Unless u have an electric car they need gas to run …
So odd my mom would never ask for a ride without offering gas money
Omg i hate when parents say crap like that
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I would just explain that with you being laid off you don’t have the extra money for gas. I was taking my niece to school for my sister but I had to stop because it takes 140 to fill my car up it was taking that twice a week on top of all my other obligations.
I used to drive my mom a lot when she got sick and she either offered gas money and lunch or we could take her car
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This is so sad. Kids these days are raised weird. I could NEVER
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I agree with your Mom, you are awful.
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My mama always pays me gas money
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Your mom’s financial situation isn’t your responsibility.
Your finances are your responsibility. If it’s cutting into that then you have to protect yourself. No one else will.
Look up public transport or any low cost transport options for her.
Mom, I’m sorry I can’t give you a ride today but here are some options to call that are low cost. And leave it at that.
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I put over a thousand miles on my car last week and never asked for a dime. I also know that my daughter don’t have the money ,so I just don’t say anything, but it’s definitely hurting me as far as financial. In the end it will get better, she’s been put in a terrible situation and I understand that.
I’m surprised she does not offer it to you. Shame on her.I see hard times. You need to tell her you need money for gas. Do it.
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Just wish I could drive the 1000 miles to drive my mom anywhere she wanted to go, but I don’t have her anymore. I know it’s hard, but think about when you no longer have her.
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Since your mom doesn’t drive she has no idea how expensive it is nowadays to drive so maybe she should pitch in,at least every once in awhile
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You shouldn’t have to ask for gas money. She should have offered. You are not horrible at all.
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Apparently she did ask for something in return… your gas. Tell her you’ll buy her a broom to get around on. Or run out of gas one day with her in the car. She can’t say much then. She asked for the ride 
. Vehicles don’t run on air 
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My mother in law used to drive me places to go shopping as I don’t drive. I always gave her money even though she didn’t want it. I figured if she was nice enough to take me it was the least I could do. She passed away on may 31st 2019. I miss her and our little chats. She was such a great woman🥲
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I don’t have a license, and when my older daughters take me or their smaller siblings places, I always give gas money, or buy lunch, something to show my gratitude. It’s not wrong or selfish if you to ask😊
I get gas off my mom. When I have to take her places
When me and momma go places, if we take her car I buy lunch, if we take my car, she buys lunch. It’s always been our agreement.
First off, we do not OWE our parents anything. We did not ASK to be brought into this world and them raising us and provide for us was THEIR responsibility as parents. Is it nice to help people out when you can? Absolutely. Do you still need to put yourself first? YES. If you cannot afford to constantly be running her around, just tell her that. Next time she asks for a ride say, sorry, I don’t have enough gas.
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Her expecting rides seems like that’s what she is asking in return
If you can afford it drive her any place you can ( afford that is ) but if you really cant afford it then explain that to her , and say I really dont mind give you my time and whatever I have but I dont have enough money for gas so if you need to go I will need you to pitch in .
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Shame on her to know you’re struggling and not try to help in some way.
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Start telling her you have no money/ no gas and you CANT TAKE HER
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Take her where she needs to go. Ppl learn to appreciate your mom she won’t always be around. Trust me when I say do all for her now. Have a blessed day
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I’m in the same boat:disappointed:
Next time she needs to go somewhere just tell her you have no gas and no money. Last year it may not have been a problem but this year it is.
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Just don’t take her when you don’t have the extra money. Just tell her you can’t afford the gas right now. She will offer to help or get someone else to drive her.
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If two the store once a month no or pick up meds ok but too shop and just every weeks yes needs to help
Tell her sorry I have no gas . My mom always offered money . If I didn’t take it I would find it stuffed in my purse later . Lol
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Tell her the truth. You have a budget & with the price of gas and lack of income, she needs help. Now you can always call a 
car for her.
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Daughters Of Abusive Mothers
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ASK!! she knows it’s expensive. I would ask her.
You shouldn’t had to asked she should be give you money for gas one hand washed the other just saying
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i have a licence but choose not to drive, so same same, and i dont believe its anyones responsibility to give me lifts. my daughter works for my hubby so her petrol is paid for, so she is happy to give me lifts but other thsn that i would lay her AND im extremely grateful for her time 
Gosh I always try to give gas money. , say I can take you but I dont have gas can you give me some $ to get some?
Tell her to start practicing and get her licence!
Just say sorry I can’t drive you. I don’t have enough gas in my car.
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No she can give you gas money. You didn’t ask to be born so she can’t hold that over you. She sounds like a narcissist w a comment like that. Who says that to their kids?
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You’re not asking her to be an ass you’re asking her cuz you literally can’t take her where she needs to go otherwise. Not to mention isn’t she asking you for something? Sounds a little hypocritical and like shes using you. I’d talk with her and let her know this is the financial situation and I would love to help you but I financially cannot without a little help right now.
She needs to help with the gas there is nothing free out there ,
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Tell her you would be happy to take her wherever she wants to go but you cannot afford the gas. Period!
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I hate parents that think their kids owe them something. Tell her no one asked to be born, and it’s absolutely ridiculous she wants credit for not being a baby killer. That’s the bare minimum requirement for being a parent, don’t kill your kids. No one gets cookies for that. She wanted you she signed up to take care of you and raise you. Those were her choices and you are not responsible for them.
You don’t owe her shit and if she’s this entitled and manipulative in other areas I say just cut her off.
That’s a tough one for sure… I personally wouldn’t ask my mom for gas money, but everyone’s different, I don’t think you’re wrong for asking and I don’t think your mom’s wrong for being offended either.
I never ask my mom for gas money however she has offered. I usually don’t take it because I don’t need but if I need it I would take it.
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Time to create healthy boundaries. No explanation needed, she should front the money for soaring fuel prices!
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You’re not asking for gas money because of greed, but because of need. Explain that. Also, kids (even when we are grown) don’t owe our parents for fulfilling their responsibilities in raising us. Do what you can to treat your mother well (which it sounds like you’re doing by giving her rides) but if you can’t afford it, be up front about that. If she can’t understand she can call an Uber and pay them.
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Never take money from a parent. I run my dad about clean for him they raised you.
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Get her a bus pass if they’re I your area
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I always took my grandmother everywhere. I don’t have her anymore, but she always filled up my tank. My mom is the same way. I wouldn’t have them fill it up with today’s prices, but my mom offers to get me gas if I drive her anywhere. Today $10 dollars won’t get you far. If you don’t have the money for gas tell her. She should understand. If she doesn’t, she will when calling Uber
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I don’t need money for gas , but if I did I would ask
Dude I charge my teenager fuel for taking him to and from work because he refuses to get good enough grades to get a licence I charge him $160 per paycheck to cover 2 weeks worth of fuel round trip it’s 44 miles 5 nights a week if your ma has money to go places she has money to pay the fuel and bet her toxicity about you owe her is bullshit yes we give our children life and care for them and help them grow but that was our choice not theirs
If u can’t afford to help as u once did and she’s asking for rides. She needs to pay gas… It does not matter if she born u! What kinda parent does this!
What a bitch move!
If she is capable of affording it, I don’t see why it causes any uproar. In my opinion, that would be HER being ridiculous and unreasonable to get upset over your asking for assistance. My mother goes above and beyond to not put any additional financial stress on me when I help.
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Have her order stuff online!
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Shes your mom and I get feeling bad but you can’t pull gas out of nowhere. If she needs a ride she can contribute to the gas
I think she should contribute.
Ask her to co-sign on a gas card lol
Not at all she should offer.
Then don’t drive her. She’s asking for something … she can pay.
Not every mom is a good mom. If she literally can’t afford it, why would it be okay for the mom to be offended by her struggling child?
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If she’s well off, and you’re struggling, ask her to help. Otherwise, this is just one of the ways you’re caring for your parents (which we’re told to do in the Bible).
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Set them boundaries. Gas ain’t cheap. If she has to pay for it she will see or she won’t have a ride
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Tell her about needing gas money only if you need it. My mom help me so much with my kids and me , till she passed away. I wouldn’t dare ask her unless I needed it.
Cluster all her outings to one trip a week or one every two weeks. If she can afford to help fine but if not then limit the amount of trips.
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In what world would it be okay to put your child into a financial struggle just for your own needs?
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No I don’t change my parents or in-laws gas money. That’s just not right.
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Okay, so on days you don’t take her anywhere…. Lol
Ask her for gas for your car… and if she says anything like I don’t need you to drive me anywhere… just say I know but I need gas… 
That way your NOT asking for anything in return… your just low on gas 
She should offer you gas money or gently tell her to pay an Uber or call a cab company
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Tell her since you were laid off you don’t have the money for the extra gas. Tell her to pitch in gor gas or call a taxi or uber.
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I would explain to her that you don’t mind taking her places but at this point you are not financially able to foot the bill for her errands and that you need help with gas. If she still has a problem with that then unfortunately it’s time to set boundaries.
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suck it up be a good person and take her and shut up
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Hook her up with dial-a-ride or once a week errands.
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I’d simply tell her, it’s not about wanting or not wanting to take you places, because I don’t mind doing that for you, it’s about the gas prices right now and I just can’t afford it. If she doesn’t understand that then she is a selfish woman and I’d tell her it’s not 1942, when gas was 25 cents a gallon, it’s 2022 and I’m not working and gas prices are more than some people make a hour in some instances. So if you don’t understand and don’t feel you can help me help you then you’ll need to call someone else or Uber….I just can’t do it right now. 
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She had you legally she had to raise you. That does not mean she is owed anything in return.
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Politely explain to her that you are having a rough time and you don’t always expect her to pay, but you could use a little help given the times and your circumstances.
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Nah she decided to have a child, you don’t owe her anything. She should help out
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She shouldn’t have to be asked She should do it on her own. I wouldn’t ask but my mom would offer. That’s just how my mom was.
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Let her be offended and when she needs a ride she will also need to throw some money into your tank. Period. Don’t feed into the bullsh*t.
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Your mom is so manipulative for saying that. She can help with some gas especially how expensive it is
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She is your mother she was supposed to do things for you without expecting anything in return. It was HER JOB. The way gas prices are my own mother doesn’t go anywhere WITHOUT offering to pay gas or go half on it. Her being your mother does not give her ANY RIGHT to use you in such a way. And I hate when adults use that as as an excuse “well I raised you. Well I did this for you”. It’s a parents job to take care of their kids.
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My mom cant drive. She just get lost so easily (she is currently trying to drive again. Not a bad driver) she’ll ask me to pick up couple things but i will tell her im not going into town can i do it this date (when im in town) so im not waisting gas. Or she’ll ask on my day off would you like to go shopping today? If she really wants to go somewhere.
We find a middle ground.
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Nope. If she wants to go somewhere, she can take the bus. She is being selfish and unrealistic. Next time she calls, tell her your car is on empty, and you need gas. Wait for her answer
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tell her you don’t have any gas in the car and see what happens…I’m with you…rides are free when you can afford it but laid off is laid off and even if you do get unemployment it’s only a portion of what you were making…Mom needs to help!!
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it was her place to do things for u n take care of u while u was growing up when i didnt have a vehicle i cave my daughters gas money n they didnt have to ask i know what gas cost n when that happened gas wasnt that high she should offer u gas money rather gas is high or not
How does she think it’ll get paid for? If she can’t give some $ she can’t go with you. Maybe she can ask a rich person.
My mom would not hesitate to give me money for gas but I would feel bad asking her.
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I get it if it’s really going to hurt your budget but be honest with her. I would never ask my parents for gas money but they would also offer so it’s different. If it’s not something you can afford, kindly let her know and help her to set up an Uber account or grocery delivery to her house to help
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Just tell her you can’t because you don’t have the gas
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I would have NEVER asked my parents for gas money… if she needs to go somewhere and you can take her then do so ,if low on gas then just simply tell her that you don’t have the gas to take her if she offers fine then take her if not then don’t.Easy fix & don’t make a big deal out of it.Enjoy your Mom while she’s here.
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You have no job, I am guessing she does. She needs to pay for the gas. Nobody is owed for raising a kid. The kid didn’t request to be born.
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I love when parents say that, like they didn’t decide to have children and they aren’t legally obligated to take care of you. It’s a parents job to take care of you. I would have zero qualms about helping my kids, she’s just rude
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I would just say I can’t take her.
Um no you have every right to ask! If she’s offended then she’s just looking at you as a free Uber driver…
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Tell her to call a taxi then!
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Oh thank you Crystal for that
Sounds to me like she’s gas lighting you!!
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Some of you people on here are very nasty that is your parent don’t be so ignorant one day you won’t have them and then you’ll wish you didn’t say that about your stinking gas money I understand it’s a lot of money but they are your parents
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When my parents was alive I took them anywhere they needed to go and I did not ask them for a dime for gas money I’m like crystal said I think that’s very ignorant
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It’s wrong of her to not offer it and would be completely acceptable if you accepted it
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tell her she needs to help you so you can help. you need to watch your money because you are not working. that it’s hard on you right now. because I Love you it is hard to ask !
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