You canāt do anything to help him find you more attractive. Thatās a him issue , not you. Be confident in yourself and your body. Love yourself
Girl screw him.If he cant love you at your worse,then he doesnāt deserve you at your best.
Lose weight under your doctors guidance.
Ditch the prick, and work on you FOR YOU. The right man will love you, no matter what!! I met my husband at the end of a marriage and was very heavy and had so much baggageā¦ it never mattered. Iāve learned to let the past go and love myself and the pounds fell off. Good luck Mama!
He loved u before he is a jerk throw the whole man away
Why would anyone want to be with someone that only loves them when they look good ? Thatās not love ! Thatās lust and you can find someone for lust anywhere. Respect yourself more. Keep higher values and morals. Find someone that loves you even if your overweight.
Girl, stop letting these boys playing grown up make you feel any type of way. Heās a punk. Go get you straight & find a real man who will love you at your best & at your worst. You deserve everything you want & need.
Lose that bastard. He is an asshole.
Work on your emotional state and then you will be able to do what you want for you, your body and your kid.
Thatās immature and sounds like he needs to grow up. Your body changes after having a baby and the only way Iād say loose weight is for YOU not him. He sounds selfish.
Listen girl from one mom body to another. In my young years i had a hot body for sure THEN after 3 kids before 25 that changed. I never got that body back . Its all about you feeling ok you have to love you. Remember that body he finds unattractive was the lifeline and home for his baby to grow . You grew a human, a real person came from that bodyā¦ your body is beautifulā¦
He doesnāt love you, he wants you to be what he wants, id kick him to the curb,
Nope thats not how it works! He should still love you regardless (a real man would) you will lose the weight! Now you know its your thyroid and you now now where to go from there. Screw him! And once you do lose the weight, you will resent him and want nothing to do with him.
He is no manā¦ he a boy, who also has ZERO respect or understanding of women. He also probably has no real and pure love for you. Sorry if itās too blunt, but itās the truth. If he truly loved you he would love and cherish every inch of your body, and even more so after you brought him a child into this world.
I personally had to experience this, and it is the worst feeling in the world. Please do yourself the favor and leave this child before it gets worse. Heāll most likely never change.
That is not how a true man would act. My weight has fluctuated since having kids. I still struggle with confidence in my body but my husband has always been super supportive and loves me for me not my body. Do not settle for less than your worth!
Heās doing you wrong
You definitely need to lose the extra weight asap! Drop HIM, heās the dead weight. Heās not good enough for you sis
You gave birth to his child. Thatās beauty. If he doesnāt see it, itās his problem. If he loves you, he wouldnt treat you that way because of your weight. I have self esteem issue with my weight, have had 3 kids, and Iām 32 weeks pregnant with twins. Even without the twin pregnancy Iām at my top for weight in life so far. My husband still has no problem with it. Tells me youāve had kids, your a mom, and thatās a beautiful thing.
Divorce him. Revenge lose weight ( thatās the best kind lol) and find a man who loves you for you and not how much you weigh.
Thatās not a real man a real man realizes when you have kids your body changes your not going to have the body you had in your early twenties but that doesnāt mean you canāt loose the weight.
Your husband should definitely still love you and want to be intimate no matter what your body looks likeā¦ Youāve just had his kid too, so he relly needs to grow up and realise what our bodies go through!
You deserve better, and he needs to man up and support you
Also dont be so hard on yourself, you made a whole person! Thats incredible, and your worth is not reliant on your body sizeā¦ Youāre amazing and strong and your body has gone through hell so love it for all its given you and show yourself graceā¦ Enjoy your baby and all the special moments and donāt stress about the scale.
This is not about you this is about him. Thatās little boy problems, because a man would love you for you no matter what
Lose a ton of weight by dropping him
If he truly loves the weight does not matter
Heās a prick. You can do better
Let him go . You deserve to be happy . You are beautiful no matter what and if he really loved you he wouldnt say such an awful thing hun.hold your head high and be happy with the body you have .
Throw him in the trash! Leave him. Heās no gd for your self esteem and itās gonna cause you to become depressed. Also join a small gym. I have a thyroid problem and Iām medicated. Itās hard to lose weight
If your only concern is if HE finds you attractive then lose the weight. BUT the only person who can make you self conscious or have low SELF esteem is you. That said, I have never known a man who didnāt want to have sex with their partner just because of some baby weight. Sounds like there is another issue.
Sounds to me like you need to ditch him! Even at my heaviest (280lbs!!!) my husband told me almost daily that I looked beautiful & not once has he ever turned down intimacy from me! I get that he might find you more attractive before, but if he loves you the extra weight wonāt matter. Iām still big (214lbs), but I lost weight because I wanted to be healthier for our 2 boys, and I wanted to feel better about myselfā¦ not to be more attractive for my husband!
Leave him and wait til someone comes along tht wants u for u not how u look z
Sorry Hon, but his ass would be OUT THE DOOR, heās supposed to love you UNCONDITIONALLY, if he canāt, thatās a deal breaker. Ask him how heād feel if the tables were turnedā¦
U leave him thatās how
Itās a him problem. You arenāt the problem he isā¦ he needs to fix himself.
The only weight you need to lose is him
You can leave.
He doesnāt deserve you.
Heās that extra weight. Screw him.
Losing weight isnāt the problem here. You should always be the sexiest thing alive for your husband. He canāt break your spirit. He needs to sort out his issues. Now, if you believe you can work towards being more attractive, do it! He should be a motivator. Thatās how the spark never dies. Baby steps each day, Lady! Claim your happiness! Youāve earned it. Love and honour your body. It gave life. Thatās a real privilege not given to all. Take care.
My husband loved me and was very affectionate when I was heavier after having our child. He encouraged me to exercise or eat better (gently) but he never made me feel anything less than beautiful and loved. Itās not you girl, most of us go through it. Itās him. Heās shallow and gross. I would let him go and wait for the man who is meant for me.
Why do you put all your self worth in a man??
You have self esteem issues because you are not uplifting yourself first . If you loved yourself you would not be crushed . If he wanted to love you unconditionally he would help motivate you and eat and exercise and go to the doctor with you and listen together on how to treat your condition and you should go yourself and listen to your doctor if this is true . If you do not love yourself first it will never happen . You married a boy and not a man . People stare at pictures of others and expect the same for them with no work involved spiritually and emotionally and physically. Fix you first and drop the dead weight which is him and go go get healthy for you and the child .
Throw the whole boy away!
He helped create the body you have now!! He is a freaking g man child and I would not deal with him period. Do nothing for that man child at all. Feed yourself and your child ! Laundry etc the same.
Uhm, you should actually be asking yourself why are you still with that p.o.sā¦ 
Donāt stress your mind and body because your baby can feel that. Live a healthy lifestyle for YOURSELF not him.
If itās about the weightā¦ drop the weight of him. Smh. Your body just brought life into this worldā¦ thatās pretty amazing. Shame on him.
Any man thay doesnāt like your body after you birthed their child is the problem not you
Leave him and drop the weight thatās himā¦ if my husband ever did that weād be done.
Ewww throw that little boy away ! You can lose 220lbs in dumping him . Heās ugly inside and out ! .
What a dick. You deserve someone who actually loves you. What he feels is not love.
Dont Change urself for Him do it for urself. no One SHOULD ever have to change for a man married or Not.
You lose the weight. You get your banging body back. But then this part is really importantā¦when he decides youāre good enough again, you reject him.
Youāll have so much confidence, youāll realize you donāt need that in your life.
My wifeās baby weight and c section scar only made her more attractive to me. Reminded me of the sacrifice she had made for our family. It doesnāt sound like your man actually loves you more then physically.
U gave him a baby ā¦he should love you more for that. I bet heās not perfectā¦love your self love your baby .heās not the only man in the world. Hugges
Throw the whole husband away
I mean would it hurt to Atleast try going to the gym for yourself not for him
It shouldnāt be about your body, he should feel that kind of attraction to YOU. Your personality, your mind, your soul. Who you really are doesnāt change with size. Iām so very sorry heās hurt you this way, and regardless of what happens those hurtful words are going to be stuck with you. I wish you the best with whatever you decide to do, but remember you are amazing, your body created a child. Kids are worth every pound, every stretch mark, thereās no love like that of a mother and child 
Just throw the whole husband away.
First off, staying in an unhappy home wont make you happy. Pretending only gets so far. You need to ask yourself if you want to devote your love time energy into a man that doesnt love you unconditionally. His love is conditional to your body image. Staying with a toxic partner will only raise your kid to accept those behaviors. I was the mom who wanted to stay to keep her family together. It did me and my child more harm than good. Kick his ass to the curb work on yourself. Glow up. And make him eat his heart out!
Listen guys go through changes when a female is pregnant as well yes we get the physical changes and weight but what about them seeing there spouse go through the changes or even watching the child birth can be hard on them itās not wrong for him to be open with his opinion that weight changed some sexual attraction not his love yes I say itās problematic if he just wants your appearance and you to be skinny but also some advice maybe try to boost your confidence even if you canāt lose weight it can be a turn off if your constantly having low self esteem about yourself try and see if that can make a change I can say pregnancy can take a toll on couples if you really feel disrespected and like you canāt go back to normal in like a month then only you can make that decision to end things but I say maybe talk to him more about why the weight might bother him doesnāt make him a bad person for needing time to adjust to a new you itās gonna take time for even you to be use to your new after pregnancy self at least try to work as a couple itās not always just drop the guy as the only solution
You put on weight because you gave him a child. Everybody puts on weight during pregnancy & itās the most beautiful thing ever because youāre creating another human being. If he literally canāt look past that & see how beautiful you really are, then leave his ass. He doesnāt deserve a woman.
Sorry heās being like this. He really needs to pull his head out of his ass and realize that NO ONE stays the sameā¦with it without giving birth, we change as we grow older.
I woulda threw my shoe at him and told him to go stay somewhere else
I know you donāt want to be a āfailureā in your marriage, especially with a new baby but girlfriend, YOU are NOT a failure, he is failing as a husband and father. You need a BFF who will encourage you and have your back to be your best self. Stay strong and work on your life without him dragging you down.
You just had a baby and if he cannot understand or get past some extra body weight that says a lot about him as a person! Iām so sorry he is making you feel that way! Itās him thatās the problem not you.
You literally just had his baby, only a selfish child would see you as disgusting. Your body just created life. Your husband isnāt a man for seeing you as being unattractive. I bet you can lose weight fast, and thatās leaving him! Thatās easily 150+lbs right off of you!
Sounds like a him problem and not a you problem. True love has nothing to do with the way the person looks. If he actually cared about you as a person, he would be looking for a ways to uplift you and motivate you to get healthy, not just his own selfish purposes. Thank you next.
First all that mess upā¦.what kinda of man says that to any womanā¦.sweetie you get yourself all set with goals n go after them n do for you not for anyone else. Also your amazing n donāt forget that
Girl giving birth is beautifulā¦ the whole dang process! That included gaining weight, which gives your child the room to grow!
If your husband canāt be a husband, then get rid of him! You gave him a child! It will be his loss, and he will realize it after youāre gone, and itās too late! You ARE BEAUTIFUL! If you choose to lose weight, then do it for yourself only and then leave him! Keep your head up! Best of luck.
Put him in the bin , the learn to love yourself baby weight and all xx
Divorce sorry thatās no one that I would want to be married too
That body that he finds so find so difficult to be intimate with nourished and protected his child! Baby weight, hormones all take a while to adjust! If he canāt respect you and your body for giving him the most precious gift ever, then he is as shallow as they come! It is not YOU that needs to change, itās HIM!
Get a new husband, itās 2022 mama!
I dont usually tell people to throw the whole man awayā¦ butā¦ babe. Youāre a life bearing goddess.
Donāt let anyone, make you feel less than magicalā¦ and that includes yourself.
Obviously your husband doesnāt truly love you itās what is in your heart not your body. As we get older our body changes like wrinkles and grey hair. Sounds like he is immature and selfish and maybe he stepped out on you.
what a dick, distance urself then and work on ur body for yourself and find u a side piece 
It should not matter what you loke like its what insid3 that matters. He sounds like he stuck on looks not loveā¦hop for the best for you
You do need to lose some weightā¦the weight of that BOY you married!!
You just gave birth to his child and a REAL man would make you feel like youāre on top of the world. Kick his ass to the curb for even making you feel that way! I bet his ass ugly anyways.
Ditch that loser fast.
Divorce, divorce, divorce.
Get rid of him you deserve better you are worth more x
Oh my goodness 
first hugs!! I canāt imagine how that world feel. Iām sorry but even if he was unattracted to your body what sort of person says that to you xx
Throw the husband away! Baby weight or not your husband should never treat you like that. I have 2 kids 11yrs and 13months and Iāve got baby weight and scars and my husband would never say anything like that! Ditch the little boy!
Iām sorry to sound like Iām defending him but you cant help how you feel. I adore my husband. I love him entirely in all other ways but I am not sexually attracted to him at all anymore because of similar reasons. I do show affection in every way I can but I cant force myself to be sexually attracted and neither can her husband. He needs to step up to show her love, kindness, tenderness, affection but to expect someone to force a physical attraction is ridiculous
You just need to throw the man away if he canāt accept you and your body after you just went through the miracle of childbirth and all that pain then he itās not worth it you deserve somebody who will love you and care about you no matter how you look and obviously he doesnāt you deserve so much better
You do need to lose weight - about 100kgs of man baby! What a grub
Wowww Iām sorry 
i would replace him 
Lose the husband. Heās trash
First, heās not a man. Second, if you wanna lose the weight do it for you, not for him.
Third, youād lose a bunch just by leaving him. And then if you wanna āget hotā heās gonna be sorry but donāt go back.
Your not a failure and I hate to even say this but was he there when you gave birth? I know a few of my friends SO that had seen them give birth weather vaginal or c-section and they just got kinda weirded out and they couldnāt be intimate either. Some did break up others worked through it. It sucks either way but where he said he didnāt know then agreed 1 time it was yr body cuz u asked him if THAT was the problem n he agreed that was it. NO MATTER WHAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT n he sucks for it in my opinion
Throw his ass outā¦ he doesnt love youā¦ your heart never changes! Karma is a bitch and hopefully by the time he figures that out your much happierā¦ bet hes cheating.
You are WAY too beautiful and amazing to be feeling this way. You gave him a gift and sacrificed yourself in the process and if heās going to be trash, send him to the dump. A man who truly loves you, will love you regardless of what weight you put on from bearing a child.
Ya , fuck that guy . Youāre body is the way it is because of carrying HIS child . You sacrificed your body to have a child , he can either love you the way you are or screw off . He is rude , unappreciative and ungrateful. What a loser ā¦
Some men (including Elvis) just loose interest in a woman after they give birthā¦of course we all know Elvis went elsewhere soā¦. But they just canāt get over the āyouāre a Mother to my child modeā
Kick his ass to the curb. Immediately!! And very sorry your going thru this.
Yes. I have advice: love yourself first. Donāt let anyone steal your self love or your self esteem. He is the problem. Not you. With him being so cruel, do you really still want to be intimate with him? If so, why? Sounds like your marriage, and each of you individually, could benefit from some therapy. Your situation does not sound healthy. Your husband does not sound kind. We all change at some point. You have gained weight. Big deal! He will get that middle aged man hard pot belly. He may lose his hair. He may need glasses. But he will still expect you to love him unconditionally. If he wonāt do the same for you, that is problematic. Work on your self love and self esteem.
Unpopular opinion ā I am very sorry you feel hurt and rejected from your husband. But, you asked him a question, and he did answer honestly (maybe a little too honestly).
It may have been very hard for him to speak up, where he never said why he rejected your advances prior to you asking. Yes, he should have thought about his response before he gave it very bluntly.
But on the flip side, he was honest and had a clear communication. Unfortunately, you cannot change how he feels.
From here, you have some choices to make. Do you stay together? Do you want to become healthier? Do you ask for help, maybe see a therapist or a nutritionist? Only you can decide your course from the information you have, and only you know how youāre feeling.
Before people get angry, I have been here with my ex. We were both really young when we had our daughter. I was 19 when I gave birth. I went into a depression and didnāt take care of myself. I regret that I did not focus on me and my health during that time. I was so upset and devastated by the rejection of my partner/boyfriend, that I dug myself into a deeper hole. Eventually we broke up and I had to help myself. I should have done so earlier, not for him, but for me.
Value yourself enough to make changes for your benefit, and donāt stay in the mindset of youāre not good enough. Start helping yourself before you lose yourself to the dark hole that has opened since that conversation.
Wow!!! Thatās awful ! Iām so sorry you have to deal with such immaturity! he should love you and want you regardless of your body! You carried his child FFS! Does he not understand that body types change?
I know it hurts but he never truly loved u! Love is not physical, itās mentally and emotionally. U gave birth to his child for that he should love you even more. U need a real man that will embrace your body just the way it is. Dont suffer for a boy and get u a man.
Please find your own worth 
Men are very visual, but heās an A$$. Donāt loose weight for him, do it for YOU! Good luck, and stay positive.
How much does he weigh? That is exactly how much you need to lose.