They are cute and snuggly, but their safety is more important. Please put baby in a safe sleep space. Snuggle snuggle snuggle while you are awake and try to soak it all in then.
Are you a bad mom for wanting that? Hell no!
Also- don’t let anyone tell you what is right or wrong when it comes to YOU and your baby 
Do what makes your heart happy, and ultimately whatever makes you both sleep better!
I co-slept for 6 yrs with my son.
It is what worked for us best.
At 13 yrs old I still sometimes find him in my bed 
every family is different
Dynamics are different with each child and family.
Do what makes since for yalls family. But I will say try to split time because it was hard to break him of the habit.
With my daughter I do a bit of both, but most night she sleeps in her own bed now.
When I was with her bio dad she slept between us once and he almost squished her so I put her between me and her bassinet. When I was with her bio dad trying to get her to sleep in her own bed was almost impossible if I wanted sleep.
Then when I left the ex and moved in with my mom it took a bit to get her to sleep in her own crib but most nights she barely lasted a few hours before ending up in my bed. When started putting her in pack n play to sleep was when I could get her to stop co sleeping daily. Then after transitioning to her to a toddler bed she pretty much sleeps all night every night in it except when she isn’t feeling good then she will want to co sleep with me and her bonus dad.
I gave in and started co sleeping around 2 months old she still sleeps with us and is 3 it’s suuuuuper hard to get them back in their own bed but I sleep better with her in bed with us
My daughter slept with me till 15 years old.I was divorced. Different cultures see this differently. You do what is right for you
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I hate not sharing the bed with my daughter. I know it sounds stupid but I sleep better with her next to me. She does sleep in her crib about half the time. But if she wakes up she is in bed with us 
it just makes life better with them little cuddles
Do it mama! My 4yo slept in her own bed from 1-3 and now cosleeps…when our second comes around it’ll most likely be the same. Sleep however you feel safe!
Nope! When my kiddo first was aloud to come home she threw up out her mouth and nose and was choking and I didn’t put her in it again til she was older. She slept propped up on a boppy. A week before her 1st bday I put her in her crib/playpen and she did fine but I did not. It’s easier not having her across the room. If she was in trouble it’s too much work to hop off my 16 inch mattress and get to her. Then most importantly I missed her. Bedtime is our special time we get all snuggly and she pick a show and she lays in my arms. She will be 3 in the spring. There’s nothing wrong with that.
I’ve slept with mine since we came home from the hospital! A year and 8 months and don’t see her going to her own bed anytime soon. I’m also a single mom now so I love it even more
I feel the exact way of this post. I have a toddler who has been independent since he was 3 months old. So when I had this baby, (will be my last) I just wanna make a connection with this baby, an attachment. So I’ll put him in his bassinet and I’ll go to bed and then when he wakes up in the middle of the night. I’ll put him in my bed with the U shaped boppy as he’s drinking his bottle and we fall asleep together in bed
I co-slept with my son as a baby and at the time I loved it, but one night of being so exhausted with having an infant I passed out and woke up suddenly with him on my chest and he fell onto the floor. He was completely fine and is almost 17 now, but after that night I never once slept with my child that close to me. Not saying that he never slept in bed with me again but he was always a safe distance away and always surrounded with something that would keep him from falling out of the bed. I did this with my youngest also. She never slept in my arms but would sleep in the bed with me a safe distance away. Every mom is different and chooses to raise their child differently. Just know the risks of co-sleeping. I learned my lesson that night and never again did I keep them that close to me but just close enough that I felt the closeness. Hugs to you momma!
Mine never slept with me as tiny babies they were in baskets beside the bed then crib in their own rooms from 4 month they occasionally slept with me once they were old enough to roll, pull themselves up but only of they didnt settle through night or were poorly… The younger one slept with us from about 2y to 3yo… Nightmare getting him bsck in his own bed hes 5 now and still climbs in throughout the night the odd time and always gets in for a morning cuddle before we get up 
Ive always coslept with all 4 of my kids. My 2 youngest 4 yrs and 1 yr still sleep with me and have from the day they came home from the hospital.
Sleeping alone is not the safest. Just what American doctors tell. There are great benefits to cosleeping/ bed sharing if done safely.
My son is 2 and we still co sleep. Love every second.
My granddaughters is 8 and I adopted her. She sleeps with me all the time. They grow up fast enjoy the bond, love and cuddles. It don’t last.
With my Daughter (now 2.5) we co-slept until she started to crawl because I woke up to her crawling over my legs and almost going completely overboard !
After a few stages and the older she got we started co-sleeping again and still to this day do!
I’m about to have my son and I’m not planning on co-sleeping at all but he will be in his crib next to my bed… I would love to co-sleep with him but I don’t see it as practical considering my daughter still sleeps in my bed!
Bask in every little bit of your little ones 
I co slept (safely) with all 3 of mine. It’s really only an uncommon thing in western medicine/here. There’s also studies that show being close to mom after being born helps regulate heart rate and temperature and actually reduce the risk of sids.
I’ve coslept with all my babies, including my youngest even though she’s a year old and mostly in the crib now, sometimes when she wakes up I’ll just pull her into bed with me and we’ll both go back to sleep
I cuddle my 5 and 6 year old girls asleep because I like that time with them. They are able to fall asleep without me but we just enjoy that closeness! During the night if they wake up they come in my room we cuddle during the night, if they wake me up I ask them to go back to their room and they do and fall back asleep. They are emotionally supported all night and we all don’t lose sleep because if they wake me up they go back to their room. People say it’s unhealthy but I don’t see it 
! Do what’s right for you and your kids!
My 2 year old sleeps with us and we’re ok. They’re only baby’s for so long! Enjoy them mama!
I co-slept the first 2 months of my daughters life. Then she slept in her pack and play until 6 months when she was going through a sleep regression so we co-slept again. Then by 12 months I decided to sleep train her and she’s been sleeping in her room in her crib ever since. Do what you want to do! 
My daughter collect with us, and we loved it, we did get her into her own bed now, and it wasn’t difficult like ppl said it would be
I co-slept with all my babies. It’s natural and good for you and the baby as long as you don’t take any sedatives or anything like that it’s safe.
I always co slept with my kids, and by three months they were all sleeping through the night. I was always aware every single time they moved, so I knew i was safe. I also stayed in a recliner instead of a bed, so if you have that option available to you, I would recommend that!
They are only little once momma, and it goes entirely too fast. Do what you feel is right.
I would set up a co sleeping bassinet that sits right next to your bed and you can open up the side and lay a hand on him all night. But ultimately your both in your own beds safe.
It is special bonding time for you both. Enjoy him while he is small. It is the most natural thing in the world.
Good on you for asking!It’s incredibly dangerous. Yes many babys will be fine, but some will not. Knowing that and continuing to do it is reckless. There’s plenty of literature out there, we have no excuse to continue unsafe practices. Know better do better.
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My son is six and still sleeps between me and his daddy! Nothing wrong with it!
I co slept with all of my babies from the start. I tried a bassinet but within a week, they’d be in bed with me every night. I love the closeness and it was so much easier since they were all exclusively breastfed. I’m a very light sleeper so I’ve never been worried about rolling over on them or vise versa. I always had them sleep on the outside and put a mesh safety rail there because I didn’t want to risk my husband rolling iver by accident.
My last baby was 2 months premature so after a month of not getting to snuggle him because he was in the NICU, once we got him home he co-slept as well. He’s now 16 months actual and still sleeps in the bed with us(he’s still exclusively breastfed), as well as my almost 3 year old son.
Every family is different. Do what YOU as a momma feel is best and just take all of the necessary safety measures.
Get a cosleeper like this one. I put one in between my husband and I so I could hear my daughter breathe.
Cosleeping and bedsharing are two different things, I bedshare with my daughter since birth and she’s almost two now. Follow the safe 7 and you’ll be fine.
Don’t feel bad. I did co sleeping with my daughter until she was about a year and a half. Shes 3 now so she sleeps in her own bed but I never had any issues. Ignore the haters. As long as you and your fiancée agree, I don’t see the problem!
Momma do what feels right. We bought a Dock-a-Tot to make us all feel a little more comfortable with keeping the baby safe. If it feels right for you it’s right for your baby
Maybe you should also focus on getting married’n❤️
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It does NOT make you a bad mom!
If you’re worried about it, there’s some sort of attachment bed you can get for your bed and baby still has their own spot.
We used a packnplay for the first one and a rocknplay for the second next to the bed.
Both kiddos ended up in our bed when they were about 4-6 months old until 2 years old. I pretty much didn’t get any sleep either way. 
I have with all my kids. I stopped with my last though because my toddler will not get out of my bed and i am not nursing anymore. I also don’t want another stage 5 clinger in bed.
Nope I co sleep with my 2 year old he has slept in the same bad with me when he hit two months because he got rsv and I have never put him back in his crib
You’re definitely not a bad mom. This is totally normal. I suggest getting one of those baby cosleeping bassinets. That way he can still be close to you but have his own space at the same time. Honestly though hun youre really gonna regret if you get him used to being in bed with you all the time. I know its such a wonderful feeling but it’s not the safest for baby❤ it’s kinda expensive but if you’re determined to co sleep this is the safest way!
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My youngest was born 16 weeks early and would only sleep nicely skin to skin. In NICU and at home. She slept on me at night and stayed in my bed for 18 months after release from NICU. When she was 5 months old she had to return to the hospital to the PICU and the staff got a room I could stay in with her because she was breastfeeding. I was asked if I needed a cot for her and I said no. They got me a bed big enough to safely cosleep and we stayed there together until she was ready to try being home again. Not once did the children’s hospital speak against bedsharing
My 3 year old has always slept with us. But my 2 year old had always slept in his crib. I think it depends on the kid. 3 year old refuses to sleep alone and the 2 year old prefers it.
i had a me too you crib so he was always right next too me and now 15 month old he is my lil cuddle buddy x
but i would put him in a crib till he is older
I had a bassinet for my 3 babies beside my bed for the first 3 months. Yes I would happens that I would be way too tired to put them in their bassinet and we ended co-sleeping. But they would be lying on my chest not on the bed. My first one still wants to fall asleep in our bed or wakes up in the middle of the night to continue sleeping in our bed.
Co sleeping is great but aslong as your careful as there is risks , i co slept with my son lot and hes 2 now and in his own bed
I co slept with my 3 kiddos, it was our favorite. I got sleep, they felt safe… I did as well.
Soak in the cuddles. I have 3 kids and I wish they’d sleep with me sometimes … they grow up fast , do what you think it’s best for you and your baby
I recommend a bassinet that connects to your bed. While I did bedshare, I can’t condone it for anyone else. It isn’t safe. But of course you do what is best for you.
Both my kids are healthy and our 2 year old still sleeps in our bed. But remember, you’ll be having a lot more than separation anxiety if something happens.
Do what ur heart feels…… specially if ur a light sleeper…… I felt d sm bout my boys so I used to mk deir bedding wid a lil border to avoid rolling on dem😅 this phase won’t come again so mk d most of it❤️
I did the same with both of my kids! You do what you feel is okay. Heck, I still crawl in bed & sleep with mine & they’re 6 & 9 I’m taking all of the snuggles in while I can, while they let me lol
My nieces friends baby died because he fell asleep and rolled on him and the baby suffocated and died. Buy a bassinet and put it next to your bed. So much safer.
It’s not so bad now but if you continue like I did. They will NEVER be able to sleep without you next to them. My daughter is almost 2 and a half years and she knows if I’m not in the bed and usually wakes up within 10 minutes. I know it’s comfy for us mom’s and the babies but in the long run, it’s best to just let them sleep on their own and just cuddle them when they’re awake 
Try a side by side bassinet! It’s like a little extension of your bed. Baby is safe but still close by. I loved it for my daughter and am doing the same for my 3rd.
I will just say my then husband dropped our son after his bottle feed, my husband didnt put him in his crib, they both fell asleep on the sofa, next thing i heard was my son crying.
This was nearly 40 years ago.
I babies always slept with me. Shit they are 7 n 9 now and still sleep with me when daddy is gone during week working. Enjoy while you can msma
I do both, now that my daughter is almost 6 months, I put her to sleep in her crib in the evening after she falls asleep in my bed and then bring her back to bed when she wakes up to eat, she does 4-7 hours and its nice to be able to sleep and move around the best of both worlds (she co-slept exclusively till 5 months)
A baby is up to 40 times more likely to die from SIDS when sleeping in an adult bed rather than a crib… to me, it’s not worth it. I wouldn’t until the baby is older. It sounds like you might be having some PPD, also
I know lots of mom’s who did co-sleeping. It wasn’t for me, but do what’s best for you and your baby. 
I completely feel this I literally have panic attacks when I’m to far away from my 2qeek old went to the store last week left him home with my sister in law and never again I almost didn’t finish grocery shopping bc I couldn’t stand being away that long.
I coslept with all three of mine. Mother’s have been cosleeping for generations and generations. Do you and be safe.
I couldn’t sleep in the same bed as my baby I was to scared I would roll on top of them in my sleep I wake up to everything but sometimes I sleep through everything too so I didn’t risk it
I slept with all 3 on my chest until around 6-7 months and then again once they were like 1.5. Lol our 6 and 4 year old still sleep with me holding me.
You’re not a bad mom. Co-sleeping is what’s natural. As long as you’re doing it safely you’re good.
Sounds obsessive. Do the right thing and keep the baby safe. That is your job.
Just do that.
Period.
Girl I feel you! I’ve been cos keeping with my daughter for the last 17months. And I can’t give it up… I’ve tried the crib beside my bed… I’ve tried nap time only to start… and I just can’t handle it… I love cuddling with her…
We have loved cosleeping and we follow the safe sleep 7
Everyone is different but I’ve always highly suggested not to. Extremely dangerous.
It’s not bad to co sleep. I did for a time with all of mine.
What worries me is how you describe it as separation anxiety. That may need to be discussed with your doctor because you were fine with your very first child sleeping in their own crib or bassinet but not this one.
But all in all, y’all sleep how you want!! just make sure YOU are ok… that anxiety word makes me worry a bit. I slept with all of mine for a while, until they became gymnasts in their sleep. (Mine are spaced out in age though so only one kid at a time slept in my bed:grin:) co sleeping helped at nights to breastfeed 
All of my kids slept with me since they were born
All 3 of my girls slept in cots never had any of them in bed with me until I had my last and final baby my little boy and right from day 1 hes slept in bed with me I made him a perfect little space every night and it was the best thing ever I absolutrly loved it I wanted to enjoy every last bit of it for the last time when he was around 6 months he went in his cot next to us and at 1 he went in to his own room no problem at all no fuss off him and hes been the best ever since hes nearly 2 now and hes in a proper bed and sleeps right through. I always looked upon co sleeping as totally the wrong thing to do… now I realise I missed out on loads of cuddles with my girls. Enjoy them while you can
Co sleeping is actually recommended by the AAP. Bed sharing is what is advices against. I had a very bad birthing experience and kept my son next to me to sleep but out of bed. We used the pack and play so he was close but not in bed. Maybe that would help…
I’m bedsharing between my babies as I type this, just follow the safe sleep seven, preferably on a firm mattress close to the floor with no walls or bedrails nearby to pose an entrapment risk. No swaddles, minimise bedding and pillows, breastfeed and cuddle curl and keep babe on the outside, enjoy
Hunny, I co slep r with all mine and hunny. I will have my 4th bio kids graduated next yr n my youngest goin on 13. U take ur time w ur babies. U nvr know when u could lose 1. 
Babies need to be alone on their back in a crib. Adult mattress is not safe till age 2.
WORST mistake we ever did was co sleeping. Until he turned 8, did he actually sleep in his bed without coming down in the middle of the night.
I co-slept with all four of my daughters, absolutely nothing wrong with it
Do what is best for you. I have always loved cosleeping.
Get one of those co sleeper cribs that go in bed with you, or a bassinet that lines up with your bed and the rail goes down so you can sleep next to him and still be touching him.
I still co sleep and my daughter is more secure and healthy in my bed… that is a 
ok! She will be 7 soon and I love her to bits… I had my prem babies at 28/34 weeks and both did well co sleeping… both had no issues —- do what is best for you and your baby…
I would totally reccomend one of those bedside-connecting bassinets! I dont like to tell other mamas what to do though. I do worry about suffication. I cant imagine that happening 
Your child did not come with a manual attached. Do what you feel is best and right for you.
I have personally seen children die from this.
Please please don’t! Maybe put his crib in your room so you know he’s there and safe? Or a special bassinet in your bed?
Sleep with your baby & trust yourself. Only you can know whats best for you and your child 
Co-slept immediately at the hospital and constant after. Never even used the crib except rare naps. Mostly stopped around 2.5, but we’ll still share my bed now and then cause why not 
I co slept with my kids, my daughter is 1 and still sleeps with me. Who cares. Enjoy it.
I don’t co sleep my son chooses to co sleep,I don’t sleep and get kicked in the back all night haha, he’s 3 now and no sign of him going in his own bed yet haha
I co slept with my daughter since she was a newborn they sell small cots that baby can sleep in on ur bed,
I’m the same way with my son. I’m only calm or able to relax if he’s in My arms or near me. I put him in his bassinet and im constantly up and down and my mind starts racing
I’ve coslept with all my babies (7 years, 5 years and 1 year and going), I honestly can’t sleep unless they’re nearby until theyre much older. . It is important to make the space as safe as possible though.
I slept sitting up in the recliner with both my babies until they were about six weeks old. Just be careful and soak it all up mama
Not a bad mom at all! It’s biologically normal. Read up on Safe Sleep 7 and follow that exactly. I do it with my kids.
There’s wonderful groups for advice on this 
Biologically Normal Infant & Toddler Sleep I LOVE this group.
There’s ways to do it safely, trust your instincts
My husband is a policeman. When he was in Evidence unit, he would make 1 or 2 months a year for dead infants that were sleeping with their parents
Enjoy it well you can 
they do not stay little forever 
I’m from South Africa cape Town and let me tell you co sleeping is not a issue here. It’s never mentioned when you go for antenatal appointments even. Do you mommy. I co slept with my first and current with my baby.
I cosleep with both my 2 year old and my 6 month old. I’ve co slept with them since they were newborns because they both hated the bassinet. It’s natural and I honestly feel safer with them in my arms than in the bassinet. Whatever is most comfortable for you and you baby, mama!
Enjoy those cuddles they don’t last forever!!!
Do what you want momma bear, we know what’s best for our babies
Have you thought about buying a co sleeper so he can safely sleep near you? They have ones that come up next to the bed and others that can be put in the middle between you and your partner like a little bassinet. Then you could have him close and put your hand in to touch him without putting his life in danger in the process. I get wanting him close but I can tell you as a mom of 5 that if you start the routine of cosleeping every night you will regret it later and you will fight to get him to sleep alone when he is bigger. I would also try to consider your daughters feelings in this, you said she always slept in her crib because you knew that was safest but that your overly attached to this baby in a different way and can’t stand to do that with him. This might be confusing and hurtful for her on top of a new baby brother getting all the attention.
Get a bassinet and put it next to your bed. My kids always slept in a bassinet next to my side of the bed until they were old enough to be in their own room in a crib.
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