Take the bottle and give her a cup. When she gets thirsty enough she’ll drink from a cup. You have to be more stubborn than she is. As for bedtime, set a routine. The same thing every night. Then she gets use to it and put her to bed at the same time every night.
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Stop giving her what she wants. Took my daughter a month to realise doesn’t get her way and now she is good and goes to bed with little to no fight. Cries for 5 minutes thats it.
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I had 4 children … Their all older now but they were all difficult to put to bed. My older son … We would put him to bed and he would sneak out and steal spices from the cupboard and stack them in his closet. My middle son would scream … I dont wanna sleep 2 minutes later he was passed out cold.
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Cut out milk two hours before bed time, sometimes it gives little ones an upset stomach.
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Try giving her a bedtime. Try a warm bath after dinner, afterwards, put on bedtime lotion and give her her comfort things. Milk at bedtime will cause tooth issues. Wrap her in a blanket, rub her back, her neck, her legs and rock her to sleep.
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Have you tried speaking with her pediatrician? My daughter used to have so much trouble with sleep as well as myself when I was a kid. My daughter was around the same age as yours when her pediatrician recommended 1mg of melatonin. We used that for around 3 weeks to help her body get on a schedule. Every night we made sure to have the same routine and give meds at the exact same time. No tv after a certain time, no food, no drink, etc. Now she is able to fall asleep on her own. I know many parents frown at melatonin but it really helped my sweet girl.
I do not recommend for long term or short term use without first speaking to your childs dr as I did
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first off, you are a great mom! we started using this app i saw suggested in another mom group. not going to start paying for it as she like the sleepy paws story
Anything but water at bedtime is a bad idea - its not good for their teeth. Neither is a bottle. Try a soft/silicone sippy and see if that helps. Like others have said, your will has to be stronger than hers. It’s gonna be a rough few nights, but start a routine that relaxes her and stick with it.
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Zarbees Melatonin … 360 miracle cup. Bottles for water only . If she wants milk she can drink it from the 360 cup before bed and always brush teeth afterwards . I know a nightly bath seems too much but sometimes I just soak for my boys for like 7 minutes and get em up and out
Take the bottle and stop giving in to her crying for it. Shes way, way too big for any type of baby bottle.
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If she isnt eating enough and just having milk most of the time then that could be why she wont sleep through the night. You will have to go through the fits but just take the bottle away and giver her a cup and only with her food and see if that will get her to eat more. She will get use to a cup if you have her drink from one. Set a bedtime routine. Do a bath, wait about 30 minutes to an hour and then make it bed time. Read her a book, lay with her if you need to but no playing or getting out of bed. She will get the hang of it but you cant give her everything she wants or you wont break her from anything
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I literally just threw all the bottles away and said sorry, we only have sippy cups.
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Start watering down the milk little by little
Talk to her pediatrician about melatonin. It helped my son get into a better routine and after 2 weeks we no longer needed to use it. The bottle is hard! Think about her teeth and what the milk does to them. Maybe try and substitute it with a soft tipped sippy cup with water?
I got my twin 18 year old daughters to give up their bottle at 18 months I got a my knife should be cup for Christmas and I want into a long-drawn-out tale about other poor kids Needing bartels show my twins decided that fan across could take the bottle forgive the other kids need Bottles and they would just do with Sippy cup they were big girls
I would first talk to your pediatrician. Switch to nuk tippy cups it will help ween her. Lavender bed time bath soap, lavender lotion it helps with sleep.
Soft spout sippy cup. She doesnt need milk before bed. Limit her milk intake. More water. Leave a plate of food choices out so she can grab & eat off it all day. After supper. Start to wind down time. Give her a warm bath let her play in the bath. Then after bathtime read a book or lay in bed with the tv real soft. So she will concentrate to hear it. Every night do the same routine. Eventually she will catch on that after supper is wind down time.
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Dinner, bath time, quiet time(dimmed lights, noises lowered), bed time (maybe try reading to her/playing soft music until she falls asleep.
For bath time if she doesn’t have skin Lavender soap does wonders.
360 cups are a good alternative can still add milk.
If you give her an open cup during her bath to play with she will eventually catch on as well 
Put a CD player in and play light classical music… a blue night light helps to. I also used lavender roll on to help calm them and even a little warm milk as cold will sometimes keep them up. Sleep train! Hit me up for more advice! All kids are different.
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Tell her it’s bed time, lay her down. When she comes out, tell her again. Even if it’s 4 hours of her coming out and screaming, don’t repeat yourself after the second time. Literally don’t say anything at all. Just keep putting her in her bed. Yes, you will be exhausted, but I give it three nights and she will get the point. I did it with my daughter and that was the end of the tantrums. She’s doing it because she knows it gets under your skin and she will get her way. My twin boys, I started that from the beginning and we’re sleeping in their big boy beds only a couple days after their first birthdays. Some people might say melatonin but know your body naturally releases that and your body runs off your circadian sleep rythym… If you give her melatonin everyday her body wl have problems producing it in the future. Also, I always gave my kids a lavender bath at night followed by a night time story. Good luck
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Make sure no naps during the day it’s hard but possible
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I’ve been giving my 3 year old kids melatonin gummies an hour before bed to get her back on her sleep schedule. They’re only 1mg and some nights she doesn’t need them and shes in bed by 9-930
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Milk at bedtime will rot her teeth. Just saying.
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Dilute that bottle with milk , with water until it is just water.
Also, throw out the bottles. She will drink from a cup of it’s all she has. Praise her A LOT when she uses the cup. Make a game out of it if you can.
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Mine gets a strict time to go to bed, I turn off all lights, read him a story, and I will admit he is mostly winged off the bottle but he still gets 2oz before sleep (he does drink milk off the cup during the day tough). When I am done with his book, I turn off the sidelight except for nightlight. Play some piano music and pretent to fall asleep. Sometimes he just lays there for 1 hour before sleeping, sometimes 5 minutes. Also for a while there all he wanted was a bottle during the day. We had to break him out of it. Let him get hungry and say no to bottle. When he is hungry truly hungry they will eat food. It breaks your heart but it works.
Read to her it always out my children to sleep
Limit her milk so she eats more food. I had same issue with my 3 yr old. Make a routine and stick to it. Dinner, play, bath, clean up, book, little milk then bedtime.
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Yeah my kids were like this too. I simply stood my ground and waited them out. They eventually got the hint and outgrew this temper tantrum phase. Your to be their parent, not their BFF/genie giving to their every whim.
DONT NEGOTIATE WITH TERRORISTS
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Start with a bath then a story or two then a glass of water then bed time with favorite toy
Sub water for the milk. No naps during the day. And i start her off on sippy cups slowly.
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Xoxo, lavender bath befor bed
So first I’d talk to pediatrician about pediasure drinks instead of milk, she should be able to have 1-2 of those a day, you can do half in morning and half before bed but through the day just do water until she’s used to it. Both my kids would ONLY drink milk all day and not eat or sleep either. The doc said kids should only have so much milk a day, it’s bad for them if too much for one and for two it keeps them full from wanting actual food but not full enough to sleep all night. So my kids doc recommended pediasure 1-2 a day and also feed them until they are full like half hr before bed so the half hr lets it digest fully and send her to bed with water in a sippy cup. My kids hated it for about a day but in that day I didn’t give in not one time and it works. My kids are head strong stubborn as bull no joke. But you’re a GREAT mom and never doubt yourself. You just seem to have a strong willed child and it’ll take a lot of patience and persistence from you and it’ll pay off. Also I put sleepy time lavender baby lotion on them and their wrists before bed to help them sleep. No tv, no tablet, no toys, etc. Good luck mama!!
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M-E-L-A-T-O-N-I-N 30 min. Prior to bedtime. If you don’t feel comfortable giving natural supplements, then tire that toddler up. I’m talking about make her run play so much before bedtime because that also works like a charm.
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Screen time before bed is not good because of the blue light, it’ll keep her mind on active mode. On the bottle I would say cut the off the tops of the nipples so she doesn’t find them enjoyable. Try to limit her milk intake and only add water in her bottles. You might want to buy a light changing light bulb that you can choose your colors. Put it on either the purple or the blue and meditation music.
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I don’t know that this would help but I’m going to put my story here for you. Maybe you’ll get some ideas from it.
When my son was really little (about 8 months at the time) he refused to go to bed on his own. The ONLY way I could get him to sleep would be to let him pass out in my arms. But that could be instantaneous or I could be up until midnight. One night I decided I was done and put him in his crib. Then I laid down on the floor next to him and let him scream until he fell asleep. Only took a few nights to get him to fall asleep on his own. I do it the same time every night and I rarely have any issues. He knows when it’s bed time and once he’s in his crib he’s there for the night. He might talk to himself for a bit before falling asleep but hardly any issues otherwise.
That being said, I’d say figure out a way to teach her that it’s bed time, no ifs, ands or buts. Take all the bottles away and give her cups instead (believe me, I understand this is a struggle. Mine wouldn’t use a sippy until he saw another kid his age doing it and now he wants nothing to do with bottles). It’s going to be frustrating but pick a plan and stick to it until she gets that that’s how it is.
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There’s no negotiating. Take the bottle away. That’s it. Should have been taken away a long time ago. Take it away and she’ll get over it. First week is the hardest - you’ll both be ok
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Also about the fits… let that baby throw as many fits as she wants and cry as much as she wants. She will get tired and sleep on her own but before all this tell her why she can’t have what she wants.
Be careful with too much milk it could give her little body too much calcium that’s what my pediatrician said anyways. But you should take the bottle and throw it in the trash her front teeth are gonna be messed up. Hold her and hug her if thats what she needs to fall asleep, my heart is with you 
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Limit the milk and don’t give it close to bedtime. Milk is more filling so she will eat less actual food during the day if she’s constantly drinking it. Create a bedtime routine (ex. Dinner, bath, story, brush teeth, bed) follow whatever routine you chose every night- this gets them to realize it’s time to relax and then bed. Tablets before bed can be more stimulating so try a story every night instead. Once I weaned off the bottles and took them away, my kids started sleeping through the entire night. I just threw the bottles away and it was tough for about 3 days but they eventually get over it. It’s tough but worth it because you and your daughter will both be getting better sleep.
Crista Russell This sounds like Brynn.
Once a toddler has a certain routine… its gonna feel like you breaking them to change it… they know boundaries and once they over the mark it is difficult to put them back… as they can be very stubborn…
Consistency is key… you need to make a new routine for her to unlearn the old which isnt working… but YOU need to be firm… she will be angry… but YOU are the rules… end of story
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My 2 almost 3 year old little boy is still in crib which I love and so does he! I don’t have any toys in his room just his stuff animals he has a white noise with a little night light on it. Routine is very very important!! There are nights he had to cry it out but I don’t give in… not a lot but I sometimes do Zarbee melatonin which is for toddlers and it does wonders!
Same routine every night. So she knws what to expect. Like dinner… Tv time…bath time… Potty time…Read a book and bed. I played soft music for kids… Sqme music everynight. Be girm… Not hateful or anything. But you are momma. Find cup that has fav characters on it.
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Not to be the dentist wife, mom, but please make sure if you’re giving milk at bedtime make sure you brush her teeth right after, any drinks besides water at bedtime will cause cavities 
as far as bedtime, try an hour earlier and be super consistant, cut down on milk and snacks until after she eats a meal and always remeber that they will eat if they’re hungry. At this age we didn’t do meals I did snack plates, so literally like 3 bites of 5 different things, turkey rolled up, cheese slices, chopped avacado, apple slices or banana slices and peanut butter.
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My oldest son gave me a hard Time… but this is what I did I grabbed his hand walked him to the trash can and told him it is time to say goodbye to the bottle he is a big boy now… I I showed him his new cup… he loved it because it was spongebob… he gave his bottle a kiss and threw it in the trash… 5 min later he went back to the trash…it was gone I threw it outside… long story short… it was a rough 2 weeks there where times I thought he would never stop crying or go to sleep…everyday was got better and better… and if you throw all the bottles away you can’t give in… I would focus on the bottle now then worry about the I pad😊
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Gotta point your foot down and be the parent. My child was like that at first but I took everything away and have a routine for her. Now she brushes her teeth on her own and tucks herself into bed around 8:30-9. I help her during bath time and getting dressed. She’s almost 4. She likes having a nightlight and the door cracked open to hear us.
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You need to give her milk with something u can put on it to fill her tummy. Then bedtime routine where u lay with her, u talk, read to her and relax her. Then take her to her bed.
Put chocolate milk in the sippy cup during the day time (not always of course) that’s how I persuaded my little terrorist into a cup🤣 “hell yeah!! This is way better than my bottle” was written all over her sweet face🤣
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Does she nap during the day? Our youngest did this and still has a hard time getting herself to relax to sleep. We started cutting out naps. It made our lifes harding during thr day. But at least we were all sleeping at night.
Sounds like a typical threenager. Threenagers are terrorists and we cannot negotiate with terrorists. She’s testing your limits and how far she can push them. Set boundaries and remain consistant. Stay strong soldier!
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Some kids don’t make enough melatonin to feel sleepy… try that? And also a routine and some soft music.
From a dental perspective & I saw a ton of it when I was in this profession. Children who go to sleep with milk bottles or juice bottles tend to end up with significant amounts of cavities by the age of 5. Try to switch to water at night.
I promise this phase won’t last forever. At the age of 3 I wouldn’t recommend the tablet thing either, you’re just creating a whole other situation for yourself that will be a bigger battle on down the line. Try to turn the lights down low and quite things in the house a half hour before bedtime so it sets the tone that bedtime is coming. Read her a story and say good night and walk out of the room. She will eventually get through this, I promise.
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How do we submit a question?? Anyone know?
Routine is soo important! It takes about a week to break a habit and another week or 2 to create a new routine. Its damn hard to not give in but stick with it and don’t give in. Also melatonin is safe!
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FIRST OF ALL YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY A GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER!!! Never forget that! secondly i have a 3 year old who is very similiar what i started to do about a year ago was mixing half water with milk he didnt like that too much and it also didnt fill him up too much and he started eating a little but more then we sat down had the discussion he was a big boy and there were no more bottles we threw them away together if there isnt one in the house you can’t give her one, once he got the cup he had regular milk again but only when he went to bed he started eating way more of course we had huge meltdowns through all of this it definitely wasnt easy i had to put him in his room and just let him throw his fit everytime he came out i would put him.right back if he wasnt done with that fit eventually he would stop. Now bedtime is still very difficult for us and he wakes up multiple times a night im hoping its just a stage and will grow out of it. Stay positive and strong momma your doing great!
My 2 almost 3 year old does this. Except she will sleep for maybe 2 hours then be up the rest of the night. I have a 6 year old who has to get sleep because she has school and then a 8m old. To avoid the fit throwing and waking up everyone else in the house I’ve learned to just put netflix on her tv and let her go. She either watches tv, beats the crap out of the cat, or she eats everything in the fridge that she can get her paws on. Some nights I do let her pass out at the end of my bed. I know I am a great parent 
Shes supposed to start school after Christmas so I’m hoping that wears her out so maybe she will be on a better schedule and sleep more 🤷:joy:
She does this because she knows if she keeps it up, she’ll eventually get what she wants. You just need to be more stubborn than she is and suffer for a few rounds of this, but she’ll get there.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Parenting is not easy! Show yourself a little grace and keep trying! 
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All kids are different, but I will tell you what worked for us. The routine is key. We had a picture chart and gave stars / smiley faces for each task when completed.
“What’s next?” She sees pictures of pajamas, puts on pj’s, puts a sticker on the chart…
Good luck, mama! I hope one or two of these suggestions in this thread help.
You will get through this stage!
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1st of all I am sure you are a good mok…the fact that you are asking questions proves that. My little hirls started sleeping in a toddler bed at about 2.5. She didn’t like at first and their were several nights that me or dad would lay beside her in floor until she fell asleep. Eventually it worked. She also drank a bottle with milk in it until she started falling asleep in her bed and then I pretended yo throw the bottles away and told her if she wanted milk she could drink 8t from a big girl cup. After a while of that she started thinking it was pretty cool. She is one of those that has yo sleep with like 3 lights on so if she got out of bed…and started acting up I started telling her that I would turn her lights 9ff so she couldn’t see to play. She didn’t like that much. There are many things to keep trying and she will get there eventually. She did have a crazy reaction when her dad was hospitalized earlier this year and she would scream and cry for like 45 minutes yo an hour…I think just stress from.not understanding…the 1st couple of nights I went to check.on her and then I would leave her be and she would fall asleep. It killed me not to go to her but I had to because I knew she would continue to do it if she thought she was getting somewhere. She still gets up almost every night and gets in our bed buts I don’t mind that. At least she started out in hers. Good luck. It will happen when it is supposed to. You got this!
Lay with her and don’t give in throw all bottles away
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Persistence. It takes a while for them to get the hang of new routines and just routines in general. Same routine every night. Try to shoot for the same time every night. My daughter is 3.5 and still sometimes/most the time doesn’t sleep through the night. She takes about an hour or so to put to sleep. I make sure she is asleep when I leave. We read books, do back tickles and if she tries to get up and do anything else I gently remind her that we aren’t doing that. Just.keep.doing.it.
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Stay strong. Don’t give in. She is old enough to cry it out tbh. Make bedtime soothing wear her out before. Have a bed time routine and time and stick to it. Eventually it will stick. Mab give her something yucky in her bottle so she won’t want it anymore. Only something she doesn’t like in a bottle. Mab skip a sippy cup. I started giving my son a cup to drink out of since he was about 10 months. Yes there was spills but eventually he got it down. If she naps during the day make it a shorter nap? Or don’t give her one at all.
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Oh no ma’am, a 3 year old doesn’t run the show. Let her cry for hours. She only cries for that long bc she knows you cave. Put your foot down. Throw away all bottles.
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You should also talk to a pediatrician, she may have an underlying issue that is causing her “behavioral issues” not saying she’s being bad but I couldn’t think of a better way to put it.
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Talk to pediatrician
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My second daughter was a struggle. What we did was Everytime she finished a bottle she and I would bring it to the garbage together. She would throw it in and when we got to the last one she knew they all got thrown away and just like that it worked. Idky. But it did.
No tablets, no toys ever in her room
Hi, talk to Sacha Rendoth
She can help you.
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I know to get our daughter to give upnher bottle at 3 years old we told her that she was a big girl and there were so many babies that needed bottles. She helped put them all in a bag and went with us to donate them. As far as the sleep thing goes thats stressful. Young and will fall asleep just keep the rule no coming out of the bedroom at bedtime period.
Start making a routine way in advance of said bedtime. And remember not every nite is a good one. It’s fine. But consistency is KEY. Start making a big deal about New split cups. Colors, characters, such forth and so on. Let her puck them out. This age they really wanna start making decisions for themselves, and they can. What sippy cup two choices, not so overwhelming. Which pair if jammies. Which book to read before bed. No screen time. Start making sleepy snacks before bed. Turkey, warm milk with cinnamon and honey. She can help with “special milk” (pick a magical phrase) but it can only be a sippy cup. A little kids dish set. Lavender baths. Lavender lotion. Lavender oil on her pillow. Keep the lights low after a certain time. Take a walk. If possible before starting nighttime routine. You’re doing great. Just breathe. And just starting giving her space for her age appropriate decisions. And keep with a routine. Don’t veer. And never ever let them see you sweat. Lol, they smell and feel your stress and will feed off of it.
When our little man was 3 he refused to go to bed. Before anyone flips their crap his room was 100% proofed and we stayed outside the door but we had to put a lock on the outside. He would throw his fit for maybe 5 minutes and then give up and go to bed. It lasted a few days and now he falls asleep after quite play and stays in bed until his clock turns green. It was a horrible feeling but knew it was for the best. Have to take control. Good luck!
First, make sure she’s getting enough outside time and physical activity. The tablet and bottle are both terrible habits and will cause more harm than good in the long run. Limit the milk in the day as well, offer food with water in a cup so she’s not filling up on milk. Start a bedtime routine; dinner, then walk or outside play time, bath, book then bed. If she’s played out, fed, not stimulated by a tablet she will eventually get it and start sleeping.
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See a speech pathologist…sounds like my kid. Tongue tie diagnoses at age 6…
Routine is key so she can get the hang of when bedtime is coming. Screen time only stimulates the brain so put that away. Read to her and lay with her till she falls asleep. It won’t last forever. Also, does she nap? We cut out naps before my son was 3. Then he slept 12 to 14 hours through the night.
Make a schedule and stick to it. If she’s taking a nap during the day cut it down or take it out completely. Try lavender drops in the bath to help calm her.
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Definitely not failing at parenting…kids are stubborn will push your buttons, kids at that age test thier limits,not to sound rude or anything but the moment you give in you are letting your child think ok if I scream long enough ill get my way. Definitely no tablets at bedtime,stick to a routine, bath story bedtime whatever works for you 2 lay with her or sit at the end of the bed to let child know you are there but don’t give in make sure all needs are met…kid screams let them, gets out of bed put them back, may take a few nights or weeks may be frustrating but eventually it will stop and get more easier…don’t let your 2 almost 3 yr old run the house…let them know mama means business
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Whats your bedtime routine? If the tablet is interfering with bedtime maybe there should be a cut off an hour or two before bed where there is no tablet time only play time. And maybe instead of taking the toys out you can get a toybin and make it a routine after playtime to clean up, get ready for bed by a bath, brushing teeth etc followed by a bedtime story and a kiss goodnight. After setting up some kind of routine you’ve just got to stick with it until it works. Right now she’s probably playing to her advantage the fact that you will give in if she cries long enough. It’ll be hard the first few nights but 3 nights with no sleep is better than months at a time on almost no sleep. Idk if you’re looking for advice on the bottle but if you are maybe having her pick out a special cup at the store or maybe on amazon will help her find a cup she will take. Good luck
I have a 3 year old(2 at the time) with similar issues. We had just got him full time and he was used to falling asleep when and wherever. We limited Tv time to an hour a day. We would wake him up at the same time everyday even if he went to bed late and lay him down for a nap at the same time every day. We mad a routine and stuck to it. Starting out, we did give him melatonin gummies just to assist with getting him in a routine. We did that for about a month. That helped tremendously him adapting to the routine. We made sure to make his bedtime routine a big thing. We added a nightlight to his room. The dark scared him. He had a special blanket just for bedtime and a teddy that played music. Eventually he got on the routine and now he goes to bed no issues
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night globe! get in a routine for bedtime
try shorter day naps if they exceed 2 hours it’s probably too long for her also try dimming the lights in the home 30-45 minutes before bedtime so she starts to know it’s getting close to sleepy time
Never ever put any source of music or any noise in the bed room , she will never sleep this way,
Take her to nap in her bed and stay with her . Then at night sleep by her side tell she fall a sleep then get out of the bed. If she wakes up in the middle of the night take her back to her bed not yours.
By time she will get used to it and know that this is my bed and you won’t have to sleep by her anymore.
Go and buy new toy to hug while in her bed, give it a name , like the bed body
Never say you’re not a good enough, you’re doing an awesome job, my daughter was 1 when we started having her sleep in her toddler bed. At first she would 100% refuse to sleep in it, but I let her choose her bed sheets and she loves sleeping with her baby shark bed set so that helped, I also put her on a routine when it came to night time, she’d take her bath, occasionally a bubble bath, the warm water and water play seems to tire them out more, then after a good 10-15 mins of that she chooses her pjs and a stuffed animal and all lights off, phones for my husband and I and we go to sleep. Hope this helps momma. Good luck you got this!!!
Do you have a bedtime routine for her? Setting something that works in your house should help her know when to start winding down. Also I have learned with my little one that playing hard before dinner (we eat on the later side) helps with both eating and sleeping. You got this momma
My little is very stubborn, and it is so hard to get a bedtime routine-i feel your pain! And not even a toddler bed, but just getting him to sleep in his crib in his own room was a challenge. I always said i would never let my kids cry it out, but after trying every gentle technique, and getting to my wits end…i just let him cry. He cried for so so long the first night, and I had my mom there for moral support thank goodness. He eventually fell asleep and slept through the night. The next night we did the same routine (changing, teeth, snuggles and song) and I put him down again. He cried for about half as long, which still felt like forever, but gave me some hope that it would get better. Within a week or so, he wasn’t crying at all when he went to his bed or after I left the room.
This was just my experience, and each situation is different. Go with your instinct and what feels right for you and your sweet baby. I would agree that she shouldn’t have toys or tablet-a lot of times those short term wins just create more problems to solve later.
Good luck mama!
She might be due to drop her nap! I also recommend checking out Biologically Normal Infant & Toddler Sleep, it’s a great group!
I have no idea with any advice but does she still have a day nap? Maybe try dropping that and see how she goes at bed time.
Other then that, I started putting lavender in my daughters diffuser to help calm and relax her. It seems to be working( doterra). Good luck! I know how hard it is when they don’t sleep 
She needs routine. Take all but maybe a stuffed animal or whatever her comfort item is. No TV, no tablet, no toys. Tell her the doctor said “no more bottle, it is bad for you”. I know that is a bit of a whopper and we try not to lie to our kids, but if you give someone else the responsibility for the decision it may be easier for her. Stop what you are doing and comfort her now and then when she cries. If she is a normal weight and height don’t worry too much about her eating. Sometimes a little bit frequently helps. Ifs he is underweight, talk to her pediatrician. For bedtime a warm bath and a bedtime story. Do the same thing each and every day along with a consistent bedtime. It’s a tough age, you will get through it.
If it is comforting for her, let her have a bottle before bed. This will not last forever. There will come a time when she gives these things up. For now, for the sake of her sleep and your sanity, just let her have the bottle. The tablet… I mean, if it also helps… I used to put on soothing sounds or a bedtime story for my son, when he was little. Watching something can stimulate some people to stay awake, however listening to soothing sounds may help. Walks really helped my kids, when it came to winding down… The fresh air, the exercise…
Above all, please know that you’re a great mom, who is going thru what many of us have gone thru. You’ve got this pick your battles.
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I have had the same problem. Bedtime for my youngest is 7:30, doesn’t matter if she has had a nap or not but she’ll fight sleep until around 11. So I tried these three nights ago and it has helped us.
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Try transitioning to sippy cups. My daughter is almost 3 as well. She gave up the bottle shortly after she was one. Gave her the munchkin 360 cups. She did well. Now she will pretty much drink out of whatever.
Bedtime for us all screens go off at around 7 to give her time to wind down. Absolutely no tablets in the bedroom. No TVs in the bedroom. It stimulates them and causes them to sleep less.
Routine is key. Cut down nap time or eliminate completely. If you put her down at 8 turn all screens off around 7. Try giving her a snack like gummies, fruit or a bear paw with a small amount of water or milk. Change her into her pjs, brush her teeth, then story time and songs.
Having a toddler is tough. But you have to let her cry sometimes. Especially if shes only doing it because you didnt let her have her way. They push buttons constantly. Our daughter does the same. Eventually she will learn that she cant get away with certain things anymore. You’re not failing as a parent. Parenting is sometimes just hard. Find a good routine and stick to your guns.
If she naps, drop it. It’ll be hell for a couple of days but you’ll get the rewards at bed time cx
I would lay with my toddler in her bed for a little while then tell her okay I laid with you for a bit so now it’s time for you to go to sleep, or sit next to her bed and read to her till she fell asleep. Started doing storytime every other night and shorten it to one book once she got comfortable in her bed alone
I was having the same issue. Now, we let her jump on our trampoline for a bit then have her go play with friends. I tell her bottle is at bed time only. It’s been working for the last 4 months. Tucker them out, if you cannot for whatever reason you have to snuggle rub the back and toes- sing or tell a story. Good luck, all children are different and need different things.
Try bathing her before bed w/ a warm bottle…stop giving into her your the parent
My son is a bit like this. It always has taken him FOREVER to fall asleep. He doesn’t have tantrums (at bedtkme) anymore but he did when I was trying to sleep train him for like an entire year. For some reason his dad was able to sleep train him better but he still has trouble falling asleep. We use audio books. He has a night light. Stuffed animals. Having a cat sleep next to him does wonders. I started giving him back rubs while he falls asleep. I think you just have to find a way to teach her to self sooth. But its not easy.
He has monster tantrums too and I know the feeling of failure too. I have had my own melt downs when he has bad days. I am trying to “ignore” him, keep him safe, but also be there of he needs a hug. We talk about feelings. I also tell him I’m here when you’re calm, or you can leave your room when you’re calm. Sometimes this works sometimes he yells harder lol But his seem to be frustration from being unable to communicate not to get something he wants. If he’s throwing a fit to get something you have to be consistent and not give in. Unfortunately they learn they just have to scream louder if you give in.
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Have her “throw away” her own bottles. Don’t give her one for bed. Give her milk with her meals. Bedtime start a ritual. Teeth. Some
Water. A book. And keep to the schedule and routine.
I have a 3yr old also and melatonin gummies are key for sleep sometimes. As far as the bottle throw it out. Its either the sippy cup or nothing. Stay strong.
I’d try to get a routine going if you don’t already have one. Dinner, bath story and bed. While switching the bottle out for the cup is a good idea, try one thing at a time when your ready. My daughter listened to classical music every night to go to bed. Anytime she heard it she knew it was bedtime. My son liked to have cuddles and back rubs at bedtime
Just throw out the bottle , be the boss and don’t give sweet little one milk until shes eaten actual food and definitely cut back alot 2 small cups a day is plenty
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