He still owes unless that stay is different
Talk to a lawyerâŚnot Facebook. Changes from jurisdiction to jurisdiction
He has to find a way to pay.
Let the court decideâŚ
I would go to your CS case manager & talk to her ASAP! If he stops paying, then yes they will come after him. You may even be allowed to take it in front of a judge. Keep any & all text or email communications & write down verbal conversations that you have with him. The judge may order him to keep working in order to pay. If not, heâs looking at his license being suspended 30days after he is late paying. In fact, they might order him to pay the same amount. He can only ask for a change every 2 years & him quitting is voluntary so they might not allow the change.
What a douche! He doesnât care what you go through honey, donât waste your time explaining. Instead, start taking action. He thinks once your son turns 18 that cs stops. Nope nope nope! He will have to pay all arrears left until the balance is zero. Good luck honey, Iâm sorry.
So many people are saying âhe has a right to get and educationâ yes he does, but also a financial obligation to his child - I dropped out of college at 19 when I had my oldest and spent my 20s having 2 more kids and being with their father and got divorced at 30 and went back to school at 32 almost 33 - Iâm 35 and still finishing that degree - I have my kids 90% of the time, work FT, and take 2 classes at a time
I didnât get to just quit my job to get a degree bc I have rent to pay and food to put in the fridge for my children - parents donât get to stop taking care of their children to better their own lives; you do both simultaneously OR one after the other when youâre no longer obligated to feed and clothe them
If this manâs mother is taking over his bills to support his dream of education then his child support should be one of them and if she canât/wonât pay it he needs to figure it out. Maybe work PT while in school just to have enough to fulfill his financial responsibilities
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NC mom here 
He will be super surprised when he doesnât pay for 3 months or so and the judge tells him to pay the full amount in 2 weeks or go to jail for 60 days.
Also, if he doesnât show up with any money he is guaranteed lockup.
He deserves to better himself but should still figure a way to pay some if not all of his cs. Some of yâall just sound sad as hell, no wonder you all are in the situations you are.
Idk how much more money is us trying to get but to make better than 33 dollars an hour he might have to go to school 10 years lol
I canât stand a dead beat parent.
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for starters. dont relynon child support to raise or âhelpâ raise/take care of your child. its really none of your concern what happensâŚits hisnlifem hell have to deal with the consequences
Whatâs child support? Be thankful youâve got all you have all these years! $125,000 areas and still not in jail!
Heâll still need to pay child support. How much is up to the court.
They wonât arrest him. Got one in arrears for 60k.
If he quits then u wont get child support
Why bring up his parents?? Why bring up their finances??
If heâs not seeing his son then require visits. It seems like youâre just worried about extra money and not your kids well being. The grandparents have NOTHING to do with this and itâs not their responsibility to raise yalls child or help with him financially
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I canât believe how stupid some of you women are⌠
Who gives a shit what he looks like in court? Itâll look exactly like it is. Heâs trash now but wants to be certified trash after school.
The amount will go to the lowest amount .depends on the state you are in.
My younger two childrenâs father owes 23,000.00 including rears, maybe more now, he had a good job this past year and lost it, he is a recovering addict, and Iâm on disability and yes my kids are of age but my youngest is still in school, but long story short, I make due with what I got and let the courts catch up to him anymore. Ultimately you do what you feel you need to do.
Long and short of it is that child support will hold him to his highest potential income. This means if he goes to school and comes out making lessâŚhe canât reduce child support for an elective paycut.
In NYS, youâre still on the hook! If you quit your job, the Magistrate bases the child support off of what you could potentially earn! In most cases, anyway. Your order will stay in effect until a downward modification is filed by himâŚbut it may not be approved. He will rack up arrears and lose his license eventually. Some states donât just strip you of your driverâs license, they take any license you hold! Hunting, for example.
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Itâs a court ordered amount. To lower it hell have to petition the court and plead his caseâŚbut they dont have much pity usually. Hell most likely just rack up a debt
But that was after like 18 years
If he didnât pay it even though it was in the state of Illinois Iowa was going to take his drivers license
That shit racks that my dad owes 90,000
My brother lost his job because of something he did wrong, he found another job for less pay and his child support was đđđ lowered. The judge took into account why the support request to change and my brother had to pay the same amount. If your ex has a good paying job and leaves by his choice the judge might not adjust the amount in his favor. Good luck
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Get it on text and save proof that he is voluntarily quitting his job so he canât lie and say he got fired. If they know he did this volunteerily and intended on not paying the judge will prob keep it at the same amount 
what a moron
I could only find temp jobs after I moved. Everyone in the area I work in wants a degree. My ex lost it over me going back to school. This will benefit everyone in the long run in my situation. I have under 2 years left as I am doing accelerated courses. I still pay child support because those kids are also my responsibility.
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Cut your losses and step it up I have 3 kids live in NY where cost of living is double NC. And havenât received a penny in child support in 20 years not to mention its listed with the courts and the father has never gotten any jail time for lack of payments
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Hereâs my thought. It is fantastic he wants to go to school and better himself. Id say to him that is wonderful and it is a good model for his son BUT⌠if he feels he canât support his kiddo financially and do school at the same time then he should wait the extra what 4yrs and then go back to school. Kiddo reaches 18 and his financial duties stop. If he waits he teaches his son to be responsible for your obligations. He made a choice to create life with his wife. That comes with it duties and sacrifices. 4 more yrs isnt going to matter. School will always be there. His duty is to his kid and then to himself. Thatâs the way it is. Seeking improvement is wonderful dad⌠do it in 4yrs with blessings but for now support your child
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If the parent is active in the childâs life why child support.? Why canât he help with what you need for the child? Who gives him money if the child is with him?
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Is there a child support enforcement program in NC? here in va you can sign upâŚand the second he gets a job theyâll start garnishing his paycheck. He may still work but want YOU to believe heâs only attending school.
I actually just read that his child support obligations would be like the amount you would receive if he were working a minimum wage job full time. Hes still very much responsible for child support
He doesnât get to choose to not pay .
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How it will look is you wonât be getting any money until heâs working again. At that time he will be forced to make back payments.
Make arrangements and report him when it reacts $10,000
Starting to think some of you women canât read. He ABANDONED his child at 3, he SHOULD have to pay. Especially since heâs an absent parent from what it sounds like. Sheesh.
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The women on here just shock me. Apparently never seen how a real dad handles business. I know plenty of fathers who are in school but still work and take care of their kids because thatâs their RESPONSIBILITY!!! If you wanna go to school without needing a job to support your child then you should of thought of that before you have children. Even when a mom is in school we still have to work to take care of the child. We donât get to just not take care of the child because we are in school
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It doesnât matter if he goes to school or not he still has to pay child support day in and day out till the child is 18 years of age donât let any of these idiots b******* you your child needs to eat every day for the rest of his life it doesnât matter if the x is working or not he still has to pay and if women say he donât you women are idiots that child comes before anybody.
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IF you were both still together and he said he wanted to go back to school to better his career path and quit work, would you still feel the same way? Or would you support him in his choices for the better good? I personally donât see the problem looking at the bigger picture but then I choose to go back to university to get my law degree once having all my children.
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All he has to do is get a lawyer to inform the courts of his plan to go back to school, they may lower his payments to match the amount he will be living off of, untill he is done classes and finds a job.
And why are you not working? Your child is 13 and old enough to be home for a bit if you get a job.
Just reread the part stating you are working at the moment, but earlier in the post you stated you wont be working either. Either you are or your not.
Iâd be grateful for having received 9 years of child support. Heâll still owe you, but the court doesnât do anything about it. You learn to not rely on money from him and treat your baby to something special when a payment does come through.
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Heâll go back to court and then lower it to equate minimum wage at 38 hours a week. No you will not get as much as youâve been getting get over it. Sounds like youâre just upset about the money
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So what your saying is you donât think he should better himself. I worked in automotive factory and it was brutal on the body. From what Iâm reading how often he seen your son wasnât an issue while you were getting money itâs become an issue because you donât know how itâs going to affect your money. And whatâs his mum have to do with this. If she chooses to support her son thatâs none of your concern. Cross bridges as they come. Donât start trouble where there is none
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T g eyll vase his child support on his highest potential so it probably wonât even change and yeah, he will go to jail.
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In Australia it is based on income, if they pay child support and quit their job and have no income they are no longer required to pay
He will just owe it later. Child support does not go away. He will always owe it.
He will go to jail if he doesnât pay. Just keep on the courts they will arrest him or suspend his dl, whatever your state does for non child support.
He still has to pay child support. Tell him your gonna speak to his mother about his ( mamaâs boy) responsibility to his son and that you will go back to court. So either he can keep paying or if his mother has enough money to wipe his ass she can pay the support.
I believe if he voluntarily leaves his position heâs still responsible for the full amount. He didnât lose the the job, he chose to leave.
Child support is income based. If he has no income his payments will be a lot lower. Itâs not and has never been a set amount. Itâs based off of what he makes versus his bills. The courts donât make the man become homeless so the child can have extra money. All he has to do is notify the courts he has a change of income. Itâs really easy and he wonât be punished. I think you need to quit relying on it. If he wants to better himself you should support it. He is your childâs father not just a paycheck. At least he is trying to do the right thing and he is being open and honest about it with you. Technically he doesnât even have to tell you at all. He doesnât need your permission and there isnât anything you can do to stop him. The court isnât going to say donât better yourself⌠and they wonât throw him in jail. They will just ask him about his income and give him a new payment to pay each month. You sound like your being petty.
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Give the man his son. He needs a father now, and start paying him child support.
Be glad you ever got anything? I just ârelievedâ close to 9k so my sonâs dad doesnât go to jail, because he loves his son & our son loves him very much. I would much rather them have a stable relationship than a check each month, any day! 