when he was just 5, heâs simply amazing at the game and one of his favorite shows is the walking dead and heâs a straight A student who gets rewards in class!
Omg I just realized I may be a bad parent , I mean I be playing call of duty and pubg and evil within with my kids. Must I say my kids love it especially my 7yo
All because they play violent video games does not mean they will grow up to be violent I play violent video games watch horror movie of blood and gore but yet Iâm not violent neither is my ex-husband who plays nothing but violent video games and watch a horror movie quit blaming video games for bad parenting
Man I watched the ring when I was 6 years old, and guess what⌠Iâm a functional somewhat normal â healthy adult with no night mares lol. I also grew up playing GTA, Call of duty zombies etc âŚ. Do what you want with your kids but I think getting them into counseling is a bit much.
Thatâs how boys are seriously. Get over it. FYI hope you know whatâs going on in the world right now you canât shelter your kids forever sorry. And you badtalking your husbands ex wife might be the problem why his son doesnât want to really be around also cause if youâre willing to badtalk her on the internet who knows how you talk about her in person. Get over yourself honestly
Boys do that, I hate to break it to u. Boys are Boys and be glad the older boy isnât showing them porn
Youâre overreacting. And Iâm not sure what her infidelity has to do with this post at all but you had to throw that out there
Girl⌠Relax. Your poor stepson canât even enjoy his time with his brothers smh. And counseling for what?? It sounds like you need the counseling here⌠and what does his exes fidelity have to do with ANYTHING⌠you sound bitter. Im pretty sure your step son isnât waking up your kids to play games, Iâm sure they are very intrigued and want to play with him just like boys do⌠smh.
It isnât good for anyone to watch gore or to play violent video games. There has been plenty of studies, ppl. Get real. It does traumatize ppl and changes their logical mind. I donât let my kids mess with the shit either. Itâs band in other countries. This is y they say Americans r hostile and depressed.
Really need to calm down. My son is 14 and at 7 wanted to be a bank robber when he grew up.
He has been playing 17+ games because of his âhalf brothersâ. Again, he is 14 and not one single pet has been tortured or mutilated.
It is a part of todayâs society with a plethora of ways to access things that we couldnât at their age. I can understand your anguish, but donât isolate your stepson because of it. This is their world today. We canât prevent them seeing things all of the time no matter the restrictions. Just let them know that it isnât real. It is a game. Act it out, but also tell them what can happen in real life.
In my opinion, you are overreacting.
My boy is 7 he plays shooting games with us he knows its just a game, I was playing street fighting, grand theft auto and other stuff on consoles when younger, kids can buy toy guns and stuff its about teaching them whats real and what is just a game, same as kids play fighting you teach them its just playing. You cant shield them from it, I feel its better to teach kids when they are younger instead of not exposing them too it at all but everyone parents differently, my boy is one of the mist kindest and loving boys
i think you need to get over it, to be blunt lol.
my mom let me watch the halloween movies when i was like 6 or 7 (with her of course), now i have a love for horror movies. video games & horror movies arenât bad things lmao
How did you NOT know he was bringing a computer over and playing games at night? How about be a parent and pay attention to your children. Just because heâs 17 doesnât mean he doesnât need parental supervision. Sounds like he needs a lot!
The reason for the divorce is irrelevant
Kids will be just fine, the more you shelter at a young age the more theyâll do these things as they get older. The biggest problem is that now theyâve lost the presence of their brother and will no longer be able to bond.
Lock it up! Bed time for everyone, it gets shut down!
I grew up playing GTA. Your kids are gonna be just fineâŚlol
My cousin would do this with me lol
So much wrong with this post. Counseling because they watched movies and video games that are violent? No⌠your precious babies are bad asses and you are blaming the 17 year old son who delt with your kid invading his evenings because obviously you were not even aware they were up and out of bed.
I mean really theyâre going to get into it eventually. I was raised super strict and still by the age of 9 and 10 was sneaking scary stuff at friends houses. I have a 6 year old who loves horror and scary stuff, he has since he was 4. If he ever gets scared we talk about whatâs real and whatâs fake in movies or games. Thatâs usually good enough to calm him down. Heâs not watching actual murder and stuff but if you have a YouTube kid you probably know about scps and such lol.
I donât think heâs waking them up to play video games, no teen will do that⌠that is their time and their time only⌠itâs probably during the day when you arenât paying any attention
WellâŚ. I guess I need to put my 9 month old, 5 year old, 6 year old, 10 year old, and 15 year old in counseling.
Darn those horror movies and graphic video games.
Is he going in their room at night and purposefully waking them? Or are they hearing him get up and play and they wake up and want to join in? If itâs the latter, then youâre definitely overreacting. But if heâs actively waking up and choosing to go into the room and wake them up just so they can play something theyâre not supposed to play, then I think youâre not over reacting and need to find out the reason why. Is it an act of defiance because he knows you donât want them to play it? Is he just trying to bond with his younger siblings and this is his way? It might be very innocent, or it might be vindictive in someway. ďżź
So your lack of supervision is your stepchildâs fault
Maâam. Youâre literally ridiculous. And if this is all you have to worry about count your blessings.
Far out life with you sounds so much harder than it has to beâŚ
As a mom of 6 kids. 5 girls and a son⌠I think youâre overreacting. I play violent video games(call of duty, fortnite, left for deadâŚ) with my kids and watch horror movies ( without nudity ) with them also. I grew up watching worse and I grew up just fine.
While Iâd be concerned about them potentially copying violence or having nightmares if they havenât shown any signs of being bothered by it Iâd just say you donât want it to happen again and draw a line under it.
I think you need one on one counseling. I sense a tone in regards to your step son. Just the plain simple fact that you happen to mention how half brother came to beâŚyou got issues
I have to say is this the most cringeworthy post Iâve seen on hereâŚ. Ur stepson is developing a fun and harmless relationship with his little brothers and you had to find something wrong with it? (By your choice in bringing the exâs story in I can tell you resent your husband and clearly this child for being a family prior to you)Iâm sure the only reason an assembly was held was due to the fit you threw, and the Karenâs that followed suit, thereâs always a handful of you Debbie downers in every school. Get over yourself and let the boys have their bond.
I donât know why so many people are coming for you. If you donât want your kids to watch horror movies/play those games then yeah thatâs completely fine and your feelings about it are valid. To me, that type of stuff is inappropriate for those ages. And for the older kid to interrupt the kidâs sleep schedule for that crap, yeah Iâd be pissed too. Iâm sure theyâll be fine though. Just explain thatâs its fantasy and not real and all that jazz
Sounds like you need to supervise all the children better.
My 5 year old doesnât watch anything violent⌠he still âmurdered a bad guy and his brains went everywhereâ today. yet heâll come in the next breath and thank me for being the greatest mom ever, because I remembered to cut his pb&j into triangles.
Its just how some boys play I think. đ¤ˇ
UhmâŚthis canât be real. Donât blame your step son. Kids will be kids and I promise you in a few years YOUR kids will be doing this without their brothers help with their friends.
I think theyâre too young for such graphic stuff. My kids didnât even get to watch rated R movies till they were pre teens. We just live in a time where kids have a hard time separating reality from social media, movies and games. So many ppl think this is ok & I honestly feel like thats why we live in a world full of desensitized nut balls!
Yeah they are too young to be watching that kind of stuff. If ur step son can not respect ur rules in ur house then he doesnât need to be coming over at all
I think she has a feeling of dislike toward the step son because honestly itâs really not deep to basically punish your children for being expose to something that does not hurt them and allowing them to be imaginative? Especially putting them in counseling for something they are going to get expose to eventually. I wouldnât be surprise if the therapist starts seeing you. And what do you plan on doing when they hit highschool? Put them on medication to stop the normal interactions with other kids some of which you wonât like? Please, couldnât be me doing some conventional thinking BS like this to my children.
Oh man . They are boys . Itâs going to happen . Instead of trying to act like they wonât ever play those games - teach them !. Itâs up to you to TEACH THEM . They are going to get ahold of it whether you like it or not . Yâall are soooooo weird .
My brother started. Playing gta games. And boxing games at 7.
My sister would let me watch shows in her room when I was grounded from tv or whatever. Boys will enjoy violent games, killing and pretending to shoot is normal, as long as they know the difference in real life, which isnât hard to teach them. You should probably tell your stepson to knock it off or supervise your kids better.
Iâve let my sons play video games most of their life . They also played cowboy and Indians and it never hurt mine or they have never went out and killed anyone .but kids react differently from other kids .I think youâre over reacting but itâs comes down to you and what you want them to play.your choice
It seems strange that the kids went that long with out doing it, for that long, but since the Secert is out they start acting up??? You can try busting their butt, but they were going to find out about all that stuff anyways, Iâm sure they all ready know cuss words, maybe even a little bit about the birds and the . Kids find out a lot of things from other kids from school. Itâs just the way it is now.
Why donât you just speak to your step son and explain you donât feel these things are age appropriate for his little brothers like most adults would do. I think putting your kids in to counselling over it is a bit extreme, sheesh!
Put a lock on where the TV plugs in , unplug , lock before bedtime. I had to do this when my sons were younger kids to keep them off XBOX at night. Or completely take away all electronic games or things they have, your now really grounded , read a book. From the sound of it you should also keep them separated and hopefully your husband is aware of all of it and backs your decisions . Best wishes !
Youâre putting them in counseling for video games? Honestly youâre overreacting, try to redirect them to less violent video games and it might help distract them, but punishing them wonât help
When my boys were younger. They would make guns out of legos they will learn things at school also. I would instead teach them, show them when itâd appropriate and not appropriate. Remind them itâs a game.
Idk. Iâm going to be honest. I had a baby when I was 17. A kid in my class was in jail and atleast six classmates actively partook in coke and adderall habits. I bet our moms wished video games were their largest issues.
Everyone of these stores are ridiculous. Bye
Oh my hell arenât there more important things to be griping about. You are over reaction.
And the whole half brother thing is annoying as hell. He is their brother.
You sound like a horrible stepmother omg
The better thing to do is teach your children the difference between fantasy and reality. And between good things and evil things. Developing your childâs own sense of moral right and wrong is often over looked these days. You wonât always be there to censor their intakes.
Counseling because of video games? Do they not play with toy guns? My sons 5 and knows about all of those things⌠guess Iâm a bad mom lol
I was 5 years old watching scary movies. If they like it and know itâs fake who cares
Problem to say the least. Good luck
Counselling after video game ? ⌠I use love kick us of my siblings in Mortal Combat
What do the circumstances of the breakup of your current husband and the stepsonâs mother have to do with any of this???
There is a lot of yall coming at her about the step son and missing the point!!! He is old enough to know right from wrong and introducing her very young boys to inappropriate violence. I would be pissed too. He is being sneaky about it as well so it tells me that the 17 yr old knows better.
This is⌠this is real?
My sons favorite movie at 3 was childs play. He loves horror movies. And kids rough house. Its being a kid. As long as they know the difference between movies and rl their movie viewing and playing isnt a big deal.
Seeing a shrink for violent video games are you okđ
I know people are going to come for my throat but violent games and movies donât always lead to the kid being violent and evil âŚ. The more you make a big deal of it the more your going to make them want to be that imo of course .
Really I feel like all little boys are into guns and killing. Zombies??? Killing bad guys ISNT A BAD THING. Maybe one will want to be in the army to protect the people he loves. Really donât see an issue. Putting then in therapy just sounds so dumb. Talk to them. Tell them itâs okay to pretend but nothing in real life. Get over it there BOYS
Wait listed for counseling??? Seriously?
Change your wifi password so that the stepson canât play the game while visiting your home?
Youâre actually ridiculous. You sound like an evil step mother thatâs all.
Evil step mom alert smh when your husbands relationship with his son is trashed and he cuts his dad out blame yourself, there are so many more things to be concerned about smh
All the neighborhood kids would play cops and robbers when I was a kid, with toy guns, itâs just kids being kids in my opinionâŚ.Iâm an adult now and have never committed a robbery or shot someone I think counseling is a lil extreme, I would be happy they are forming a bond with their older bro. My older brothers and I would wait til mom went to bed when we were kids and sneak downstairs to watch Married With Children sibling bonds are a good thing. If they were having nightmares from it I could understand, but I loved horror movies when I was a kid and still do, nightmares and all.
First issue- HE IS THEIR BROTHER⌠why put a label?? You chose to marry that childâs father and therefore he should be treated the same âŚ
Secondly- Youâre overreacting⌠counseling over this is unnecessary and could do more harm then good but you do youâŚ
I canât imagine how living in your household is for these children if this is how you act âŚ. I dunno ⌠but I feel thereâs definitely better solutions and a long talk with ALL of the children and the father would be my first step.
Good luck
My boys all play video games, they age from 28, 22, 21, 14, and 7 they all play together and solo and I donât limit the age thing unless thereâs nudity and thatâs only for the runt, they are amazing kids and grown men that donât have a violent bone in their body, not one of them think pew pew on the tv translate to bam bam in real life, video games donât make people violent, violent people create violent people
I foresee these kids rebeling in the worst way in the future⌠counseling ffs
Sonny Lee Gill we must be the worst lol COD at 7 & 9 !!
Ummm your kids dont need counselingâŚand your step son is old enough to play whatever he wants too
My 6 year old plays gta and probably trys COD zombies at her dads and watched horror movies with her grandparents since she was born and she doesnât need counseling
2 boys talking about blood and guts? Thatâs pretty normal.
I highly found a 17 year old is going and waking 2 kids up to play his games. They are likely playing the games before bed and your not paying attention.
Youâve been with your husband for Atleast 8 years and still make it a point in making sure everyone knows that the 17 year old isnât your and is only a âhalf siblingâ. (Which is gross in my opinion) And the mention on his mothers action that âendedâ his parents marriage is/was unnecessary. Youâre puting all the blame on the ex wife and the older kid rather then owning up to the fact that you werenât paying much attention to your kids to know what they have been doing for the last 6 months.
My 5 and 7 year old girls have been into horror and gore for a couple of years now itâs never influenced the way they act or talk so I havenât not let them. Why do some act as if kids canât like these kinds of things too?
Itâs an easy fix! Have a family meeting with all involved. Step son is old enough to play the game, little brothers are not! End of discussion
I think just sit and talk to them⌠and lett them discuss boundries
Well I wouldnât wanna come back either⌠look at how dramatic you sound. poor kid.
So whatâs the problem ?counseling-seriously
Maybe you should get some
Sooo I shouldnât be letting my 5 yr old play games with killing etc?
Hes not a step brother hes their half brother he and they have same father. Like someone has said.
Hes their big brother. And the 10/11 year age gap at this age is so hard on the older brother. And because he was allowed to play he really didnt think or see the reasons not to share and tried to be the cool brother making connections.
Blood guts and gore is typical boys.
But you as mum need explain that theres a time and place to play this sort game. And explain that not all mums including yourself are happy and comfortable them playing all the time with killing and all that. Teach them that they can do it at home away from school.
They are using their imagination. They are exploring and doing something they would do anyways very soon. And making your oldest boy in the family feel wrong and bad isnt fair on him either. Yes it wasnt right but he didnt mean it to harm anyone. Invite him out for a family meal somewhere they can play like lazer tag. And explain that you werent happy and perhaps they need time to bond and play.
No harm no blood no deaths. Healthy chaze and tag.
Remember he lost out too when his dad had your sons. And now they are older he wants be a part of their world and trys to include them in his. Via games on pc.
Dont push him away.
Teach them the difference between games and real life. Getting shot on a game and die to return after regen is diff in real life. That in games its ok to do this. But in real life its wrong and why it is.
Make it right so the boys dont lose that bond.
As a step mum its not easy. But dont make it any harder. Your children might come to hate you due to fact their brothers not about
Look those are your kids so if you donât want them exposed to adult content you donât have to let them. I donât allow my son to be exposed to adult content either,he is 5âŚI want him to be a kid as long as he can. And I donât care who has an issue with that.
Counseling for what? Why are you taking away services from kids who actually need it.
And why did you even mention anything sexual? Why are the two things connected??