Currently homeschooling 2 children whilst studying at university full-time myself and working part time. Today I’ve been called lazy as I left my children’s plates from lunch in the living room until 3 pm; I’ve literally not stopped either supporting my children with their work or doing my own studies. My husband is currently working from home, but as his wage pays the mortgage, I get very little support from him during the day, as it wastes his time. Was I in the wrong, forgetting the plates were on a table in the living room?
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I’d put them on his pillow fuck him
He’s being a jerk. You are handling a lot.
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No you were not! We all forget shit! 
I think there are more important things to worry about
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Tell him u got 2 hands pick them up yourself…
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Tell people to get a grip. Two plates‼️
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Not at all. But depending on the ages of your kids I would start making it their responsibility to clean up after themselves. It will take a little bit off of your plate. No pun intended
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Hell no. He has 2 hands he needs to use them and put 2 plates in the damn sink. Just because he pays the mortgage doesn’t mean you’re the only one who can pick up after the kids.
Wrong??? I wish women would have more respect for themselves. You are not wrong he is the lazy ass
He would hate to see my house 
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He can go suck a dick honestly. Wtf is with men these days?
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The thing about it is when someone points a finger at you there’s 3 pointing back at them…youre not lazy at all but maybe he is 
i said what i said…
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Ugh during this pandemic for most people leaving dishes out a few hours is the least of our worries. I have told people if certain things bother them their two choices are to: 1.) Feel free to: clean, do laundry etc. 2.) Keep it to yourself!
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Um your kids can take there own plates to the kitchen and your husband if he saw them is just as capable of picking them up and carrying them to the sink…
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If your kids are old enough for school they’re old enough to clean up their own plates
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Hey, shit happens, you’re not in the wrong. He was just being a dickhead. 
Just because he covers the mortgage doesn’t mean you have to be the teacher, provider, student, cleaner and arse wiper
Don’t cook for him. Don’t do his laundry. Do not do shit for him.
He wants lazy? He can do it his damn self.
You are doing just as much, if not more then he is. 2 kids, house work & school? That’s work.
Your husband is an ass… should’ve thrown the plates at him
Tell him to bend his back and pick them up.
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No you’re not in the wrong ! It’s called being superwoman w/ all you’ve got going on. Tell him it wouldn’t kill him to pick up the damn plates himself !
He would receive a plate to each side of his head.
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Most days my children’s bowls from breakfast are still on the table when I take lunch in, and I swap them. I’m busy all day running around after children, tidying up behind them, keeping them safe, teaching them (1 baby, 1 toddler, 1 4 year old) 2 bowls being on the table for a few hours doesn’t hurt anyone. And plates being left on your table doesn’t hurt, if he doesn’t like it tell him to move them, your not his slave you are his wife, demand some respect! His money pays the bills? You lost the chance to earn enough to pay all the bills when you had his children and needed to be there more for them, he helps make the mess he can help clean it, its his house too!!
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If the plates bother him that much why doesn’t he just take them to the sink… or is he too lazy ? 
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You are allowed to forget to do some things at times
Don’t allow him to bully you
Talk to him
Tell him being called lazy over sthg so small is unfair and you would appreciate if he never does that again
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Teach your kids to take their own dishes to the kitchen after meal…its just that simple!..and the hubby needs to get a grip and help out perhaps he is the lazy one…
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He’s too lazy … would’ve been easier for him to put them in the sink and help out instead of complain
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He need to get over himself.
1st, how old are your kids? And 2nd should of told your hubby how come he didn’t help pick them up! Ughh… I never let any man put me down that’s awful. You need to tell him how it’s done 
I would tell him ,if you wants the plates moved-do it yourself
No teach your kids to pick up after themselves
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If your kids are old enough to be in school they are old enough to take their plate to the kitchen. But it’s not lazy and you know it so I don’t understand the question. By time he was done calling you lazy he could’ve just grabbed the plates
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No!!! Your going your best!
If you kids are primary school age or older get them to bring their plates to the kitchen 
No…he should move them and wash them or keep his mouth shut.
Ask him why does he wanna fight you over stupid stuff?
Can they not take there own plates out? My girls scrape there scraps rinse and stack them. Mum is the name not Maid lol
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Money does not get you out of housework, except in the sole example of hiring a maid.
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He’s an entitled jerk.
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Next time leave the plates there till the next day … if he doesn’t like it then he can pick them up.
You are not a maid. They can clean up after themselves. All of them. And if you have to ask yourself if you were wrong for forgetting, maybe you need to take some personal boundary setting sessions with a therapist. Whomever called you lazy, throw the plate next time lol
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If he wants a maid his wage can pay for that on top of the mortgage
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Tell him he could help out!
I would say f you and continue doing what you do
Sounds of it you do alot
No tell him to get off his butt and carry the plates to the kitchen… or tell your kids to carry their plates to the kitchen… if their old enough to be in school they are old enough to do something as simple as that.
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Wait what that’s literally laughable… I’m a petty Betty but I would show him what lazy actually is 
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Whenever I’m not able to get to cleaning up the house I am usually apologetic to my husband, I want him to come home and enjoy our Family and not see a sink full of dishes and his response is always the same: nobody is saying ANYTHING to me about how I keep my house.
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And he needs to be more helpful so what if he make more money
Tell him to kiss ur ass n pick up the plates him self
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Who cares. Leaving a dish isn’t lazy, not making your kids something to eat is. Tell him to grow up n if he noticed before you then he’s lazy for not picking them up.
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Heck! My husband does that while I pick up constantly even while working, carrying an ipad, w/headset & in meeting, zooming into my sons virtual school. That’s not lazy, its called life! And your husband can help while he’s hm too.
Sounds like someone needs to focus more on their job or they need to lift a finger to help
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Any child over the age of 4 is easily capable of cleaning up their own plates. I get his frustration and your exhaustion, but this something you need to put on your kids.
My 3 year old is not a fan of putting his plate in the kitchen, but oh well. Teach them!
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I’m not married and this is why, women are not slaves. Lots of males still think a woman has to attend to three plates ASAP when the problem could have been solved by him cleaning 3 plates if it upset him LoL
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Fuck if thats all he has to complain about your doing a top job! Stuff the plates
You were not in the wrong. If he has time to complain to you about it (and it’s bothering him that much) he has time to walk them to the kitchen…
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As my momma would have said “are his arms broke??” He’s not being a team player and honestly sounds like he’s an asshole tbh
It’s sad that you have to even ask this question! Also, why aren’t your kids putting their own plates in the sink? My 3 year old does!
Lol literally wouldn’t even let it phase me.
How old are your kids? If they’re old enough for school. They’re old enough to take the plate to the kitchen.
If he wants plates off the table at a certain time then he can teach the kids to do it themselves.
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Learn how to talk back 
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Why didn’t your kids clear their own plates? Tell tbat dude to go fuck off and you work just as hard as he does.
Wow ! I’d just have looked at him and been like yup !sure am lazy .The next time he wants to do some bedroom activities I’d look at him seriously and say I’m lazy and walk away.
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He sounds like a jerk. He could have just as easily moved the plates. And depending on the kids ages they should be doing it themselves. Just because he pays the bills doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have to help with the children. I will never understand the men that don’t help with their children or the women who stay with said men. He should be helping with housework, the kids and giving you breaks. Being a stay at home mom is a 24/7 job. I bet he gets breaks. I wouldn’t tolerate this disrespect and I really hope the children aren’t witnessing it.
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Wow 
I would be pissed personally and said if it bothers you so much you pick them up. I am busy too and you can help with your kids as well. If you see something amiss just go put it away or clean it.
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What kind of a question is this!?
In the time it took that man-child to bitch at you about the plates, he could have taken care of them!
Me currently looking at the dirty crockpot still in the sink from last night. We don’t “designate” chores. Everyone helps out. We both work, take care of the kid, and our pup just had major surgery. Right now it’s all hands on deck. I’m also petty enough if anyone complains to me about plates not being done, I’ll throw them all out. Have fun eating with no plates. 
help out or hush!
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They are dishes! Who cares! They will get cleaned and put away eventually. If they don’t like it, then I guess they should stop coming over. There is nothing wrong with having dishes out!
Marriage is a partnership… We both work. He makes 4 times as much as me. He gets up earlier than me but we split the work at home. He cooks, I do dishes. I cook he does dishes. If Im working an evening he does both. If he is out I do both.
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I’d have thrown then at him lmao
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I woulda thrown the damn plates right at him. Ok, probably not, but a few choice words would have been said. Sounds like he’s the lazy one…and petty, and maybe even narcissistic. My husband would see my wrath if he tried this with me.
Fu** him! That is what i would tell him too
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Sorry but if that was my house then those plates would make a very loud noise as they smashed over his head… 2 plates… wtf he must be joking that’s hardly a reason to moan. He needs a good bloody reality check and you need to get the foot down and stop allowing his crap xxx
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Yeah I woulda spit on him. If those words ever came out my husbands mouth. It’ll be like Rocky in the joint. In the 2 second breath it took him to say that, he could have simply walked the plates in the kitchen.
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mine would know better than to say that to me Lazy? He would see lazy
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I wouldve said “oh I’m sorry you’re right how lazy of me” and all 3 plates would go in his lap.
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Those plates would have been flying at my mans head 
or idk, how about he pick them up himself if he’s that worried about them? 
my dude is OCD as hell so I don’t have to worry about it because he usually does it anyways
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Then he can get up and put them in the sink if it bothers him so much 
He needs to get over himself
Hes wrong. I’m stay at home mom who has 2 kids doing eLearning. I injured myself over the weekend and have been doing the bare minimum of housework he deep cleaned the house last Sunday and will again this Sunday. Being home during the shut down showed him how much I actually do while he’s gone
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You should show him what lazy is starting right now…
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Whether his wages pay the mortgage or not. You are a team. My husband works 13 hour days, yet he helps with things around the house. It’s a bunch of crap if hes being that way. We are mothers, constantly taking care of everyone else first. The kids were fed, why does it matter that the plates sat??? Hes just being a turd. You weren’t in the wrong AT ALL nor are you lazy.
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I would have thrown the bloody plates at him , if he is at home why couldn’t he just pick them up and take them to the kitchen they are his kids too , sorry just because his wage pays the mortgage doesn’t mean he has the right to speak or treat u that way
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Lazy??? What is the big deal? Tell him he could pick those plates up…is HE LAZY!!!
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I feel this is a very abusive marriage if this type of question is seriously being asked…
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Thank God he’s not my husband than cause I’m bad about forgetting plates between three kids and everything
They are just dishes if you are busy they can wait if so.eone says something tell them they could help
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Are his arms and hands broken? Could he not take 1 minute of his time to help out his wife by dripping the plates off? Screw that! No, in answer to your question you are not lazy. You’re an overwhelmed Mom. That’s ok. Keep doing what you’re doing. They’ll remember mom being there to support them, they won’t remember mom forgot to clean the house one day.
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I would of tossed plates at him
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Your husband is disrespectful and needs a reality check. “You gon’ learn today!”
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It’s not about a few plates…Sounds like a symptom of a much larger problem. The Husband is not very supportive of you and not very involved in teaching the children. Kinda selfish, been there done that. Time for counseling or maybe get out?
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no not at all mama were mamas not maids …
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Ummmm excuse me, As a College educated individual, I would say the PARENT that walked past the plates to complain about the plates to the PARENT that fed HIS KIDS lunch needs to STOP BEING LAZY!
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No your not wrong, he could of carried the
Plates in, it shouldn’t matter who makes more money, your supposed to be a team , also if your kids are old enough to be in school why are they not carrying their own plates out to the kitchen, my granddaughters eat at my house everyday they are 6 & 7 and they have been taking their own plates out to the kitchen( or from table to the sink) since they have been 4& 5.
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if your kids are eating in the living room, where, personally they should be eaten at the table, but that is your choice, They can put their dishes in the kitchen sink/dishwasher unless they are under 4, which I doubt, But again, your choice
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Wow! Tell him to get them and wash them if it botherya him that bad. My boyfriend works full time with overtime and still helps when I need it. He sees a hot mess whem he comes home. Toys all over, diahes in the sink, me lookong like Nanny McFee half the time because I don’t have any time to myself He knows how important it is to help when I can’t do it all. Get you a man that cares about your well being and mental. You’re only one person. It takes teamwork to run a household.
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You should have said, "you saw the plates too and didn’t take care of them so guess we are both lazy ".
But honestly, he’s wrong. Marriage and raising kids is teamwork. Clearly, he doesn’t value you like he should.
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“Guess if I’m such a lazy @$$ that means you’re gonna be picking them up then, right?”
I’llShowYouLazy
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Girrrrrrrrl, I’m in school, work and have kids with special needs sometimes lunch plates last till breakfast… and we eat takeout …my husband never complains, actually thanks me for all I do… but he doesn’t pick them up tho lol
We have to do what we have to do and sometimes cleaning waits, doesn’t make you lazy at all! It’s not like you had no intention of ever cleaning it up !
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