How quickly they forget, you were pregnant & gave birth to another human being. His child. what a jerk. You deserve better than that.
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Love is love no matter what you look like. You just had a baby and it can take months the to go back to normal. Get a new husband! He sounds like a f@ckwit!
I would not be with a guy like that especially when he is part of the reason why.
Kick the sorry POS to the curb!!! Heās your husband heās supposed to love you no matter what, through sickness and health, until death do you part! And then he has the nerve to do/act like that, HE got you pregnant HE is the reason your body has changed and you bared HIS child, birthed HIS child, raising HIS child and still even taking care and still loving him even after heās been superficial! You need to leave baby thatās no man that is a LITTLE BOY!! You should NEVER and I mean NEVER change the way you look for no person and definitely no man! If he was a real husband he would love you now more than ever, you carried his baby, put your life and the life of his child on the line when you got pregnant and even more so when you gave birth. I really and truly hope you can open your eyes and see how beautiful you are and look at the miracle you created and brought in this life and then you take that miracle and yāall leave and never look back, Iām not saying you keep his kid from him, but he is the problem not you nor your bodyā¦ If he was a real man and a real husband he wouldnāt ever turn his back and not want to have sex just because you gained some weightā¦ I know first hand how having kids can change the way you look at yourself and how you feel about the way you look, but a real man is going to shut that down and say that you are beautiful and sexy no matter what and I love this tummy and every pound you gained because look at this beautiful baby you made this and you gave it to me, every single pound and every single stretch mark turns me on even more because you have just done the most beautiful thing anyone could ever do, you gave me my childā¦.
If you lose weight for him, then you will probably resent him for making you feel so rejected during a time you needed him. He sounds very shallow. Lose the weight (for you, if you want), then lose him!!
What a fucking asshole! Wowā¦ girl. You are worth so much more than your body! Look at what your body has done and will do! Thank that body!
Lights off, talk about what he found attractive about you that is not your figure
He is garbage. He should love you for you not for what your body looks like. Leave now before you end up with 3-4 kids and a cheater for a man. 
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Omg thatās so hurtful.
He
is having an affair. Go lose the weight n find another man. And I bet he isnāt so hot either!!!
What a loser. Ditch him
So I question how many of you ladies maintain a relationship?! Is it polite the way it SEEMS to of been worded? Absolutely not! To tell her that he doesnāt love her or that she needs to leave is crazy. That is not what a marriage is about! Humans in general are sexual creatures in most cases. Just because he is having a hard time being physically attracted to her is not the end of the world. She seems to be very recently postpartum so hormones are ravings and she hasnāt had time to lose the weight yet. These variables can all change so fast. He should always respect her, that includes being honest with her. Would you guys be intimate with someone that you werenāt physically attracted to? Probably not!
Girl- please do not leave your husband. You are probably dealing with so many hormones. I understand that it feels so hurtful. I have been there in a past relationship as well. You have to make yourself happy. Get some Boudoir photos taken for the two of you, do something to spice stuff up. Maybe something he canāt turn down 
. He didnāt say he doesnāt love you, even though what he said may have not been tactful, I am sure he loves you. Men are different then us ladies, they donāt think, process or even feel the same way as we do. Please feel free to PM me if you read this and want to chat, no judgement.
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Your husband sounds like a dick
My husband just left me fir the same reason. He tried the polybomb first, but just cheated because I hadnāt consented to polyamory.
2 year later Iām still fat and heās fucking someone else and my family now just includes me and my kids.
I hope you find what you need to make yourself feel better. Took me two years to figure out that what I needed. Love to you.
Iāve always believed that if Iām not loved at my worst by my partner, he doesnāt deserve me at my best. Love goes far beyond looks, and I know that if I was the man, the mother of my child would be the most beautiful woman in the world to me, and she would know it. Everyday. Seems like thereās more to it than your looks. A 180 wouldnāt just happen like that.
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Weigh your husband. Then subtract that weight from your life. Weight loss = problem solved!
By the way, since you probably havenāt heard this: You are awesome! YOU CREATED A HUMAN BEING, HOW COOL ARE YOU??? 
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Prave. You are beautiful hes a narcissist! You deserve so much better!
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Is he fit or a little overweight? Hereās a scenario: Make some heavy foods for him to eat each night while you have soup and dinner rolls. Let him get gain some weight and see if he starts to feel how you feel. Otherwise, remember your body changed to create a beautiful life, and adapted to feed and sustain you both. And if he doesnāt find that sexy then heās the problem. He needs to change, not you
He should love you no matter what and he deff should love since u carried his child.
Iād leave and work on my revenge body tbh 
Dude is immature and shallow.
You donāt have to lose the weight at all. Sometimes a womanās body completely changes after she has a child and it even changes after each child. My body is almost completely different now after my third child. It changed with each birth and my husband hasnāt been bothered by it at all.
You can do a lot better imo
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Find you someone who likes thick women then you donāt have to worry about changing yourself. Any man thatās going to criticize the body of a woman who had their baby isnāt a real man. Dress up like a dude and have a strap on and see if he wants to be intimate that way.
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Weight is not the problem, he is. Trust me.
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Say bye bye baby,thatās so mean and disrespectful of him.Did he forget for better or worse.Remind him 
I canāt beleive that al these post are real anymore the amout of disrespect you women are putting up with is unreal ā¦ you just gave birth to your guys child he should be worshiping you and your new body
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My EX husband once told me he didnāt find me attractive while I was pregnant with our child. One of many reasons weāre no longer married.
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Help yourself by losing him. You are worth more than what he thinks girl no matter how big or small you are. Some men are just worthless and that shows just how much he is. Love yourself and be intimate to yourself if he doesnāt want to because the more you love yourself the happier you will be about you. You got this and donāt let anyone tell you your not beautiful! 
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Nothing is wrong with you this is a āHim problemā you do whatās best for you and your kids if he canāt see that you are and amazing mother and wife and a beautiful woman then he isnāt honering your vows and does not deserve you in any shape way or formā:purple_heart:
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Sounds to me he stepped out and is using that as his excuseā¦
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Why do you still want to be with him ? he is selfish and doesnāt care about you and the kid just leave and find someone that loves you for you all of you flaws and all !!
So Iām clear, this man has the audacity to put a baby in you which ofcourse was gonna alter your figure and has the nerve to find you physically unappealing. He better have the body of the Rockā¦ smh
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Your body is different because you carried a child for 9 months and gave birth. Instead of making you feel insecure about any weight changes you may have endured, he should thank you for bringing life into this world and try to rise you up when youāre feeling low about the physical changes.
I was so tiny before I had my daughter. Sheās 3 now abs honestly have her lost the baby weight. My bf and I have been together for 8 years and be still loved me As much as he did before I denied the weight from having our daughter. Even though I am not happy with how I look, he does not hesitate telling me he still thinks Iām beautiful
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Yeah get rid of him he is not worth having.
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You can throw the whole man away and start over. Iām sorry. I truly am. Iāve put on weight since my husband and I met and you know what? He still adores me. Probably more now than before! Iāve had 3 of his children, so naturally my body has changed a lot. If your husband truly loves you, he loves you not just for your body, but your mind and the woman you are. If you want to lose weight, you do it FOR YOU. Not for him, because honestly it sounds like itās a him problem, not a you problem.
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I hate when men act like this when heās the one who put he baby in you. What a loser
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You can move on. That can help you. He seems to be the weight problem. Thatās so f**king cruel of him to think like this. If only men could be the baby barers or have the ability to understand what the female body goes through on a day to day & see how that actually works. So sorry to you & your heart, can imagine how crushed you must be & feel. Our bodies change without pregnancy as well so itās a shitty move on his part. Thatās not someone who truly loves you. My own personal decision would be to leave asap. As hard as that would be with all the emotional mental trauma thatās happening right now, you can definitely do without someone like that in your life. Really really sorry that youāre having to go through that. Itās not until youāre gone & working on yourself that people with this mindset, try to come back into your life & try there way again in hopes you will fit there narrative of how things should be, look or feel. I hope you find the strength & courage you need to see yourself through the eyes of the people who truly do love & care about you & that you find some answers thatāll help you navigate the new year. Big hugs mama x
Heās not the one
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Your husband is a selfish, shallow man. If he loves you it shouldnāt matter that you gained weight after having a baby.
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Lose weight then leave.
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Best advice I have is leave the little boy and find a man! Cause what in the actual fu** is wrong with him.
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Love your body, find someone else who will love your body. Change it for you not for anyone else. Leave him, boss up and make him wish he appreciated you more. His connection to you shouldnāt be on your physical appearance.
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My ex use to say this but infact , cheated with a girl bigger than me and follows bigger girls than me on insta n only fans
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Kick that piece of scum out
Thatās horrible. Your husband should find you attractive no matter what you look like. Neither you or him are going to look the same as the day you met forever. Youāre both going to change physically because thatās life. So his behavior is wrong.
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love yourself enough to leave him and make a life for you and your child as he does not deserve what he is disrespecting
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However much he weighs, lose that much dead weight and your self esteem will improve immediately. 
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What an absolute arshole
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Be TRUE to YOU! The FIRST weight loss YOU NEED is get rid of him. Then follow your NEW JOURNEY & SELF with a beautiful baby watching you! . God bless. 
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My husband said the same to me & it took me awhile to realize its himā¦not meā¦but a marraige w/o intimacy is more like roommatesā¦not sure what to sayā¦as im living it also
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The question isnāt āWhat can I do to help him find me more attractive?ā
Itās āWhat can I do for MYSELF to make me feel better about MYSELF?ā
If your husband doesnāt appreciate you and your body after having his child, he is the problem. NOT YOU.
I know the feeling too well. And I know you already felt like that and he āconfirmedā your feelings towards yourself. But if he isnāt going to appreciate you, he can get the fuck out.
Your husband is so selfish,
You went through all the pain ad discomfort to have a baby and he has the cheek to refuse sex.
You will lose the weight when your ready.
LEAVE you deserve some that loves you for who you are.
Put him straight in the bin! 
The weight you need to lose is what ever he weighs then bin him. The audacity 
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No idea this wasnāt private. Redacting my comment
What a asshole, he should have thought about your body changing before he decided to impregnate you. Tell him to boot it and go live your best life with your beautiful baby.
Please donāt look for answers on Facebook you need guidance perhaps with a therapist
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Like another lady said, lose the dead weight, throe the whole man away. Go to social services and file for child support. Itās all him and not you. There are better men out there.
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Your body just created a whole new life. Be proud of it. It is beautiful. It is miraculous. You are perfect.
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two things can be true at one: s/ he can love you & not be physically attracted to you. Love does not always equate to physical artraction.
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My husband said to leave his ass. It wont matter now or laterā¦ If he is this shallow now he will be this shallow later when youāve aged and have wrinkles and your skin sags and your hair is grey. Wtf ever. It will always be something. Gtf out of there.
I think he should love you more nowā¦since you birthed his offspring. If anything he should be trying to help you feel great about yourself again. Iād have to say if he doesnāt make an effort you could lose a whole lot of weight by getting rid of him.
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Tell him WTF! How horrible for you! Leave him & find a real man who will love you, for you, inside & out!
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This lady is not looking to leave her husband so we need to stop telling her to leave and try to give realistic advice and resources. Therapy, open communication with your husband, and do whatās best for you and not your husband.
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The only weight you need to lose is however much he weighs 
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He doesnt know what love is.
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Girl he is not a real man! You grew and birthed his child! Tell his a** to get the f*** on! Sorry but some woman never get the chance to get pregnant and give birth! A real man loves you and wants you no matter how much you weigh! I didnāt learn what itās like to be be unconditionally loved no matter my weight until I met my BF.
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Heās a little bitch. You birthed his CHILD. And regardless he should love you no matter what. He would be gone.
Tell him if he doesnāt want to have sex with you someone else willā:woman_shrugging:t2:
Sorry, but f- him. He married you and vowed to be there for you through anything. Childbirth is a gift, and if he doesnāt find you attractive after having birthed his own child, thatās not love.
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You admitted you have self esteem issues as a result of weight loss. Seek counseling and try boosting yourself and perhaps lose weight. He canāt validate you.
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This man is immature, uncaring and all about himself. You are the prize and one day he will regret it. Make him leave.
Girl loss the weight. Then after you lose all your weight tell him see ya later & move on to a man who will love you more than what your husband does. You got this girl
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Men will never understand what it is like to have a baby
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I think u should kick that man out of ur houseā¦he needs to undrstand giving birth to a baby its nt easy,instead of being with u comfrts u he is behaving like an idiotā¦sch ppl nvr chngeā¦make urslf a priortyš
Unfortunately you found out too late he s not a grown mature man. Narcissistic personality behavior. Make yourself and baby the priority. He will never change, mark my words. Sorry you re gokn through this. Your weight is not the problem. A real man would adore his wife and her body for bringing the baby into the world. This event is to be treasured along with her body that made it possible. Give that new baby all your attention and love. You will survive without him. Believe me. Years down the line he all always have an excuse.
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If losing weight is what you desire, do so. Meanwhile do it in the dark. If he refuses when you attack him at 2 am, your weight is not the issue. Ever heard of the Madonna complex?
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He needs therapy, and couples therapy. Can help too. He clearly has issues. You gave him a child. You are a goddess and he needs to get with it!
Umm your body created her child tell em itās 2022 get over it. I have a mom bod but if he truely loves you he would get over himself
Leave him honey. U can find someone who truly love you. He clearly doesnāt love u.
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You grow his baby in your body and then complains about the way it looks?!?! You have got to be fucking kidding me! Leave him and love yourself!
WOW!! What A Husband!! Leave!!!
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It is not what you are doing. It is what he is not doing. He needs to support you and he is almost degrading you. There may be more thyroid is hard and it can take months for an actual diagnosis. You can get on medication but you had a child that is normal
I gained tons of weight but over time I dropped down to my normal size. He still should be showing you some kind of attention and intimacy and he should be communicating to you in a manner of respect, and love and support. I hope you can love yourself more than worry about loving him right now. You are beautiful and it seems to me he is the one with the problem not you! Lots of men love their woman thick! Try to have a heart to heart and he needs to really step up. He canāt all of sudden just not want to have sex because of you giving him his child for one something seems off maybe its the way its explained in the post butā¦ stay strong Mama!
I would suggest counseling for you both.
I promise you porn is the problem
Thyroid issues such, but can be controlled. If you lose that weight, do it for yourself. Fuck him !
There are men who have seriously injured themselves having sex with various household objects, such as vacuum cleaners. It is not about you or your body. If a man will have sex with a vacuum cleaner, heāll have sex with his wife who got a little chubby while growing his baby. There is something else going on, but heād rather make you feel like shit than admit that he is the issue. He needs help.
He was harsh as hell. But you got an honest answer.
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Holy crap. Thatās just straight up nasty. Tell him to move on.
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You need to kick this shallow man to be kerb
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How dare himā¦You deserve betterā”
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I donāt understand why the shower is the only place he doesnāt pay attentionā¦.there is still a light in there. If he canāt have sex with you in the dark, I donāt think your body is REALLY the problem.
See your doctor for weightloss tips. Your husband sounds really immature.
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Ask him throughout the week questions like are you getting shorter, is your hair getting thinner, is that a new wrinkle, do you need to speak to the doctor about not being able to function, would you like me to pickup some salad for you 
flip the tables. See how he feels. I have 4 kids with my spouse and if he said any of that to me heād be celebate for years to come. Donāt let him bring you down.
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Tell him your baby means more to you than his love making if heās that selfish he donāt deserve you an your baby lose him now tell him to grow up
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Going against the grain hereā¦
You cant help what your sexually attracted to. That being said He didnāt say he didnāt love you so there is room to work through this with couples counsellingā¦
Also as depressed as it makes you feel try not to let it get to you too much - confidence is key
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Leave. There are better men out there!
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Ok start to dress up do your hair and make up put on something nice make a good meal start off slow you got this momma you just had a baby by doing this you will feel better the weight will come off in time and if this doesnāt ask him what is the last thing you will remember on me answer the back of your head as you walk out the door
If you get rid of him thatās a hundred or so pounds gone
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Why is he a bad person for feeling how he feels? At least heās attempting to communicate his feelings.
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Dump him! He isnāt worth your time or effort if all he can see is the shape of your body. That is not love!
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Omg dump him! You had a baby for God sake and thyroid issues! How dare he make you feel that way. Its not you hunni its HIM
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