I'm being accused of cheating

I agree with all the other ladies. His guilty and you should leave with your babies.

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Guilty conscious. Been through this, they gonna accuse you to make them feel better about the stuff they do. Everyone has their boundaries, of you communicate and tell him hey I don’t like this to me this is cheat and he does it anyways? He’s cheating. Some relationships don’t care like whatever go talk to whoever and stuff just don’t screw them then! It cheating or anything your hiding. Cheating.
Don’t let him guilt you cuz he got caught and you was the one being faithful

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Serious redflags!! Not only is he projecting his cheating ways at you, a person that feels comfortable violating your personal space like that has serious doubleminded issues.
DO NOT TRUST THIS PERSON. Leave

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That’s just what u found then. I guarantee there’s probably more he’s actually deleted. As someone who has been through that twice fucking run. Now. It only gets worse and if he’s getting handsy and violent now he will only get more violent and worse

Lost me at " pic of you passed out" STRANGE🙄

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Leave now . Go get you a tinder . You will probably see him on their anyway… just leave it’s not going to get better

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He’s definitely cheating.

Sounds like he might be doing the cheating

Girl get out of that relationship because the person accusing you doing something is usually the person doing the thing that you’re being accused of

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He’s cheating girl take ur kid and get out

You’ll need to decide what to do whether you want to stay in a toxic relationship and be on eggshells or leaving and being happy by yourself and doing co parenting for the children’s sakes. Don’t stay just cause you got children with this guy either. I will tell you from experience that a toxic relationship will do damage from mentally to physically and it will take a toll on your body and mind. Yeah he may act like a charming man after fights or after accusing you etc but in the end they always go back to that a**hole man. He’s accusing you of cheating because he’s done it or is doing it currently. Regardless of him looking thru your phone he’ll still accuse you he’ll just say you deleted the messages or pictures and still accuse you of it. So you really to sit back and think of what you want to do in the end not just for your children but yourself also cause if you’re under stress it will affect the children more than people realize.

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Leave him he’s a disgusting cheater

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You didn’t find anything from since you’ve been together? Don’t think he’s cheating.

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If he has a picture of you drunk and passed out that is older than your relationship, run like hell!!! God only knows what else is in there!!

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What’s telling is his reaction; he obviously felt like he shouldn’t have it on his phone or he would have been ok with you seeing it.

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He’s the one cheating!!!

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My creeper radar is screaming. I say pack your bags and get out. The one of you drunk passed out is enough to send me running for the hills!

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The acuser is always the cheater.dont fall for it

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If your going to be accused and treated like a cheater, tell him you’ll actually do that and maybe enjoy it. If your taking abuse for something you never did, you may as well get some enjoyment out of it. :wink:

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The boob pics aside - the fact that he took a photo of a woman passed out while drunk is very disturbing!

He’s accusing you because he’s a cheater and it’s guilty conscience. On top of that, he got angry when you found proof.

I’m sorry, but I’d be a single parent if that were me

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Yep. It’s called projecting. You are the only one who can decide if it’s worth it to you to stay or go, it won’t get better anytime soon. ((hugs))

I had an ex that took pictures of me drunk and top less in his bed and he sent them to a bunch of his friends… i didn’t know until a mutual fri showed me, I got rid of him so fast. That kind of behavior is disgusting and a complete violation of privacy. Run girl. As far and fast as possible

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Get rid asap, he’ll only escalate from here, dangerous man

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Run very far and fast the person accusing others is 9 times out of 10 the one doing it.

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IT’s Always The Accuser That’s Cheating !!SAY GOOD BYE TO THAT CHEATER !!And Take care of your Babies !!! He is not Worth YOUR TIME !!:heart::clap::raised_hands::pray:!! VERY SAD BUT I"M PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR BABIES !!!

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Girl RUN. yesterday. Last week. Just get away from that. & try your best to get that photo of you drunk deleted from his access. Single mom’in isn’t easy but it’s damn worth it over that sort of mental abuse & manipulation !!

Yeah he is the one cheating

You have a 4 year relationship and a child by this man. Before you throw everything away, both of you need to cool off and agree to discuss your problems open and honestly. Then see what you need to do with your relationship.

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My ex did this all the time!! It wears you down after awhile.

Get out. So disrespectful

Yep hes guilty it’s obvious. Don’t trust this man and protect your heart above all

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What has made him accuse you of cheating? Is him accusing you a new thing or has he always done it? I know many people on here are screaming that he’s a cheater but there are other reasons that people feel like they are being cheated on eg if his exs cheated on him and so it has left him insecure (about half of my ex’s have cheated on me and I admit it now makes me question anyone I start seeing cos I am scared they will do the same and despite what most of these women screaming cheater seem to think about people who question their partners about cheating I’ve never ever cheated in my life nor would I)
As for the pics can understand they ain’t great but tbh it’s no different to him looking at porn (and yes plenty of men who adore their partners look at porn as many women don’t want to have sex 3/4 times a day so many men use porn to get off and even if they asked for sex that much most women would complain about it so poor sods can’t win in that aspect). As for him getting pissed while you went through his phone, did he give you the phone to go through? Or did you start to go trough it before he said it was ok?
Maybe the best thing to do would be to sit down and talk through why he thinks your cheating and how much it’s hurting you because your not cheating and let him know that him accusing you all the time is wearing you down and it will eventually make you resent him which isn’t beneficial to the kids or either of you. Good luck x

Sorry to tell you, he’s been the one cheating. He thinks you’ll do it back to him. That’s why he’s accusing. Normally the accuser is the one doing the action they are accusing someone of. I’m sorry but it doesn’t always get better. You may want to think about leaving. This may not be what you want to hear, but you will spend the rest of your life with him questioning, wondering, thinking etc. It will always be a line of insecurities. If did it then, he’ll do it again and obviously he’s mad he got caught. Think of yourself in this. Not him. Your kids are young enough for you to get out. You no legal ties to him besides children.

The one accusing is usually the one doing it…Thats what they do try making you look like the bad person…God Bless and hope you can get past it…I have been in same boat so dont settle…

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Red flags my other half n I always goes threw each other phone n we have an open communication

My ex husband did this to me for 6 years I even gave him my phone plenty of times over those years and he still didn’t believe and continued to call me a cheater… couldn’t go anywhere without coming back and accusing me. Turned out he was cheating we did try to work on things after that but he continued calling me a cheater again and it started turning into him not wanting me to go anywhere or places with my family. So I left him and I feel sooooo much better! You can try talking to him and see where he stands with you and if your gut says no leave because no one deserves that.

His the one cheating :100:

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I hope you had time to delete your photo makes me wonder if he got the other pictures the same way …you don’t need to be living wirh someone that don’t trust you . no trust no relationship

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Leave as soon as you can!

Don’t trust himHe’s got something too high

Thats because he’s hiding stuff. Use your noggin

Guilty ones always blame the other person

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Woman have intuitions for a reason :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:
It’s time to go do not allow anyone to disrespect you or treat you as if you are crazy those are his insecurities not yours. Oh and going through his phone is lame he deletes everything he doesn’t want you to see now trust me

Ugh red flags finding all that shit

If he’s accusing you, he’s cheating. Speaking from experience. My ex would accuse me of cheating and come to find out, he cheated with several different women through out our entire relationship. He would always delete all his text messages no matter who they were from and thought he had his other stuff hidden using the incognito feature, he thought i was too stupid to figure it out. I got proof, kicked him out and am in process of divorcing him now.

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What an absolute narcissist, yeah his cheating, even if you don’t have all of the full proof.
His actions alone tell you that his not being faithful.
Your intuition is urging you to find the evidence, honestly best you cut him off now.

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He’s cheating I’d make a choice to either sit down and fix it and go to therapy together or to make plans to move out

He’s cheating honey! :triangular_flag_on_post:

Hunni get away frm this man if u can…asap…

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Regardless of cheating or not, the photo taken of you while passed out (I’m assuming naked), SCREAMS predator. Protect yourself and your kids and gtfo. It sounds like your dating my exs twin and it will NEVER get better. It went from women my age to underage girls, and not just photos. RUN FAR.

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You know hes looking they all do but is he cheeting?

Major red flags! Put your children first and you because from what you said, he needs help. If he won’t get help, then go and take care of you and those kids.

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Me and my man have such an honest relationship that we can use phones and tablets as we want. There is no hiding or “his/her phone” if I need or his phone for something or he needs mine their is no asking. Just pick it up and do what ya gotta do. If that isn’t possible then there is a reason. No matter what

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Yeah, that’s a get the hell out for me :no_good_woman::v:t2::wave:t2:

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This guy sounds like a jerk. You should find someone who will treat you better.

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When he isn’t home leave.
Gather important papers if you can.
People will show you who they really are.
Believe them the first time.
You and your children are worth it!

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Um a photo of you drunk and passed out…no

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Imagine what you’re not seeing.

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How many red flags do you need ?

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Young one - sometimes when we ask a question- we are not ready for the answer. Apparently he likes breast - many man do. But usually- usually- when someone accuses another it’s only because of a few reasons- 1 - they are guilty of it 2 - they have a self confidence problem or 3 there is a communication breakdown.

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Smh, he showed that picture of you to people, he sounds weird get away from him. Let him be the cheater he is!!

Yea he is guilty. Saving photos off snap from a yr ago is cheating.
Either try to work it out and tell him he has an alternative, get rid of snap chat, and anyone he’s talked to, or your leaving because you deserve better then that crap.
Also, him taking a pic of you while drunk passed out “if naked” is not a good thing either.
Find what you think will work for you…but after this I think the inevitable will eventually happen. You aren’t going to trust him. There WILL be many more fights.

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There’s definitely a problem! If he has a picture of you like that! I don’t know what’s worse that or the boob pictures? Run far away! From him

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I would have been out the door as soon as I saw a photo of ME in his phone before we were officially dating especially since you were drunk and in a vulnerable state. Who knows how many females he’s done that shit too or how many people he showed your picture too. Take your kids and leave put his ass on child support.

I always go by this saying " the person who accuses you of cheating is the one that’s doing the cheating." You don’t deserve that kind of disrespect and you don’t need that extra stress when you are pregnant. Me personally I wouldn’t tolerate that disrespect and I would leave. But at the end of the day ultimately it’s your decision on how you want to go about this situation. But if you need to vent I’m always here.

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There’s Your RED FLAG :triangular_flag_on_post:

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It seems you already have your answer and you just want outside confirmation. I’d leave (easier said than done I’m fully aware.)

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Through my own experience, my ex was very abusive and accused me also---- he was the one cheating. The end!!!

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Get out while you can…

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Leave now before it gets bad

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I am sorry you are going through this. Please know, from experience, go with your gut. I know it will be very difficult, but leave if that is what your gut is saying.

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Run, run, run! Narcissistic men do not change.

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Red flags. That’s a lying ass

There is more in his phone that you didn’t get to. He is guilty. Take your kids and leave. Go find your peace. That’s no way to live. Know your worth. Little eyes are watching this is the example you are setting…

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More concerning than the pictures of other girls on his phone is the fact that he took pictures of you when you were passed out. That’s not okay and not normal.

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and you need to have strangers to tell you to get rid of his ass?

Guilty and felt cornered.

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Girl……
You know what he’s doing!!
Don’t make excuses for him.
The pictures of you naked and drunk are absolutely showing you what kind of man he is.

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There’s your answer. Drop it like it’s hot. Cause he is a hot mess. Men kill me, I swear.

He’s a boob man. If that’s all no big deal.

Mmmhmm guilty conscience

Girl. That’s disgusting. Taking pics of you passed out. :nauseated_face: you need to cut your losses and run. That’s just weird.

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When they keep accusing you, that means they’re doing it.

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He is cheating my husband did the same thing this was before cell phones. I left.

Take your baby and leave!!

Goodness, why do most of you jump to leave the man every single time a woman posts something. They have 2 children together! He has pictures of boobs…ok. I would suggest talking to him about it and maybe go to couples therapy. Ask him why he took the photo of you, that you feel a little uncomfortable with that. If in the end he doesn’t want to change then I wouldn’t marry him… and if your getting married soon maybe postpone that until you guys can figure some stuff out. I’m very sorry you are going through this. I hope YOU can find your answer.

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A fight? Thats physical or do you mean an argument :thinking: big difference

When they accuse you, it’s usually their guilty conscience. They are telling on themselves basically.

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He sounds like a Creep taking pictures of you when you’re passed out. Who does that I would leave if I were you

I will say this, from experience: liars accuse you of what they’ve done.

He who protest the loudest… he is cheating

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He’s transferring his guilt to you, my 1st husband did this to me. Run and don’t look back.

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How many red flags do you need ? Get out while you can especially taking pictures of you without permission that’s illegal and :100: creepy as heck

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Girl do not walk out of that relation ship,just fn RUN now.

From my understanding and experience, if they’re constantly accusing you that means they are guilty.

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Girl run! He took a picture of you drunk passed out that creepy. Plus he has all these other picture in his phone. No a guilty person will try and turn it around and make you look bad. You deserve better don’t put up with it. I was pregnant when I found out my sons dad was cheating on me. I should have left so I’m telling you it’s easier to leave now than try to make it work

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How many red flags do you need he sounds guilty of doing something

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The fact that you found a picture of you drunk and passed out before you were dating should alarm you. That is not normal behavior and the fact that he has tit pics on his phone tells me he is cheating or wants to cheat. He sounds like a creep… I am sorry to say that about your baby daddy but I wouldn’t marry him that’s for sure and I would definitely start making plans to dump this guy. I see heartache in your future if you don’t…:pensive:

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Sounds like your with my ex… like in every way except the 4 yr part and maybe pregnant lol but I don’t follow with his life anymore than my family decides to tell me… RUN girl RUN

Hon the accuser is always the doer. Get rid of him

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