Personally I wouldn’t be okay with this, but every relationship is different. What works for some might not work for others.
If they didn’t know each other, and I didn’t know her, yeah I’d be livid. But if they have been friends for a while and I know her, then it wouldn’t bother me.
If it is bothering you that he did it, then yes it is wrong. Each relationship is different. People are on here saying stop being so petty and others are saying it’s wrong he did it. That just goes to show everyone has a different opinion of what is okay in a relationship. So it’s important for you to communicate with your man on how you feel. If it was bothering you, you should have went out and asked him if he could come there and help you for a moment then tell him behind closed doors that you felt like it was inappropriate, no need to call him out and blast him infront of anyone. I feel like most the time people come online and ask if something is okay that their significant other has done looking for validation of their feels and personal response to a situation. If it is something that is bothering you then that is the important thing and if your significant other cares about you and loves you they won’t do things that make you uncomfortable or upset.
It all boils down to… talk to your husband about how you feel! Communicate!
Its only appropriate to be with your spouse. That it
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Not ok! My fiance wouldn’t even entertain it because he knows it would be disrespectful!
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Would he be okay with you being in a hot tub alone with another man? If the answer is no, then it shouldn’t be any different in his situation. I think it is inappropriate.
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Very disrespectful of him .
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Very inappropriate!!
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No , and I will have went out there and ended that way before midnight
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This is just uncalled for. And very inappropriate. He obviously doesn’t care about your feelings, he should have gotten out when the others did at least. I hope the woman’s man had an issue too. Chatting is one thing chatting alone in a hot tub alone when you so’s are else where is gross and definitely not caring about what he should be doing as a husband.
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Definitely rude he didn’t consider coming in to assist with the toddler so you could also have some drinks and fun. No matter what event we are at my boyfriend and I always take turns on kid duty so we can both enjoy ourselves. It wouldn’t sit right with me that’s for sure.
My ? Would be why would you rather be in a hot tub with her than with me and our child . 
he should have got his ass in the house with you once everyone else got out but men they stupid
If someone is going to cheat- they’re going to cheat.Communication is key.
If it made you feel uncomfortable, then it was inappropriate. As the party started to wind down and people went inside, he should have had the good sense to come inside too. Instead of waiting for him to come in after midnight though, you should have gone out there and told him that it was time to come inside. Then waited for him to follow you in. Make sure you express to him that you are NOT comfortable with that situation and that it should not happen again.
Surely your toddler wasn’t up until midnight. Was there any reason that you did not rejoin them after you baby fell asleep? Just curious.
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Hell yes wouldn’t happen
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I would probably be ok with that but then really watch them the next day.
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Yes their both adults!!!
Not very appropriate but at some point you either have to trust your spouse or not. If it were truly is innocent then they probably were just taking and never even thought of it. Maybe talk to him today to let him know it bothered you and why. I think it would depend on your spouse.
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It’s alll on you, you should went n got in the middle of the two.
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Yes i would not live with him No More.
Depends on if you trust him or not. Sounds like you don’t.
MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS WITHOUT BANGING.
MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS WITHOUT BANGING.
one more time.
MEN. AND. WOMEN. CAN. BE. FRIENDS. WITHOUT. BANGING.
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should not even have to ask it is wrong
Not inappropriate… More like stupid!!!
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Not inappropriate at all.
Pretty weird thing for a happily married man to do while his wife is confined to the cabin with his child. A good man would’ve traded shifts with you and asked if you’d like to go soak and have a cocktail with her.
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I’d be more upset having to stay in with our child while he had fun in hot tub
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Why didn’t he give you some free up time to enjoy the hot tub? Probably trying to get laid! He’s ignorant and selfish. He owes you an apology!
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Idk, wouldn’t be my husband 
are you sure he didnt take her number?
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I think you are making it a bigger deal than what it is… I would be more upset that I missed out on the hot tub and conversation. Your husband should have taken turns with you. I do have a guy friend that goes to Walmart with me sometimes. We are stickly friends that have known each other since high school. He had been around my husband and kids a lot too. They are all comfortable with him and my husband knows for a fact that he isn’t my type and there is nothing between us. It’s nice to have conversations with new people.
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It’s never ever right!
Yes. I would have gone out there and got his inappropriate ass right out that hot tub. What the what?? Be in the hot tub with your woman and no other woman!!! Periodt!
It comes down too do you trust your husband. If he has never cheated on you before then I won’t worry. I would be more upset my in laws couldn’t watch my child while he slept so I could enjoy my time in the hot tub. He also should have be more sensitive to your feelings. But no if there has been no other warning signs then I won’t worry but if the gut is saying worry then I would worry.
Were they having an animated discussion or were they flirting? I don’t see a problem unless they were being inappropriate. Why couldn’t you ask him to watch the kids while you got to soak? Don’t be a martyr and state clearly what you want. No hinting or hoping. Men aren’t mind readers and need to be told what you want point-blank. “Isn’t it time you got out? You’ll be a prune!” Or, “Hey, my turn. You watch the baby.”
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Okay so they were just talking but I think the respectful thing a husband would have done is got out the pool when everyone else did.
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I think it’s questionable. VERY questionable.
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You already know…HELL NO!!
“They invited their young friends, who were a couple”
The way I see it, it’s just friendly chit chat. You all might end up hitting it off and making two new friends. Insecurities will eat people alive! If he cheats or fucks up, that’s on him. It’s no reflection of you but of him only. And if he does, then he was never really worth it. I would have full faith in my partner, especially if I chose to marry said guy. Trust them until they give you a reason not to. Xx
It isn’t appropriate if you 2 agree it isn’t. Communicate. Not everyone can predict other people’s feelings and reactions.
So sick of the misandry on this page 
No. You knew about it. You could have put your toddler down for bed and joined them. However, you chose not to and now you want to make a stink about it. Since you are married to him, I’d assume you trust each other?? You said all they were doing was having a drink and talking…
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Om yes very inappropriate.
Yes! A few minutes but not that long.
No it’s definitely not . The way u described it sounds more like . I was inside with our child ,so should he bullshit .
To me it’s two people not ready for bed enjoying their holiday lost track of time .
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It is not appropriate
Better still, what do you think? I know what I would do and it ain’t pretty1
Incredibly inappropriate.
I personally would have felt awkward leaving just because everyone else did but I would not have stayed in there very long with another man especially a drinking party. When they may not have been thinking clearly! But had it been my husband/ bf that stayed behind with another woman…I would had no problem marching out there and breaking that party up! 
But I’m single so what do I know! 
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I completely trust my husband. He would still leave. Because we both know that what we feel might be a harmless act can be twisted Into fodder for others. (Omigosh GIRL did you see Twila’s husband in that hot tub drinking a beer with that girl?) And, just like that, his reputation as a good man is just as ruined as it would have been had he actually done something. How people perceived us as a couple would be tarnished. How I felt in my security of being his wife would be tested because you can only shake a tree for so long before something falls from it.
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Why not join them? Without knowing the whole situation, it seems odd that she HAD to stay inside. She should ask her husband if he would be ok with her doing that. Personally, if my husband could have joined and he chose not to, I would stay in the hot tub. If he actually couldn’t come out, I would get out and go to my family. That’s just being respectful.
Might not have been at first but one of them should have left the hot tub immediately. The wife has a right to wonder because her husband allowed himself to be in a compromising situation and didn’t respect her feelings.
I know my fiancé wouldn’t like it, so out of respect I would get out. I know she would do the same.
Wording is tricky- the post started out saying is it appropriate and changed in last sentence to inappropriate.
Maybe he should watch the toddler and she should hang it with the other man till after midnight. Husbands don’t mind, right? 
Why wasnt he helping you with the toddler? Yes it was disrespectful for him to remain in the hot tub with another woman!
Can’t say kill on the post, but read between the lines. He wouldn’t be there the start with.
Yes, inappropriate indeed! Shame on him.
I dont agree with his choice ! This type of behavior leads to fuckery !
Totally inappropriate!
Yes very inappropriate,
Why would u even need to ask?
Why not ask your friends to entertain your child and then join your husband in the hot tub.
Think about alternatives.
Tell your husband its his turn to be with your child. Easy peasy
Appropriate until they were the only ones left. Once his parents got out, he should have gotten out too. No doubt about that!!!
If it was upsetting to you than yes. It depends on the way your relationship is and how you feel. He should be respectful of your feelings
regardless if nothing happened. Either way it opened up a opportunity for something to happen
He was probably enjoying some peace and quiet from your nagging a$$.
If they both still had their swim suits on, and were only talking and drinking. I don’t see where that’s inappropriate… guys and girls can be friends without it being sexual.
It bothers you so tell him its not okay!