They are still very little to have too much expected of them. A repeated “no” warning is good. I did “powpow” when mine was little. I would say something was going to result in a “powpow” and I would smack the back of her hands. Not too hard, like I said they are still so little. Good luck mamma!
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I went and got some behavior books from the library and just had story time with them a lot. Dont Behave Like You Live in a Cave was one of our favorites. It’s cute and the kids took well to the funny sayings.
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I know that it’s almost impossible to do but try your best to ignore bad behavior, unless they’re about to injure themselves or someone else, and ANY time they are doing anything remotely good, praise them for it. Redirect as much a possible as well. If they’re doing something you don’t want them to do instead of acknowledging it ask them to do something else if possible.
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I redirect
If that doesn’t work i put him in his room with zero words and emotion, he learns that when the behavior is bad he doesn’t get my attention that way, i also reward good behavior with praise
I don’t give him anything while he whines, he has to use calm words
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I have my grandkids; 6, 5 and 3. They are the same way. The youngest is autistic too. I either ignore the bad unless dangerous or say nothing and redirect. Praise, praise, praise good behavior. I know it’s not easy at all. Also routine is key
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These are the prime toddler years and it’s perfectly normal behavior…try redirecting instead of punishing…for instance let’s say they take the flour and start making a mess and you catch them before they throw it everywhere, instead of getting upset explain to them that we don’t make a mess with flour but if they would like to do an arts and crafts with the flour…(make edible play doh with the flour) it’s a hands on arts and craft that also acts as sensory play and will calm them…children at this age are very curious and their brains are going a million miles an hour…have them help you make dough for cookies or have them help make silly sandwiches etc; we do these techniques with our toddlers at work…they get the quiet chair when they do something actually bad like bite or hit but outside of that when they’re just getting into everything out of curiosity we just redirect them and you have to be consistent…and look into sensory play ideas on YouTube there’s so many different ideas…best of luck!
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I would recommend positive reinforcement. Give high praise every time they do something positive instead of only noticing the negative behaviors. Also create a visual sticker chart and tell them for every positive act they get a sticker and by the end of the week if all 5 days are filled with stickers they can get a reward. Ex: ice cream, candy, or something of your choice.)
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I just started toy jail. I will put something she likes up until the next day. Also time out in her room. She won’t sit in a certain spot. She will get up a million times so I shut her door and say we’ll talk when she stops screaming where I can understand her. Then I’ll go in and we’ll talk about it. Sometimes when she gets upset now she’ll say she wants to talk and I’ll go privately and we’ll talk. It isn’t easy though. She’s 3 and is sassy and sometimes flat mean. Her new thing is when mad do a quick shriek. All we can do is try our best. Best of luck!
I know this is going to sound very stupid, but it truly works.
When they start with the nasties, tell them to come to you and sit with them and make them hold hands and hug each other. Then tell them your going to read to them or do something they can all do calmly together. Yelling or punishing them gets a rise out of you and that’s what they want. Its an attention getter for them.
I’m sorry you are going through this, do u have a partner or family support that can help, I’ve been with through this, I split with their dad cos of violence, so he was no help, I had family support but they could only do so much cos of work or family commitments, I tried my best to keep children occupied or separate them when arguing, I couldn’t send mine to their room as they were 2 1 and 5 months at the time, there was times I struggled, I asked for help with putting them in a nursery for a few hrs a day, but when their father wanted to get involved with their upbringing, he could only have supervised visits because of domestic violence, he wasn’t happy with that so he got cps involved and told them I was unfit mother, I didn’t feed them, I didn’t dress them appropriately etc, I said he can’t say those things cos we have been separated for a year (left him in 2010, he got cps involved 2011) he has not seen his children in that time so how can he say what has, cps took his side and they been in my parents care ever since
Set rules with visuals so they can see them, BE CONSISTENT, set consequences, follow through, over praise the right behavior, don’t yell, drop voice low and firm,give short one step clear directions, model correct behavior, pretend play correct behavior when they are calm and ready to listen, don’t get into debates…it is a direction not a discussion, give choices (you can always make a choice one you know they hate so they do what you want), tantrums are part of the story and are ok, stop giving attention to bad behavior, start taking about god choices and bad choices and that bad choices have bad consequences
Make a chart for good behavior like when they pick up their toys they get a star in the chart try to go for four stars a dsy
What did you think was going to happen when you popped one out right after the other? This is not judgement. It is a legit question.
Gurl! Go ahead an KEEP DOIN THE CRAE CRAE! It’ll freak them out and they will calm damn dowwwn!!
shouldnt have them so close together