It’s not you! It’s him & his behavior period!!
First of all, it’s not YOU that’s “not good enough”. It’s him. And his insecurity has him looking for validation from other females…. Which is pretty sad, and definitely not fair to you and the baby…
While I would ordinarily feel like going thru your partner’s phone IS an invasion of privacy, you went thru it bc you suspected something, and lo and behold, there WAS fuckery afoot.
What I want to know, is why YOU don’t think YOU are enough—that you need to settle for someone who does these things? Why be with someone if you have to go chasing behind them and go thru his phone? You deserve better than that—especially after giving him a child!
Not saying you can’t work thru this, but you BOTH have to be willing to address the elephant in the room. Ijs. If he keeps blaming you simply for finding out, and you keep blaming yourself for his bad & disrespectful behavior, you will never resolve it.