Take him for everything. Slime ball deserves nothing.
This is why you dont rely on a man for everything/anything.
Talk to a lawyer about spousal support!
See a lawyer and leave.
What you allow will only continue.
Get a job or sign on.
Whatās good for the goose is good for the gander. Show his ass how it feels.
You need to learn to be more independent, seems heās been controlling all the show and if he is cheating- get out and do for you and your childrenā¦ I did it I was 32 and with 2 kids and Iām divorced happily 20 years now. Kick him OUT!!
I just had my final hearing for my divorce today. My husband cheated after 15years and we have 2 young boys. I am a domestic violence survivor and I was lucky enough to have a friend point me in the right direction. I am a hairstylist but make no where near his income, so I reached out to AsiaOhio.org. Itās not what you think when you call or maybe meet some of the people, you just have to go thru the process and it all makes sense. I was given a personal domestic violence advocate and an attorney for a very low fee. Please look into it now before you wait too long. There can be a waiting list. My attorney was Nathaniel Johnson and there are others. They all are very nice and and very helpful. Also please before you lay down with your husband again, think about telling him you want him tested or get tested yourself to make sure and use protection everything, No matter what. I wish you all the best and if you need anything, please donāt hesitate to reach out
Donāt leave the house, ask him to leave!!! File for divorce
Whew this is definitely the one right here in regards to this post 
my heart break for you mama.
Well Iād still pack my shit and go
Castrate him in his sleep
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Let him smash your sisters peach. Keeping it in the family is what its all about.
Youāre sanity is worth so much moreā¦
Leave the piece of shit but please follow advices here for help and support in your area!!!.
My heart aches for you 
Iād be joining some of those sites
Honestly I feel you 
Give him his own bedroom
Call him out number one
Then tell him to get out
You will be just fine u deserve so much better
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Take photos or prints of all the evidence, confront him about it so even if he tries to deny it you have saved proof, and f*cking get divorced from that cheating pos
Andrea Maffei Cuccia gross
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What the hell happened sounds like he been on Facebook hahahahahaā¦ ill never get married this is ludicrous
I know this is a lot of single and bitter women giving such advice but hereās something that hasnāt been addressed by the frantic woman, SHE GOT 3 TEENSā:rofl:
now did she ask any of her children if they made they profiles? 20yrs 3 children, Iām sure one of them are 16-17 sowing his royal oatsā¦
But anyhow unless you have proof other than a search history and your preconceived notions of his behavior I would advise you to talk to him about it instead of a 3rd party running a message for you to a group of bitter womenš¤·š½āāļø
Zuriel Decorey Moncrief read this. Itās so sad
Yep āBIG MISTAKEā is rightā:bangbang: better not to go through itā¦. Unless youāre ready to be let down & lied to for the rest of you life 
Clean that bank account out buy yourself something really expensive (in his name) make a fake account on the same dating site make him fall for you meet up at a sleazy motel with some divorce papers
Zero tolerance for you ,not him. Leave his ass.
Apply for sect 8, find a job, n get out
Responded on the website 
I wish I knew 
my heart is with you
I just read your post and then saw you already had tons of advice, and Iām not sure what I would do. Iām trying to let myself learn and grow right now also with lots faith! I listen to an awesome podcast that I love also Kelsey Low joyfully you. BUT SO I went onto my Instagram and saw this and for some reason thought of you and what I just read you posted, So I just want to pass this on to you. Have faith my dear!
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Iād never ever do thisā¦. But cheat back 
F himā¦ you and your kids deserve much better ! Iām sorry your going through this
Confront him with the proof
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You can always leave.
You ladies ROCK!!!
Leave him he will get worse
Kick him out and TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BABIES IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMENā¦
There are organizations that can help you!! Find your local ywca!
I feel terrible for you many Blessings
Start talking to him about it.
Screenshotā¦screenshotā¦Screenshot and SAVE
Get him out Sharon 
Create a fake profile on one of the apps and contact him for a hook up then bust him
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Look into ihss. You could probably get paid by the county to care for your disabled children, or they can pay for a nurse to care for them. And you should look into bartending. Or cocktail serving. Youd make cash tips and you dont actually need a ton of experience to start. Watch some youtube videos and learn the basics of working in a bar and dealing with customers. And please, get yourself tested. You dont know where hes been. Xoxo
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Kick his ass outā¦ simple
Start saving money and looking for options to get out ask for help it wonāt be easy but will be worth itš
Make a plan to get out. Start socking away money. Look for jobs. Research assistace programs. Contact an attorney.
Gather evidence and contact an attorney
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Make his life a living hell
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You can walk away if you want to. Do your homework, plan, and you can make it work for you and your kids with out him. You can get alimony and child support. Youāre not trapped!
You NEED an escape plan. Support from friends and family. If they are his children he will pay support.
Make the steps possible to leave him. I really hope you can. All things are possible. I seriously wouldnāt try to repair the relationship. I wasted my time with a man who didnāt value or care for me. He cheated and lied.
Take baby steps and stay strong.
I know some women will search for another relationship because they canāt afford to live alone. I think thatās not a good option but it happens. I personally donāt agree with it but not everyone has a good job and are able to support themselves. Iām sorry I canāt be more helpful. My heart goes out to you. Youāre not alone. Cheating in this world is way too common and just a click away. Rise up, keep your chin up. Be strong. YOU ARE IMPORTANT AND DESERVE LOVE TOO.
He will have to provide you the same lifestyle my dear, just the fact you were a homemaker for all those years. The courts told my husband he would have had to do the same. 
First things first before even speaking to him about this is, go speak to a lawyer and find out what your rights are and what would happen if you got a divorce, etcā¦. Good luck mama I hope you find happiness with whatever YOU choose to do.
start saving on the side get copies of all his digressions , all important papers , get a lock box and have a friend keep it for you . Look for a job . And take precautions if you are having relations . Now stop the feeling sorry for yourself and take charge of your life . Have a good cry when you need to and go on . A . Good friend you can vent to , but make your own choices . When your ready confront him , then decide if he gets another chance or not ā¦ No matter what agreement you had , it can be reworked out or not . And it may take a long time for you to get over it, and he will have to atone til you can , if he wants to continue , he will . (been there did that ) good luck
At 28 years old I found myself 5 months pregnant and already a mom of 4 beautiful girls all under the age of 8ā¦I was in an extremely abusive relationship and found myself in the same kind of situation, stay at home mom and nothing outside of my marriage. I had to make a choice that was by far the hardest thing I ever did. I still donāt know how I did it by myself the last 2 years but August 24th was my 2 year anniversary of leavingā¦I have my own house, own car, career and my family is thriving. Donāt pitty yourself or youāll never find strength, women up and take on a new road because I promise no matter how much it hurts right now nothing will feel as good as it does when you realize youāve hit that moment in your life when everything you have is only thanks to yourself and you donāt have to rely on or answer to anyone but your toddler
Youāve been married 18 years, if you feel that you can work through and confront him to work on things that is a possibility. If you also are thinking you want to divorce you have ALOT of options. Most of the time you will get what you need out of this, invest in yourself. Even if you decide to stay and work on things. Put yourself first. Sending you so much love on such a hard subject 
Not as long of a marriage and my babies are 4 and 3. I also was a stay at home mom. I was constantly thrown red flags. Sept of last year I left home for a week to give some space and time after being alienated. THAT is when I did some digging. He was sweet talkin girls at work. This man who I took care of and loved had his ex sister in law in our home!!! Most backwoods affair I have ever witnessed. The morning she left my house I missed her by 15 minutes. 2 trucks and trailers ; everything I put in that house came out. My babies and I were homeless for a month. I took advantage of every program available to me. Divorced. Child support and busting ass is how I am making it. Donāt live a lie. If you are done. Be done. Get him out of there. It is so hard and frightening. VERY POSSIBLE!
You can survive & even thrive w/ out him! He took vows w/ you & heās cheating. You have a right to be hurt. Move on. Get a job, raise your kids. Youāll be better off, youāll see!
you do realize someone can genuinely love you very much and still desire sex with other people,stop beating yourself up so hard
Talk to him you need to ss the proof and go from there government will give each child money for being disabled they get money for life my cousin who is in her 40s still gets money and plenty of gvt assist programs I would get in contact with them and tell them what you need they are usually pretty helpful you can also get affordable housing pay like 100 bucks a month
Go through his phone again and take screenshots. It will be the best evidence you could ever have.
I was in a similar position, just not married as long, and I didnāt save the evidenceā¦
Reinvent yourself. First find a support group. Then figure out a job that can work for you and your kidsā schedules. Find local resources through a govt office or online. You are not stuck, but it will take a great deal of effort and the discomfort of change.
You dont know if hes actually cheating. Me may be only chatting on line with others. Which is more of a fantasy thing. You can be anyone you want to be in a chat. But you dont do anything physically all in the safety of your own home or office. But i doesnt mean your having sex with another person at all. Just playing mind games with each other in a stupid chat room. Yes you could possibly manally do yourself i guess but again youre with who yourself. And people actually fantasies are health i have always heardā¦ we as little girls were read to by our parents about Cinderella and fantasized about being princess and having a prince to come save us. On a mental level you say youve been married to him for 20 yrs and your kids are practically all grown. Maybe you need to put on your old dusty fantasy cap on. And surprise your husband with a secret wild weekend some where and use your most naughty imagination and do give in or let on what or where youre going. Even if its in your own bedroom. Go buy sexy clothes and music that you both were turned on by back when you first got together. Maybe hes just too comfortable in his every day married life. And it just needs to be spiced up. And no not following thru with it. Or getting embarrassed and not doing it. You have to just act the role to a tee and not loose your character role. Use an accent even. Blindfold him if you have too. Let your fantasy imagination goā¦ youre married to him for gods sakes. Surprise him shock himā¦ yes he may be so shocked he wont know what to think. But as youre inciting him explain to him theres things that youve only maybe wondered about and hes your husband and you want to be a little naughty. And let him and encourage him to role play too. And add to both your fantasiesā¦ theres nothing wrong with this youve had children and youre married its legal. And not something you gotta worry about your parents finding out. Knock his socks off. Sure hell be shocked and wonder how you knew how to do this or that. But its not really anything youve not heard or read about. Harlequin Ronance novels is all about lovers and fantasies page after page. And other romance novels. And act them out. Hell love you for it in the long run. Yes he may even accuse you of cheating and learning these new found tricksā¦ but you know better. And he may even get upset cuz youve never acted this way before. But he just like you have been together for 20 yrs. Neither of you are dead yet. And yes youve have had a great marriage and raised your kids and im sure have a nice home. None of this will be changed you still have all those things. But now one day it sounds like its coming sooner than you realize youre gonna be empty nestersā¦ all youll have is each other and youll be there living alone. And if you dont find something to do together and bring in the passion and fun back into your home. It will become boring and dull and finally could just dry up and dieā¦ and then you will be looking at the real physical cheatingā¦ and that could get really ugly and harmful. Cuz believe it or not you and your husband are prize catches to the world. You both know what it takes to hold down the fort for 20 yrs. Theres men out there thats sick of meet unstable women out there any where from gold diggers to sluts that run the streets . And likewise there women out there that want to settle down and have security like you have now. So wouldnāt it be great to have it all and keep it all like you have now?? And keep the old fires burning for you your partner that you are secure with for the last 20 years. Leaving should never be an option unless youre just bored to death yourself but even at that whats been tried to stop the boring bullshit. And fighting dont resolve anything just makes each other feel bad. No body wins in an argument you know this too. And you both know the good people you truly are so the girl from sunny brook farm is well known and appreciated. And you know hes been trust worthy all these yrs together or he would had cheated on on you years ago. So its called you need fantasy roles in your life. Wake your sexual interesting provocative selves up. Maybe just maybe this will bring back the wishing and hoping part in your lives back. And youll both see youre so very lucky to have found each other so many years ago and be able to really look at all the things you have accomplished and gained together. And still sharing it all together. So many people get themselves in only mental tight spots and make these rules for themselves on how they should act and behave all the time. And peoples minds just naturally wonder with the āwhat ifsā and worry about things like am i too fat have i got too many wrinkles. He may wonder the same things but maybe even more. Usually are they good in bed does he last long enough men worry about their performance more than women i think. But youre still together so nothing has been lost but nothing has been changed either so nothing has been gained at all. Anyhow think about what i think and see if you could try something youve apparently not thought about. Its worth a try before you convince yourself to pack up and leaveā¦
Grab your phone and capture everything on filmā¦ apps, user names etc. Then take him to divorce court and request alimony for breech of contract.
Sounds like all excuses to stayā¦get over yourself and leaveā¦
Give em a taste of his own medicine
I want to hug you so bad.
Call him out. Explain how youāve sacrificed your entire life for him and youāre hurt.
Take him for all his coin and ALIVE yourself at Tiffanyās and Louis Vuitton!!! Donāt forget to get some stuff for the kiddos!!!
Im amazed at all these strong women here!!! Im sick and tired of these low self esteem āwomenā who continue to tolerate and even sleep with these cheaters because they have no self respect for themselves!!!
Beat his ass and leave
Get a job. Save. Leave
Since you havenāt worked he has to pay alimony, he has to pay child support since your kids are special needs and everything he has is 50/5 yours! Youāre not all the way at a loss! I would confront the situation and go from there. Start dating as well, join sites! Stop having sex with him and treat him like just someone you know!