People only treat u the way u allow them to treat u, you deserve better let him do some chasing after u xxx
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I would do exactly that… invite my daughter and grandson… take someone that would appreciate it!.. how rude to invite someone else without asking u first … really rude disrespectful behaviour,
I’m sorry. Sounds like he’s not that into you and has been using you to an extent. You were looking forward to a romantic weekend, and he saw it as a friends vacation, or wanted to head off the romance by making it a group weekend.
Talk to him not just about your expectations for the weekend and why he thought of inviting another couple without asking you, but about he whole relationship, if there is one, in fact.
You can’t be angry or accusatory if you want him to answer honestly though. If you can’t control your emotions, tell him plans have changed but you’ll talk to him later. This will be whenever you can be or can fake being dispassionate about it all. Then talk to him about your hopes for the relationship and if you’re being realistic. Sounds like he can’t give you what you want though, since he wants to play the field. Again, I’m sorry. It sucks.
I get it, once you’re past a certain age the dating pickings are pretty slim, but it doesn’t sound like he reciprocates your feelings. Maybe talk to a therapist about it.
I’d take your family or a bunch of your girlfriends and some wine for the weekend and get over this guy. But only you can decide if you’d rather get a little pleasure and attention in dribs and drabs while being a side dish or if you can be OK being alone until you can find someone enthusiastic about making you the main course, which may or may not happen.
Good luck, and I hope you find what you are looking for.
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Say no. Tell the truth about what you want.
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That’s annoying!! I don’t blame you. Now it’s wasted and ruined!! Go with your daughter and grandson!!
Maybe he’s planning a different type of romantic weekend? 
(sorry… That was my first thought)
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He wants to be non exclusive; just a friend. If that’s not where you’re at, move on. Take your family:) When you come home, no more involvement with him. Sorry - he’s wasting your valuable time.
Obviously, you’re having communication problems. Tell him how you feel and the things you had planned. Be open that you wanted it to be you two only.
You can’t do wife shit for a man who doesn’t care enough to be exclusive… sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too, and you’re allowing it
It’s a big space add your daughter and gd son
Invite daughter and grandson 
DO NOT TAKE THAT MAN WITH YOU!!! Take someone that’s going to appreciate the time with YOU, not invite some other chick without even talking to you first. That’s weird.
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Drop him. Go with daughter and grandchild.
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Don’t hang on to him. He doesn’t sound ready to be in a relationship. He is stringing you along to reap the benefits. You don’t need that. You especially don’t need to waste such a beautiful trip on an asshole and his friends. Avoid the stress and anxiety that you will be in if you go with them. Enjoy a nice relaxation with family. Simply tell him you were hoping for a step in your relationship but it seems he isnt ready so you feel you need to take a step back altogether from him. Good luck and I hope you have fun with family.
Definitely tell him to kick rocks and take them babies… make family memories for sure
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Take your family and enjoy your time there. He’s making it very clear how he feels about you.
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That’s pretty crappy of him! Give him his walking papers
Go with your family! Have a great time and enjoy making memories with them. Also he’s not that into you if he feels the need to invite other people on a getaway. He knew and that’s why he invited the 3rd wheel.
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Say O Sarry you changed my plans. Have fun !! I have changed myne two. Have fun by by
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Make him understand that you wanted ALONE time with him and if he really does care then he will get it, if not then take the family and have fun and let him stay with the other couple.
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I wouldn’t go. 
Tell him his mate can’t come simple because the kids r coming
I would say good bye and invite my family and have an amazing time forgetting him you will have a way better time
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Let him know it was supposed to be you and him and explain exactly what you had in mind, but now since he decided she should come you no longer feel the same. just cook the food you bought for you and your daughter instead and just do a mother, daughter, grandson day. Then since you aren’t exclusive because of him let him know it’s off for all of it, especially because he won’t commit to any exclusivity. Make him pay his half upfront on EVERYTHING from now on.
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If it’s not gonna be romantic then just invite them to you will have someone to talk to too. If he didn’t want to make it romantic something’s fishy about a girl friend of his wanting to come …
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Go with your daughter and grandson
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Take your daughter and grandson and cut this guy loose. Who invites another GIRL on a trip that you made exclusive for the two of you (unless he couldn’t take hints it was for a romantic getaway but still not cool) and asks you literally at the last minute if it’s okay?? That’s rude AF. How do you know for sure the boyfriend would even come, or I bet they’d make up an excuse saying he wasn’t coming 
and they end up in the same room instead of their own if said bf comes, so then if he doesn’t she’ll be there. If she makes you feel like an outsider then you absolutely do not have to let her come on a trip you paid for!! You mentioned he still hasn’t paid his half anyway, so just take people that will be better company. Sorry, I always think of many scenarios in these situations due to my anxiety 
I would be very annoyed at this. You want a nice getaway without stress, and it seems like that wouldn’t be fun for you. Definitely go but with your family instead. Unless you talk to him and tell him it’s for the two of you only and he agrees to that. Good luck and have fun!
……yeah he’s using you. He doesn’t want to be exclusive after all this time and invites her on your vacation? Cut your losses and go with family
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F him and Nikki, take the fams
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Daughter and grandson and let him go… meaning find another man that would be grateful!!
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Tell it was suppose to be a getaway for you and him and if has a problem with cancelling Nikki take your kids
The non inclusive part is the problem. If after a year, he doesn’t want a relationship move on. His friend and her BOYFRIEND going are NOT the problem. If just her and or then staying with you, then it would be different but being they’re not even staying there, they’re irrelevant to the serious conversation you need with him… But maybe he plans to ask you to marry him and he wants his friends to be there to Celebrate? I don’t know except maybe play it out and invite your daughter and grandkids to as you said there’s room… But if he doesn’t propose or at the very least take it to the next level by end of the vacation, there’s your sign…
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I would literally not go or take my family. He hasn’t even paid foe his portion anyway.v
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Okay I thought this was from a young girl that doesn’t know any better. But ma’am you have a child and grandchild so you should know better. This man does NOT want you honey. He already told you that he doesn’t want to be exclusive. But yet you’re doing things like y’all are in a real relationship. You wanted this whole romantic weekend and he invited other people. PLEASE for the love of GOD, TAKE THE HINT! This situation is ALL ON YOU.
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To be fair, you’re not exclusive. Don’t expect to be treated any differently than the next girl. Go on the trip with him since you’ve both signed up for this kind of dating arrangement. You teach people how to treat you.
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Go with your family instead. Tell him to go do his own thing. Enjoy it with people who want to be there for you. Imo yiu should just drop him, he’s made it clear he’s not interested in anything serious with you, and if what you want out of what you guys have is something more than what he’s giving you’re only going to keep getting let down because he doesn’t want the same as you
I wouldn’t go I would stay home and tell him to go with his friend .I probably would just tell him he’s not going and take someone else.
Take your family! I’m sure you will have a wonderful time with them instead!
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EFFFF HIM!!! Bring your daughter and grand babies
Oh boy, kick him to curb and take your babies let him Nikki and her “bf” go together
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I’d go yourself with your family and end things with him for good. He doesn’t really seem interested in being in a relationship with you.
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Invite your daughter and grandson, he isn’t even worth the drama
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Daughter and grandson. You can never go wrong there. 
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I say invite a bunch of girlfriends and have a a great night with the besties! I’m sure it would be even more fun with your family as well…either way your situationship should be over
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Go with the family instead
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I’d tell him to kiss off XD family is more important then a man who doesn’t want to make you his priority 
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That really is over stepping his boundaries inviting others. He’s seems like he possibly using you. It seems really insensitive to your feelings on his part. I’m sorry that this nonsense is happening to you! He could be a narcissistic. He sounds toxic. Any gentleman would offer to pay for that. Take back all the romantic stuff. Distance your self from him. Better your self and spend more time with your family. Listen to your gut.
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Tell him to kiss off
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You aren’t exclusive. Invite your daughter and grand.
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Tell him no she cant go and and u changed your mind and are taking your child and grand child
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I’d cancel the whole trip.
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To me sounds like maybe he doesn’t want it to romantic, and keep it at a level… u kno… maybe he’s not the guy you should be doing this for… why are u on and off, you gotta let go and see what comes next…
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That would be a hard no and if he didnt like it then let him go with nikki and take your friends!
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Take your family instead. Its not like he didn’t know it was a romantic get away
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Lord red flag off gate, not exclusive by HIS choice. Another girl, yea he ain’t that into you love… Cancel n f them both- they using you!!!
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I think being not exclusive when you want to and he doesn’t is the bigger picture here, he is doing these things bc that’s how he wants things to be and you don’t so it’s hurting. Find someone on your level, where you are right now and what you want as of now, and this will not be an issue.
Invite your daughter and grandson. Something is not right.
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Take your daughter and grandson, this guy sounds like a headache.
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You can only be used as much as you allow yourself to be used… Once you see this, it will open up the doors for a man who wants to be with you not just when it’s convenient and believe me it will feel amazing and you will look back and think, what was you waiting for!! Love yourself better than that!
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sounds like he wants a 3 sum hahaha
sounds like your older too, being a grandma and all, so i would just end it with him.
go find someone else who wants to actually play house with you and be just into you.
he aint the one to keep fiddling with it sounds like and if its the sex holdin you tight, remember there is better and BIGGER out there
If this were me , it would be a clear sign that a guy was not interested, if he were , he would not have invited anyone else . Take the family, get rid of him and find someone who wants you
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Tell him too f*ck off
I say tell him nevermind and invite girlfriends to go with and have a girls get a way.
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Here in my opinion… Yes. Go with the people who love you and respect you. Don’t bring him and move on. Cut your losses. I’m sorry for you. That’s hurtful and super sucky.
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Take others, not him. Block him.
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Wasting your time with him. If its not exclusive by his choice then he is using you and you are letting him. Why would you want to spend time and energy on someone that isnt doing the same for you? Ditch him altogether and find someone that WANTS you! And dont fall for his BS when you try to walk away and he all the sudden wants something real. That’s a ploy to get you right back where you are now.
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Is this what they call a thruple?
The HELL!! No. No way.
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Oh just walk outside 1st person you see give it to them Lmao 
Run away and fast he’s showing you he’s true colors
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Invite your daughter and grandson. If he can’t commit at his age and has no qualms about inviting another woman, you already know you are wasting your time.
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I would still go on it, but I’d be inviting others besides him🤷🏼♀️ if you meant anything to him he would want to spend the alone time with YOU and not with “friends” around too. Ditch his butt and still go and have fun
Take your daughter and grandson. You shouldn’t be treated like that. What he did was unfair
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He’s obviously not interested at all. Nikki is going because he doesn’t want it to be just you two. If something isn’t exclusive, do not waste your time, energy, or money on it. There’s too many fish in the sea for this bottom eater✌🏼
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Don’t take him and let him bring a person who’s gonna ruin your entire time. Seems to me like he don’t just want Nikki as a friend. And you deserve better if he can’t commit and want to spend time with you.
If I were you, I’d take my daughter and grandchild. Maybe invite my bff. I know for sure I’d have a blast then. So my advice, is do that, and forget this man who just wants to use you for. You’re a queen. Good luck girl! 
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I really hope you choose to enjoy yourself and make memories with your daughter and grandson. Dont waste your money on a shitty experience with a shitty person, you’ll regret it forever. Trust me
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Lose the loser and go find yourself a real man.
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Take your daughter and g-son. I wouldn’t take him to a dog fight!
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Please take this as the blatant signal that it is. He’s not interested in spending alone time with you. You’ve been off and on for years? Girl if he hasn’t committed to you yet, he’s not going to. You’re wasting your time with this one, putting in far more effort than you’re ever going to get back. Please do yourself a favour and move on from this one. You’re just going to be disappointed and hurt.
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If he is not exclusive then he has other females. Not just u. Make it exclusive or leave him
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Hell mother FU*****! Yes take your daughter and you’re grandson especially if he ain’t paying nothing girl bye it’s 2022 guys and shit it’s about you and your DAUGHTER & GRANDSON AND IT WILL ALWAYS BE!! PERIOD!! Not even a question!! If he wants Nikki to come let him pay for everything and he should have asked you first before making plans with her!! They probably messing around to if she’s acting the way she acts towards you….
Uninvite him and take the friend lol
Sounds like a threesome in the near future he is thinking
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Very rude, take your family
Blow him off and invite your family.
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Take your daughter and grandson your better off
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Daughter & grandson you would have a much better stress free get way & get to spend d some time with the coolest people on the plant you baby & her baby family is always better than unexclusive
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Throw the whole man away! You deserve better.
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I would tell him take a hike buddy
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I hate to state the obvious, but you’ve allowed him to call the shots in your relationship so he thinks you’ll put up with everything he dishes out, including other women. He’s obviously an opportunist who’s using you. Don’t waste anymore of your precious time on him. Kick the loser to the curb and treat your daughter and grandson to an awesome time away instead.
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If she’s bringing a bf who cares! Have a great time.
Dump him I would take your daughter and grandson
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Oh hell nah, he wouldn’t even be invited til he paid his half. The fact that he makes it perfectly clear that y’all aren’t “together”, then I wouldn’t pay for nothing of his. And then on top of it he wants to invite another girl??? 
Oh NO MA’AM 
IDC if she claims to have a bf or not. No no no no NOOOOOO!!!
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Take your family. Spend some good quality time with your family. The right person will come along some day when u least expect it. Good luck and God bless
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LOL that guy has some nerve! Kiss off and invite your daughter and grandson! Seriously, he is just using you and will be a perpetual drain on your soul/life force if you continue tolerating his 
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Tell him ,no way.He can go spend the weekend with his friends.Your to good for him.Hes not serious about you.So,get away from him as fast as you can .
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Oh hell no. I’d be goin off on somebody
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He is sleeping pping with her and he wants her close by.
Stop stressing the relationship that you’re not even in
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Sounds expensive to not be exclusive… Get someone who values you. Your daughter and grandson would very much appreciate it I bet
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