I have a child with special needs so he has a routine I have to stick to cause it really isn’t worth the meltdown and tbf my 2 year old follows suit here a brief bedroom routine
5-5.30 dinner as he dont get home from school till 5is due to transport
6PM bath every other day if not down time with switch girls normally have tablet and phone
7PM bed for bedtime story and 9 times of 10 they asleep but no screen time after 8PM
Single mom to 3 and it’s tough but I love it from 8PM it’s my time to catch up on TV or play my xbox any chores get done during the day
I also do rainbows and brownies via zoom with the eldest atm so once we go back face to face it be altered slightly while in out and a friend watches them x
Start a bed time routine tea, bath, maybe 20min of chilled cartoons with milk and cookie, bed read a book… Even if you have to sit with her till she nods off, my sons 4 I went from him in my bed to me lying in his with him I’m now sitting at the door he goes to sleep pretty quickly now, I did used to play Disney lullabies on my phone or alexa, or YouTube have a baby lullabies with moving clouds if you want it on a TV.
Lol why is this my toddler … Except mine goes to sleep .mine takes a bottle with milk im 7 months pregnant if get sleep she gets what she wants. Mine is on the same schedule everyday i think that helps
If she is still napping in the day, maybe try dropping it. And cold turkey with milk bottles. Offer water. If she is very thirtsy she will drink water.
It might take a couple of nights, but be firm.
Also, maybe bath her and get her into bed 30 minutes to an hour before bed and read to her to calm her before bed time.
No advice on the bedtimes I’m afraid, but please reduce her bottles of milk and get her tested for anemia. I only say this as my now 11 Yr old used to fill up on milk and barely eat food. He also developed pica as a result. Health professionals were surprised he was functioning at all his iron levels were so low, he ended up on ferratin for a year afterwards as his backup stores were almost depleted.
I’m sorry, I know this wasn’t what you asked about but I know not everyone is aware of the health issues that can be caused from filling up on milk. X
Up early no naps after 1 and I wud start watering down her milk and then she might start refusing it or take her out let her buy a sippy cup she likes, wudnt be giving her the tablet its stimulating her b4 bed. My daughter was the same the dentist went through me sayin milk was so bad for her teeth drinking it through the night. Pick a routine that suits and stick to it, it might take a week good luck
I find not talking to my little boy helps he goes to bed i lay him down then come out of he wakes up I do the same lay him down and come out it works for me but I do understand no child is the same
Oh honey, 1st of all breathe.
You are an Awesome mom!
Mine are 7 months, 3 and 5. The best system that actually works here, bubble baths every night around 7-730…then story WITH sippy cups of milk! ?(not for the 7 m old)…and laying there till fall asleep. Could be instant, could be half hour. Bottom line is routine consistancy and them feeling security. You got this momma!
Have you tried one of the projection lights which casts light patterns on to the ceiling of her room. If you get an undulating one (think Northern Lights) and encourage her to look for pictures in the lights. Do it with her the first few nights. It’ll help her wind down.
If u are a stay at home mom take her outside during the day and let her run around…buy some bubbles or the bubble gun,all children love bubbles.let her blow it or u blow and let her try to catch them.get a ball,a frisbee,do outdoor activities to burn energy.bet u she sleeps like the baby she is
Kids can be shits sometimes… yes I said it shits! my daughter is 3 this month and by god, bed time I need 10 bottles of wine for before I attempt it routine is key. Same time every night, don’t give in to the crying, its just attention they will crave. Good luck mama
A nice warm bath with a few drops of lavender oil in the tub. Put Johnson’s bedtime lotion on your child, a few drops of lavender oil on your pillow because the smell is soothing. Or on the bottom of the feet. Maybe you can try warm milk instead of cold. Try getting cozy and read a bedtime story with her. Scratch her back if she enjoys that. Sing her a lullaby. I recommend the sleep book by Dr. Seuss but you have to read it in a sleepy voice for it to work.
My 6 year old had trouble going to sleep at that age too, even with a consistent bedtime routine. My MIL (who is into herbal remedies) suggested to give her magnesium. I found them at CVS. I started giving her the chewable tablets. That’s helped a lot.
Toys out of room, NUK sippy cups have a soft spout that feels like a bottle, no tablet before bed because it will effect her sleep. Melatonin, bath, book and pat her back to sleep.
Sorry to say it like this but you gotta be more strict and consistent. She knows when she cries you give in, at that age they probably shouldn’t be drinking milk out of a bottle but you’re gonna do whatever you feel is right as a parent. Tablets that late shouldn’t be allowed, it keeps their brain awake for longer. I would say if possible don’t let her nap late and try and do something where she’s burning her energy off like a walk or an indoor trampoline or let her run around the backyard for a few. Bath time right before bed so she knows it’s sleepy time.
Good luck
Talk to your pediatrician about melatonin. We use it with our 2 year old but not every night. Just on those nights where she’s refusing to go to sleep and it’s getting late. Keep a routine. And wear your child out during the day. I had to stop nap time because she would take a nap during the day and then be up till 2am. So she doesn’t get a nap anymore and I try to keep her active as much as I can. We do have a chill period during the day where we snuggle up and chill out for about an hour. Since I’ve been doing all this I haven’t had to give her melatonin and she’s fallen asleep on her own anywhere between 8 and 9pm which is great.
Jip had that too, mine would scream not stop for not wanting to give him milk or dummy. I had to stick through a FEW nights of about 3 + hours of screaming was hell but aventually he realized I was not going to cave again. Now 3 and still have trouble getting him to settle down although doesn’t cry for anything really just gets up all the time and keeps the other kids awake too.
I agree with everyone above, toss the bottles out, the calories in the milk are filling her up causing her not to be hungry, lose the screen time at night the lights actually stimulate the brain keeping her up. Set a schedule, dinner is about this time, wash up is this time, a story is the time, and lights out is this time. Children will eat when they are hungry, sounds like the milk is keeping her satisfied. Talk to her pediatrician and make sure she doesn’t have a medical reason for the food refusals. We were told no milk when they sleep it wrecks havoc on their teeth. Relax momma everyone parents differently and it is whatever works for your family. Make adjustments as needed to find that flow that works.
Firstly consistency don’t have she now knows you’re going to.Strict bedtime routine nightly helps,quiet relax music with no words e.g. Reiki,same every night as part of routine,they need to know bedtime means bedtime,anything else they demand they must ask again for in morning if they’ve slept well
Throw the bottles away, don’t give her choice but to use a cup. It will be extremely tough at first and test your patience but you can do it. & only give water at bedtime. I add ice to my daughter’s to make it a “special” drink lol. Put her in bed in the complete dark with the door shut, if she chooses to get up and cry just let her. I would take away her tablet at least an hour before bed, make a bed time routine… take a bath, apply night time lotion, put on pajamas, brush teeth, read a book. Get a sound machine with soothing rain sounds to help relax and keep her asleep.
Take the bottle and toss it. Even switch to a straw if she hates the cup.
Most people don’t agree with cry it out, because it’s abandonment, but if you sit in there with your back to her and just keep putting her in bed with no words you’re still nearby.
Get rid of the bottle!! My daughter is 3 she is up by 7. No naps during the day… she goes tk sleep about 7:30-8 at night sleeps all night… my 1 almost 2 year old… takes a sippy cup witb water to bed with him… he goes to sleep same time as sister but normally wakes up once in the night for a diaper change… he takes one nap during the day between 11:30 and 1
My son was about 4 when he stopped drinking from a bottle, it’s what he preferred it’s what he like. It was his comfort. He has nice teeth and is 13 now. My daughter is 2 and sucks her thumb. People talk crap to me about it but I don’t care. It’s how she comforts herself and soon she will grow out of it, on her own.
Women will choose to nurse their children into their toddler years and all people will say is “breast is best” but a kids same age drinking from a bottle causes outrage. I don’t get it.
As long as your kids are happy and healthy screw society and make your own parenting rules
My son only stopped his bottle just before he turned 5, of which I told him it he had to throw it away otherwise he won’t turn 5. It was his comfort he never took a dummy, I slowly reduced the amount of he milk drank without him realizing aswell. But it was his choice at the end of the day and he never looked back.
Be careful of being too harsh sometimes that brings more problems. My son always struggled to fall asleep no matter what even now he takes long to wind down, it’s frustrating but just encourage her to settle down. Screen time is a big no no for sleeping but I did find it can stop them from being on the move so a little bit maybe in the early evening, but reading is very good for them. I used Natura rescue tablets which I find helped to I give him a deep sleep once he finally settled. Its herbal but takes time to help.
I feel that some kids are just like this, my 2nd boy is so much different and I did things the same.
I thought my daughter would never get rid of her bottle and nuk. It took some time but positive reinforcement was key. Take the tablet until she gets off the bottle. Tablets are for big girls. Try a reward chart. I got one off amazon and it has everything like going to bed on time. Also trying tiring her out more with more physical activity. But my daughter still sleeps in our bed so i prolly shouldn’t be giving advice lol
Don’t let her cry for hours hun comfort her put her in bed with you there are no rules if she falls asleep put her in her bed I am a mother of five children all grown up now all were different also been minding my 3yr old grand daughter she looks for me at night sometimes I sleep with her then put her back to bed sometimes stays and sometimes she doesn’t better them feeling insecure and a feeling of seperation anxiety
so zero judgement I’ve been in this situation and it seems like it’s never ever going to change .
what worked for me was some method my mom told me and it seemed so so so so so stupid .
First night i put her to bed by her self for 2 mins then I went in gave her water in a bottle .
Next night she went in by her self 3 mins and i went in and gave her water in her bottle .
Next night 4 mins
Next night 5 mins
Eventually her mind knew I would always come back for her and she was safe and after 10 days she fell asleep .
I also showed her pictures of teeth That were decayed from milk .
This was my daughter she didn’t stop having a bottle until after her 3rd birthday. The teet broke and she refused another so we went cold turkey, she drank nothing for over 24 hours, I was in contact with the health visitors who were great and said feed her fruits or yogurt. My daughter is the busiest eater and would only eat yogurt and not very often. Speak with your health visitor . She had a drink 24 hours later out if a cup where she lapped like a cat! She will now drink out of a bottle but only the bottles of water from Macdonald. She had french fries on a saturday so we replenish our bottle then lol. She will only drink water. You can message me if you want I know how stressful this is momma xxx
And milk at bedtime will cause dental decay.
You are the parent. You know what’s good for them, and if they dont like it, tough!
She’s used to getting her way now so it’ll be difficult but you gotta put your foot down.
Make her room conducive to sleep, lock the door, and go to bed yourself with white noise to drown out the crying. She will be fine, and after a few days she’ll give up. I know a lot of people aren’t fans of the cry it out approach but it works. I have 3 kids, all are excellent sleepers, and all 3 feel loved and secure.
my daughter is 3 this month and by god, bed time I need 10 bottles of wine for before I attempt it 
was hell but aventually he realized I was not going to cave again. Now 3 and still have trouble getting him to settle down although doesn’t cry for anything really just gets up all the time and keeps the other kids awake too.
