I want to ask my neighbor to be friends but don't want to come off as weird: Advice?

Hi.—- let’s start this by saying I stay home with my kids full time - spend a lot of time alone with a partner who works multiple jobs - now that I’ve got that out there… This might even be an odd question but… I recently figured out there is a neighbor across the street that is super close to my age. I have no friends close by and would love to add her on FB and ask her if she wants to hangout but I think that might be super weird. I do not personally know this person at all but my partner knows them from school… I just need a friend to come hang after my kids go to bed. I just don’t want to come off weird.

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I want to ask my neighbor to be friends but don't want to come off as weird: Advice?

Just walk over n say hi
I love all my neighbors very good ppl

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If your partner knows them, then have them introduce you two

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Just casually ask her if she wants to go have a drink sometime. Or if she wants to have a glass of wine one night after the kids go to bed.

I think it’s not weird at all! My neighbor isn’t my age she’s much older and she approached me and asked me if I wanted to be friends and she brings me goodies, I walk her dog when she’s not home and overall I’m grateful she had the courage to ask me bc I never would have had the courage to ask her! Go for it I bet it works out for you!

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It’s so hard to make friends as an adult sometimes but I would go with all the above suggestions as they offer some great advice!

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Make her a banana bread and walk it across the street. Strike up a conversation and get a feel of how friendly she is. Invite her over for a cup of coffee.

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I would simply just ask if you see her outside if she wants to come by for a drink or a coffee or bring one over to her if you see her and go from their.

Or just ask for a play date with the kids :wink:

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Just walk over and say hi !
It will be ok

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Go knock on the door and explain that your husband remembers them from school and that you are a SAHM and ask if they want to get coffee or something! You are so not weird! Or you could send her a friend request, I’m sure yall have some friends in common or something…. I did that to a couple people in my town. You gotta put yourself out there or if you husband has a day off soon he could introduce you two

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I’d say walk over but I have bad anxiety hahaha

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Just walk over and talk to her. Make sure you bring over some baked goods as a offer to get the conversation started

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Go for a walk, lunch, invite over for tea coffee sweets

One of my best friendships started out kinda like this in a round a bout way. Now, 15 years later, besties and she even moved into the neighborhood I moved into so we’ve stayed together :laughing::woman_shrugging: go for it! That’s how it was done before the internet! :smile::laughing:

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I’ve used the excuse, “hey can I borrow a cup of sugar? “ then when you return said sugar later you can strike up a conversation.

Send her a note or a card, with your phone number​:woman_shrugging::+1:

Go over and introduce yourself. Tell her how you know who she is. Ask if she’d like to come over for coffee or maybe a drink later on.

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Just wait until you see her outside make some small talk and invite her over. I wouldn’t add her to Facebook if you’ve never spoken to her before

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Pretend your asking a question at first😂

Or add her to Facebook and send her a message saying you live across the street and are looking for some friends

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This is not weird. I moved in to my house and my neighbor is a woman also and is much older than I am, but I asked to be her friend and we hang out most days now , car pull the kids together ect, just do it x

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Reach out and introduce yourself as her neighbor. Invite her over for lunch. Ask her to go for a walk.

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Aww you sound lovely! Just go and knock and invite her for a coffee and a chat x

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You live by her. Lots of neighbors are friends. Never be afraid to make a new friend. You may just find a great one but you will never know unless you take the chance. Good luck :slight_smile:

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Next time you see her outside introduce yourself and say hey you’re welcome to come over anytime you want and hang out. If they have kids then suggest playdates

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That’s really convenient your partner knows them from school! Take your kids on a walk, and just stop over and say hi and that you wanted to introduce yourself, because you know that your husband and her went to school together!

Just say you’re a stay at home mom and would love to get together sometime to just talk and hang out to actually talk to an adult instead of little humans haha.

It’s not weird at all! I would love if someone did this to me!

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Maybe bring over cookies or brownies or something to break ice say u want to introduce yourself and go from ther I’m sure the conversation will just flow.

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If your husband knows them, have him introduce you. I’d suggest doing a cook out and inviting them over. That’ll give you a chance to talk to her without making yourself feel or look awkward. That will also give you a chance to see if the two of you click well together. It doesn’t matter that she’s around your age, she could be a weirdo and y’all could have nothing in common or not click well together. If all goes well, send her a friend request on FB and go from there.

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I had a duck get lost at my neighbors……that’s how we started talking lol. I knew her boyfriend (he’s lived her for years) but didn’t know her. After that they popped over one day, and told we were welcome to come hang out any time the garage doors are open​:joy::woman_shrugging:t3:

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Bake her some cookies or something. That’s a conversation starter.

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Add them on fb pop them a message saying hiya you came up as a suggested friend thought I’d give you an add as you only live over the road just incase. Take care😊

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They’re your neighbor and your partner knows then ask your partner for an introduction and tell them why you would like that introduction. At least start there other ideas you know as a neighbor you could just pop over there and drop off some cookies or something simple and just say you stopped by to say hello and be neighborly or whatever, you don’t need a reason. but I would definitely get the introduction in person before I go finding them on Facebook and adding them as a friend

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If yall both have kids, you could start there

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Just go outside and do super cool things and maybe she will want to be friends with you and you won’t have to ask. Its what I would do. Lol

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Don’t do the Facebook, that would be weird like stalking but get her a gift basket and go introduce yourself. That’s how it was done it back in the day before internet

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Do it!!! It’s not weird at all… People are just getting used to no interaction with other people… I think you will do great and not be weird at all!!! Make that friend girl! We all need more friends!

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Make something and sit and have coffee

Just walk over and introduce yourself and invite her in for a visit.
Worst she will do is say no.

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Make some cookies and bring them over!

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Invite them over for dinner one night and see if you hit it off! If you do then the rest will flow from there.

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Next time you ser her outside, wave and go over. Introduce yourself. Ask her if she wants to do coffee or wine some evening. Tell her that you’re neighbors and you would like to become friends. See how it goes. Just take it easy…

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Just ask if she wants to be friends! It’s harder when we’re adults, but I have found most of us feel this way when making new friends.

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Just go introduce yourself as a neighbor. It’ll break the ice, and bam! Lol i love meeting neighbors. :woman_shrugging:

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Take them a cake or something nice for their garden and start a conversation xx

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I wouldn’t find it weird if a neighbor messaged me and asked to get together. The worst they can say is no.

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I do not mingle with neighbors. It’s just hey and bye for me. Never want to make enemies close to home. Ijs

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Bake her something and bring it over introduce herself

You never know that lady might end up being you’re BFF after all

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Why would you think that trying to make Friends with someone would come off as weird? That’s really sad that you’ve had experiences in life that have made you think you’re weird for trying to make a friend. Ppl are so crappt.

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I just always say as a mother it’s good to know your neighbors and introduce yourself.

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Ask,u never know what can happen

Ask your partner to make an introduction between the two of you, and then go from there.

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Bake her cookies and go say hi

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bake some cookies wrap it up in some cute bags or container and take it over and introduce yourself… put your number on a tag on the bag/container. Everyone needs a friend😘

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Why don’t you get yer husband to introduce you to them ?

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Ask your husband to introduce you

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Just ask. They might be feeling the same way you are :blush:

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I’m always way too awkward and self conscious to do it but if someone did it to me id be open to it lol

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Learn how to barbecue and make a refreshing beverage, its kinda sink or swim, either they’re receptive or they arent

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I would just walk over during the day to introduce yourself and see how the vibes are! Go from there

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Take over some baked good, (maybe a gluten free option,ask ur spouse if that is needed) introduce yourself and be neighborly. Just say you baked too much and thought you would share. Then invite her to take a walk with you all or come over and have a drink while kids are in pool or napping or for coffee. It is super hard to put yourself out there but generally people react with kindness if you extend it 1st!

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Tell her you would like to get to know her neighbors a bit. Invite her over for a coffee

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I get this… it is so hard to make friends as an adult or for me it is. My anxiety is my biggest issue but if you get a drink or 2 in me I will be the center of the party every time. Sometimes I just have to make myself say hi to someone and then I think all day about the interaction and if I seemed weird :woman_shrugging:

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From experience be careful befriending neighbors. If it goes bad u have to live next to them. I ended up having to get a restraining order on a crazy girl that lived next door to me. She became obsessed broke into my home while I was in the shower was all smelling ym pillows ad stuff on camera. She stole my dog too bc I quit talking to her . The judge ordered her to move. She seemed very Normal to begin w the crazy came out after ab 6 months. Maybe try a group for sahms. Since then I don’t make friends w neighbors . I’m nice and say hello but that’s it.

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This is so funny. My neighbor has a daughter that appears to be the same age as mine and I always want to ask him if we can be friends but I feel like a freak :joy:

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Hopefully, it works out. Personally, I hate when neighbors try to be friends. I made that mistake once and she thought she could just come on over any time my car was home. And she literally could not take a hint. She would just sit there while I’m cooking or cleaning or trying to have dinner with my family. If you do it, I guess I’m just saying, set your boundaries from the beginning.

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Have your partner introduce you two and maybe invite over for some refreshments and a movie or a chat while your kids sleep. Hopefully it goes well

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Take it slow. I had a bad experience with a neighbor . She pretty much moved into my house.

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Go for it! Could be the best thing for you both. She may need someone too.

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Just knock on her door and talk with your neighbor.

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Invite her over for a drink and chat

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Just invite her for over for coffee be like hey I know your my husband’s friends from school would you like to come for coffee sometime

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All you do is take a care basket over and say “let me know if you ever need anything. I’m always home. If you want to come over and have dinner or something sometime that would be great.”

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Bake some cookies, and introduce yourself. I have never been good at bonding but found everyone loves food good luck

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I moved 3 years ago and did this. I suggest writing your name, number and the house your at and dropping by and knock and say hello and tell them why you’re leaving your number. That way it’s on them. If not home, write PLAY date neighbor on the note too :slightly_smiling_face: gl

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Bite the bullet who knows she could need you too!:slight_smile: … it can only go one of two ways if she don’t wanna no loss on your part but if she does …gain for both of you x

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Just go introduce yourself… you said your partner knows them from school so open with that greeting. If your partner knows them why not introduce you…

She’s probably thinking the same things. Walk over and introduce yourself. In today’s world, being honest and upfront is refreshing. 21 years ago I had a girl knock on my door and introduce herself, she walked past my house every day and would stop to listen to me sing while cleaning my house and decided she had to be friends with me :joy: we hung out most days for years until I left town, lost my phone and lost contact with most of my friends :broken_heart:. When I moved into my new place (18 years ago) the neighborhood across the street walked over with arms full of different alcohols to introduce herself and have a drink with me :joy: I’ll never forget either of those experiences. Just be yourself, you have nothing to lose and could gain an amazing friendship :heart:

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So, invite her over. Ask her if she wants to have drinks after ur kids go to bed. It’s not weird at all

Try going for a walk, see if she’s outside and wave and smile. Or when u see her outside wave at her. Maybe walk over when u know she’s home and invite her to get lunch or see if she wants to have a drink

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Ask to borrow some sugar !

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You need to make the first move. The worse that can happen is that she says “no thanks” nothing ventured nothing gained… go for it!

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My neighbor and I became the best of friends. Just add her girl.

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Finding friends as an adult is super difficult. If someone approached me with baked goods I would love that and invite them in for a coffee. I really hope this works out for you, good luck.

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just pop over and say hello I’m just making coffee would you like to join me?

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It’s so hard to make friends as an adult sahm. Go introduce yourself! Ask if she wants to go grab a coffee! Or have a glass of wine after the kids go to bed! Us Mama’s got to stick together!

Do it! She’ll probably be flattered!

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My neighbor was so scared to ask me to be friends that by the time we both grew balls and become very close her and her family ended up moving I befriended her sister who still lives in town. We regret not getting to know each other sooner. She’s my best female friend. So bite the bullet and go over there and introduce yourself

Just start a conversation. Be neighborly. After a while I’ve became friends with ours.

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If she has kiddies she can always bring the baby monitor with her. My neighbors and Inused to do that. We always had 1 or 2 monitors to share with whoever was going to the other ones house. We would place it in the hall between the kiddies bedrooms, picked up every sound. Enjoy+

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It’s not at all weird! Do it :blush:

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