We had one for each kid 
idc invite your people to celebrate your baby, if they don’t want to come they aren’t obligated to come
Absolutely have one. If people don’t like it they don’t have to attend. So sorry for your loss 
. Congrats on the new bundle.
I had one for all my 5 kids
First let me start by saying that I’m so sorry for your loss, that is truly heartbreaking and something no parent should ever have to endure.
While I personally am not a fan of more than one shower. I only had one shower and saved everything, even though at the time we lived in a 900 square foot home. But You should do whatever makes you happy. And take into account everything? Are you all financially stable? Can you afford to do without a shower? I personally am not a fan of a shower/ sprinkle for any baby other than the first. I just send my regrets and keep it moving. But my best friend didn’t invite me to her sprinkle, never even mentioned it bc she knew how I felt. I found out on fb BUT ar the same time she knew I felt strongly about second showers. I guess do what makes you happy but so understand that some of your guests won’t come again.
My oldest is 6 middle is 4 and you gest just turned 1 so by the time i was pregnant again i had already given everything away and my oldest two are opposite genders as well.
Have as many as you want. My daughter in law is pregnant with her first baby, a boy and she has been so blessed with having 3 or 4 because different friends wanted to Bless them and make things easier for her and my son. Everything is so expensive and with a first baby it has really been a blessing. Best of luck on your bundle of joy.
Who cares what other people think? If you want a shower, have a shower.
Even if everyone under this post called it tacky and said you shouldn’t have one, you should still have one if that’s what you want. Send out the invites and those who want to come will and those who don’t, oh well.
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Every baby should be celebrated. It’s more than just receiving gifts but also celebrating a new life with family and friends and just being together. If they don’t believe in a second baby shower just let them know you would love them to be there to celebrate they don’t have to give you anything if they don’t want. Im sure they will when the baby is here. I had a shower for both my kids. The second wasn’t as big. They were 4 yrs apart and one boy and one girl.
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I see nothing wrong with having another shower especially under your circumstances. However most of the young people I know have a shower for each baby they have.
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So sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the pain of that. I think you should definitely have another baby shower. I don’t think you will have to worry about other peoples feelings on it. Everyone will probably be way more understanding than you think.
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You’re in-laws need to get over it. Your baby passed away so of course it is hard for you to look at the stuff that you had for that baby. I totally understand y’all getting rid of everything. And you probably helped a lot of people get rid of the stuff that you had. Now you’re having a baby celebrate that anyway that you want to. I’m sure your past experience has shown you that life can be taken in a second. so do not worry about what other people think. And congratulations I wish you and your family the absolute best.
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Have the shower. Due to unforeseen tragic circumstances this baby should most definitely be celebrated. Who cares what others think.
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You absolutely deserve and need a shower! I am the queen of southern proper etiquette and I can assure you it is not in poor
Taste to have a shower . Enjoy and be blessed !
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U should def have another shower. U deserve it. Ur baby deserves it. Screw what anyone else thinks.
Every baby deserves a celebration!!
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And having lost a child at 3 days old I had a baby shower for my rainbow and sadly my twins came before their shower. It is not tacky in the slightest. Celebrate your new bundle and DO NOT let them make you feel like by celebrating the new baby your dishonoring the memory of your angel baby. That says more about their character than yours
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Have your baby shower who ever has some type feelings about can just not go plain and simple
You should do whatever your 
wants.
Those are some heartless people to call you tacky after you lost a child. Always celebrate your children! Have the baby shower. I will have a baby shower for all of my children.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine.
Have your baby shower! You deserve to celebrate this baby and have your loved ones around you for it.
FIrstly, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Secondly I think its up to the individual.
Absolutely have another shower!
I think under the circumstances that anyone close enough to be invited to the shower would know since you lost your first child that this baby would need everything. And would be so happy to celebrate with you after your loss. Your sister is right. It’s called a sprinkle shower and lots of people do it, more for the fun and celebration than for gifts though. But in your case, I would have a rainbow 
theme shower because this is your rainbow baby after a loss. This is to remind guests that you’ve registered and need baby items because this is your first time parenting.
Good luck 
and bless!
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I wouldn’t do a baby shower per say. I would do a diaper party where if you get brought a pack of diapers and wipes your entered to win a gift card to a resturant. And other gifts are appreciated. Make it a couples thing with a rainbow theme <3 let your parents have this one 
Have the shower F$#k what they think.
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Honey you celebrate! This is a beautiful blessing! You do whatever you and your husband want… In laws don’t have to come if they don’t want to.
I think its kinda tacky to have another one of the kids are super close together. However, your situation is tragic and not at all tacky. If they don’t want to come, they dont have to, but i think it’d be a good idea to have a “sprinkle”.
I had a baby shower for each child and coming from a divorced home to begin with I had multiple for each child. I had 3 for my first child! So do what you want! Fyi it wasn’t my idea to have 3 it was actually forced on me lol
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Enjoy the shower and don’t let no one mess with your joy:sparkling_heart:
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I am sorry for your tremendous loss, my momma heart aches for you. However, you celebrate the coming of your sweet baby anyway you want!! Have the shower, hell have two!!
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Explain your situation to people in the invitation then tell them your registered at Goodwill and garage sales and we’re gearing up on a budget
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I’m so sorry about your 1st baby rest in peace lil one
what do YOU want to do?
if they’re not going to put one on for you. do it yourselves. and invite the ones who are happy for you, and are there to support you and your child.
I had a baby shower for my first. and then after 6.5 years I had my second child. never got to throw a baby shower because of covid. but I would’ve if the timing was right.
do what you want to do girl!
I’m sorry they’re treating you this way when it is supposed to be a happy time in your life
Everyone is going to have their own opinion, and even more so in laws… every baby deserves to be celebrated, I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I personally wouldn’t invite them since they seem to have an opinion over something they have no place to talk about.
I had baby showers for all three of my kids. 
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I had two… I had a boy then 5 years later I had a girl and had barely anything 
Have a shower! If people don’t want to come, so be it! I’m sure a bunch of people still will!
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Every child deserves to be celebrated!! My sister thru me a sprinkle when I was pregnant with my second. I don’t see anything wrong with having a celebration for your unborn child. Your in laws need to sit the F down 
Congrats! And enjoy celebrating your new baby 
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Just don’t invite them
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I don’t think it’s tacky at all and if anyone thinks it is they don’t deserve to be in yalls life…yall had something extremely tragic happen and should absolutely be able to celebrate your baby…prayers for yall…I can’t imagine 
Have the shower it’s the new beginnings if in-law doesn’t want to attend well they can stay away !! You deserve to be happy during this time !! Congratulations
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I had 3 baby showers 
One with my first
Another with my second because everyone wanted me to have one
& then my third was when I got pregnant with my son because I only had girls so since it was my last baby AND our only boy, we decided to have another baby shower. I don’t regret any of it 
The way I look at a baby shower is it is a celebration of the baby. Every baby deserves to be celebrated, not just the first. And if anyone has a problem with that, tell them they’re welcome to sit it out because you don’t want their nasty attitude ruining your celebration anyway.
I say do whatever you want. But if you have plenty of baby things and don’t need more you can always do a sprinkle.
In your circumstance…this question shouldn’t even have to be asked 
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Celebrate your baby! Shower.
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Who is are they to make you feel like that? You lost a child and deserve to be happy in whatever you choose to do. You are blessed to be having another. I think you should have the shower and celebrate with people who truly care and love you 
It’s your call my I remember my mom telling me you get only one baby shower and if u have a second baby and it’s the opposite gender you can have another one! And if you plan on having more kids u save your baby stuff! But it’s literally your call, if u want to have a shower then do so and who ever don’t like it then they don’t need to come! Who cares what anyone thinks this is for you and your baby not them !
Have the baby shower!!!
Every baby deserves to be celebrated❤️
Under the sad circumstances of why all the baby items were given away,I especially do not think it is tacky or in bad taste at all.I’m surprised your in laws do.
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You do what you want to do. Go for it. I’ve known people to have a 2nd shower because of age differences, opposite sex, etc. The people that don’t like it don’t have to buy something or even attend.
Let your parents throw that baby shower! New baby new life! Sorry for your loss! Congratulations
Every baby deserves to be celebrated.
Have the shower or a sprinkle. If they don’t like it, then they can stay home! More people are likely to be happy and excited for you, as they should be!!
Have the baby’s shower and be happy.
Any unwanted guests please stay away….
I hope your parents throw you the most amazing shower ever! Absolutely, enjoy that shower and all that happiness. Congratulations!
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Screw the inlaws, if someone wants to give you a shower, let them but wait until closer to birth.
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Have another baby shower. You deserve all new memories
Every mother and every baby deserves to be celebrated.
Have it!!!
Congratulations and God Bless!
P.S. Stop worrying about what others will think. I wish I had much sooner!
Do whatever you want. If it makes you happy go for it. Have a shower, have a sprinkle. Invite everyone & who comes, is who comes. You can’t make everyone happy. You should only be worried about your family & you. Screw all the hater’s
I’m so sorry for you loss! I have four kids. And I had a baby shower for every single one of them. I say have the shower
Do another. Who cares about ‘tacky’ anymore? That’s old people talk for jealousy
It was not a thing with the older gen. By older I mean my 75 yr old parents and before. When I was got married. I got a shower for myself from my church fam. His family said no. Because it was his second marriage. And that it was all inappropriate. He was the youngest of 8 kids and born 11 yrs after their 7th child. So quite a gap. Then when we got pregnant I was allowed to have a baby shower even though it was his 3rd child and my 1st. I asked my mil and she said that no. Normally they wouldn’t have but since it is my 1st child they were doing it. (I was offended since my marriage was my 1st. Js) anyway. It’s to bad I didn’t have that marriage one with them because over 200 church family and friends showed that day. I personally do think it’s not needed normally. Why because normally clothes and items are passed from child to child and let’s face it today we don’t really tighten the purse strings or recycle anything. But as a stricter person myself even I think in your case that it would be fine. I wouldn’t do a party persay but I would do a registry I would keep it cheap. And I would send out invites that stated drop off date is at so n so time at so n so address. This way people that don’t think it’s tacky don’t have to feel obligated to give or even show up and those that understand your journey can stop in say hello and I’d even have some refreshments for the ones that do stop in. It would make for a longer day, but it will be cheaper all around because less decorations and less food would be needed. I’d do a simple vintage 70s themed shower only around a table set up for refreshments and be done. You could go ahead and fill out some ty cards and have on hand to give people and cheapen that also… no stamps.
You should have a shower. Every baby deserves one… I think the only exception would be if you had multiple kids close in age and were able to use the stuff from the last baby still. Your case is completely different and should most definitely have a shower to celebrate this baby.
Have that shower mama you deserve it
I would have another. This baby shouldn’t be less celebrated than any other.
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Have another one. You deserve it. Could be healing for you, too!
Every baby should be celebrated
So do the baby shower. Your in laws aren’t invited now.
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Absolutely have the baby shower and I am so so sorry for your loss!!! 
We are in the south, we have a shower for every baby. 2,3 5 it doesn’t matter
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And they can sit their old asses at home!
I am so sorry for your loss. Have the baby shower and find joy in celebrating the birth of your child and whoever doesn’t think you should just don’t invite them. You’ve had enough negative feelings in your life already don’t worry yourself over theirs.
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Have a shower and only invite those who support your choice to have one
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Have the shower or sprinkle or whatever whoever wants to call it. Every baby deserves to be celebrated. Congratulations 
I had a baby shower for all my kids. Every baby should be celebrated!
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If you have nothing…let me explain. In the past, the reason for a baby shower was to have things for the baby (and subsequent children.) That’s why there was ONE shower…it was to equip the parents for their soon to be growing family. There was no need for a shower for the rest of the kids because you got nearly everything with the first one and were expected to keep it for the rest. You got rid of everything…I get the painful association/memories. Have another one.
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Yes sorry for your loss congrats on your new baby your little one will always be in yiur heart
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have two children 5 years apart, both girls. I kept all the clothes from my oldest, but they have different fathers, and my youngest dad’s side wanted to throw me a shower, which I was all for. My family thought that was tacky, so i didn’t invite them.
Showers celebrate bringing new life into the world and the mama who carries that life. Make the choice for you and your spouse, not for anyone else. I had my 2nd shower and called it a baby shower. When my daughters are older i hope they know they were both equally special to me and their families.
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Having my third And having a babysitter for this one as well
I had a baby shower for both my babies. To whomever thinks it’s tacky they can stay away.
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Tacky…
Not at all… its beautiful mama… celebrate you and your baby
I usually would say it’s a bit tacky… but in your case, you should definitely have another.
Do it! Celebrate your miracle child 
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No it’s not tacky. Each child is special have a shower for this baby and enjoy the memories. Celebrate this new life coming into the world 
You will be happy you did.
I like the idea of a gender reveal party instead.
I had a small shower when I was pregnant with my son (I got rid of everything as he grew out of it; I was also homeless for most of the first year of his life). When my husband and I get pregnant (actively trying) we will have a shower! Showers are to celebrate the new life you’re adding to your family, I wouldn’t invite anybody who has any negative remarks about anything you’re doing! You suffered a tragic loss and it’s hard to hold onto things like that because it’s so much pain/sadness in it (I’ve miscarried multiple times, I have 1 item from each baby that I’ve held onto)
It isn’t tacky under the circumstances. If your in-laws don’t want to attend they don’t have to, just send them the gift registry link.
You deserve a shower 
Have a baby shower!!! Good Luck
It is absolutely not tacky in this circumstance. I am so very sorry for your loss it’s unimaginable the pain you are feeling. Usually unless babies are far apart in age the old school rule is one baby shower. My children were 7 years apart. I didn’t have a shower with my first because the plan was to give her up for adoption I was only 19 when she was born. Once she was born the plan changed and she came home with me and I had nothing. I still didn’t do a shower though. When my son came along 7 years later I did have a baby shower.
I’d have a shower. It’s very understandable why you got rid of the other stuff and would want new stuff. Anyways, even if you hadn’t of been through the loss… every baby deserves a celebration and new stuff if you can
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I never understand why people always say this. I feel when you have a baby it is a blessing and all babies should be celebrated. congratulations
It’s not tacky at all! Have the baby shower! Whoever doesn’t like it doesn’t have to come.
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Most people these days have a shower for every baby
My children are 2 1/2 years apart. A boy and a girl and we celebrated both of them.
You deserve a shower you lost your child . It’s not tacky
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All babies should be celebrated!!! Not tack to have one for each child
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You could totally have another one, but don’t expect big ticket items that others might have bought for you before that you threw away.
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You absolutely deserve a baby shower!
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