He won’t be thrown in jail. The courts will modify CS to go along with being in school. He has every right to change his career or go to school to better himself. Him doing that has nothing to do with you. Child support will be lowered and any arrears dealt with. I would just tell him to ensure he updates it with the courts
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All he has to do is file to have support recalculated based on him not having an income. The mandated child support will be reduced. He will still have to pay but it will be a miniscule amount unfortunately. If he doesn’t file then he would still be required to pay same amount.
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He can file a modification if he wants to and pay bare minimum. And hopefully he will pay something
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Okay, so he also didn’t have to give you a heads up that he’s quitting his job to go to school. I mean, that counts for something. Basically giving you a heads up. Secondly, in my own experie ce, he probably won’t go to jail but will owe a whole slew of back child support. So start making plans now. At least the extra money didn’t just stop and you had to wonder why.
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Why does he have to quit his job he can do online classes just like every other single parent oh but this way he can weasel out just like he weasels out of being a dad.
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Why are y’all jumping her? Come on now we all know plenty of single parents that work full-time and go to school full-time. It can be done. And yes he owes the child support for his child and if you are a single Mom it’s tough because most of us wasn’t born with a silver spoon in our mouths so every little bit helps. Geesh judge much!
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Honestly… you should have this post taken down. That’s the first thing.
Second thing is… stop being so dependent on someone else’s money.
Do know how many mothers don’t see a penny from the kids’ dad? 
You’re really acting like he won’t have to be responsible for child support just because he’s going to school. 
Is the amount going to be lowered? Yup. But you’re gonna have to just deal with that. Sit down and be grateful that you’ve gotten paid for so many years. Straight up.
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Hopefully he files for modification and gets his cs adjusted. It is in the childs best interest to work with him while he tried to better himself. I had cs held when he was unable to pay anything and when he was I had it based on minimum wage.
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It is so sad to read some of these comments…I don’t care man or woman …if they are separated and the child resides with one and doesn’t see or only visit then they damn sure should help with the expenses of there child. Yes every situation is different but seriously what gives a man or a woman the right to act like it’s all about the money cuz let me tell you as a single mother who makes good money and works my ass off…he is still going to help raise our child. He maybe gets her once a month if she is lucky enough. Of course I’m always the bitch when I bring up child support but he doesn’t have to pay for a babysitter to go to work, he doesn’t lose days of work when she is sick, he doesnt have to provide food or clothing or and other things that she need child support is meant to help the parent who takes care of the child full time. It’s also there to help maintain the same style of life that the child is accustom to. So in this situation he has the right to go back to school and not pay…what if she wants to go back to school…she can’t quit work and just drop her responsibility. There are way to do it and still provide and its both parents responsibility…So maybe before you start tearing apart a parent and saying it’s all about money…maybe find some compassion cuz this is about a child. No matter wither it’s the mom or the dad they should be helping to provide for there child.
Maybe it’s Just Me… But Has anyone Else Ever Noticed That The Women/Mother’s Who actually Get Child Support From Their Children’s Father(s) are The Ones Who Bitch & Complain The Most?
Yet The Women/Mother’s Who Haven’t Ever Got a Single Dime From Their Kids Dad(s) Barely (if ever at all) Say anything at all about it?
& To Say, “after Physically Leaving His Son at ago 3, & Now Financially abandoning Him” is Just UGLY. He Didn’t “Physically Leave” His Son, He Left YOU! (& i Can See Why) & You’re Just Bitter.
i Bet Your Hateful ass Says all This Shit in Front of Your Son, Too Huh? “Well Son, Your Dad is Financially abandoning You! Just Like He Did When You Were 3.”
Seriously, This Whole Post is Disgusting. Some Women are So ungrateful For Having Ex’s That actually Pay CS. While Those Women Whine & Cry about How Hard They Have it, There’s Mother’s Who are “Full Time Parents, Employees, Who Balance Every Day Life, School, Extracurricular activities, & added Expenses” Who Do it With absolutely NO Help From The Fathers.
Look. All these woman saying she needs to do better and shouldnt need support. She clearly stated that man left, and legally parents are obligated to support their child one way or another whether they choose to be around or not and she is the parent going above and beyond for their kid, he can have support recaluculated. Idk about there. But here in Michigan if he voluntarily quits it does not mean he has to pay less bc he chose that
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He won’t go to jail. People go back to school all the time. They will lower his child support and that’s about it. May suck but nothing you can do about it. Get used to the lower payment now and be grateful you’ll still get one. In about 4 years it would stop altogether anyways. 
If his mother gives him an allowance or not the courts won’t count that. He’s likely to have his child support reduced while in school. Maybe he will pay you from savings he has or a financial aid refund he may receive after his tuition is paid. If he paid you child support off his 33 a hour paycheck…you should have something saved for a rainy day.
Do you realize how many mothers never receive one dime for their children? And do it all on their own?
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FOC can and does imply support. What can he earn? Cant quit your job and avoid paying child support
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I never understood why parents who abandoned their children and family are never turned in for it. It is against the law. He can do jail time for it. TURN HIS SORRY ASS IN! What will it take to turn him in. Now he is telling you he chooses not to support you and you STILL need advice on what to do. SMH.
Call your lawyer and the police department and file a charge of abandonment. TODAY!
When he loses his drivers license and then goes to jail he’ll see he has to pay. It’s great he wants to better himself but he’ll find out when he goes to court he’ll still have to pay. I pray he gets a judge that makes him step up to the plate . Best of luck to you
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Many parents go to school and work he can do both and support his son
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Looks like he’s preparing to request a reduction. If his pay is reduced the Order will be as well.
Also, the Courts will probably look at it positively that he is bettering himself with School.
I say let him go to school hes being a good rolemodel for your child by showing him that going to school can better your life.
My ex husband doesnt pay child support. He helps me when I need it and he pays for her while shes there.
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Wow !! Seems like he wants to better himself and your giving him BS … obviously if he betters himself your son will benefit too
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It will never end with parents like you two it’s more about payback this is not what’s best for the child caught in this mess
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All these women defending him. Are you allowed to stop financially supporting your kids that you’re raising just because you decide to go to school? Probably not. So why does he? It’s amazing to me how easy some of you women allow men to get off. I guess you got yourself pregnant.
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U want him to not try an better his life? Going to school and bettering himself is wats good for yalls child. Y u so against it? Like dont u have a job or are u just using cs for everything? I get its hard being a single parent and all but damn let that man go to school so he can get an even bigger job with bigger pay. Hes trying to better himself for him and his child and u shouldnt stand in his way. Let that man go to school damn. Its not that big of a deal
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Lol every year they will take his taxes to cover back payment and stimulus checks . But he will still owe but they will adjust it down to fit his current income which being zero will probably be only like 50$ a month or something … and yes I’m dead serious
Wow he’s a douchbag. A real man wouldn’t do that. A real man would still pay his child support regardless. So now he’s turning your lives upside-down because he doesn’t want to help pay for the child. It’s absolutely awful that he’s placing it all on you now. It’s not right.
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But yet if I were to go to school and don’t financially support my children I would be a bad mom though and need to get a job right ?? 
Some of you women in here are probably the type of people that thought Chris watts was innocent with the way y’all are talking .
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I raise kids on my own without child support. It’s shit but I manage and go to school. All his going to school might do is lower it. He’s still going to have to pay something and if he doesn’t, it’ll just build up until they decide to take his license or put a warrant out for arrest. 
Hes not going to get out of paying child support even if he thinks he can.
I think u sound greedy right now
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What is wrong with all these women saying “you are lucky he pays for child support”??? IT IS HIS RESPONSIBILITY ,HE MADE THAT CHILD WITH HER AND THE LEAST HE CAN DO IS TO GIVE HER CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD HE ABANDONED WHEN THAT BOY WAS YOUNGER!!! he is choosing to go to school and not pay child support, he wasn’t fired or he isnt unemployed… he is leaving his work by choice and I hope that if they do go to court he receives a bad treatment from the judge and makes him pay something atleast , he cannot think about himself only anymore when he already has a child. She is already a Rockstar for doing things on her own without that man!! Money is not everything but if that’s the only thing he is good at since he is clearly not a good father ,then she should make him pay until the child is 18!
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I don’t understand your lack of common sense when your ex is trying to better himself get a better job yes he left and yes he should support but as a women who’s been a single mom for about 11 yrs you should already know how to budget you money and where to save and what to put in hold stop relying on him to pay for the majority of things you being limited is a excuse for wanting him not to thrive keep in mind he didn’t have to tell you he was going to school he could have just went to the court and said listen this is my plain can I have a readjustment and bam that’s it so be happy he’s keeping you in the loop and it sounds like he’s trying to do what right you should be so lucky not everyone has that …. Oh and a lot of people will Probably disagree but there are programs out there that can help you if you have lack of food go get snap benefits go to food pantries look for programs in a community that can help you know with the new shoes new clothes so we doing about yourself you put the work and you know there’s other programs are there for help and it’s not a bad thing when you need help or to ask for help
I can tell you exactly what will happen. He will still owe you every penny. Save all the communication where he states he is going to quit his job.
I live in NC and it finally caught up with my ex. They will not reduce his child support. They may give him a temp reduction but he will still owe it.
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I dont see why he cant go to school to better himself. Maybe he wants to educate himself so he can get a better paid job?
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Child support has already been set and you don’t get to just quit a job and think your off the hook. Doesn’t work that way. He will still be held accountable for same price until case is reviewed and reset if judge feels it was good/bad decision. He doesn’t pay it, he goes to jail. I suggest if mommy is so willing to help, she pays his support to keep her baby out of jail…lol
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Tbh, you sound petty. Your child who is 13 should be able to see that his dad is bettering his life and doing something he wants to do. Getting an education isn’t a bad thing and you are on here tearing him down. You shouldn’t be relying on his money. Quit being dependent on his cash, grow up, and take care of you and your child. Let dad take care of himself. It’s great to work on your education.
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The amount of people defending a dad trying to get out of contributing to his child’s food, clothes etc is insane to me
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A-they are not going to arrest him. They don’t give 2 shits about a parent not paying their ordered support.
B-don’t let some of these people make you feel bad for thinking he should do his part financially. HE SHOULD! You didn’t make the kid by yourself.
C-be prepared to financially do it on your own because refer back to A lol
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Unfortunately, he has the option not to pay. Yes it will add up and he could lose his license but with COVID jail time is unlikely. Perhaps it’s time to just write the funds off (in your head).
Be grateful you got support the time you did. Some don’t receive help at all.
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Mine owes $80k and has not gone to jail. They don’t arrest for this (rarely). They will take any Tax refund or unemployment benefit, if he gets any and that’s it! The courts do nothing about deadbeat parents!! Nothing you can do about it. Just keep being a good mom and watch the arrears grow. At some point he will get a job again and they will take the current support as well as arrears right out of his check. Hang in there!!!
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I’m not even gonna read all the rest of those comments but I would like to just add mine as a 74 old parent of 2 teens now…if he’s any kind of man he’ll support his child
Period and it’s a real joke if u think it’s supporting a single mom period n
not the child that she is bringing up
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I wouldn’t mind picking up the slack while he bettered himself, and his life bc it would benefit our child. As I would hope he’d do the same for me if needed. (Pick up my slack while I attended school” I also never took my kids dad to court bc it’s honestly not worth it for a judge someone who has no idea about anything give orders for the best interest of your child.
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A lot of y’all are defending this guy wanting to be a deadbeat and it’s gross. 
this mom probably CAN support her child on her own but why should she have to? I’m a single mom without help from my kids dad and the shit sucks, it takes two to make a child! Going to school is great but quitting his job and letting his mommy support him? Nah, plenty of people work and go to school. When you have a child, it’s not about you anymore. This mom can’t just say “well I’m gonna quit work and go to school!” She’d be charged with child neglect for not having the money for her kids needs, why does this dad get off Scott free?
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He’d still be required to pay child support lol. So uh, idk what he’s going to do that’s his problem, not yours!
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If he wanted to help support his child, he would find a balance with school and a job. It obviously shows his morals and values. Just continue doing the best that you can do to provide…your child will see this and as he gets older, he will appreciate it. As for dad, karma always makes its way around.
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Are you the mum or the child?? You sound pathetic. He’s going back to school, to obviously do better for himself, and you’re just threatening to send him to jail for not paying you full money? How do you expect him to pay the same when he’ll be earning nothing??
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he makes $33/hr and wants to quit his job to go to school. Tell him to wait 5 years, that is the dumbest idea ever! that’s just my opinion. He can contact an attorney and figure out himself. 13 yr old will comprehend that money isn’t there for his needs. Wow just wow! I feel for your kid!!
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Wow i really don’t get why some people are so money hungry with wanting childsupport… That’s all it’s ever about these day… they won’t pay up, they now won’t work, what should I do, the list goes on… why can’t people just forget about the childsupport… if you rely on someone else’s money to get you and your child by then you should either work full time or cut back on expenses… it’s your child and you do what you need to to survive… I can’t stand people always on about “they won’t pay up etc etc”… that’s all people seem to worry about these days “what can I get from this”… do the hard yards yourself and don’t rely on anyone… your child will look back when they are older and see it for what it is that you made it work despite assistance… if a parent decides to help with finances and be involved in the child’s life after separation that’s great but if they don’t then so be it, don’t force it, that only causes resentment… everyone is entitled to an opinion and that’s mine…
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My ex did this. The judge ordered that he was “Voluntarily underemployed” and he was still ordered to pay the same amount as when he was with his previous job. After so many months you can revoke his DL. Then from there as it racks up, he will face a bench warrant. Then jail time. To the people saying “Be glad he paid, some people don’t get anything at all” or “He is bettering his life” first off, don’t take away from her struggles just because someone else has a different one. And second, yes he may be going to better his life but that does not take away from his responsibilities. If she decided to quit her job and go to school, can she be void of all responsibilities? No. She can’t. Children are our responsibility and if he wants to better his life, maybe he should wait 5 more years until his child turns 18.
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In VT, the child support he is supposed to pay every month would continue to accrue until he goes to court to get it modified. Before it goes to court though, he is still expected to pay the full payment each month. After it goes to court to be modified, it will not go to $0, but will go to a minimum amount, which here depends on which county you’re in. It could be as low as $10/week.
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They can say he is underpayed and do it based on what his skills allow to make. So if he is a doctor then they will do it based on a doctor’s pay he said the same job for the last 15 years and they will do it based on whatever his average was
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You sound very bitter. Let the man better his life
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In my opinion even though he is going to school he should at least work part time enough to cover child support.
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He does have the option to not pay/have pay lowered if he takes it back to court to be modified. Also his Mother’s finances are not your business whether she helps him or not. Child support only goes off of his pay, no one else’s. This just sounds really petty. He is not financially abandoning. He is bettering himself by going to school. He should be encouraged to do so, not torn down
He stills owes the support. He can choose not to pay. But most places have when you get so far behind you can swear out a warrant for non payment they then have to pay so much to post out of jail. Some can lose drivers license or other "privileges " such as any owed will be deducted from tax return refunds. He may want to rethink not paying because it can cause getting a job and or help with school problems.
In NY they will suspend his license and if it is proven he is not paying willingly then they will put him in jail. You have proof he is willingly refuse paying child support so I would contact your case worker and inform them of the situation.
I’ll say for a fact the the courts DO NOT CARE ABOUT HIM “bettering his education” and they’ll set his child support rate at the rate of a full time employee or what he’s considered to be “cable of making”. Good luck for him.
CS doesn’t care what he wants to do and will keep his CS payment as if he had that 33$ an hr job and he’ll have big problems, for you don’t count on any money and plan accordingly and maybe tell him to please talk to CS about his decision first.
You say you are his sole parent
and you call his dad a holiday dad, although I definitely don’t agree with what he is doing,
Although bettering yourself and your education is always amazing he must imagine he’s going to make more than what he is giving up if he can so easily give It up, if he has been paying child support the whole time it doesn’t sound like you are the sole parent unless he finds child support to be the only way he supports his child, I would encourage you to take on another position or maybe even a little side business as you have come to find out only you have your son’s best interest
with that being said it sounds like he knows what he’s doing and doesn’t need to be reminded
he will have to be accountable for his own actions, and you as his sole parent will need to make sure that he is taking care of, sounds like his mommy might bail him out though. Good luck you got this
It doesn’t matter if he quits his job to “better himself” … the debt will still be there when he goes back to work, files taxes, and etc. Why does it matter what it looks like to the judge ? You havent been with him for some time, mind your own business and go about your life. Let him make his own bad decisions.
In most states if a parent willfully quits a job their child support will be based off of what the parent has the potential to earn in the area given experience. I’ve seen this many times. They cannot quit their Job when they owe child support. They can temerarily defer payments but will then owe back child support for the amount they are capable of making
He’ll never understand, hence why he is absent. So lower your expectations, for more peace in your life.
Do what u can. Don’t even talk to him about it. Just say Ok, it’s not my issue. Well let the judge figure it out. Then never talk about. Done. They’ll get your money.
I get child support. I dont believe in jail for support because ummmm in jail how will they pay?
I would want better for ex which in long run he could make MORE to pay. He could go to court to get it lowered temporarily. He can work side jobs and at 13 look for 2nd hand clothes, cheaper activities, see if there is free reduced lunch. You could also pick up cheap side gigs to help few months
They’ll recalculate the support based upon his new income. If he isn’t working at all, it will either be based on minimum wage, or his ability. Ky is an “ability state” so they can’t just quit a job in order to get a lesser paying one to avoid support. There may also be an education waiver in your state that allows him to do this and pay considerably less support.
The standards for men have gotten so low. 
He can’t just stop taking care of his child because he decided to go school. What if the mom wanted to go to school? Can she just stop taking care of her child? That’s not how it works. As a parent you still need to make sure you’ll be able to take care of your kids.
I am thinking they may reduce it, not likely , maybe temporarily but he will still be responsible… it won’t go away— he may rethink it when he talks to Child Support
He can take you back to court and the courts will go by his income and if there is none you can’t threaten him with jail. They will lower it to practically nothing so be very careful how you handle this. You can’t control his life. You are his EX REMEMBER?
Where I live working or not you still have to pay. Maybe not as much but you have to pay something. Even if it’s just a few dollars. If you go so many months without paying you go to jail, job or not. He is quite wrong thinking that quitting his job and going to school will get him out of it. It won’t.
They will put a lein on anything in his name that has value
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In Texas, the mother has to go to the police station to have the father arrested for no child support payments, they won’t just do it automatically. Not sure how it works in NC. But there’s really nothing you could do. If y’all go to court, they’ll just lower the child support but him not paying it will just accumulate. He won’t be able to renew his license, his income tax will be taken, etc.
Mine owed $30,000. They couldn’t“find” him after 3 years they closed his case. If I want anything from him I have to start the process over again.
You seem money hungry imo. He is going to school. To better his life. And child support could double when he’s done school. His annual income will change and all he will need to do is tell the courts he is going to school and ask to have his finances adjusted. Child support is based off yearly income. If he has no income, there is nothing the courts will do. They won’t sent him to jail for being unemployed and not paying. They could send him to jail for being employed and not paying.
The child support will be adjusted to a minimum to match his income which will be nothing. He will still have to pay something, just not nearly as much. They won’t base anything on the grandparents. That’s irrelevant.
I went to school at ECPI. Wasn’t that great of a school back then. I actually was told they changed their name.
Ehhhh…… seems pretty petty.
I didn’t bother putting my sons father on child support because it’s not worth it.
If he doesn’t want to be there for his child then he doesn’t.
That’s how I look at it with my situation.
Also, it adds even more stress, and my son & I don’t really need all of that in our lives.
That’s why I didn’t bother but then again you are your own person with your own perspective.
Until the court order is changed through another court order; it will continue to be enforced. If he doesn’t pay it will become delinquent and according to the state laws of NC his license could be taken; passport; any winnings from casinos; IRS. I’m from Ohio and this is what would happen here.
I’m a single mother to a 12 almost 13 year old and doing it on my own don’t need child support if I can do it so can you
Someone posted on Tiktok, so it must be true, right?!?! file a 3949a form, it is for parents that work under the table so they don’t have to pay child support. Check with a tax atty… From what I understand, his mom will only be able to gift him $12,000 a year. Anything else she pays for will be income. I think that income would be calculated for new child support. It’s not much help now but when he retires or cashes in his retirement, you can go after that. It is income and he will have to pay child support or back child support with that money…. Even when the kids are out of your house, married and have kids… he will still owe you that money, he will still have to pay. How pi$$ed will he (his momma & wife) be when some of his retirement will go to you, to pay you back? He will have to go back to work and pay out of that, or pay you back with his retirement. There is no hiding at that point.
Lol um… you ought to prepare yourself bc they basically dont do anything about it. In my state anyways. I filed when she was 2, got my first $26 payment when she was like 5 or 6… ummm. Then out of no where i had $1000 on my card when she was 9… (he paid for 10 months on year i never knew about) aaaand then his mom talked him into doing his taxes this year (my child is now 12) so i received his tax return… but yea.
Be thankful for what you do or have gotten consistently bc theres a gang of us who dont. Just bc youre owed… doesnt mean youre gonna ever get it. Unfortunately. 
My ex and I have 2 kids (older now) but when he left he was ordered to pay cs (iowa) of 500/month. He ended up quitting his job therefore paying $0, however it added up throughout the years…he did end up losing his license though.
Somehow ended up on disability over 10 years ago and child support started back up at $30 /month for the last 3 years.
Unfortunately, the kids dad never had a relationship and he died last year owing over $80,000…
I did what I could for my kids and worked my butt off and yes cs helps but $$ isn’t everything ig. I would have rathered my kids had a relationship with him then all the mo ey in the world!!
He should just go the legal way take it to court let them know he’s making less so he won’t tell to jail. They will just reduce it to most likely to way less but it will keep him out of jail and aloww him to go to college band you will still be getting something
My girls’ dad lost his job when my youngest was 13. You can’t squeeze water out of a turnip so I just sucked it up and picked up the slack. He’s a great dad and when his situation changed I never went back to get it back. He struggled hard. Your ex would have to pay arrears with interest so if you’re can afford it? It’s like a savings plan for college for them. He’s educating himself to make more and he can’t live off air so he will have some kind of job. If he is getting va disability you can garnish that by requesting an apportionment. Life happens! Good luck to you and your family.
Jailed? I highly doubt that my dad never once made a child support payment and never went to jail. Plus there’s the fact that jails are overcrowded right now
He would have to pay continuously unless he goes back to the courts to amend it.
My daughter dad is 30k in debt to child support and is a free man…don’t count on them to jail him!!
You need to call your child support case worker. It’s different in every state.
In today’s time… It’s highly unlikely he is going to quit a BMW job @ 33$ an hour, and the benefits that come with it!! He’s causing drama
Be grateful you ever got child support in the first place! I’ll never see a dime.
They take his tax refund, he will not be allowed to renew passport or drivers license
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Was it him choosing to be a part time dad or your doing did you keep your child away from his dad for the support because that’s the new norm
Not sure about NC in Oklahoma it’s based off income. No income? They expect you to get a job. Court ordered child support is usually based off the payment amount set for minimum wage at 40 hours when you aren’t working (which here is like $200). If I were you, I’d make sure your case is filed with the state office that handles child support payments and not a he gives me cash or a check every month situation (sounds like you already have done this if you know he owes back and will go to jail). Secondly contact an attorney and an ask what can be done about adjusting the existing order to be sure it has a minimum working wage support clause in it. Also, contact the child support office and ask them how they handle a parent not working for school when they have a child support case? Lastly, know that child support and visitation are two separate issues and unless he gives up parental rights he will still be able to see his son despite lack of financial support.
Seek legal advice urgently
Go ahead and report it to your local county that handles your support.
It will get lowered to what ever income he does have.ie new job,or government payments.
If there is no job, he can’t pay. Doesn’t mean he doesnt have to pay, it will just keep adding up and he can simply tell the courts he isnt working. Once he is working he will probably have his wages garnished for child support. If his mom is giving him money to live off of while he goes to school, it has not nothing to do with child support, it’s a gift to help him get by, not earned income. He can most definitely go to the courts and have payments lowered and to advise them of his status in his work situation. A parent should never go to jail over missed child support payments, cause honestly, how is that going to help? I know easier said than done but just dont ever rely on child support because you will he setting yourself up for disappointment like in this case
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I mean he should be paying, but on the bright side if he’s going back to school then he is trying to better himself and can make a better life for your son. Which sounds like what he’s trying to do.
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U should contact the courts and child support he shouldnt be able to get away with this. This will hurt him in the long way he cant just not stop supporting his son cause he is quitting a job he still needs to be a man and father and financially support him for the next 5years .
It will accumulate. And every month they get doesn’t pay, go up. And he’ll owe… He’ll eventually after owing so much, lose his license. And then, after A LOT more, depending on the child support laws where you live, a warrant will be issued for his arrest. And he’ll be arrested and put in jail, until w court date. Where they’ll give him a chance to agree to pay. Then released. But honestly, he just has to say he’ll pay. Then just pay a little so they think he will… Then stop paying again. Till the next court date etc. My ex is like 50 or so grand behind. He’s been arrested once. For a weekend. Said he’d pay. I received $100 or so… For a couple months… Back to nothing after that 
Doesn’t child support depend on the amount they’re earning, If he’s not earning and in education he doesn’t have to pay as not earning anything or have I got that wrong x
Child support will still be owed but he can ask for a new amount if he has no income coming in. They could lower it to the minimum. And as long as he pays a $1 every 30 days it resets and the courts won’t go after him because he is technically making payments. It just will add up as back support. The only people that get jailed over child support are the ones that go a super long time not paying anything and not responding to the child support office or courts. Your best off just focusing on your child and taking care of him best you can alone.
Depends on the state. My county in the state i live in wanted to put my children’s sperm donors in jail for non payment I stopped that decision real quick when I told the judge if he ain’t paying now what makes u think he’ll pay in jail. They also tried to take their license and I once again told them you take the license how they gonna get to work bc my baby daddies are lazy asf and won’t walk to work so once again I won’t receive their payment
I highly doubt he will go to jail especially with him being in a different state. The states don’t like to work together