Get the phone… period. Don’t threaten. Kids hear yelling and threatening way too much. Put a verb in there and DO it. Momma wants to get another one? Her problem.
You’re right to take it away. However, being that everyone lives under the same roof, be prepared for the backlash from the rest of the adults. Moving soon is going to be your best bet.
turn it off and take it away. if MIL and other family doesn’t like it they can pay for her using a phone and buying her one. Hope your house is ready really soon so you can move and get away from all that drama
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Take the phone… U had an agreement and mom also stood behind it when it was being made… No means NO… This is alot of the problems with kids today because nothing is followed threw with so they are not really held accountable for their actions
You’re in the right for cutting off the phone, the children still deserve to learn right from wrong even if it’s not from the parent, they act as they’re taught (for the most part), it’s not fair they’re getting mad at you despite knowing the agreement for the phone
She needs to keep to her commitment or she has no phone till she lives up to her commitment for good
Turn it off! 1. You are the ones paying for it. 2. It was an agreement and SHE BROKE the agreement made to even have it.
If she is not holding her end up of the agreement then you are under no obligation to continue to pay for something that was under an agreement kind of thing. If she wants a phone then her parents can get her one. Ahes not honoring her end of the deal and she is not your child so therefore you are not obligated to continue paying for a broken agreement.
Take the phone away, an 11 year old doesn’t need a phone. Find another place to stay.
Maybe just go ahead and move to the town where your new house is and rent something short term and when they ask why tell them
Take the damn phone. That’s not your kid nor your responsibility at the end of the day. Don’t carry someone else’s dead weight if you don’t have to. In this case, you REALLY don’t have to
First mistake was giving a child a phone. Kids dont belong to have cell phones.
Take the phone if you cant obey the rules no phone, that’s ehsts wrong with kids no respect or responsibility
Get out as soon as possible… there is no house big enough for 2 families let alone 3…
Move! Go to a hotel before there is no coming back.
You think an 11 yr needs a phone and doesn’t need to do work or listen is the reason why the youth of today are from hell. Mine are soon to be 12 and 11 and no phones and all game device cords are pulled when they overstep their place.
Turn it off and see about moving sooner rather than later if possible before your kids get the wrong idea!
By no means should any child under 18 have a cell phone. I’ve read several articles on the new research coming out about how negative they are for kids everything from actual hampering brain development to increased depression and anxiety. They are ALL bad. I have 2 step kids whose Mom gave in to the I need a cell phone BS and its has had such a negative impact on them socially and mentally I do anything I can to pull the phones away. They are radically addictive g and I cant begin to give enough warning about them if u love your niece take it now
Take it back. She never should have had it to begin with.
Turn it off. Let her mom buy her one and deal with worse behaviors as she ages
By then you’ll be in another state far away frpm the drama!
If the deal was pick up the poop. Take the phone anytime you see poop. You didn’t give it. You made a verbal contract. I dont like dog poop.
Follow through…if the two of you had agreement…
Who is the dog’s guardian?
Stand firm ! You got this !
Look be who you are. You have rules and you as an adult should be listened too. Let her parents and grandparents raise those kids however they feel. But when interacting with your family they need to follow yours. Don’t let the other kids lead yours by bad example. Shut the phone off. Take it back even. But if she wants it back make her warm it back. And tell the snide little girl if I take that one back you say mom will just get you another? Fine. Let her mom buy her another, cause it is no longer your problem. Stand by what your agreement with her originally was.
Cut off the phone.and then pack up and move.problem solved.
Stick to your guns. Whether it was free or not
You know what to do…
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Shut it off, she needs to learn to keep her promises and respect that was the deal.
turn off your niece’s phone
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Take it away. She will respect your word if you follow through.
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Let her parents get her a phone. She needs to learn to do as she promised and if she don’t the consequences.
Take the phone back and I hope your home is ready soon
Follow through. Even if it is temporary but dont let her know that.
Keep the phone, keep your mouth shut, about the others, to keep the peace for yourself and move to your new home as fast as you can.
I think cut off her phone and try to talk to inlaws about those brats
Nope take the phone. No one is teaching her responsibility
Just shut it off, no explanations, no anything. She knew the rules
you said it clearly…
Turn it off. If her mom wants to buy her a new one, that’s her business–but, it would be stupid.
Turm it off, i personally think 11 is to young anywsy.
Let her mom buy her one then.
Take the phone away if her mom gets her one thats on her
You answered you own question, Hun…
Just take the WHOLE phone away from her…Keep your kids and yourself out of their way…SCREW THEM…this is what is wrong with this world nowdays…it’s easier if you just stay in your lane and get out of there ASAP…
Oh no id take it away.
All kids need consequences
Say what you mean & mean what you say
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Simple:: take the phone
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You stepped on a land mine. Wave the white flag and move on. It was a deal between yourself, your husband, the minor child and her mother. The deal is off as the rules were not obeyed. Issue is with the mother and child and discipline. You were right by cutting off phone service. Stand firm and get the heck out of that house asap. You cannot change any of these folks so stop trying. You cannot and should not discipline other peoples children, even with parental permission. You are always the bad guys.
At least you were trying to teach her something. You did the right thing to shut it off. Hope you can get out of there really soon so your kids don’t pick up their bad habits.
Make her mommy and daddy pay you the bill for her part of the phone or take it for couple of days until she picks up the poop
Take the phone. I was yours to begin with. If her mother wants to deal with a spoiled brat, let her. As for pushing your baby, YOU DO HAVE A RIGHT TO SAY SOMETHING. Take the phone and fuck what they say. You had an agreement and tbh it should have been taken sooner.
Take it away. She’s a brat.
Kill the phone. You should have already done it.
Take it back! You’re the adult. She didn’t keep her end of the deal. It’s about responsibility and respect and if her parents won’t enforce it then you owe the child as much to have some sort of influence. If she changes and does what she should for a month or so… give it back. I wouldn’t shut it off I’d walk around with “two” phones.
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They’re enabling her. Turn it off and take the phone, especially if the phone connects to wifi.
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Take the phone from her n if any of the other adults that live there dont like it .let them buy her a phone.U shouldn’t reward a child for not listing to u. A phone is a privilege not a necessity
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Shut it off and let the parents provide one if they want her to have one. If she can’t be responsible she can’t have the things. I have taken my 16 year olds phone several times. This last time she didn’t have it for 3 months bc she had to figure out she wasn’t in charge. For an 11 year old to act like that, nope. Plus, why does an 11 year old need a phone???
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I took my nieces back!
Take it away! Especially if her own parents aren’t even making her do the chore you asked 
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Take the phone. It’s your line on your account. If her mom wants to give her a phone let her, she’ll have to deal with it and it’ll be her choice. Regardless those are their kids, you tried to play nice and they would listen well their are consequences to that. Don’t let anyone else try to make you feel otherwise especially when its not your kid you should be worrying about. Not your child, not your responsibility.
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Take the phone anyways and let her mother deal with it. She didn’t keep her and of the bargain there for she doesn’t get the phone
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I would take the phone away. It doesn’t matter if it was free or not. YOU got it on YOUR phone plan, so that gives YOU all control over it. If she wasn’t such a lazy, entitled little brat, she wouldn’t even have to lose it. She did it to herself. 
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I would take it back …if she can’t be responsible for one simple chore then she isn’t responsible for a phone and she should be punished for lying
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It’s not a gift if its payment for doing a job. 11 is too young for a phone, proven by the fact that she can’t do one simple chore to earn it. You don’t do the job, you don’t get paid. Simple as that, take the phone back. If you paid her 5 dollars to pick up poop and she didn’t do it, you would want your 5 bucks back right? Besides, just because its technically free, it’s not worthless to you, you could give it to a friend who would pay 1/3 of your bill. Tell them to suck it and take it back, lol.
Duh,take the phone back! Why is anyone upset about it if her mom will just buy her another one then I’d say get to it! They could be mad I wouldn’t care. Get over it!
Living with other ppl whao have kids is stressfull every one has difrent parenting . give her phone if it was fee but turn it off. You do not half to keep it on. Get out asap befor timpers rise and say one thingfor them to take wrong and a whole family can be torn apart. Keep mouth shut breeth move on keep peace but get out to live your life and rase your kids the way you see fit.
You gave her the phone and you all agreed on what she had to do she is 11 she needs to learn take the phone until she does what she had to do and if her mother buys her a phone oh well mother wants to spend money let her
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No your kid not your problem. So what if it was free take it back. Unfortunately her parents are as irresponsible as her. That’s the problem with kids these days their damn parents don’t know how to discipline them. Show her that when you say something you mean it. Don’t worry it she gets mad. Your not her friend and she needs to learn respect. It that easy.
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Take the phone shut it off or whatever and let her parents do whatever they want 
not your kid. You tried to be nice, help, whatever. Now move on. Lol kids suck sometimes. I have 6 trust me. 
Nobody should tell anyone else how to discipline their own children… people think I’m not harsh enough on my child… and I think they are to harsh on theirs… dont be trying to teach a lesson anyone else’s child… if you want to give them a gift fine but once you do it’s not yours no more… it’s not your child…
You got the phone, you set the expectation. Expectation was explained to the mother and niece. Expectation has been blatantly ignored (multiple times). I’d def take the damn phone away! Who cares if you got it for free… YOU GOT IT. So you can do whatever you want with it. It was very generous of you to give her a phone in the first place. If she and the mom can’t see that, oh well. Stick to your guns! Take the phone.
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Not your kids, not your problem & not your responsibility to give them gifts of that kind, with or without the parents permission. Because now, I’m situations like this, you feel obligated/empowered to use the phone as a teaching lesson which is also NOT your responsibility. Have the mom put the phone on her plan if she wants to take on that responsibility. If not, sell it or return it.
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Take the phone. It’s your phone anyway, if the lil shits momma wants to buy a new phone that’s fine, I doubt she will because that’s money coming out of her pocket
Let her damn momma buy her one, then! If the PARENTS won’t teach the KIDS, Then let the kids teach the parents!
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Take the phone away. Let her mother PAY FOR ONE FOR HER. And move out of that crazy house lol
You did the right thing. Sounds like those kids get what ever they want and no consequences for their actions just think what they’ll be like as teenagers ,if the other adults make you feel bad don’t. You are being a good aunt that little girl should feel privileged you gave her a phone free. And shame on her parents. I would do the same thing.
Yep, take that mf back. The agreement was she could use the phone if she did the work and since shes not she voided the deal. If grow ass people want to throw hissy fits let them and tell them they need to raise their children right.
Take the phone away since it’s “yours” and then butt out.
Turn phone off and get into your own place asap
Shut the phone off and take it back so they cant go and get it unlocked somewhere.
Take the phone back!!!
Done!
Your phone, your rules, done
You made the 11 eleven year old agree to picking up dog shit? Are you stupid to honestly believe that is a reasonable decent job for her age a chore I understand picking up dog poo why don’t you get off your lazy ass and do that it’s not the child’s problem if you got animals
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Your phone, your plan- take it back. The child sounds like a spoiled brat. Hopefully you’ll be in your new house soon.