Also - he needs to fix himself first then maybe your life with him would be different. It has nothing to do with you.
I mean you’re not ok with him watching porn but are yall having sex still? If he still wants you in bed i see no issue porn can be an addiction but as long as its not taking priority over you i wouldnt make it an issue… pick your battles. In my relationship my fiance picks me over porn any day but probably 5 days a week he watches it, i work nights and hes on days so theres time we arent home together, ill even watch it once a blue moon. Really the issue seems your self confidence though i mean hes still with you after 6 years and if he loves you why cant the porn be overlooked?
It is unrealistic to keep someone from watching porn…its not cheating it’s called mastubation
The 2 key words in this post are MY HUSBAND
adultery destroys marriages
There are alooooot of ppl commenting on this post who LOVE PORN and are willing to aggressively throw shade at ppl who want true exclusivity true monogamy… BE CAREFUL WHO U TAKE ADVICE FROM
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it’s gone that far sorry to say there’s no way to fix it.
You need to find a good man that Cares about you and your feelings.
Take care
Joe
Put on those outfits and go to the local gas station with him. He can see what other men think 
It sounds to me, when you decided porno was cheating? It sounds to me that you were the only one deciding this, he may had not been in full agreement or realized what exactly what your were calling porno… i was once heard women love hot romance stories whether it be books or romantic comedies. Well men like these types of things too. But theirs has been labeled porno… also i was in a relationship a few years back. And he had a complete library of porno movies. He referred to them as educational tapes for adults.
Now would you please explain to me how watching porno is cheating?? Everyone has a fantasy life in some form another? People fantasize about winning the lottery. And even play the game with others on "if you won the lottery what would you do first? " ive seen this on facebook ever so often.
I think your mans porno watching is only a fantasy thing… hes not wanting to be with the women hes watching but maybe watching to figure out what this or that would feel like. And if hes watching as a educational thing. Then he maybe wondering what position would be like to been maybe tried with you…
No one is born naturally ‘good in bed’ and yes people have to make up or get ideas from somewhere … i think youre blowing all this way out of proportion… or too straight laced and probably totally so ridiculous to even talk to about sex or sexual positions with you. So he has to go somewhere to watch a fantasy sexual stimulating porno to take care of maybe something hes needing for himself. Cuz im sorry but one position or same sexual routine does get boring after awhile… and for someone to say watching porno is cheating… i just cant see how this is possible considering if they do get turned on they are not with anyone else but manipulating themselves alone… they cant physically touch anything but themselves. So is masterbation cheating to you too??
You can ask any pediatrician that question about masterbation and they will tell you even babies still in the womb masterbate. Personally because i dont know you, but based on you complaint about your partner and his fantasy watching of adult porno… i think you have your own hang ups about sex. And before you totally destroy this relationship and totally blow things out of the water you need counseling and maybe rent some rated “R” movies. One being my favorites with the title called “Indecent Proposal” it had Robert Redford and Demi Moore starring in it… watching this causes your mind to wonder and understand a very adult subject at hand thats very sexual in nature… without watching the actual sexual act its self. Porno is about the same thing. Except it some times shows the actual sexual act.
And here you are whinning here on social media about your problem (not his) about sex when this world is so open to every sexual stimulation there can possibly be between human adults. Now days gay and lesbians have right and took over the beloved rainbow as their flag… and we have unisex public bathrooms… talk about everything right in your face. And youre bitching about your partner possibly masterbation during them watch something that he can not physically touch. Think about it. Its no way cheating. But youll be cheating yourself out of someone that may truly love you that maybe having fantasy thoughts about making love with you in some of the ways hes seen in his porno watching but maybe too afraid to try it with you cuz then im sure youd accuse tem of learning it out side of your relationship. You need counseling big time. Cuz i cant tell you anything more than what i am here. Since you brought your dirty laundry to be viewed by all on social media Facebook.
I watch porn alot and get myself off alot . My boyfriend sits there and watches with me . Or not Why is porn so bad? Why is it such an issue? I have low self esteem maybe he just needs to take you on a nice date night or bring the magic back .
Counseling for you, and the both of you
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Leave him, if you can, theres no point for you to waste you life being soo unhappy with the pervert… You deserve soo much better for yourself eg. Love You for you you’re not the problem he is… Good Luck, Be strong… Do what’s best for you.
Sorry I missed out your 3 Children. So yes do what’s best for you and your kiddies… If Mum is Happy kids are Happy, and by what I’ve read you all would be better off without him… Choose Happiness 
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PLEASE READ:
Hi, I was married to a porn addict for 25 years!! STOP! STOP! Go get yourself divorced or you will forever be unhappy… Not with him but with yourself for always “trying to” or “failing” as you see it, to be sexy for him. You are miserable and I can tell you have a million more examples waiting on the back burner. All the stuff you are telling us and looking for advice?? Go look at YOURSELF (look into your eyes) please. Now tell yourself all those things as if it was a girlfriend of yours being treated this way. Now, ask YOUR OWN EYES the question you asked us. Did you answer it HONESTLY? I know it’s hard. Go back and do it again… Honesty to YOU from YOU will heal you. You know the answer to your question so go ahead and bounce it off of us until YOU ARE READY! BE BRAVE! LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!
CAUTION/ADVICE
Wait along time before you date again. You have to train your brain different methods and ways of life. YOU WILL PICK ONE JUST LIKE THE LAST BECAUSE YOU AREN’T HEALED!! Don’t waste another day being unhappy and unloved in a marriage that doesn’t return anything to it!!! You WILL do it when you are ready. This is a start… Go!!
Ps. Conversation in the mirror!!! It works. Be honest. 
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Ummm No its an addiction for sure.
Chris Mcintosh same here! Gentle advice…Mama Don’t waste your life with this man that is not a spiritual leader in your family. The devil has his in now.
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Tell him straight up EXACTLY how you feel. Seek counseling as well. It’s hard to shut a door that was open but it’s not impossible. Praying for you and your marriage:pray:
Dump him, bring your babies up on your own with support around you ie, friends or family. This dick won’t change for you hunn, he needs to do that himself. Let him cuddle up to his hand n phone at night alone.
He is addicted to porn - yes, but you are addicted to him.
I didn’t even read…ALL I SAW WAS " UNHAPPY " I say…GO!!!
Focus on you honey. Love yourself. If you can’t then no one else can.
He needs counseling for sexual addiction
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You don’t deserve this kind of feeling.
You need to send him pics of you in some sexy lingerie. Give him you to look at. See if that helps!
Addiction is never about anyone else. It’s not you, it’s him.
he very insecure, unknowledgeable even, get/do couple counseling
HE has a very big addiction problem
So there’s a lot of comments on this thread from people that have NO idea what you’re dealing with and because of that are giving horrible advice. Porn addiction is as real as drug or alcohol addiction. It’s extremely painful and Im sorry you are going through this. You do not deserve to play second fiddle to porn. I imagine he’s also emotionally unavailable as are most addicted. Please get into therapy ASAP.
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He is a liar and proof is his constantly lying. Either get over it or tell him bye
You’ve got choices. Leave or stay.
I think you need to go to counseling for your own self esteem issues.
I also think you and your husband should go to counseling as well.
Probably solo counseling for him as well.
If you two still can not rekindle the love, rebuild the trust, etc then leave and find happiness elsewhere, but I especially think if you two could work pay this, it could benefit y’all and the kids.
I guess I’ll be the crazy one here and say… TRY WATCHING IT WITH HIM. Everyone has fantasy’s. Why not try something knew. There are other ways of getting through this to make u both happy. Just sayin!!!
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I used to do this kind of I’d get upset he’d watch porn and I’d catch him looking at girls even though id watch it as well or we watch it together but its honestly IN MY CASE my insecurities I’ve gained ALOT of weight and I think I expected him to only have eyes for me when in all reality everyone looks ( imo) they might not do it in front of you but I know I look at guys and girls so I cant get mad of he does anyways I’m starting to feel more comfortable with myself getting myself ready and making MYSELF FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF and its helped my relationship alot I finally realized alot of my insecurities were making fights he could look one way and eught back and I’d act as if he has been staring at a girl for 5 mins I’m not saying that’s the case with you I definitely believe that if you’ve communicated and he has not changed he most likely will not but please do not think you’re not good enough he just doesnt bring out the best in you and just because he is a great father does not mean he is a great boyfriend or husband you need BOTH do not settle he will still be able to be a great father while you become a HAPPY and great mother and WOMEN . WE DO NOT ONLY NEED A FATHER WE NEED A LIFE PARTNER WHO MAKES LIFE BETTER 
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I think at the base of what I read hear is someone who is incredibly insecure within herself. I think that’s where you need to start. Work on yourself.
When he watches porn n ignores u yes it’s a problem. I went thru this also. It’s hurtful. I finally divorced my ex when the pics he was looking at appeared 2 b 12 year olds. Disturbing 2 say the least. He had absolutely zero interest in me. He also would say everyone watches it n all his friends did. I pointed out that all his friends probably didn’t ignore their wives. I’m not by any means unattractive n I like sex so the problem was not me it was him. This went on over a 17 year period b4 I called it quits. It can Definitly b an addiction.
I can’t believe how insensitive some people are being. Everyone has different boundaries and for me i’m ok with my partner watching porn until it interferes with our sex life or my self esteem. I also have a lot of confidence issues so i can totally understand why you feel this way. It’s sad to end a relationship with the father of your child but things don’t always work out the way you think they are meant to. Gain your strength and self confidence some how, it’s a tricky situation and i’m sorry you’re dealing with it. x
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It helps to be appreciated in a relationship to feel wanted to feel your got his attention to
Help give self esteem.
If everything she does to spicy things up he search online and jerks of too, isn’t going to fill her with confidence and think she’s his world is it?
Its dismissive, disrespectfull and very hurtful. Why a husband would do such a thing to his wife I don’t know. To jerk of to women every other dick and fanny are romping to instead if his beautiful wife, is just wrong.
Maybe take the phone off him in the middle and just jump on. 
There’s nothing wrong with watching a reasonable amount of porn. The problem here is that he knew you were against it, made an agreement that he wouldn’t do it. I’m not really bothered by the porn. What gets me is him comparing you to other women online. That cannot make any woman feel great about themselves. I strongly suggest counseling. That’s if you think the marriage is worth salvaging.
I stopped reading half way. Mama, you have to stop placing your happiness on his shoulders. That is an inside job. If you want to look better for you and him… But you first do something about it. I can’t say if the porn is an addiction or if you just don’t like it. He is, however just telling you want to hear to pacify you until the next time… Hes unlikely to stop so you have to decide if that is the hill you want to die on or if you just cannot live with it, ultimatums don’t work tho.
I did this with my ex husband for 15 yrs. It destroyed our relationship. He will not fix it. And as you stated it’s already ruining your feelings. My ex would rather whack off to porn than have sex. My current husband can’t get enough of me. I would just move on. You will feel better about yourself. Even without someone.
I totally get why you feel the way you do!!
It hurts when they lust after other women…
Tell him to leave or continue to put up with it.
If you put up with it though it will bring you down mentally more and more.
He’s morally not there for you… imo.
How many chances are you giving out?
He knows it hurts you but he’s still watching it. Not snarky but serious.
If he is an actual addict, he needs to be at a point where he wants to work on himself.
Give home the space to do so by sending him out of your home.
You don’t deserve to be made to feel less than.
I have to be honest, I force myself to get through a porn video, I always feel bad seeing the Perfect bimbo, blond, skinny great big fake boobies, ughhhhh…and he loves me, I know he does, the jealousy and body insecurities suck
Are you giving him enough sex? That could be one issue to his porn addiction. Try discussing this with him and see what changes can be made.
It’s time to leave. Your soil is telling you and your gut instinct already knows.
I as a women watch porn
I know lot’s off men does
Hope he learns how to F…… same as watching cooking show, and cannot cook 
Find someone who will love you…what you have is An Asshole🤷 no matter what excuse you have for porn!!!No Respect for relationship.
ummmm… how in the HELL is watching porn cheating???
Join him he might like that! Maybe he wants you to role play or something.
Coming from a very-pro-porn, cis, hetero, male:
You set the boundary early on. He had the choice to accept or deny that boundary.
Considering he apparently agreed to these conditions and then proceeded to deceptively act in the contrary, fuck him.
End of story.
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Clearly most of you didn’t read her whole story. 
Bet if YOUR husband saw you in a bikini, then went to jack it to other real life womens reviews of that same suit, you’d be pissed/hurt too 
But, please, go off about how healthy it is and she’s the crazy one! Seriously. Stfu
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He sounds like a narcissist! & to the people saying she needs to work on herself:fu:t4:, do y’all know how hard it is to gain confidence back when your man is doing everything in his power to keep you down? Excuse my language but fuck this guy! You are going to self destruct if you stay with a man who constantly disrespects you…. Best thing I ever did was leave a man with a porn addiction & find myself again! Not all men are like this. Most watch it occasionally when their partner is out of town or whatever… but to do it the way he is with you, he’s an abuser! Leave his ass and don’t look back! I know you have kids, but let’s be real… kids deserve a happy confident mama! They also deserve to be around men who lift women up… he doesn’t sound like the one for either of y’all… 
you are beautiful, you are deserving, I understand girl.
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If you have an iron skillet don’t use it to make cornbread, girl you know what to do with it
If his addiction makes you unhappy and not wanted make him kick rocks, you are his wife and mother of his children, you deserve to be respected!!
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Wow there’s a bunch of women on here acting like they don’t get upset at their man looking at other women in a lustful way.
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If he brings you hurt and sadness when you’re with him instead of joy and love then he isn’t treating you well. Its wrong and sounds toxic. I would leave. No addiction is better than another addiction and he needs real professional help. You’re beautiful and deserve much more than that. I’ve been in the same situation.
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He can still be a great father with you being split up. You know exactly what you want to do your just needing the push to make the 1st step to freedom. This had gone on 6 years?! that is already 2189 days too long of disrespecting you. I’ve been in this situation but with my ex it was alcohol which eventually turned into DV. We have been separated 3years now, he’s doing better and is a much better father and I met the love of my life who treats me with the respect I’ve always yearned for. I left with nothing but the clothes on my kids back and now I have my own car my own place and my own happier healthier life.
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I’ve been there sweetheart, and unfortunately you can’t make him give a sh*t about your feelings. 
I tried for years to make a very similar man fall in love with me and give a shit and he just didn’t.
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Have you thought about counselling? It could really help if you want to try and make it work.
It does sound like you’ve had enough though and are not in love with him anymore. If that’s the case, call time on the marriage. He does nothing for your self esteem and confidence, which a husband absolutely should do.
It’s hard as I’ve been there and also have 3 children but you’d get through it and will undoubtedly have more confidence for doing so!
Big hugs x x
I think that him bringing you down is the big problem
getting off to women in lingerie youve bought is pretty gross
thats not the same as watching porn imo its bloody disrespectful and its happened more than once.
I not surprised you are falling out of love.
invest that energy into loving yourself.
Spend time and money on you.
Ignore him and his phone.
Bet he notices a shift in your confidence and he’ll be the one begging for attention.
Sheesh! Divorce? Counseling? Addiction?
Could it be that he is just bored sexually? Sex is suppose to be hot, fun, exciting and provide a relaxed emotion at the end. Nobody likes the same ol’ thing night after night. This man is missing something in his relationship. Neither of you sound happy in this situation and everyone deserves happiness, even him. I hope you do figure it out for yourself and do what brings your heart happiness.
He should have just been honest in the beginning and been straight forward and said he likes watching porn and that’s part of who he is and his sexuality. I personally think it’s unreasonsbale for partners to ask the other one not to watch porn or if they think about other people, etc. It’s kind of against human nature to only be turned on and attracted to one woman or man. It’s unrealistic. A better expectation is that he doesn’t act on it. That we can control. If the worst he does is porn, I would work on trying to accept that and maybe join in watching. I understand where you’re coming from and if its something you just can’t get past I would be honest and discuss that with him and ask him to seek counselling with you to approach this matter , or leave.
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At this point, it is what it is. You need to talk to someone to figure out how to love yourself. You can’t just blame his sexual desires for your self esteem. You have 3 kids together who deserve both parents. You need to figure it out.
you gotta love yourself before you can ever love another . but almost everyone watches porn, even women… Id ask my hubby to just delete his history on our computer or whatever just in case so I didnt happen to see it. You can also see about watching together or maybe making your own home videos??
If you’re unhappy, run…don’t waste time you’ll never get back…it’s up to you to feel good about yourself; don’t let him make you feel bad about yourself; stand up! 
Can I just ask why you class it as cheating. And I don’t mean that in a condescending way or anything I just want to understand more from your point of view. I personally don’t have an issue with it because it’s me my man tells me he loves. He’s always putting his hand on me, giving me cuddles etc. It’s not something he does on a regular basis and he doesn’t hide the fact he watches it. I’m bisexual and love to watch lesbian porn when the mood takes. I’m sorry you feel this way about yourself and your partner clearly isn’t giving you the attention you deserve and need. Maybe this need addressed and the porn watching may subside a bit.x
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I would not have even allowed that mess anywhere near me for that long myself,but I’m mean and have a dang near zero tolerance policy with being disrespected.
how long did you know him before you said I do?
howd you find out? did you go thru his phone? jw
Maybe he feels the same about 3 kids in 6 years. Is that what he wanted too?
Yeah, I’d be leaving. you deserve better and you are not responsible for getting him help for his addiction to porn.
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Your happiness is important leave if you’re unhappy
Hes toxic if he cannot find respect for the wife. I love porn but There’s a fine line to it. If he makes her feel uncomfortable and doesn’t show her that shes beautiful and give her the attention she deserves she needs to find a man that will. Id say dump the asshole. Share the kids and move on!! She deserves to be happy. There are men that will treat her way better.
Heeelllllllll nah.
I have no advice. Sorry.
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Have you tried sending him nudes and videos of yourself?? Are you feeding that side of your husband’s need? Maybe you need to step it up
Or
Maybe he’s an asshole, this isn’t the place to air out that laundry. You know what your doing or not doing for him. If you can’t satisfy him why are you wasting your time or are you not trying to satisfy him and expecting him to be ok with that?? Look in the mirror, you’ll have your answer.
He’s not gonna change honey
Get rid.get your life and confidence back.this man is a narcissist.
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Communication is the key and tell him how you feel. If he keeps making u happy then do what makes u happy
I feel like you would have more self confidence without him. 
Good luck!
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Maybe you should watch porn with him and start feeling on him and gargle his balls in ur mouth like it’s mouth wash and while u r doing that wet his thing thing with ur spit (saliva)and use ur hands and slowly or medium speed up and down around his thing while twisting ur hand around it side to side and then Gradually speed up little by little…and call him daddy or master or sir or papi and role play some guys like that (sincerely a freak )
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Okie dokie, every man or woman that watches porn Isa Sicko lots of Sicko on here!!! You’re on the wrong page, sweetie 
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He need serious counseling
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He’s a douchebag move on!
i’m sorry your feeling betrayed, but perhaps rather then him working on him self, maybe start working on your self esteem,
pornography although u may not like it , is normal ! men check women out and women check men out it’s that simple.
he is still looking at it cause he obviously thinks your views on porn are just not his idea on it, therefore he doesn’t see the issue and never will.
as much as this sucks, that’s something u need to re evaluate in your self and work on.
he doesn’t make u feel worse about your self you allow his addictions to make u feel worse.
you say he is an amazing person and father so is it worth losing him cause he likes porn ?
i can tell you now ! better the devil you know then the devil you don’t.
is porn really just the issue here ?
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I think you already know your answer…….
Make him stop or leave
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Look up Wanting it more.
What I took from your post is how insecure you are about yourself. No matter what he does or doesn’t do you will never feel good about yourself until you truly heal and work on your own insecurities. I’m not defending him. I think porn is one of the most damaging things to a relationship, but you have to value yourself before you can expect anyone else to. I’ve been through this and it’s hard, but you can overcome it.
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Oh honey, I’m so sorry. I’ve walked this same road and so many people laughed at me when I would say my husband had a porn addiction. Don’t listen to the people saying it can’t be an addiction. It totally can. My husband would spend HOURS looking at. I gave birth and he was looking. I’m at my grandmother’s funeral and he’s looking. He even got caught at work, neglecting his duties to watch. There are some amazing support groups out there. Just remember, it’s HIS problem and it doesn’t reflecton your worth at all. I know it’s so hard when you’re constantly being told you’re not enough. Keep your head held high and if you need any support, send me a message and I’ll help straighten that beautiful crown of yours. hugs
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Women have been brainwashed to think men watching porn is normal and healthy. It’s not. And it’s damaging to reality, real women, real sex and expectations. There are more pick me women than not so don’t feel like YOU are wrong, it’s not ok and no woman should have to accept it. Unfortunately most men are so you’ll have to deal with that pretty much with everyone so I have no advice except, your feelings are 100% valid.
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I’m going to touch on things that hurt … …
You wanting him to change his behaviors for you is not right. He very well has most likely done it forever. When you get married each partner has quirks or secrets that is all part of being married.
If you can’t love yourself in your skin how can you expect him to?
If you have kids then you know this theory…
Say My son has a girlfriend that I don’t like and I tell him. He will most likely continue to be with her out of defiance.
Just how you say you have made it clear it upsets you etc He will then indulge more most likely.
I’m 35 and been with my husband for almost 13 years our sex life is 
Once upon a time porn bothered me just like you why?!? The stigma and I Had to own up to my own secrets. Then when my partner was included it was a game changer!
FREAKS
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here’s the best way I can put it …
you can’t change anyone who doesn’t wanna change their self.
& that’s completely fine. they’re free to choose.
however, you are fully free (allowed) to decide whether or not you are gonna accept it…
you don’t have to allow anything that interrupts your peace from any man! (any person in general)
I’d drop the whole man, sis.
married or not. I’m not playing with anyone, anymore.
once I voice how I feel, especially more than once, & you do the same disrespectful action, I can love you & never speak to you again. 
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Girl do what makes you happy. You cant fix a broken person. Hes set in his ways. Im going threw this also and they dont realize how bad it makes you feel. I had to learn to love myself to keep loving him. I wont look threw his phone no more in fear of being let down. Its always running threw my head but I know im enough and worthy so in a sence I dont care cuz if he wants to risk what he has for a random then thats his problem when he pushes to far but I feel your pain sorry I dont have any good advise for you. I have been with my man 11 years and also have 3 kids. I hope you figure it out and what ever happens just remember you are good enough and life goes on!
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Quit with the counseling bullshit. People do NOT change. Who someone is, is who they are at the core. If you leave today and he gets involved with another woman, it’ll be her posting a similar version of your post. This isn’t about you at all. It’s not that you aren’t enough. You are more than enough but you’ll never be enough for the wrong person. He has issues that will transcend every relationship he will ever be in. That’s for him to figure out and work through. While he’s doing whatever it is he does, you go be happy. The right one is on a collision course with you right now and your paths will cross.
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You need to boost your own confidence, girl. Love yourself and then you won’t let yourself allow anyone that loves you incorrectly in your life.
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He needs to get off his phone and be present in the moment. Sounds like he is so into his phone that he doesn’t hear or see you anymore. Real life is with you and your kids, not your phone. My man looks at porn, it doesn’t bother me. We have a rule of no phones when we are together. We don’t live together so all time together is precious. Your man needs to wake up and put down his phone and reconnect to you.
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I have had some other issues with my girls dad. I begged him to stop talking to a girl if he wanted us to work out. I had been living with his mom. He got dumped by the girl. And came back to me begging for a second chance and wanted me to move back home and work it out. He cheated on me multiple times after that. I walked. I deserve to be happy. And now I have a boyfriend who is loyal and honest and adores me. And wants to sleep with me all the time. And avoids watching porn and looks at my photos instead.
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I have a client whose boyfriend has a porn addiction. She couldn’t tell you the last time they had sex. But she broke up with him and now he has a phone with no internet on it and goes to therapy once a week. They are friends, but working back towards being together
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Please don’t get angry at me but until what you see in the mirror changes your relationships with men won’t. It not your partners job to make you feel better about yourself. If you don’t feel good about yourself you are asking something incredibly hard and frankly impossible for them to do. Setting them up for failure just so we can then say they don’t make us feel good about ourselves. I also don’t think it’s realistic to compare ourselves to movie stars, supermodels or even porn stars. I know I’m not even in the same ball field as those woman are. For me i don’t compare. Now I’m not saying the porn thing is ok and I absolutely think if you aren’t ok with it than you need to leave. Especially when it’s something you’ve established from the beginning you aren’t ok with. Sound like he’s always done it so you asking him to change had done nothing. You have to think more of yourself that’s what will help you find the strength to leave.
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He’s never going to change, but girl you need therapy/counciling because it sounds like those deep seeded insecurities started before him and he’s just exacerbating it. For me, I’d be happy it’s just porn and him keeping his hands to himself.
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The comments saying that he can’t be a good father because he watches porn stop that. His private needs and wants have NOTHING to do with his parenting abilities.
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I was in a similar marriage and prior to that my answer would be something along the lines of communication, understanding, possible reasons. Since that marriage I would say it sounds pretty targeted. Discussion has been had about it so now it’s just blatant disregard and disrespect which you know and that’s why now it’s hitting you a new way. He sounds like a narcissist. Counseling was great for us because they concluded he was a narcissist and once I learned more in therapy, got my own self confidence, I was able to leave.
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He can keep being a great father and person but he obviously isn’t being a great Husband. Throw the whole man away 
You BOTH agreed in the beginning that porn is cheating and he has just continued to do it and hurt you with no regards to your feelings at all.
I think it’s really admirable that you tried for the sake of your kids to work on your relationship, but there comes a point where it would be healthier for the kiddos to see a happy mamma in a happier life - and if you so decide eventually, another healthier relationship. Just my opinion, but if it were me and I was as done as you sound, I would leave. I think you’re a kind and caring person from this post, and you deserve a man who will respect your relationship boundaries willingly and enthusiastically because he just wants to make you happy and for the relationship to thrive. Whatever happens and you end up deciding, I hope it is a good outcome. Sending support to you.