Don’t turn it off she can still use it with WiFi. Just take it. It’s yours. Be the adult and show her that she is the child and that she needs to listen whether she’s yours or not. What happened to respecting your elders. honestly that child sounds like a handful and I’m sorry you have to put up with that situation.
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And why was it not shut off after the first warning and no action? All actions have consequences. Glad you care enough to teach her that now.
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I don’t know how this pic got on here.
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Take that damn phone.
To save some peace… You can call your carrier and tell them she lost the phone & all you want to do is have them shut service off that number for time being. You’ll call back if found before terminate date. Once she goes to use the phone she’ll soon realize there’s a price to pay. I did this and it worked (a little screaming on her half) but I got my point across. Good luck!
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You cant give a gift with conditions etc…glad you’re not my aunt 
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Shut it off! I know your not her mom but when I got my first phone my parents would of done the same to me if I didn’t hold up my end of the deal. Who cares what other people think or if her mom does get her another one. Stand your ground you made a deal you gave her plenty of chances and she didn’t follow through. Hopefully it teaches her life isn’t free and is full of consequences.
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Let her mom buy her one and foot the bill 🤷 they can be mad if they want to. You asked her to do ONE thing ONE time a week. It’s simple. It’s life.
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Take it from her, turn it off do what ‘YOU’ think is best! You was being nice enough to give her a phone with the agreement of doing a very small chore. If her mother or the other adults get mad tell them they can buy her another phone and pay for it.
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Priveledges should be earned.My girls.lose their priveledges for bad behavior then have to earn it back.You have to be consistant too.I think it was harder on me than them but after a few times when they realized I meant business they think twice before acting.out or refusing to do their part.Sounds like the other adults need a bit.of discipline themselves.Stand your ground
A deal is a deal
Good luck to you
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Shut it off. You made a deal with her. If she won’t hold up her end then she has to learn that there are consequences .
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Take the phone.She doesn’t appreciate it.
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Take it immediately fo sho, should have been taken the first time she didn’t follow through
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I’d take it away, and I would give to to the 10 year old haha. And if the adults pitch a fit then they can do what she says and buy her one themselves. Sorry not sorry it’s your phone and even if it was free the service isn’t and if you have conditions to keep it on she should follow them.
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I just wonder who’s dog it is.yours or theirs.
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Just take the phone away for a little bit and tell her why and tell her if she wants it back she has to do what she’s supposed to. If she complains or says stuff like her mom will just get her a new one again then just ignore her till she’s coming to you asking for it and u tell her what needs to be done now and every week after that. When she does it give it back. If it continues her not doing her job then take it away permanently. My 13 year old gets his phone taken away when I see fit and trust me he changes his actions.
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Move out, no one is making you live in your in laws house.
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Unfortunately it’s the parents jobs to parent their kids. If they don’t want to do it, that’s on them. I’m of the belief that aunts and uncles should stay out of parenting their nieces and nephews. If you wanted to give the kid a phone, and the parents agree, it should be a gift, but not contingent on your conditions because you are not her parent. Take the phone back if that’s what you chose and let her parents parent her- if they don’t want to raise their kids, that’s their problem. Not yours.
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I’d take the phone back.
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Pull the phone and turn it off.
I would never make a child clean up dog shit
1.Not your house
2.Not your child
3.Move into a hotel until the house is finished
Granted what you did was nice but you already KNOW the type of family you’re willingly marrying into. 🤷🤷
Don’t worry it’ll be more b.s.
Good luck girl
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Take the phone back forsure, anything else im not sure. Good luck.
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take that mf phone id snatch that shit so quick everyone’s head would turn an i’d sell it or take it back to the store that’s not how you treat people after they’ve done something nice for you an kids need to learn it or learn to be disciplined more bc these soft ass parents aren’t teaching their kids anything except that they can get away with being ugly to people plus YOU got it YOU can do with it what YOU want an fuck anyone who wants to feel some type of way about it that’s jus my opinion🤷🏼♀️
Stick to your guns. Let them be mad. Someone has to stand their ground with those kids. Turn the phone off. Or install family link. It is amazing you can enable or disable the phone, apps and can set time limits. You can literally control the phone remotely and there is nothing she or anyone else can do about it. I use it on my 12 year gold’s phone. If he doesn’t do his chores or homework I lock all his apps. Until he does what he is supposed to.
take the phone, it isnt “free” you still pay for the cost of the phone in ur monthly bill…she’s 11 she doesnt need one, n if her mom will buy her one then why did you have to get her one haha.
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Take it 🤷🤷
Its yours, your decision. & you’re right, that teaches her that things are handed freely, regardless & that there’s no consequences. Let her mom buy her one 🤷
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I have a 13 yr granddaughter and I don’t know where she got the money to buy a phone or does her parents they can not control her and so I went over there to make her clean her room she was yelling at the top of her lungs braking things and throwing things and telling me to get out of her room and so don’t have to listen to anybody cause she not a child she been kicked out of school many times I called the cops on her told them to remove her from the house wouldn’t do it its like this every day she hurt kids at school cops have been called by the school nothing done any suggestions
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Cut it off disrespectful brat
It’s the parents job to parent. It’s not your responsibility or purpose. Take the phone and let them deal with their children
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Take the phone back. That was the agreement. If you dont, you are just like everyone else in that house not disciplining the kids. Take the phone and let her parents deal with her.
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Say something anyways.
While I agree with your approach on this, you cannot enforce something that her own mother is not also going to enforce. She’s not wrong, if you take it then her mom might buy her another one That’s between the two of them. All you can do is shut the phone off and whatever happens, happens.
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Take the phone back. It isn’t free because you still pay for it each month. You all had an agreement and she isn’t holding to it. Let them be mad. You tried doing a nice thing for her and she doesn’t sound like she appreciates it.
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Take the phone! What an entitled brat! And her mother is endorsing her behavior. That’s a lot of people in 1 household! Take the phone and don’t argue or say another word on the matter.
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I had the same problem. I took the phone away and told my nephew he could have it back if he did his chores. It worked. If he doesn’t do his chores he knows I’m taking the phone again. He doesn’t listen to anybody except me…
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Shut that phone off. Hang in there awhile longer. Move out. Only see the in laws for short visits in future.
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Take it. Stand by your word
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Shut that shit off. You’re right.
Take that phone away who cares who’s upset she’s gotta learn responsibly
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I would take the phone back. You should have already taken it back to be honest. If you don’t stick to the agreement yourself then why should she? Let them be mad. If they wany the un grateful brat to have a phone then they can go get her one.
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Doesnt matter if it pisses them all off. You had an agreement that both mother and child agreed to. Turn the phone off.
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Take the phone away or shut it off. She didnt do what she was supposed to do and if other adults get mad then let them. Kids need to learn responsibility and that they can’t get everything they want without working for it.
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The first time she didn’t listen the phone would had been mine. You need to hurry up and get in your own place
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Shut the phone off y’all had an agreement that she broke
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Oh I would take the phone back and cut it off, let her parents buy her one and pay the bill if they want. As for the dog poop who’s dog is it?. Cause I don’t care my kids wouldn’t be picking up some on else dog poop… As for the other kids if they pushed my kid or did something to my kid, Dame right I would get after them if the other adults are just letting it happen, don’t like how I displine then better start doing it your self I would tell my in laws.
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I would take it back. Tell her she can have it when she holds up her end of the deal and everyone else that too!
Take the phone. It was given as a reward/pre payment for continued behavior. She isn’t doing what she agreed to. Life has consequences and she needs to face them. If mom buys her a phone, then she can pay for it
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It sound like she need a good old fashion hickey ass whooping
Turn it off. Who cares who gets mad. That’s still your phone and if she can’t do one task then there should be consequences. Let her mom pay for her phone.Your house,your phone your rules.
I’d take the phone!! Period.
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Why wait… TAKE THE PHONE NOW. She made a agreement- broke it- end of story… I wouldn’t care who got mad a deal is a deal… Now as far as the older kuds abusing your very young children. That would STOP to- your their Parents for a Reason- take up for your children and Use your Voice to let the older one’s know that its NOT acceptable … Tske what ever messures you need to & have your husband SPEAK UP as well… and another thing Be Glad your Moving away because it sounds like that is the best !!! But Don’t ever let ANYONE make you or force you to feel like your kids , or you don’t matter or that your feelings or opinions don’t matter. STAND UP !!!
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She isn’t doing her part, the deal is off!
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Take it from her, it’s not free. You pay for it every month. If it was the type of plan that you pay by the gig, you would be paying that. As is with most plans they say unlimited, but in reality you usually get a certain amount of free gigs then your phone runs slower. Its adults job to teach kids responsibility and if they don’t do as they are supposed to they shouldn’t get privileges. If someone else wants to buy them a phone, let that bill for that be their problem.
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I remove my son’s iPad when he doesn’t do his jobs or his behavior is out of control he is 10 and understands quite well what is expected of him.
Why is this even a question? Just take the phone away…
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You let this go on for a few months. You have already instilled in the child there would be no discipline if she didn’t do as she agreed to. The 2nd week she didn’t do it you should have taken the phone then. Taking the phone away anger several months will not do any good
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The Mom agreed to the task, which is not being done. Take the phone let Mom buy a new one then. Cutting the service off is a start. Make sure to remind Mom of the deal. Who’s dog? IF staying there is saving money use the funds for an apartment or motel with a kitchen. In location where the house is.How long before house is ready? Combining 2 families only works for a short time. You have little ones. Protect your little ones.
You stand your ground you kept your promise she did not plane and simple
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Shut the phone off and let her patents buy her one.
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Absolutely take it away, no question.
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Who said you can’t say anything? That’s why she said what she did. She knows the common attitude in the house and is taking advantage. I have literally disciplined someone else’s child with a look and mumbled words.
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Take it-children learn by consequences.
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Take the dam phone away from her
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Sounds like your tired of living with so many people in the house . You started out about the phone . Shut it off . Simple . Also then you can clean up your own dog poop
If your so tired of all living in il’s house , rent your own place . Then you can live by your own rules . Mil &fil are probably tired of all the noise & what it’s costing them to support their grown kids & their families any way . Good luck
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Take the phone . Life has consequences and at this point she needs to learn
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Take the phone because it’s your property but dont parent or discipline her shes not your kid and it’s not your job
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She failed to hold up her end of bargain, take it away!
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Turn that damn phone off and take it from her so she cant even use it to play games on wifi. The phone is on your plan, therefore, it’s your phone. Tell her when she starts keeping up her end of the deal she can have it back. Fuck what everyone else thinks about it. Her mom can buy her another but I’ll bet she gets tired of paying for it.
11 year olds don’t really need a phone. Especially little smart mouthed ones that don’t stick to what they agreed to do. Tell your MIL it doesn’t matter if it is free or not. A deal was made and she didn’t stick to it. I would take the phone back and find a dang kid in the neighborhood that is willing to do the work and give it to them right in front of all of them.lol
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Dont just shut the service off but take the actual phone because all the mum has to do is buy a new sim card n she can use it again. I let nanny n poppy and uncle discipline my children if its needed but thats just me. Maybe yous need to find somewhere else to stay till your house is ready.
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Take that phone back, now!
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Just take the phone already. You’re the one paying for it. In my home my mother bought my kids tablets so she controls them. But I bought and pay for my oldest daughter phone…she has absolutely no say on when she can use it and can not take it from her.
Take the phone a deal is a deal
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Just do you until you can get out of the situation. Take the phone away because that child does NOT deserve it. If Mom pays for her to have a new phone, that’s on mom, not you. There’s not much you can do to discipline their kids. I know, I’ve been there.
Take it away. Just because it’s free for you doesnt mean she’s entitled to it. She was suppose to pay for it by doing a chore. She has not!
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You gave her a week to clean it and she didn’t?!?..so you just left the shit chillin on the floor with all those kids runnin around?!?..
Move out.
Your phone.
Take it back NOW!!
Screw that. I would have taken the phone the first month she didn’t do it. Stick to your guns. She needs to learn consequences. Let her mom buy her another phone. Oh well. If family continues backlash tell them they’re enabling behavior that you don’t have to work for anything.
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Physically TAKE the phone. Don’t just shut it off. Shutting it off will also teach her nothing!! That kid is gonna grow up so entitled n bratty it’s unreal
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Go rent u a place to live while ur waiting for ur other place in another state. AND TAKE THAT PHONE WITH U. Can,t stand a smart ass little brat…that house is too full of stress get out for ur own sake
Do your part, take the phone!
I would take it back!!! I really wouldn’t give A shit what the adults thought!! I bought it, I gave it, I take it!!!
Take the phone let her mom buy her one!
Oh dear lord . You should never give somebody something only if they clean up dog shit for you do yourself especially if it’s your dog that makes no sense. Plus if you’re not willing to stand there and force her to do it don’t expect her to just do it willingly and I don’t know what you think you know about older children but there still children do you have all those people in one house just make sure you have a separate area and problem solved don’t take away the kids phone just find her something else to clean up clean up your dog shit
Let her Mom get her one
Take it if her and her mom agreed ans she didn’t hold it up she don’t get the phone also I be busting some kids ass for pushing my toddlers around like that I dont play that fake at there agr8 they know better they just know they can get away with it
If I were in your shoes, I’d rent an airb&b place until the house was ready; ten times cheaper than a hotel and ten times less stress. Disable all services and apps on her phone that way, it’s completely useless. Ask for the phone back…
I personally wouldn’t ask someone who isn’t my child to do chores around the house that isn’t mine because things like this happen…
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Move,. And shut the phone off.
Take the phone away and cancel that line. If she doesn’t want to do her part and her mom won’t back you up like she agreed to then your niece doesn’t need it.
My brother doesn’t have children but he will treat mine as his own quick! Sometimes it takes one with some sense to make sure these kids get a reality check from time to time! Me and my brother will argue from time to time and my son will think he can talk to me any kind of way and I go to discipline him and his uncle will say no, I got this. He needs to know how it works being a man and not disrespecting his mother. My kids are good kids and will get out of line from time to time but it’s our jobs as adults to make sure they get back in line. J.W. English
He would not tolerate my daughter talking to him that way. He would take that phone out of her hand so fast but thankfully she knows better!
I totally agree with your decision. If your nieces mom agreed you the terms and your niece isn’t doing her part then by all means shut the phone off and take it away. If her mom buys her one that’s on her not you. You can’t change how people are. I hope you move soon.
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That is what happens when multiple family members live together , move ASAP now
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I know someone that has custody of their grandchild. She gives her everything. She has broken her phone just so she could get a 700 phone. She throws tantrums and such I could make the longest comment of how she is nd how spoiled rotten she is. I love her nd all but boy she knows my rules she dont like coming over at my house shes 16 idc. I’m not gonna b disrespected nd certainly what she has done to my kids will I allow it. Her first tantrum i dealt with was in Walmart cuz I was tired of it at age 4. She was gonna get something she wanted till i took that toy put it back on the shelf picked her up nd told her she wasnt getting anything if she was gonna scream and cry about it till someone gave in. I walked around walmart as she screamed hit me dug me scratching my face. I finished shopping got to the register which the person (gaurdian) was in front or us. She had calmed down just crying at that point. I looked at Her nd asked her if she was all done. Nd she shook her head yes. I told her that throwing a tantrum like that u ain’t gonna get what u want especially if I’m around. Nd she knows to this day she ain’t going to. Stick ur ground. Tell her she wants to throw her mom will buy her one tell her good I aint gonna b disrespected so go get my phone if ur not gonna show not responsibility to earn the right to have it. If ur mom buys u one that’s her problem not mine. Nd if she refuses go find it nd break it in front of her. I dont play that game. Some ppl say I spoil my kids idc I may do a lot with them nd do this nd that but they will know nd learn about manners, respect, right from wrong. Earn money. Learn th value of a dollar. I can b hard on my kids cuz I ain’t gonna b raising entitled snap of a finger disrespectful brats.
Shut the phone off and let her mom “just buy her another one”. Not your kid, not your problem. I’d be looking into monthly housing until your home is ready.
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Take it, never give it back. We learned the hard way and now wishing we never ever gave our daughter a phone until now; 16. All drama, social nightmares and more bullying than in person. Kids are cruel and now it can be done virtually; worse thing ever for youngsters
Turn it off! I agree 100%. You gave her an opportunity and she failed to keep her part of the agreement. It’s gone.
Take the damn phone omg dont let that kid walk all over you. Let her mother buy one then if she wants to be dumb …
Take the phone back. Get out of there and find your own place to stay till your house is finished, people like that have no respect for you if they can’t see it from your point of view there is no hope. Kids like that will grow up privileged and entitled because the parents are too dumb to deal with the fits and just give the kids what they want to shut them up. Be firm and consistent or the kids will take over. My step daughter was the same way oh if you take this away I’ll just get it from my mom or grandparents, well I had to have a talk with her mom and grandparents about it.
Take the phone. Period. A deal was made and she didn’t do her part. Simple.
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