Turn it off and forget about it. You made a deal and she never kept up her end of the bargain. Let Hermon buy her one.
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Months? That phone would have been gone the first time she didnāt do it in my house. It seems like it was clearly in exchange for doing something. Treat it like a contract. Even my two year old understands do if you want because any time I tell her that, I follow through.
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Take the phone and piss on everyone and their thoughts. You made a deal and Iād stick with that deal. If her mom wants to be a dumbass and not raise her kids right thatās on her not you. Be firm period. Tough love!
Exactly what you did!
I would take the phone as well. When her mom has to buy her one maybe sheāll make her pick up the dog poop.
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I Would shut the phone off and take it back as well. There were conditions attached to it that she failed to meet.
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That is what is wrong with kids these no consequences for doing the wrong things and adults backing then up. Turn the phone off the end donāt feel bad.
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Take it away, sheās 11. Never mind the deal you made. No 11 year old needs a phone or can control themselves enough to have one. Take it away.
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You provided the phone and her end isnāt doing what she promised. Free or not take it away.
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Turn off the phone and do nothing special for anybody and when your house is ready go.And next time stick to the deal dead off the bat
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That phone would have been gone the very first time she didnāt do what she was supposed to!! Sheās got to learn that there are consequences for not taking care of responsibilities! Shut the phone off & donāt give it a second thought.
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move and cut the phone off
Take the phone her inaction has a consequence
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I woudknt have given it to her in the first place and the owner if the dog should be cleaning up the poop , give her another chore
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She is 11 seriously, she probably said that out of anger. Get a grip, you dont like it then take phone away. This literally isnāt a big deal.
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My daughter is 8 and is currently grounded for her entire break basically. No tv. No electronic. No going anywhere. All because of her smart mouth, and throwing a tantrum when asked to do sonethinf or not getting what she wants. They are old enough to know what responsibility is. And they are also old to learn your word means everything . If you agree to something stick to it.
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You were right to have the phone cut off. They are your in-laws so itās not your place to say anything. Hopefully youāre out of there quickly
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Let this motivate you to get out the house even faster. I would shut the phone off, not because what she said but kids should be held accountable at that age. My kid is 9 and I have a house full of kids all the time and I try to teach them to keep each other accountable so I dont have to. The way my kid talks to me though is one thing, if she EVER spoke to someone else like that man on manā¦
Take it. Kids need discipline!! Kids who are not disciplined at home grow up thinking they are better than everyone else!!
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I woulda took it the minute she said her mother would buy her another one. Awesome! Let her mother deal with it. Sheās not doing it because no actions are being taken. If you say you are gonnatake it if shes not doing what shes supposed to then it shouldāve been taken the 2nd day, shouldnt be given a week to fix it.
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Take the phone now!
Simple tasks r huge life lessons
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Shut the phone down and take it back and l would also punish the Adults if they want to act like kids treat them like kids
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When you are living in your own house, with you and your family, you can make the decisions you see fit. You shouldāve never got a child a cell phone in the first place. You are living in someone elseās household for one and you have no right to think you have any say in what should be happening in anyone elseās houseā¦ If you donāt like whatās going on there then get your own place. Plain and simple. And stop buying someone elseās kid something They havenāt bought for them themselves.
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Stick to your words, take the phone and as she said let mom buy her another one. Thatās what wrong with kids today. Parents not setting rules.
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Turn the phone off and take it until she can do what she said she would
Soā¦you gave a gift with strings attached to someone elseās child and required her to follow rules you arbitrarily made up for someone elseās living space.
This was never going to go well.
Cut your losses and find your own living space.
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Yes shout at the top of your voice at the kid and let her mother know how you feel,
Stick to your guns, it sounds like this child just might need a life lesson
Donāt give someone elseās child a phone, first of all. 
Tell OP to post updates. I wanna know if the kid throws tantrums if OP decides to take phone away
Take the phone back. No further explanations needed!
Yes cut it off ! She did not keep her agreement
I wouldāve just taken it.
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Shut off the phone. She didnāt live up to the agreement.
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Shut the phone off if he mom buys her one let her then her own mom can deal with the consequences u were being nice by giving her a phone and she doesnt want to hold up to her end then take it back it wont be ur problem anymore once u turn it off
I would have given her a choice first,Pick up the poop for a wk. And that would have shown if she was going to be honest, about the job. Turn the mtf.off.
I would take the phone back, who cares if was free or not. Hopefully your house is ready soon and you can get away from them. Cause your kids will learn from those older kids
Take the phone away for.good. let mom deal with her crap. You have your own little ones to worry about.
Shut the phone off and do what you said. Your only asking for more assurance of actions you already planned on taking. so just do it and be done with it. They say anything, tell them they can get their own plan. no need for your niece to be on yours when her mom can easily put her on hers anyways. Sounds like it was expected to happen like this.
Stay somewhere else she didnāt honor the terms for phone
Take the phone away. Tell the other adults, to mind there own business. You made the agreement with her. Itās the principal. In the future, I wouldnāt stick your neck out for these kids. 11 year old isnāt responsible enough to have a phone.
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All those adults living there and no one is picking up the dogs poop? Thatās so gross. Even after the kid is not doing it?
Teach her some life lessons since nobody else is. Take back the phone and explain why she doesnt deserve it since she didnt uphold her side of the deal.
If thatās her dog she should be helping take care of it. Cleaning up poop is an important part of owning a dog. Without expecting to be paid!
If thatās not her dog, one of you gross adults should be picking up poop if she wont. You all live in someone elseās home, respect the owners enough to handle any messes being made.
Repeat, if that little girl isnt cleaning up the dogs poop, one of the freeloading adults living there should!
I just cant imagine living in someone elseās home and letting dog shit lie in their yard! The little girl is not doing it because shes an entitled little shit that lied to get a phone. Whatās the excuse for the rest of you?
Cut the phone off if her mom or anyone else wants her to have one let them get it . I sure hope your home is ready soon before one of your children get hurt. If they lay a hand on your child with the intention of hurting them by own means you disciplined them. I would come hell or high water after all your children are babies. What are the other adults waiting for one of them to end up in jail.
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Really? A 11 year old should have her own phone, thatās my thinking. Yāall do as you like.
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Just take it away regardless. In my opinion no 11 year old should have phone. I would whoop her ass into next week.
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Technically itās your phone and you should do what you see fit! if the promise of her doing one small chore for the phone isnāt working then it should be taken awayā¦
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you try to teach her rules , she will have to follow in life, but when she fails it all right no one else will take the blame on later in life .
Turn it off! Otherwise your just contributing to it as well . Turn it off and follow through let them ve mad itās your line and plan. There is no law stating you have to give her a phone in the first place you did that to be nice
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Take it awayā¦period!!! Thatās the only way she will ever learn responsibility!!!
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Thatās why she acts the way she does and thatās why she didnt keep the agreement to begin with is because sheās always gotten her way, whether she listened and did what was expected of her or not. Turn it off and if her mom wants to reward her for bad behavior, thatās on her!
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Id cut her phone off and just wait patiently until moving day the kids are to old to be acting that way and the adults need an awaking cause itll just get worse as they get older
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She needs to learn to hold up her end of the bargin. I think 11 is to young for phones. My kids didnt get them til they were 13. But the they only got trac phones. Granted this was 10 years ago. Phones were not like they are now. Good luck. Just remeber it human nature if you give them an inch the take a mile.
Take the phone away from her. The whole phone donāt just cut it off. Take the phone. She didnāt do as asked. If they get her a new one itās on them. But show her you mean business
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And on another note if they harm your babies whoop their ass!
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The conditions should stand! Take it away!
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Iād cut it off. Itās my opinion that 11 year olds only need phones when theyāre away from a familiar adult (i.e. over a friends house, after school activity.) Itās a privilege not a right and clearly she has learned that there are no consequences for her actions (or lack of actions). You guys told her the phone was contingent on doing the chore (which by the way, such a simple chore!) and she isnāt holding up her end of the deal so take it away.
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Take the phone away!!!its a privilegeā¦not a right!
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Take it away. If you are going to threaten then follow through with it. That is what is wrong with most of the parents these day. That is why these kids act the way they . Parents threaten but donāt follow through.
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Take it away, kids need to learn I got my grandkids one , and it has been taken away more then once for not listening, they have to earn it back
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Physically take the phone sheāll just connect to WiFi
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This sounds like my daughter she hasnāt had any phone or TV or tablet in months and she doesnāt care. Take the phone away and let their parents be the parents, she is not your kid so honestly she canāt be doing chores for you as if she was, if the parents donāt care why should you? You have babies, teenagers are a whole different thing lol
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You gave them the phone with conditions. She hasnāt upheld her end so you are well within her rights to take it away.
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Take the phone. Or put restrictions on it, no no no take the phone away. If she picks up the poop for 3 weeks, she can have it certain days, if she refuses take the phone.
move out asap!cut the phone line too
Take the phone. Sheās not keeping her end of the deal. She needs to learn.
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thats exactly why in todays society kids are the way they are, theres no discipline & think they are entitled to everything. how sad she believes she doesnt have to own up to her responsibilities. you shouldnt evn have to think twice, shut it off & take it back entirely. stand your ground. they had agreed to your terms from the start & didnt follow thru. you dont owe any of them an explanation either. actually they should be more grateful you even did this for them.
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You shouldnāt have give her the phone to start with because sheās too young. What everybody else thinks is not important. Thatās what is wrong with kids today. They get everything they want with no responsibility for anything!
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Find a other place to stay. If you donāt like rules their home find other place. I saying they right. But they feel like they have right rules their own home.ect. I pray you get your new home soon. People donāt do right these days. You have pray for them.
Well actually they are family and if no one else is going to discipline you definitely can , especially when it goes to your littles being hurt. Also take that darn phone away or better yet let her have it just temporarily shut down the lineā¦ Make sure she knows auntie does what she says. That will be the one she remembers when she gets older and will appreciate the follow thru. You feel better when you earn something instead of when something is given to you ( enabled) people grow up!!
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Take the whole phone. Because if they have wifi or hot spots on their phones she will still have access to anything she wants. Turning it off wonāt do any good. Make it known that you all made a deal; you, her and her mom, and no one is keeping up their end. So keep up you end and take the whole phone away.
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Correction: should NOT
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I Take it away and turn it off. If she says her parents will buy her another one ā¦ how likely is that since she did t have one before you got one for her.
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Turn it off. She didnāt hold up her end and you may be the only one to teach her that there are consequences to her actions. Free or not, itās because of you she has the phone. Iād turn it off. If her mom gets her another one then thatās on her.
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I stopped reading before halfway when you described that she didnt do her end of the deal. Why does she still have the phone?
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Take the phone away and shut it off, a deal is a deal. Kids have to learn. The other adults in the house are just teaching her how to be another entitled little brat.
Turn the fucking phone OFF!!! You do not owe anyone anything!
Entitlement is what is wrong with this generation. Besides that; an 11 year old has no business with a cell phone.
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Sounds spoiled. I would shout it off for sure. Let her parents pay for it if they want her to have it. An 11 year old shouldnāt have a phone anyone. These kids are spoiled rotten now a days. Back in the day before phone my kids for a pager at 16 when they started to drive.
Turn it off and get it back. It is your phone anyway. Whatever the mum wants to do thatās on her.
Parents now days donāt disciple their kids, make excuses for their kids, donāt hold them accountable for their actions, and the list goes on. Itās not your responsibility to supply your neice with a phone. Take it away. Who cares what everyone else in the family thinks. Stand your ground.
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Cut off phone. If she isnāt learning responsibility, then she doesnāt need it. We have rules for my son to have his phone. He wants his phone he has chores. If he doesnāt do it, phone gets taken away.
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Just take it away, sheās not living up to her end of the agreement, itās called tough love,
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Take the phone back. One word explanation: Consequences. Move as quickly as you can, too.
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Turn it off. You are allowed to place limits on how you will be treated by anyone. That child is trying to take advantage of you. Donāt feed into the crap everyone else is doing. They arenāt doing that girl any favors.
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You can enable/disable ākid linesā with a phone call (assuming one has the patience to deal with being on hold).
Turn it off. She canāt figure out how to pick up 
she certainly wont be able to tell when some pedophile trys to groom her in a chat from some stupid app. And by the sounds of it probably no one is monitoring the girls phone either. Take it the hell away fast before someone takes her away.
Sex trafficking is real.
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That many people living together is the problem 
Thereās no way I could handle that. Move out. BIL & his girlfriend and kids need to move out too, but thatās your parents in-lawsā business. Thatās 3 families living in one house. No way.
11 year olds donāt need a cell phone
Period. Sorry not sorry.
She did not keep up her part of the agreement. You have nothing to feel bad about.
If other family members want to buy this disobedient, ungrateful, rude child a phone let them
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youre mistake was thinking an 11 yr old needed their own phone
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You should have never gave an 11 year old a phone. I say cut it off and if her mother buys her another one, oh well.
Take away the phone. Period. Let her Mom by her one. YOU are the only one trying to teach the brat responsibility. IMO that age should only have a flip phone. (In case of emergency only).
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Once you turn it off, take the phone away too. It might have been āfreeā for you, but in all truth you have paid for it in the long run. I stand with you on this, as the kids today have not been taught responsibility and they think they are entitled to everything without earning it. My grown kids are now raising their kids the same way we raised themā¦you have to āearnā what you want, we give you what you NEED, and I have 3 wonderful grandchildren because they are being raised right! Stick to your guns and I think your children will be great kids in the future!
It was like this living with my boyfriend and his kids. It just about destroyed our relationship. I had to move out. Absolutely take the phone away. Someoneās got to be an adult.
Your terms for the phone was in exchange for her picking up dog once a week, she should pick it up and put it in the Trash. Your absolutely right, shut it off. And take it away because if she has access to WiFi she can still use it.
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Take the phone now and turn it off. No rewards for bad behaviour. Sheās old enough to understand the agreement. Sheās failed to follow through so you need to take the phone.
Move out and you wonāt have to worry about other peopleās kidsā¦ families shouldnāt have to live with other familiesā¦and take the phone backā¦ it shouldnāt be your responsibility to give her a phone anyway, free or notā¦ she has parents for thatā¦ they want her to have a phone they can get her oneā¦
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Take the whole damn phone!!! If they feel that strong about it they can get her one. Lil mama gone learn some responsibility and clearly she got a smart ass mouth. So let her mammy get her one. And next time she wanna run that mouth tell her to meet you outside!!! #FOH #yupifightkids
Take the phone away. Youāre not teaching her anything if you let her keep it and sheās not doing her part. Her parents should be the ones to do that but since they arenāt you should
Stick to what youāve done. Donāt give it back unless she starts doing the poop and apologizes.
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I would take it away
.not just turn it offā¦they can still use all the aps if they have wifiā¦
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Take the phone. To young anyway.