Is it wrong of me to ask my husband not to come home on his lunch break?

Is it wrong for me to ask my husband not to come home every day for lunch. We have the same lunch hour and some days I just want to turn up the music and relax , clean. . When he comes home he eats and just looks at his phone. I work two jobs, so some days that hr is all I have to myself. Is it wrong to ask for even a day a week.

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Why can’t you do that when he’s there? Just pretend you’re alone and blast your music😂 I’m sure there’s more than one room in the house he can go play on his phone in.

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Im sorry but what lol. What does him sitting on his phone affect your peace of mind ?

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Yeah it’s for sure rude

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Your a one sided person wow

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That’s his home too. So yes, you’re essientially telling him hes not welcome in his home.

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If it really bothers you then just talk to him and explain how you feel

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We all know what she CANT do naughty naughty

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My hubby gets butt hurt and still shows up I’m like ughhhh.

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Put ear buds in and go about your business then? It’s pretty rude to ask him not to come home and eat lunch.

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Idk if he just looks at his phone can’t you go about your business and do what you want. Also do you work at home cause you could stay at work or in your car instead. I never really understood why people go home on their lunches unless they work literally next store but I mean he does live there so it’s kind of not nice.

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Uh yeah. He lives there too.

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Think he’s entitled to go home when he wants if that’s his home too… He might not like you being there?:joy: works both ways hahahahaha.

Why wouldn’t you want them to come home and have dinner with you?:confused:

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Are you seriously asking this? How rude and disrespectful to your partner. It is his home too

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That’s kinda of selfish …maybe

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That’s not why a marriage is. You don’t get to pick and choose when it’s convenient. Yes, it’s wrong

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Yes. Yes you’re wrong.

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I kinda get it cuz when I’m cleaning and my man is just sitting there looking at his phone it bugs the crap outta me, but maybe he can sit somewhere you don’t gotta look at him lol everyone deserves a lunch break they enjoy and if he wants to sit on his phone and relax in his house he should probably be able to but if you wanna clean and not be annoyed and that’s what makes you happy during your break maybe you guys can find a middle ground ?

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If he’s just eating and on his phone its not like he’s disturbing you. If you need alone time sit in your car and listen to music. Its his home too.

You don’t say if he works two jobs or lots of hours too. It’s unfortunate that you work two jobs and aren’t interested in spending an hour a day around your husband. I suspect you may need to evaluate that.

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Yeah it’s wrong. That’s his home too. If you want to have personal play time, just say that. :rofl:

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Shocked that all of these comments are calling the OP selfish, rude, etc… IT’S NOT WRONG TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

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Umm it’s his house too. I’d be pissed if someone said that to me

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Nope, do what you want to

It’s his house & you are going to ask him not too come home yah fucking right

You can’t come here now. This is MY lunch break :joy::joy::joy:🤦

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Well, you probably won’t have to worry about it soon since he’ll most likely divorce you. That’s his home, he has every right to eat there on his break too.

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Something definitely sounds fishy hear :rofl:

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Uh yeah it’s his house also.

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It’s his house too. If you’re bothered by it… then put in headphones and do your thing. :woman_shrugging:

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Seriously?? That is his home too. You sound so rude, disrespectful and selfish.

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Sitting, eating, and playing on the phone, does not sound like it would be in the way of your cleaning, relaxing, or listening to music.
That’s probably just how he wants to relax on his lunch hour, it’s his house too.
Would it be ok for him to say that your music was distracting him from playing on his phone on his lunch hour? No.

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Ya not a great idea lol. It’s his house to…

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Maybe switch your break? That is way you don’t actually have to ask him. I get wanting your own time

Yes your way out of line that is his home too

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Can you change your lunch time hour maybe? Compromising is really the most important part of a marriage or relationship in my opinion. Talk with him and work something out that works for both of you.

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I understand where your coming from but yes, your in the wrong… It’s his home too he has every right to come home just like you do.

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Lol how bout you go somewhere else for lunch, or have him suggest you do that cuz he wants his hour to himself.

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Bring it up and see how he feels maybe he’ll understand and bring lunch with him. Maybe if you prep lunch for him he won’t come home for it. It’s not wrong to ask for that small amount of time for yourself. But if he doesn’t like the idea then you gotta respect how he feels too and get over it in my opinion.

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It’s his house too. He has every right to go home for his lunch break just like you do. You are wrong for not wanting him to come home

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If he is just eating and on his phone I don’t understand how that’s bothering you… :unamused: how about you just wear some headphones and pretend he’s not there at all.

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Might as well ask for a divorce too. :woozy_face:

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Start singing and he will leave​:joy: or mine does​:joy::joy::joy:

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Yeah, that’s rude! It’s his house to come home to.

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Your not in the wrong for wanting your own time. I work from home and I COMPLETELY understand that need because being home all day with my family while working I never get that time either. Just make sure to pose it in a way that isn’t invalidating his needs either. Who knows maybe he feels the same way and you can coordinate one day a week apart.

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Why dont you leave the house instead of asking him to not go eat?

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there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be alone for a lil sometimes… being cooped up day in and day out with the spouse… working same schedules… having same lunch… etc that gets “ordinary” its okay to want to leave some room to miss a person … idk. my opinion. He can have lunch at his job at times… and other times he can have lunch at his home.

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These comments having me cracking up!! I completely UNDERSTAND! I work from home and Friday’s my BF works half day. I tell him come home after my lunch hour. Sometimes we spend it together but others days I wanna just relax! Have quite! Do a workout video! BE ALONE! That’s good mental health and anyone who doesn’t understand doesn’t get enough!! Do you !!!

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Oh FFS, just tell him to HELP you clean while he’s home for lunch, Problem solved

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Wtf lol He also lives there. What’s wrong with him sitting while you do your stuff?:joy: if you don’t wanna see him you can go somewhere else, no?

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It is a bit selfish that you’d try and dictate where he goes for his lunch break I mean he lives there too? He may enjoy being home for his break yeno? Why don’t you chill in another room or something

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Why don’t you not come home for lunch everyday? Go hit up a park, throw your headphones in etc.
I completely understand wanting that time to yourself but it sounds like it’s your issue and not his.

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One day you will wish he could come home for many reasons

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Maybe let him have his lunch in his home 2x a week by himself… U have 2 & 1 together???

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My husband said “no, there is nothing wrong with that” I wanted to get a mans perspective haha I also agree. Its totally okay to want alone time.

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She ought be lucky husband wants to come and eat lunch with you …he can have lunch with some other woman

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If I was your husband I would be telling you to kick rocks! It’s his house too! Go in a room by yourself :roll_eyes:.

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What I am reading is that it bugs you that your husband comes home on his breaks from work and occupies himself with things that you find irrelevant. It seems like there are some expectation you have of him, hence your frustration - why not express expectations with him and see if you both can be on the same page? See if he has frustrations/expectations as well? (I’m sure he does).

I do think it would be inappropriate to ask him not to come to his own home on his lunch break. However, I do think it would be completely appropriate for you to problem solve with him to see how you can make both of your lunch breaks mutually pleasant :heart:

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If my partner and i were both home for lunch, I can tell you what I would be doing and it isn’t the cleaning :joy::joy:

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I understand your pain. Lol. I one time had a few days off for myself then my kids were out of school and all I wanted was time to myself. The idiot took days off too!! He couldn’t fathom why I was so upset.

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I would sit and talk with him , the best thing for a marriage is communication :sparkling_heart: maybe you guys can come up with a plan because who knows he may feel the same way and want some alone time but is to afraid to say anything to upset you … So talk with him and see what he says and maybe come up with a plan and one day you stay a work for lunch and he comes home and visa versa … Just be open and honest because letting things build up isn’t good for either of you :sparkling_heart: I hope things work out for the both of you … sending lots of love and positive vibes your way

Wish I could have lunch with my hubby everyday ! But I only see him on the weekends amd thats with me driving too go see him due too him working on the road . Women who bitch and moan cause they see their husband’s every day really urk me ! Dang quit taking him for granted .

I mean, I get wanting alone time, but it’s his house, too. I don’t think it’s unfair to ask, but I don’t think it would be unfair of him to say no, either. If you want the alone time, it’s up to you to find your own space, whether that be a room in your house and just lock the door or leaving the house yourself.

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You’ll have much better luck if you just found some place else to go instead of asking him not to come home. Btw, don’t have kids, ever. Legally, they have to come home.:rofl:

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I tried that lmao. He lost it and then told everyone who would listen he couldn’t have lunch because his wife wanted time alone and he wasn’t allowed to come home for lunch lol

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Let the poor
Man come home For his lunch, he’s working to… imagine lol my bf comes home everyday for lunch so he can do the exact same thing yours is doing. Eat and veg out for 45 min. Jeez Louise it’d be world war 3 if I even suggested to him to stay at work. Men need their quiet time just as much as women and it’s wrong to intrude on either. But him coming to his own home to eat is not intruding :rofl:

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Hopefully he tells you to go take your lunch somewhere else then

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That’s sad he should be able to take his break at his house also… maybe schedule your lunch break for when he leaves so you get the time you need. Or you could use it as time to be together mid day.

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So if hes just eating and looking at his phone how is that disturbing your peace?

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So do what you want? He’s on his phone. Not bothering you. It’s his house too. :roll_eyes:

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Leave when he shows up. He should get the hint.

Go eat in your car if you want to be alone. Or better yet dont get married. But dont tell the man he cant come to his own mf house for lunch

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Umm Shouldn’t u be happy to see him lol

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Lol duck off.

If i hear dont come home gor lunch, you bet sweet jesus i am showing up.

Inviting people over in lunch break eh? :wink::wink:

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I dont think so. My husband used to call me everyday on his lunch break. I worked night shifts and was sleeping sometimes when he call and wake me up. I just found a sweet way to say he doesnt have to call me everyday and maybe just a couple times a week. No issues and he ended up spending more time with co workers and making new friends.

If My man told me not to come home on My lunch break I’d be offended🤨

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You should be glad he wants to come home being that you are there…he could be going to another female’s house

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Be happy he could be spening lunch at a girlfriends house

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Ah, you probably need to find an alternative for you. I wouldn’t expect him to change his routine.

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Absolutely not in the wrong at all. We all deserve a little me time. Maybe compromise and give him a day home alone as well?

I would not want to feel unwelcome in my own home , would you you ? So maybe just say I need music time and crank it up dance like no one is watching. Hmm maybe he will look up from his phn .

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:rofl: I understand alone time. But if its your only time between 2 jobs shouldn’t you be happy to see your significant other?

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If he is buried in his phone why should it bother you that he is home? Unless your boyfriend is helping you clean house.

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Then one day he will never come home again either because he died or left you !! You really should be grateful he wants to be with you. You can turn up he music, and he just might want you to dance with him !!!

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No one’s happy let him go elsewhere everyday and I am sure that would be a problem as well

Wth. …I would love for someone to ask me not to come home on my lunch break :joy::rage:

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My husband comes home every day for his lunch and I love it. We live together, work together, literally ALWAYS together. But I don’t mind at all. I can’t get enough of him.

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Yeah that is messed up. He’s your husband and if he wants to come home and relax at home for lunch then he deserves it just as much as you. Get headphones/ear buds and blast it that way, go relax in your room by yourself, go outside and chill. If he want to come to his own home to eat and then relax and stare at his phone for that hour then he deserves it. His home too. Selfish and honestly sad. Not everyone gets that ability to be with their spouse during breaks. You can find other ways to take breaks and have your “me time” when he comes home.

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If he’s coming home and just staring at his phone, chances are maybe he’d rather be doing something else on his lunch break. Maybe he does it because he thinks it makes you happy. Communicate. Nothing wrong with needing alone time.

It’s both yours and his house. He is allowed to go home on his lunch break just like you do. What he does on his lunch break and what you choose to do on yours is fine. I would be upset if my partner felt this way about me.

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Just go in different rooms?

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That’s terrible!!!

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It’s ok to want to be alone sometimes but if it’s you that wants the alone time u should go elsewhere not him…

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You will regret it when he’s gone.

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Ummm… it’s his house too?

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It’s his house tooo so no it’s not ok. You can be alone somewhere else if you need to

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If I were him I’d be like cool, not paying any bills either.

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I’d give just about anything for another hour with my husband every day :confused: I hope you have a change of heart.

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I would never ask my husband to not come home for lunch… I would think it was great he wanted to Come home as apposed to being somewhere else… Guess he could be having lunch with a girlfriend instead on the side… I am not trying to be rude… But it seams like you want to be doing something you don’t want him around for… Maybe I am not understanding fully the situation… But… Seams rather odd to me for sure

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Yes he has a right. To come home it’s his home too

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I mean you could just not go home for lunch sometimes too? No? You could both stay at work for yalls lunch 1-2 days a week :woman_shrugging:t3: for the other to “be alone” and together the one day you both go home.

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