I would never be ok with that. Even if I no the girl I wouldn’t be ok with that. I trust my boyfriend completely and I no he would never do that to me, my problem is I don’t trust no other b$&@$s around him. I have had more girls try n swoop in and take my boyfriends ( ex and current) then I have been cheated on by them. My current boyfriend has never cheated on me. I 
trust him around other girls.
I would have caused a scene excuse me… what are you doing… also I wouldn’t be with another man in a hot tub by myself either
I think that it was inappropriate for the Dad and his wife didn’t offer to watch the cihid, do that the mother could enjoy the hot tub.
Omg if you dont trust your husband then dont be married to him. Simple as that. Grown ass people can still do things without being sexual or “cheating”. Maybe question why he even went when you had to stay inside with your kid? Why didnt he stay inside with your guys kid?
If it bothered you why didn’t you get someone to watch the baby and jump in? Or ask him to get out?
I have a short fuse when it comes to my husband so I wouldn’t allow that to happen. That other woman might have gotten some black eyes
Yes, he was a clod to stay in there more than 5 minutes after the others got out. Tell him, look, you look like an insensitive Clod when you do that. Don’t do it any more. Thanks.
It would have been inappropriate in my husband’s eyes!!! He would have gotten out
Mam’ you KNOW better…Id never allow my man to be in a situation like that…How would it look, or how would he feel if it were, turned tables?..
Yes inappropriate
Why wasn’t he helping you with the kids.
That late I’d be annoyed stuck inside calling him so I could go out.
Not gonna lie but I would have went and got my husband out of that tub. Excuse me sir?!? Who tf do you think you are?
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Yes, as long as it didn’t go any farther. Do you trust him? If not, why…is it your problem or his? Has he given you reason to mistrust him
Tbh I would have gone out there and got my man… Or just drowned them both 
Nope its not ok he shouldn’t have even wanted to stay out there with her alone…
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Idk…I guess not if the water has the right ph balance and it doesn’t make him sick…
I think it’s inappropriate for sure! He should have been with you and your kids!
I think every relationship has different boundaries and that’s up to you, not everyone else.
Many variables determine the answer, but generally, no way. Never.
I wouldn’t like it if it was my husband
Ehhhh? Why are you stuck w the toddler? That’s the biggest problem in my opinion!
But did you volunteer to stay with the toddler? Did he offer? If you saw this and obviously didn’t like it, why didn’t you come out there and say something?
Of course it is! Why ask something you already know the answer to?
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Yeah he should have got out and came inside.
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No. Only because it seems to bother you.
Depends on context. But if you have e to ask …
Were you up past midnight with your toddler? Couldn’t your parents watch your kid while you have hot tub time too?
Yes he was there with you and your child. And if they are not your friends no no no
Of course!
All men like anything wet!
All men get hard also in water…
Not good…
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I would have to pull my husband by the ear and say WTH???
Probably shouldn’t take my advice, but everyone in the house would’ve known I wasn’t happy 
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No. It’s not any different than a pool 
you already said they weren’t doing anything bad.
You sure your husband’s side of the family ain’t swingers?
I won’t like it. At all.!???
I would say not appropriate
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I wouldn’t want him for a husband!
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Yes it is highly inappropriate
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Out of respect for you and your relationship and your feelings he should have got out
Bloody inappropriate 
and no respect towards you
I wouldn’t like it .he could get his butt out of there I think!
plain rude and incentive to you as his wife .
Very inappropriate. They were wanting to cheat for sure. True married men don’t do that.
I find it more disrespectful than anything.
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Guess I am old fashion. He should have been with wife and child
How did her husband feel about it? Sounds like he doesn’t have a problem with it…maybe she has a lot of guy friends. Would it be different if it was a swimming pool and not a hot tub? Do hot tubs automatically mean something sexual? If “nothing happened” then whats the problem? Is your husband not allowed to talk to with other women or be friends with other women?
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I would have never allowed this! Not ok.
My husband would NEVER very inappropriate
Man needs to break up the same o thing go Tanner
Yes you didn’t know the women so absolutely
I woulda yanked my husband out of the hot tub. 
It’s super inappropriate.
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I’d probably feel some type of way if it were my husband doing that… js
I do think it is wrong.
If it is uncomfortable to you - then yes
It really depends what type of relationship you have. Honestly, even if I’m “secure” in my partner, I have so much trauma that the thought of what could happen will always be in the back of my head unfortunately. I think it would be more inappropriate if the woman was single. Some people are okay with it & some aren’t. If it makes you uncomfortable then that’s something you need to relay to your husband. However, I also know men who won’t even have a long conversation with another woman without his wife present. Won’t text or call another woman either, out of respect and comfortability for their relationship. It just avoids anything that could happen. But this is really circumstantial.
Absolutely not cool.
What’s inappropriate about being left in a hot tub with another woman. Did they plan it? Did they run off and hide from everyone? We don’t know the whole story but sounds like someone is a little insecure. I wouldn’t care if my wife did that because I know what I have and so does she.
That is not right at all
Not very inappropriate, but I could see how it would make you uncomfortable. It depends on the particular boundaries of your marriage, but you wouldn’t catch me doing that, especially if my wife was stuck in the cabin with the kids. I would have went and gotten my wife and let her take a break and drink in the hot tub and watched the kids. I’d discuss it with him for sure if it bothers you.
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No I don’t think it’s appropriate
no more than it was for her to be there with him… takes 2 to tango
Don’t listen to the pick me, internalized misogynist women. It was inappropriate. Why should you have to go inside and take care od the toddler and he be outside in the hot tub?
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Its more disrespect than anything
I know it’s inappropriate that you had to stay inside with your child while he had fun all evening.
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If person single not n relationship no kids then it be fine but being married no
You didn’t say anything???
Y’all are toxic af. No I wouldn’t have a problem with my husband, who I trust, having a conversation with another woman in a hot tub. I’d hate to be married to any of you women. Controlling as hell.
Nope not normal espeally being married cheeting
If you have to ask it’s a problem. It’s a problem because he should want to be a loyal husband and father and go be with his family, dirty dogggggg
I mean I would feel some kinda way about it I wouldn’t like that at all but if the roles were reversed I k ow my husband wouldn’t like if I did something like that either
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If it were my husband I wouldn’t care. I know my husband wouldn’t do anything and if the woman would have tried he would have gotten out and told me immediately. It all depends on how much you trust your husband
I just got done saying they won’t do anything but drinking and talking sounds like you’re insecure and you Toddler was awake until midnight why didn’t you just get in the hot tub with them
I would not think it was inappropriate at all to socialize like that but it might be inappropriate in a non sexual way, to neglect your family if they expressed that they wanted your time or attention. If y’all were asleep or something I could definitely see a good convo lasting a while and the setting wouldn’t really phase me any.
I think it sort of sounds like you feel they must have chemistry of some sort to have entertained one another’s company for that long, or perhaps you feel some resentment for not being able to participate in the fun, and for that I would have an open conversation with your spouse— separate from the details of her being the opposite sex or the location being a hot tub.
I don’t know but I don’t like it that you were expected to take care of your kid on your own while he had a free night to play. Sounds kind of shitty to me. You’re much nicer than I am, because I would have called his ass out and told him to come help take care of the baby.
Id be walking out and grabbing his ear and pulling him out some quick 
Highly inappropriate and my husband knows id knock him out if he did so
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So because everyone got out they’re expected too?
No lol they’re conversing
Like you said they weren’t doing anything.
And I’m unsure why you HAD to stay inside the cabin…you did that by choice…
Well now that all Depends on the previously stated (and agreed to) boundaries.
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I’m sorry but this has got to be the stupidest question I have ever heard of course it isnt inappropriate.
No hell no he should b watching the kid and let you enjoy a drink in the hot tub
Your husband should have realized that you were I being included. He should have taken steps to include you by saying I will go with the baby. You go get to k ow everyone.
I don’t have this problem bc we’re polyam, but it sounds like communication and boundary issues to me.
W…its a fucking hot tub. I am so confused. Why on earth would it be inappropriate? This has to be a joke because that makes zero sense.
I would say he should have thought about you?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is it appropriate for a married man to be drinking in a hot tub with another woman?
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Sounds like you don’t trust him
Good rule of thumb is if you have to ask an internet group if there’s a problem in your marriage. There IS a problem in your marriage.
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I don’t see a big deal unless you have real reason to be insecure (ie: he has cheated before, it’s his ex, she a hoe)
Have faith in your husband, talk to him about how it has made you feel, if it’s your own personal insecurities I feel you have some soul and love searching to do within yourself …
Good luck
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That’s a no for me. You left out the fun then him. Mm nah.
Not even up for debate. Nope.
Yes. Inappropriate indeed.
Marriage is about trust
Shouldn’t ever happen
Absolutely inappropriate and unnecessary.
Your husband is an a**
Would it be inappropriate for the husband to be drinking in the hot tub with a gay man? Asking for a friend.
Hell no I’d make him switch 
my turn
Depends on the person
Uuuuhhhhh… yes!!!
A$$ whoopin, no question🤣
Absolutely. Plain disrespectful IMO.
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Highly inappropriate
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Personally id be pissed bc he should spending time with you and your kid, not talking and drinking to some girl past midnight in a hot tub. Even if that’s all he did, it’s still wrong. At the very least he should have gotten out when the other adults did so you could have fun too.