What do you do when you know your granddaughters are being mistreated by your daughter’s new boyfriend? Like slapping the face of an 18 old girl, or now that she3 years old, the newest form of Punishment is putting tobacco sauce on her lips, and the mother does nothing to help her. How do I stop myself from feeling contempt and just downright hating her I can’t believe my daughter is turned into such an awful person and a mother and there’s nothing I can do about it so hard to keep watching this CPS will do nothing why is this your mother collect Social Security the boyfriend lives off of it it’s just so sickening it’s so hard to take! I’ve been forbidden to see if any of the girls because I spoke up about the slapping of the face. Is there really such a thing as grandparent rights does anyone know?
In TN & MS there are grandparents rights…however to obtain them you must hire an attorney & go to court
Call the cops on them. Any time you suspect something happened, call the police and CPS
CPS is obliged to look into ANY form of abuse allegations. It’s their job
That is awful! I’m so sorry!
Grandparents rights are legit I know of someone who is taking their sons ex to court to get visitation x
Call dhr…get them involved, if the 18yr, can record it without them knowing, they could be placed in your custody
Call cps again call the police hire a attorney for custody
If your grandchild is being abused you have every right to make sure their wellfare is safe.
You can take custody if you wanted to “if its that bad” .
The police wont see you as doing harm if ypur looking out.
Id be calling them soon as.
Call the authorities duh
Yes depending on what state you live in.
You can get rights if the mother is unfit and father is not worth it ejther. Call the police and DCS
Every single time you kniw something happened call police and social services.
Call the police and social services
Grandparent Rights are a thing, but it’s rare that they’re ever granted
Call 911 immediately
Call 800 number for abuse right away OMG please now make the calls
You call the police and cps as many times as it takes
Grandparents have more right then the actual parents
I have custody of my grand child
You call CPS. You don’t wait and hope someone has an answer. If you’re concerned then you report immediately. By waiting for advice how much time could you have spent putting in the report that could help first, and then getting advice? If it’s that bad, you don’t wait, you don’t question it, you report it every time!
No grandparents rights but CALL SOCIAL SERVICES
Those girls need an advocate and you’re the only one who sees an issue with their situation.
Speak up for them.
If I was in your shoes I would keep calling CPS they have to go and look into things and they will even talk with babygirl my LO turns 3 tmrw and I can’t imagine that happening to her brings tears to my eyes speak up tho sounds like your her only voice! So don’t back down either!!
Are you saying the oldest is 18? If so get her to leave and testify what they are doing to the baby
I would be in jail cuz I would kill the asshole
Keep calling and reporting!!!
Beat her fucking ass and do to her what she is allowed to be done with that baby. What the fuck
Keep calling and call the police …the more people that know the more likely cps will be to do something… If that doesn’t work call me he schools and the news people …please do not go unheard for the sake of those kids !!
Call the cops!!! She is being abused!!!
Call CPS as a kid who had Tabasco sauce used as punishment it is cruel to do that to a baby.
Call 911 for a welfare check.
Then immediately call cps and file a report with what you know.
If you do cps first they give the parents a heads up that they’re coming. Then parents can clean up or coach the kids.
I am confused she said 18 old but now she is 3. So, is it a 18 month old that got slapped now that child is 3 yrs old?? But, she also stated at the beginning that she had Granddaughters …
file for temp custody of grandchild
You can file an abuse neglect and dependent motion with family courts yourself
Yes, someone I know hired a private investigator and an attorney to document everything and was able to get custody of her granddaughter.
You need evidence. Write everything down times dates incident and try and record or picture anything
think before you do anything, make sure-will never see gran children again if she gets mad, you have no rights
Grandparents rights no longer exists in Texas, unless their child died. Then the will consider it .
No grandparent rights in NC only thing you can do as of right now is make cps reports, if there’s an emergency such as your daughter is in jail/hospital or the girls are hurt and sent to the er you can file you emergency custody
Can you ask the mom if the baby can come live with you? At least then she’ll be safe.
Sounds like grammie should take custody of said child or if she keeps calling cops/cps.
Most likely the child will enter the system and could become a ward of the state if mommy wants guys rather than her child.
There is such a thing as Grandparents Rights, but it is only related to being able to visit the children. Each state has different laws regarding Grandparents Rights that you can talk to a lawyer about.
There aren’t grandparents rights I’m sorry to say& since the one is 18 nothing you can do. The baby with the sauce on the lips isn’t even cared about. I know how you feel, it’s so hard to know this is going on & you can’t stop it. However if the baby is being hit, you can call CPS.
Tobacco is a drug, giving it to a child is against the law. Keep all the evidence you can. You can’t lose anymore they already don’t let you see the kids. Who cares if they get mad at you for calling CPS. Abuse escalates and escalates and eventually something will happen to those kids that can’t be undone and you’ll wish you made the call
if you continue to call and file reports and complaints then theyll have no choice but to get involved. If cps wont listen call the cops. if they dont listen then pretend yo get in their good graces get picture evidence and cps will have physical evidence to be involved.
My parents did the Tabasco thing on nails and mouth to prevent cussing or biting of the lips or nails. It’s not bad it just gives them a nasty taste . But if you call CPS your grandchildren will be put in the system 
or taken away forever and alot of court cases to follow. That’s prob very traumatic on children
Call child and youth services
Keep calling dfs and call the police for a well child check
If in california the link above could be helpfull start small get visitation, with visitation comes evidence with evidence you have a story and a chance with out evidence you have nothing.
Contact an attorney in your city/state
If you have called ocal CPS and feel they mishandled the case contact their governing office with the state to file a complaint. I also suggest the eighteen year old file charges if assaulted again. Do it while proof is visible. Documentation is also a useful tool for court as it establishes a pattern dtes/time/general description of incident recorded will be helpful. What you are describing is child abuse. This abusive behavior will escalate. Do not hesitate to contate your attorney or the state attorney for information or advice. Good luck!
Keep fighting for your grandkids. Don’t give up until they’re in good hands please.
Keep reporting them to them police, CPS, or your District Attorney. Dont give up on getting that baby out of there!
Keep reporting n ask for supervisor. Document calls, write down names of people u are speaking to. Dont give up. Keep reporting!!!
Go to court and apply for custody you will need poof also get the police involved
Keep calling CPS and document everything on your end.
thaats abuse - your not allowed to use any form of tools last i checked. you can slap your kid with your hand but not a belt - hotsauce contains capascin which can kill in high amounts. stop that idiot hes treating your granddaughter as if he were training a cockatoo
Report repeatedly. Dont stop. Please dont stop.
EVIDENCE
Ask neighbors and teachers if things seem off or if they’ve witnessed abuse. Police can also do wellness checks. Lawyer. EVIDENCE EVIDENCE EVIDENCE
If you love the kid call the social services. Not doing anything is like doing it yourself.
Go file for custody of them and take your evidence with you 
Screenshots make great evidence
Call social services
Unfortunately grandparents have no right’s. Been there. It’s so hard knowing your at their mercy. But calling CPS everytime you hear or see something is the best thing you can do.
Your daughter could be terrified of him. My own mother allowed me to be abused for nine years (9‐18) by her now former second husband. I had no one to advocate for me. Please keep trying. It’s a difficult situation, I know. You could ask her to let you have the baby, but he may just turn on your daughter, if he doesn’t already. Drugs are most likely involved. Keep trying. Please. Your daughter is going to have to want to get out.
Get her out of their, it’s only gonna get worse
Grandparents rights depend on the state. The 18 years old,I would find a way to get in touch with her without mom knowing and provide a safe place to live. She is an adult and can leave at will. I would beg her to attempt to get evidence of younger childs abuse before leaving. Then immediately take that evidence to authorities
Grandparents rights is a thing go for them and after I would try for custody you must prove your abuse case though I believe.
Keep reporting and keep or find any evidence like messages or even pictures of them if they have bruises or the act happening.
I’d immediately contact an attorney and or go down to the police station/city hall and ask to speak to someone who can help u / point u in the right direction. Sounds like uve called cps lots of times and nothing has come of it?? wasnt clear on that. But if cps isnt responding and going to check on the kids when u call then MAKE A POLICE REPORT about your daughter and her boyfriend abusing the kids. Ask them to do a wellness check . Once cops r called to a home where there r minors during an incident, they have to call CPS who by law needs to respond to said home within 24 hrs. I’d start there. That’s the quickest route
Make sure of the abuse before you make a complaint…
Do NOT stop reporting to CPS and the police
Grandparents rights is depending on your state. Here in Texas there are none. My mom tried with my nephew, because his mom let the step dad do things like punishments and just over all worthless. But l, would go up the chain in CPS though. Explain the situation… tell them their mom lets him do this.
maybe the reason the daughter isn’t reporting the abuse is because she is also being abused?
Calling CPS is the best you can do. But unfortunately, likely nothing will change
CPS will listen more if it comes from someone outside of the family. She needs a counselor. Someone who can evaluate her and give a recommendation that courts will actually listen to.
Police reports as many as necessary. Repeated calls to cps Involve anyone else in child’s life. Lawyer ?
I would call CPS every day until they done something! Reach out to anyone you have to in order to protect these children.
CPS should do something. That’s what they’re there for. If you haven’t called them to file a complaint you should…and you should keep on doing it.
You can make an anonymous call to CPS for your you get granddaughter. What he is doing is abuse. Is he threatening their mom? Has he also hit her? That is what happens a lot. You are a good grandmother looking out for your granddaughters. Slapping an 18 year old across the face is called domestic violence. Talk to your older granddaughter. Did he leave marks? Take colored pictures! Get those girls away from him!
Call social services ASAP.
Make a police report now
While you know there are current issues happening call the police for a wellness check
Get a lawyer -File for custody
Go over there slap the shit out of both of them get the kids go home call 911 and let them know what’s going on.
Abuse is abuse, report it!
Depends on the state but I know someone who just got them. Keep filing with cps.
How long have they been together? Just curious so sick of seeing women move these pathetic ass men in and around their kids after weeks of knowing each other and then the children suffering because mommy’s slack ass needed some male validation for whatever reason.
You either go in there and save your granddaughter by taking her out of there and slap the shit out of your daughter or you shoot the F$&@?!. Make a choice!!!
What do you mean CPS will do nothing? Usually, once CPS is called a case is opened. They visit the home and keep the case open for a period of time (30 days usually). It’ll be closed as unfounded, if they find nothing. If they see cause for concern, they will continue with the case for longer. How do you know the child is being hit or hot sauce is being used? If the child is telling you this, have CPS interview the child.
Keep calling cps and call the police to make reports as well. And ask the police what you can do. You can also take her to court for visitation of them and or custody.
One slap on an 18 year olds face wouldnt be considered abuse.
tobacco sauce on a 3 year old lips would be abuse. Call the police for a well child checkup for the 3 year old, tell them about the tobacco juice.
I would call CPS. or even do a wellness check with your local police office. Good luck.
Skip cps they suck and get an attorney to file a motion for emergency custody with family court. Once granted gather all evidence against him you have including pictures, any accounts of your witnessing or firsthand knowledge of the abuse, and see if anyone whos witnessed this abusive behavior will make an offical ststement for the court. I quite literally just went through this with my daughtef and grandkids and have had my grandkids for a year now where they are safe.
So you have witnessed this behavior and reported it but CPS does nothing??? Am I reading your post correctly??? If so. Than keep reporting it every time you witness something abusive. And call the cops immediately! If you are actually seeing the abuse with your own eyes and do t continue to try to get the authorities involved that’s bad on your part. Call call call report report report. Don’t stop.
Cps every day. Call police, file reports. Fight! These kids need a voice!
Please do whatever you can to do to get them out of the situation. If you feel something is wrong it probably is!! My nephew was murdered by my sisters boyfriend and my mom suspected something was wrong and felt that my nephew was being abused by him. She was right but it was to late by the time she decided to do something. Get them out of that house
Call social services over and over and the police
I would call child protection police and they will alert cps also I would take my grandkids and refuse to give them back to your daughter let her phone the police on you before 1 of your grandkids ends up dead
Keep calling cps and maybe have a few friends call CPS too the 18yr old can call cops with that slap thats when cps comes in
Get rid of the boyfriend and slap the stupid out of your daughter! Protect that baby! This should not even be a question.
File with the state, provide photos of abuse, take the kids to a doctor if you can to have it documented.
Alesha Anne my heart hurts
Call CPS and keep calling them back