Long story short, my daughter’s father recently came into her life a year ago when she was 3. He is not on her Birth Certificate. I plan on adding him to it somewhere down the line, & was wanting to know if I did, would they go after him for back child support? I have not filed and don’t plan on doing so. He helps out in other ways. I’m also on government assistance. I don’t want them to go after child support if I can help it. Tia
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Yes, they can go after him for child support. You can also get in trouble for not being honest about who the father is when you applied for government assistance
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If you are getting cash they will make you go open a case. But they will have him take a DNA test first whenever you open up a child support case.
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If his name is on the birth certificate welfare will go after him n u have no say on that
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Usually when you are on any type of assistance they will want to know who the father is and will more than likely want you to corporate to get child support from him. If you don’t corporate they will not allow you or your child to continue to receive benefits. You can however agree to an amount with the father of your child.
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Depending on the state if you and her both get state assistance they will. But if you tell them you and him have an agreement on him helping or giving you money for her they might not but they will probably have him pay for her birth if you had Medicaid when you had her .
I think they pursue child support if you get medical assistance.
Yeah probably. That’s the law in most places I think
If you are getting government assistance they typically go after the dad. Which sucks for those that do it as they should willingly.
If you’re on assistance and you add him to the birth certificate then they may go after him for support which may include back support. If you add him to the birth certificate, then you need to strongly consider getting a legal custody agreement because you will need something legal to protect you if he decides to not give your daughter back after visiting her.
In Michigan absolutely yes just leave it how it is
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DNA will be done before child support.
If you are on Medicaid yes they will
Yes, they feel he is responsible and with child support you may not qualify for assistance
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No, they don’t. I went through it personally. I still had to file for child support if I wanted it after getting his name on it.
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I live in Iowa and when my son was born we were on medicaid and didn’t know who his father was. The state stepped in for child support when I applied for cash assistance(FIP).
Why would you rather be on assistance than have him pay child support? You do realize that assistance comes from other people paying taxes, right? Come on!! If you need more that he can pay, that’s one thing but to give him a pass to skip out all together…geez. His child, his responsibility.
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If you get any government assistance besides food stamps yes they will go after him for support.
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In Indiana, they will only go after him for child support if you are receiving Tanf/Cash Assistance or if you pursue child support. They won’t go after him if you or your children are on Food Stamps or Medicaid.
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Not to be a jerk BUT you definitely shouldn’t be rejecting child support for the sake of getting government assistance. I should pay for your kid but your kids father shouldnt??
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My sons dad is on his birth certificate and we split after my son turned one. They won’t go after child support unless I open a case 
we haven’t been together for 3 years. I’m not on any assistance so that might be different if you are
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If you are on any assistance they will ask who the father is. Just because you add him to the bc doesn’t completely mean they will go after child support. But if you’re on any assistance they will ask who the father is. I don’t know if they can look up the new bc but I think they can as its public records.
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Contact a attorney for legal advice
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If you’re on state assistance, they will go after child support
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If you are on state support than can and should go after him for support. He also can fight for custody
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If you’re on government assistance I’m surprised they haven’t already made you go after him for child support. I’m a little confused. She’s 3, hasn’t been in her life for the first 2 years. Why do you want to put him on the bc? Is he pressuring you? I recommend just not doing it. With him not on it you can make decisions be for her. If he wants rights he can file for rights. Not being on the bc doesn’t prevent him from that. I know a man who has custody of his son. He wasn’t on the bc.
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Why was he not put on the birth cert in the first place.
Dodgey asf
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Can you add to a birth certificate?
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Far as I know if paternity is established by test, affidavit, or signing or birth certificate then yes the government will seek him out due to you being on aid.
Yes they will go after him.
On a side child support isn’t your money, it’s your child’s money. If you don’t want to use it fine, put it in an account for your child’s future but you shouldn’t be able to decline it because you want government assistance
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Depends where you live and what assistance your on…here in ont Canada they used to but stopped a couple years ago. Most places if your on assistance though will make you eventually go after child support so they can deduct that and save government money…
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He should be paying child support instead of you getting government assistance. Why should tax payers have to pay when there is a father that should be paying. That is just being dishonest with the welfare system and should NOT be allowed.
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Omg thats the craziness spreading thru these young women “I dont want him to pay, he just came into her life” WTF??? If women would MAKE them responsible it would be a better life for the child! “He dont make enough money” (sleep with better class of men) why would you give him a pass?? And yes his name should be on it. Go to court like a grown up, get a custody agreement and stop sucking State Assistance dry!!! Leave it for the mothers who really need it.
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In tn, if you are on government assistance the state will go after him for child support and if you don’t comply they will take your assistance
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No they wont go after him. It’s up to you to press the issue of child support.
If your on government assistance they will have you file child support. I had to because my son gets medical through the state.
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Edit to add: my kids dad does so much for them, he provides anything I ask and helps me too. I was on families first for 2 months and we now have a child support case which I did not want but now dont have a choice
Absolutely they will.
The state will go after him and make him pay back all Cash assistance you recived, back child support, current support and make him carry insurance on the child. As he should be doing not the state.
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So he slipped out on basically her whole life and waltz in and deserves to be on the birth certificate? I think not.
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As far as I’m aware he can’t be added to the birth certificate without going to court & doing the DNA test because he didn’t sign an affidavit of parentage at birth. The court you have to go through to do that is the same court that does child support. They will go after him for back support & the money that the state has paid out for assistance plus he will get rights to her & a custody agreement will be drawn up so probably best to just leave it alone.
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In my state their is no back support it begins day order is signed
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So it’s ok for tax payers to support your child but not the father who hasn’t bothered for 3 years? Wth
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In Indiana if you get tanf and the father is not in the household they will go after him for child support. If you don’t comply they will take your assistance.
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If On certain types of state/government assistance they will typically go after the father for support.
He will owe, wether you like it or not. He owes the state his share of the medical assistance the child gets from assistance. He won’t owe only you… but owes the state because they’ve been making up his side of food and medical. If that makes sense…
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Depends on the state
Yes they will go after child support if your on cash assistance
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But don’t put him on the bc.
Most states require knowing who the father is to get assistance. In fact it is often dangerous for women who want to carry a pregnancy from rape. There are people trying to change those laws. If he is a good father than he needs to pay support, you need to have a legal agreement done up with child support and visitation written out. If he is willing to do that then you can talk about adding his name to BC. if he is unsafe or dangerous you need to keep him out of your daughters life.
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Why should our tax dollars pay for his child while he gets a free ride 
why did you choose not to name him & get court ordered support from the beginning?
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how many pages are you going to post this on
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Pretty sure someone has to pay that money back. Why should he not be held responsible for helping in supporting his own child? I also believe it’s considered fraud if you do not make them aware of who the father is so that they can attempt to recoup some of the funding they’ve provided you.
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Him just being added to the birth certificate, he wouldn’t be went after for child support just because he’s added. However, because he is added, and you’re on government assistance, food stamps WILL start a child support case. I don’t know what exactly you receive for government assistance, but they will start a child support case for pretty much any government assistance.
I added my sons father to his birth certificate when our son was 7. You just fill out paperwork for whatever state your child was born in, send it in with typically a money order to pay the fees, and within a couple weeks they send you however many birth certificates you ordered with the amended added name. It’s really not hard. He doesn’t have to take a DNA test (at least for Illinois we didn’t have to) but he does have to sign papers, as well as send a copy of his drivers license/state ID.
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In kansas if you are on government assistance with a child and you are not married/living with the other parent the state will go after them for child support. I know texas is the same way as well.
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Lots of judgy people up here concerned ab where their tax dollars are going it depends on your state. I’m in NC, my child’s bio father is not on the BC, and has not seen him in almost 6 years. I never went after child support bc of the threats he made. I had no problem using tax payers money to help provide for my child bc I too am a tax payer and that’s literally what our taxes are for. I was able to receive wic, food stamps, and Medicaid for the 2 of us. When I was 2yrs postpartum, my Medicaid was stopped bc I refused to file for child support. My son still has Medicaid bc adding him to my insurance would cost me $900 a month. I still qualify for food stamps even with my 44hour work week. I would call and ask your states DHS. My friend has 2 kids and their dads are on the birth certificates, she gets no child support and government assistance too. She also pays taxes 
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No. You yourself take him for child support.
Man some of you ladies on here are just absolutely bitter. She literally stated that the father helps in multiple ways. So that means in your eyes that a mother doesn’t deserve assistance whatsoever to make it by for as long as she needs while she tries to build herself a life for her child? For all you know she could be working full time herself or be in school or whatever just because someone gets assistance doesn’t mean they are just setting on their asses while y’all act all high and mighty. Whatever ever happened to lifting other women up and just giving them simple advise. Also another big thing if the dad is already helping as much as he can why the hell should he have to be put on child support? Oh so he can be in debt the rest of his life and eventually not be able to work cause he wouldn’t even be able to afford to and then the child just end up suffering from that to?
If he is on her birth certificate and you are on assistance they will go after him for support.
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If you are on government assistance then yes they will try to go for child support and back child support. (Rules for Ohio)
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If your on government assistance, yes they will for child support.
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Yes because even if you say no to his financial assistance the state will want their money back and file for you.
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I was able to drop the child support case after the government went after them for child support. They said would still be responsible for health insurance if they qualified through their jobs.
They will if you are on assistance and they may even make him pay back some of the birth costs if you had public insurance.
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Yes. The state would go after him for child support.
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They won’t unless you get any sort of government assistance or file for it yourself.
I don’t know what state you live in, but if it happens to be Louisiana the father will be required to pay child support.
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Yes they will any if you live in a commonwealth state
Most states will do it without your permission. If you are receiving cash assistance from the state they view that as money you should be getting from the other parent. He should be helping you out anyway.
If your on government assistance they will file for child support to pay back the assistance and to back pay you.
Thats so trifling that you would do that. Taking advantage of people who pay taxes and actually struggle to support their children. Such garbage.
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In tennessee they won’t. Hell you can’t get tennessee to go after dudes who owe child support at all they let em walk 
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Yes they will. Because you are inferring that he is the father. He has his legal obligation to offer you support. You might also have to pay back some legal assistance that has been offered to you as well
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In Arkansas they won’t
Depending on what state u live in, if ur on assistance the DA will automatically file so that the state gets the money back. I’m California, I’m 32 and the state just had a hearing for my dad who now owes $52,000 because he never paid when I was under 18. They are still trying to get the money now that I’m 32 and my mom (who was on welfare) is now deceased. They take from his ssi check every month.
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In MO you only get child support to the date you filed. 
then it becomes back child support if he just avoids paying it.
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Yes if your on government assistance, he should be paying support to pay back your assistance or supplement it, your not supposed to collect both without reporting it, it’s frauds as it comes from tax payers money while your cheating the system. How bout get a job, and collect child support from him. It’s a win win for everyone.
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They wont get involved unless you go and claim for it. X
In iowa If you are on government assistance they will automatically go after him for child support…I’m not sure what state you are in.
No. My state doesn’t at least lol I told them no.
No they won’t unless you contact CSA to do it my daugthers dad is on hers an he has nothing to do with her don’t see her or pay but he would if I rang CSA but I ain’t botherd raise her my self
Ask a lawyer in your state
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I assume unless your on. Food stamps or sime sort of assistance they’ll want to ask. And you shouldn’t neglect that nc its why others suffer when people lie! But not sure if it goes with tje the same of food stamp here in texas.
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Surely if you’re doing well enough to refuse child support from the man who helped create the kid, you shouldn’t be accepting government assistance.
Why should tax payers be paying for a kid when the father is real, alive, known 
There’s so much wrong with this!
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If you are in indiana no. They only start child support on date that court papers are filed. My baby daddy choose heroin over my daughter. Its been 6 years. Hes just now taking me to court they will only start the child support on the day he filed. They wont even do back child support for the year that i was meeting him to see our daughter. He could pay for heroin but nothing for our child
Well if you added him from my experience here in Alabama they don’t go after him unless you say you want child support even when I was on assistance with things nad they knew who the dad was they didnt press him and if you ever decide to goafter child support you have the say in whether you want to file for back time or not. You can say just that…he’s been helping but each case is different Im just telling you my experience with it
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If you put him on the birth certificate, you may not have a choice whether child support enforcement goes after him or not, no matter your wishes. He should be held financially responsible for his half of her upbringing.
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Not unless you tell them to go after him for child support. Cause they ask you in follow up phone calls. Even if he is on birth certificate and well i said no. Because well we are together and he supports us.
You wont lose it and you can choose not to take him for child support if they ask if you want too as I did but that’s because he gives me money each week which I turn that in so if hes giving you child support you just need to turn it in the amount he gives I get it some ppl dont like going to court long as hes paying something to help support your child it wont effect insurance or snap but if your getting families first yes they will come after him for all that you have gotten that is paid to you by the state and best believe they want their money back I’ve seen it happen so many times but normally you have to put the father down when you file for families first so eventually they will start garnishing his wages weather hes on the birth certificate or not but if it’s just snaps and insurance no they can ask you if you want to go after him and it’s your choice we all have different situations so ppl dont need to judge
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If they do go after him for child support, one of you needs to get a lawyer. You both can agree on an amount. Most likely the judge will go for that. The judge has guidelines to go by, as far as the amount, but he/she can also go lower than what the amount dictates. But I really don’t see the state going after him if you don’t file for child support.
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Sooo… If you add him on the birth certificate and y’all don’t get along for some reason in the future… He can legally take your child from you and there’s nothing you can do about it unfortunately.
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I think what you are asking is illegal and I do not agree with it.
However, when my daughter was born I never filed for support. When I moved and Got on Medicaid (for her only) they forced me to apply for child support. By this time she was 2. They made me sign a paper relieving him of back child support . He always helped out, but it wasn’t paid through the system. Once he started paying they forced him to provide insurance for her. His insurance was from a different state and through his work and noone took the insurance, so I ended up having to add her to my insurance. He was giving me more money before child support took over and now I am paying out of pocket for insurance. Just do the right thing. It all pays off in the long run.
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Oh girl I was young and naive once like you are now. I didn’t want to put my oldest daughters father on child support because he made me all these promises that he would get her medical insurance, help with clothes school supplies and whatever else she may need. He convinced me the day of our court hearing to go for 50/50 custody. It sounded good at the time but 19 years later all the promises made never happened. He left her life to raise someone else’s kids. All I’m hoping to get across is don’t be fooled.
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Your on assistance, well you know what I don’t want to support your daughter. That’s what we responsible working people are doing for all you deadbeats. Disgusting!
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I think some people are very misinformed on how “the system” works every thing is on a chart of numbers. You can be $1 over and lose all help. I do not encourage dismissing child support. However, explain $200/month in child support negates $300/ in child care and $200 in food how would that actually help the mother. Imagine you get a raise at your job and now make $160 more a month but your assistance for child care that allows you to work decrease by $250/month and your food by $175/month. The raise actually hurts the single mom. Not everything is so simple. Pull out your charts and budgets ladies because its not always so simple. Life is not a one size fits all.
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You’re on assistance, want to put him on birth certificate but don’t want it to affect your assistance or The government to go after the man that should be helping financially??? Girl, you’re sleeping with him, probably letting him live with you (possible in income adjusted housing) and trying to ride both him and the system without getting caught. I’m tired of paying for people that abuse the system but still want dead beats in their lives with no goal to get off assistance!
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In my experience the father either signed the birth certificate at birth willingly or it became a paternity & court issue. As for child support my children’s dad was on the birth certificate and back support was only recieved from the date it was filed with courthouse, not when child was born.
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Not sure what kind of assistance you’re receiving but he should be paying child support. I understand he helps in other ways but his obligation is to enhance his child’s life by any and all means possible. Most states see it in the child’s best interest and not the parents.
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So it’s good enough that the government provide for your child but not her father? PSA child support is not for you, it’s for the care of the child. Dosen’t your child deserve all she can get in life?
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