Trust your gut. Had a guy gaslight the shit out of me. I accused him of sleeping with a friend and he made me think I was crazy for believing so.
Turns out I was fuckin right and he had been sleeping with her for months.
Confront her about it dont let it slide always Trust your gut feeling cause most of the time youāll be right.
I always do with my partner if i feel like heās doing something behind my back.
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Always trust your gut instinct. If it doesnāt feel right then more than likely it isnāt
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If you suspect something chances are you are right on theres a caveat to confronting them you migjt be.left holding the bag .its a sticky situation
Confront both of them and move on. Shady ass people these days
Trust your feelings believe me. I know same thing happened to me
Look at his phone!!! Trust ur gut always right!! Learned over and over again when I said one Iām crazy Iāll trust himā¦ nothing to trust but urself is all I learned over and over again
no one personality is simply touchy feely
She was doing that on purpose
They r
No they wont tell u. They will if they wanna be together and itās more than a fling
Iām sorry this is happening to u
U can never be her friend again
Fyi Friends dont do touchy feely
They have each others #'s
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Trust your gut and confront!
Just ask your husband about it
Cut her off and confront him. Believe me shes not a best friend if shes just using you to get to your man. Best wishes
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Trust your gut it is always rightā¦
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I would just talk to them both, and trust your gut feelings. Donāt dismiss it. For you to feel one way then now feel like somethings off now there is a reason.
I had a few friends who would always get overly flirty and touchy with guys I was seeing. If the guys gave me my place I let it go but if they enabled the behavior I put the guys in their place. Either way it never lasted after that because they proved themselves to have failed in the face of temptation.
Itās not ok, itās disrespectful and they do it on purpose. Now that she has your husbandās attention itās quite likely theyāve crossed that line of infidelity. Thereās no reason for them to be talking, itās just unnecessary and if your birthday is the excuse it makes absolutely no sense. I would try to look into your phone line, see how often they communicate and confront them individually again. Tell them this needs to stop and take it from there. Their reactions will give you an answer.
However, my advice is that next time put an end to that behavior early on because once it escalates to this point itās probably too late.
People like to pretend something is innocent to see how far they can take it and what you allow is what will continue.
Guys like to pretend theyāre being polite or oblivious but when itās the other way around they donāt tolerate much less with men around their wife because they know exactly what is going on.
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Speak to them. Most times when a woman feel there is something off is because it is off or on its way to being very off so talk to her first and then him.
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Look at his phone. Their will be some kind of evidence whether he has her number in weird code name, how long he has been on phone with her, messages on Facebook or text. I would spy on him. Just had ex cheat on me and all the evidence I needed was in his phone.
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O hell keep her out of your house track his phone if you are feeling it itās probably true
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Confront them. Trust your instinct
Trust your gut. Confront them sooner rather than later.
Thatās messed up. Definitely confront them both. Knock a bitch out if you got to. Please give us an update
Keep your friends close and the enemy closer. Watch like a hawk
Absolutely confront and if itās easier do it to her first since her life isnāt tied into yours so if you find what you fear you can get a lawyer and get what you need.
Your gut feeling is usually right! Iād follow it
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Put a camera in ur house
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Get on his fb and set her to a limited profile so she canāt see anything he posts unless he makes it public
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Iād say something is going on but u donāt have enough evidence. With the evidence u do have it can very easily make u look crazy. U need more. Investigate!
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#staycationsetup #101.5 #morningmess #phoenix #arizona.
Get a detailed bill if ur all on the same phone plan
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Change his phone number.
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Orā¦changer her number to YOURS in his phone. But keep the name the sameš
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Best friends donāt touchy feely your husbandā¦
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Assuming you guys are on the same phone carrier. AT&T & Verizon have every single log of calls and texts if you login to your account, even if he deletes texts it still shows the messages. My mom use to go through our stuff growing up. Could always take his phone randomly and go through it. If you have a gut feeling, stick to your gut. If youāve talked to him about it and heās making weird excuses. All you can do now is snoop. But thatās just my opinion 
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I would trust my gut. Come right out and ask them face to face
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Always listen to your gut if itās feeling that way itās probably true I went through the same thing
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Girl we need an update!
Let us know if you tried any of these suggestions (:
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I would be very careful proceeding without actual evidence. If you accuse him and you are wrong he will not trust you anymore and your relationship will suffer immense damage. Sometimes our fear of something brings about the fear itself. If they are platonic then your digging could ultimately push him to her and away from you. Tread lightly and make sure you have unwavering proof before you confront either of them.
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Oh for chrissakes! Just invite her out for drinks and ASK HER. You did say youāre friends right?
Screw asking him. Men lie when the truth works.
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I had that gut for yearsā¦needless to say my soon to be ex hubby is dating the woman i suspected all these yearsā¦TRUST YOUR GUT!
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Christ its your husband yāall put in all that actual work to make it to the married stage Iād ask while they are both in the same room fuck uncomfortable YOU are uncomfortable if you think shed do that to you shes a hoe not a friend and if he tries getting mad well heās the one that made you feel like there was an issue donāt let anyone guilt you stand your ground and get answers donāt settle. Donāt let yourself be easily persuaded because it feels better get the truth!
Go to best buy and buy a small hand held tape recorder the kind the collage kids use to record in classes, turn it on when you leave put it under the couch where it cant be seen.
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Trust your gut! Iām petty so Iād probably beat her ass to prove a pointā¦scare the shit out of her until she confesses. Then Iād fuck my husband up and leave his ass!
Get together with both of them at the same time. Ask them flat out if they are having an affair. If they say no, then ask to see both their phones. If they refuse, then thatās your answer. Innocent husbands and BFF wouldnāt have a problem letting you see it.
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And maybe if you are feeling a little passive aggressive get him super drunk let him pass out and shave off an eyebrow so he can look all sorts of funky in the morning be all 
, either way donāt think youāre a fool and donāt let a man make u feel foolish
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Trust your instincts and do some digging. No wife should ever have to go through this with two of the most important people in her life. Iād straight up confront my husband but not until I had some strong evidence and then Iād promptly leave his ass!
Oh, and even if you donāt have any evidence of foul play, thereās no reason you canāt tell them both (individually) that you are not comfortable with the touching and flirting and you would appreciate it if he/she would put an end to it. In fact, If your friend has any objections, end the friendship. It might just save your marriage.
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My daughter has been through this same thing. They are divorced now, but trust your future not your friend. 
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Tell them both you feel uncomfortable and insecure with how close the two have been recently. That it makes you feel like they are doing something they arenāt supposed to and youād appreciate it if they stop flirting even if it is unintentional. Moreover, ask if there is something you should know and tell them if it doesnāt stop it might be the end for your relationships with them both.
Oh, and review your finances. Seriously, look close at that shit. Itās a great tell-tell sign without actually going through his phone.
Gut baby! Ask sincere questions, watch body language and pay attention to answers and how they are given. Youāll know. You shouldnāt feel this way. Even if your wrong, something is going on somewhere
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I think his answer that they were planning your bāday proves that he is lying. There is no way. Iāve been in your place and no matter how convincing he seems donāt believe him. Been there done that. You need to get ahold of his phone when he is in the shower or in the middle of the night when he is asleep and send her a message that says āshe knowsā or āshe found outā and see what she answers back. If you donāt think you can get to his phone when she answers back then hide his phone so he thinks heās lost it.
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Where thereās smoke thereās fire so trust your instincts. Youāll have to find out the sneaky way because theyāll never admit itā¦ at least for now.
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Trust ur gut. Try to find evidence.
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Update us! We are nosey lol
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This happened to me. I felt that there was something up and confronted them at a point, which made them angry at me (and, of course, they denied it). When I got confirmation from a reliable source (her mother), their reaction was, āWe didnāt do anything until you accused us of it.ā Which was also bullshit. I am now married to a most wonderful man and donāt miss being in that mess at all.
Donāt bother confronting them because they will just lie, or you will be suspicious they are lying. You need to be a little wily and get proof. Instincts are usually right.
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Go with your gut & just set them up then youāll know for sure
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investigate more you will find something.
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Gut is usually right, go with it.
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If he has an Android you can download SPY 2 Mobile on his phone and read his text. I used it on my teens phone when she got into some trouble in her young years. It works great!
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Im recently going thru thatā¦ My ex husband and my ābestie from high schoolā are now together.
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Put a spy app on his phone
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First make sure he canāt take your money & run off with her. If you have any joint accounts, take your half out & open up a new one. Tell him you think someone may have hacked your account & tell him to keep an eye on his half of the money.
Call a womenās center and get advice on what you need to do to prepare for any eventuality.
Can you support yourself if you divorce? Do you have (another) friend you can stay with? Can you afford the mortgage/rent where you are? Do you have a safe house if either one gets violent? Gather important papers & prepare a āgoā bag. Hopefully you wonāt need any of this, but itās best to be prepared.
Ask someone you know to follow hubs if he needs to āgo somewhere,ā or spy on them. Great job for a retiree. If you can pay, get a professional PI, and/or use the phone & tracking apps to confirm your suspicions.
Iād get proof/evidence and decide what you want to do in all situations and make plans before you confront them. Play dumb beforehand so they donāt have time to do anything more devious.
Good luck. Hope you donāt have kids, but if you do, I know youāll manage. You are stronger than you think.
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My ex best friend went with my spouse behind my back and while I didnāt want to believe it of either of them it was trueā¦I cut her out of my life and it has been thirteen years I even {regretably now of course} named my youngest daughter after the bit@hā¦I wish I had followed MY instincts when I first startred to suspect itā¦Follow your heart if you suspect it then it is probably going down dump them BOTH!!!
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Figure or whoās the worst liar and go to them and tell them the other of confessed and you want to Save this relationship. And that you forgive them you just want to hear the truth from them. And if they tell you you will forgive them
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Trust your gut instinct. If you think it, there is a problem. Ditch the bitch and give him an ultimatum. If he wont unfriend her, block her from all aspects of life etc and if he calls you crazy and doesnt get upset with your accusation such as honey noā¦ but tries to turn it around on you then itās TRUE.
Investigate, and even if you find out they are not having an affair cut her loose! She is not your best friend if she is touchy feely with your husband. Flirting with your husband shouldnāt even cross her mind. I would change your numbers, block her on Facebook, and simply tell her that you cannot trust her anymore, because she is way to handsy with your husband. Nothing good will come from having someone like that in your life. Good luck investigating, and I hope your husband hasnāt strayed. Kick him to the curb as well if you find out he has. If he is cheating on you he doesnāt love you, and it will happen again. 
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Go with your gut feeling
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Or switch yours and her name on his contacts so if he texts her heās really texting you
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Trust your gut feeling. Itās always right.
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ALWAYS trust your gut.
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Your s/o should ideally hopefully like but defiantly, respect your bestfriendā¦ Thatās going both waysā¦ You to his as well. But Iāve always said, there is no rhyme nor reason for them to be THAT close. I donāt think youād get a straight answer just askingā¦ Since you got the whole ābirthday planā excuse already. Iād go with your gut.
Girl if u donāt ask for those phone ā¦ thatāll get u ya answer soon as they get defensive .
Sometimes itās best if you get that feeling to go with it, just be careful and watch out .
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If you truly feel something is going on you are probably right. Cheating can be purely emotional without anything physical going on and if that is the case he may not see it as cheating. I would no longer consider her my friend. Explain your concerns to your husband and ask that he end it. By it I mean the pictures, posts and phone calls . If he refuses then it may be time to cut your losses.
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I m hoping you are doing better now
Kick him and her to the curb!!!
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There is a way to verify your phone bill by checking the usage and there is a column for phone numbers and date and time of telephone call. At least you have written document on paper of the telephone history. You can check this on a daily basis but it will not show you the same date that you are checking on. It goes a few days behind,
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go with your instincts
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Yes please update!!!
Trust your intuition.
Iād see if switching the IDs on his phone/phone numbers would work and then if not - ask for his phone. If he says NO - there you go. People who have nothing to hide donāt hideā¦
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Trust your gut always!!! Happened to me once. It seemed odd to me that she randomly starting liking pics of him. She liked one where I was tagged in but it seemed weird that she would randomly like an old picture. He denied anything was going on and had no clue why she would do that. But I still couldnāt get rid of the feeling until I found some messages he forgot to delete. Always trust your instincts
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Always follow your gut instinct
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Trust your instincts they are always right
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Your instincts are always right. Ask her. Not him
Ask her straight up
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Ask her straight up. Not him. Ask her!
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trust your gut instant, been there done that
Honestly? If you think thereās something going on enough to ask, then there probably is. Talk to them.
I went through a similar situation forty years ago. I had a feeling that something wasnāt right. I bought a phone recorder, installed and hid it. The next day my suspicions were confirmed. Nothing has hurt me more. The person I loved and trusted was cheating on me. I got a divorce. Even though I eventually remarried, Iāve never gotten over this and Iām taking a medication for depression.
Go thru his phone and see what theyāve been talking about via text. Better yet, go thru hers. She wonāt suspect anything. He might.
1st off, I HATE IT when people say āharmless flirtingāā¦harmless to who? It is extremely harmful & disrespectful to the persons partner or āfriendā! I say friend in āā because a real friend would NOT flirt with your husband & would be in your face telling you the second your husband flirted with her! That girl is NOT your friend & if your husband is flirting with other women (regardless of if itās your friends, regardless of if he takes it as far as having an affair) he is NOT your person! Call them out, kick him out, change the locks & change your number regardless of their answer or response they have already shown disregard for your feelings, disrespect to you by flirting in front of you (or not in front of you), talking to each other behind your back & SERIOUSLY posting photos of them together on social media! Yeah, kick both of their assā to the curb! Bye Felicia! 
then go out, find you a hottie & post some pictures of your own girl! Life is too short to waste time on fools doing foolish $h!+
Oh, and screw waiting āto catch themā like some of these comments advise! You already know enough & they have disrespected you enough to your face that neither of them deserve to be in your life! Donāt expect honesty from dishonest people & donāt wait until he brings home an std because heās gotten comfortable cheating on you or you find out by his baby mama knocking on your door! The blunt disrespect is enoug! they care so little about your opinion that they are flaunting in your face! Tell them BOTH goodbye & move on to a BETTER man! You deserve better! Everyone deserves to be with a loyal, honest, respectful person!
I suspected the exact same thing. I was right. They are now married to each other. Iād been quite vocal about what his cheating would entail (divorce, full stop) in the past so they knew exactly what to do to get me out of the picture. For me, the best thing I did was cut all contact. Our children are adults so that made it easy for me but you are entitled to your feelings. The second best thing I did was to forgive him. I did this for my mental health. Itās been years and I couldnāt tell you exactly when it happened but it no longer hurts to hear their names.
Go through their phone. Wasnāt possible because he had it locked up tight. Only he could use it. Ask to see his phone? If what my gut was yelling at me was wrong or heād been clever enough to delete logs and texts and ensure there were no contact numbers then heād use it to portray himself as the victim of his crazy wife. Hide his phone. He used this phone for his company and had to be available for emergency calls, meaning if he couldnāt take them his company would go belly up meaning no source of income. I couldnāt afford to hire a private investigator. Never could get concrete proof. He was pretty much waving his affairs under my nose. Heās now my ex. Iām just as glad to be rid of him as he, quite obviously, is glad to be rid of me.
Itās bad enough for you to be thinking your husband may be cheating, but the ultimate betrayal is you said Sheās your best friendā¦Honestly that has to be the worst. Once they cheat, it really doesnāt matter anymore (who it is) because it will just continue to happen. Pull up you pants, & get on with your life, without either of themā¦God Bless & Good Luck