Bless it. You mad that a woman bought another woman a ring for 6k, basically? Your Husband BOUGHT the rings you despise, PROVIDES for you, your kids, works, roof over your head, vehicles probably, food to eat… SInce you can’t see a ring on your finger and because an EX wears 6k
“You can’t be HAPPY and PROUD Daily”
Ma’am… Your CHILDREN, Husband, Marriage, Home are not something to make you HAPPY AND PROUD DAILY? 
You’re Embarrassed that the EX wears 6k on her finger? Exactly Why are you Jealous of another woman wearing Her Own Jewelry? YOUR HUSBAND DID NOT PURCHASE that woman’s ring. You mad cause Your Mother In-law had a friend before you came along? You’re mad that you’re mil hasn’t bought you a 10k ring yet? (Since the Ex got a 6k ring) You mad because mil still has pictures of the EX, ring, life that was lived Before You walked into it with some delusion that None theirs existed before you walked in and created life for both of them?
My advice is to your husband.
Sir, don’t spend money on a ring for your Bratty wife. Spend that ring money on Her some intensive therapy.
Let him know you appreciate his original rings he bought you…but they are no longer working for you as in falling apart and breaking your hands out. That you’d appreciate new rings for your anniversary. If he doesn’t come thru then go buy your own rings. If everything else in your relationships is wonderful there is room for both of you to compromise.
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As someone who is single, I would gladly accept a “cheap” ring if he was a good and loving, faithful man, if he is those things, count your blessings and let go of the jealousy
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Materialistic much!! How old are you? 
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You say his financial status is the same, but he didn’t buy the first rings, his mother did, do you now expect her to buy yours?
I’m helping my daughter pay for her first wedding but if she ever has another one then that one will be on her and my best opinion mother in law feels the same way.
If u aint happy, satisfied then leave… youve put this on fb for the world to see and he guna b the last no… just be honest
You may not have a ring bit you have the man and kids
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We come into the world with nothing and we leave this world with nothing. Things mean nothing, you can’t take them with you. Be grateful for all that you have now.
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The ring does not matter,what matters is how he treats you
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Get over what the ex has. Sounds like you’re a bit jealous about the whole thing.
Then bring up if you can get new rings for an anniversary.
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Maybe should have held out for better if the ring is so important then again you got the man she got the ring? Who should be counting their blessings. I was married at 17 without a ring 42 years ago and it never mattered to me. They lose value like a car if you gain weight you end up not wearing it. Its a ring? Let’s not forget the other blessings, your children which are forever.
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Uhhhh if it gives you a rash, I wouldn’t fucking wear it either. If you’ve told him that and he still doesn’t care, there’s an issue 
call me materialistic all you want but I wouldn’t make my wife wear a fucking ring that makes her break out.
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If it was his ex wife she has to give those rings back by law
Just don’t wear one. End of story. The man knows, and has known for years you need a new ring, and how it makes you feel. Don’t wear it …… and you don’t want to wear it because it’s falling apart and you are allergic to it, or whatever.
If he can’t afford a nice ring by now, (Even though a ring is materialistic) there’s many affordable ways to get one… even if it’s on Facebook marketplace, a pawn shop, or opening a financing relationship somewhere. These are to me excuses, and the ex wife still has his heart especially if she is still wearing a wedding ring and they are divorced. Don’t wear it and you shouldn’t even have to explain why you are not to him.
I would say just be greatful you were given a ring💖 it’s a symbol of love not a price tag. As far as the ex, that was a different season of life for him, his mother and her. It’s in the past, let it go. All it’s doing is stealing YOUR happiness of the present moment, no one else’s. Rings are just symbols, not the true meaning of marriage.
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I would be annoyed by it. Use his money and buy yourself some nice rings.
Some of you are just mean. If your husband bought you a cheap wedding ring that tarnishes, turns your finger green and/ or causes you to break out in a rash… you’d be pissed!! Here’s what she’s saying… The first wife got a real ring that was 6k, but she got a ring so cheap it’s falling apart and causing a rash on her hand. He could have at the very least bought her a ring that was real gold or silver. Also his mom buying the first ring is irrelevant, it’s the idea that the first wife got a real ring and the second got a copper piece of shit.
Some of you need to go back and re read her post. You clearly misunderstood the problem.
Christmas is coming, go look at his and her wedding bands. Maybe you can get a nice set and replace both yours and your husband’s ring. There is nothing wrong with wanting a ring that doesn’t cause you harm… what’s the point in having a ring if you can’t wear it.
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If he knows that these rings are unhealthy for you then he should buy you a new set. The rings are a symbol of the commitment.
I would stop comparing his ex to you. He did not buy those rings either,they were a gift from his mom.
Take a look at how he treats you day to day to see if there is any underlying issues.
Anyone can say they love you and stick a ring on it yet it’s all for show so be cautious if this is the case. Best of luck to you.
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I don’t believe this is about the RING, it seems it’s more about the effort the first woman vs what she is getting now. Honestly, I understand where you are coming from and I feel like in thus situation it depends on how he treats you. Is he a good guy? Is he your dream partner and is perfect for you? Do you have a great relationship you wouldn’t trade the world for? This seems more like there are more underlying issues then just the ring.
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What really matters here is if your husband loves you and treats you right all else is materialistic. you have a husband and are blessed with children. Dont hold a grudge over a ring!
I wouldn’t care how much they cost as long as im with the one I want to be with for the rest of my life I couldn’t care less.
When I was with my partner (recently split up a month ago) I used to point out rings that I loved - simple, little and cheap (it was £40 ish)
Shouldn’t have married him if the ring where that cheap lol
Is it “just” your rings that bother you, I am feeling that there’s more to it than that.
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My husband bought my wedding set off of wish. Do I care? Nope. It’s what he could afford at the time and I was happy to get married. And it is a pretty set. Even if he only spend $1 on it.
Please don’t equate your worth as a person, wife, mother with the cost of a ring. I totally understand wanting a nice ring but I’m sensing a deeper issue…
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Lol take his card and go buy yourself a ring… It’s a present to you from him😂
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Wow Asif his ex wife is still wearing them! You have every right to be annoyed I would be too. He needs to get you some new ones. Xx
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When I got married my ring was 59.00. After 7 1/2 years I upgraded to one for 199.00
I agree that it isn’t the cost of the ring that matters. My concern would be the fact that you break out and clearly WANT to wear them and he sees no issue. My fiancé’s ex wife got to pick out her rings as well but he made a lot more back then. I picked mine offline for under $100 because we wanted to be engaged and the look was more important than price. I think you should look at your bank statements and pick out what the two of you can afford. Then tell him that’s what you want. It has to be made more about the symbol than the money
Why are you worried about a wedding ring , you’ve been married to your husband sometime now to have children together !
Try to stop stressing over his first wife’s ring, My husband put a plain wedding band on my finger as I also put a matching wedding band on his finger…We still have the same rings after a great many years together , those rings have memories and sentimental value, love doesn’t require a 6k diamond wedding ring and should never make you feel any less as you’ve stated .
Life is too short to worry about material things 
Have a blessed day !
In all honesty, I’d usually say the price or the ring doesn’t matter, but the fact his ex was ‘worthy’ of a 6k ring that she loved and you got a £200 ring that you absolutely hate… I can understand why you’re upset. Especially since the ex is STILL wearing the bloody ring! If he knows the rings you’ve got are causing you to have a rash etc then it would be nice for him to suggest going to pick ones that you both like… just as a symbol to say that he gives a shit about your feelings. No one should feel inferior to an ex. X
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Use clear nail polish to coat the band so it doesn’t turn your finger green. And stop comparing your relationship to his ex.
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Why didn’t his ex return the rings at the divorce
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I would ah go shopping for my replacement rings and put them bad boys in layaway… and make him pay for it. Fuck u mean the ring dont matter. Everything matter. The ring, the relationship, the happy home… y’all neva heard the saying " happy wife happy life" he better know to make u happy
A ring is just that a ring material items mean nothing honestly my first wedding ring came from Ames a small department store …
Most important is you are the mother of his children you have his last name you’re misses Jones if the ring is causing rash you need to have a heart to heart talk with him or you are the woman in the house I will buy myself one every month put aside something towards it could be a BD/Anniversary gift for yourself if it was me that’s what I will do 
I agree it’s not about the money or the ring it’s about the effort and care or lack thereof. He should definitely care about how you can’t even wear them. . . And won’t let you wear something else instead. I say pawn it for what you can and get yourself your own ring
This entire post reaks of jealousy and materialism. He’s married to you right. Comes home to you every night right. Then really why are you complaining? If he wanted you to have better he would buy you better. He chose you he purchased those rings hisself. And you have the audacity to be materialistic. Those rings you are looking down on mean so much more to him than you think.
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Get your own ring 
the ring is not the most important part of a marriage, the marriage is. If the ring is irritating your finger, keep it off. The marriage still counts with or without a ring
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If you are able to , go buy one yourself. Don’t wait for him.
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Obviously the 6k expensive ring didn’t do much for their marriage as they are now divorced. We learn from each relationship and maybe he doesn’t want to repeat history. He chose those rings for you personally, the cost shouldn’t come into it x
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I would save up and go buy myself one.
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My reading comprehension skills may be lacking but the mother in law bought his ex the ring, not the husband, correct?
So it was the mother in law who took the initiative, not him.
It’s possible the husband felt these rings are special because he bought them himself for his current wife.
My opinion is she should get new rings. Which there’s nothing wrong with. Hers are breaking her skin out and if that’s the case, they’re definitely cheap. Regardless of the sentiment, they’re cheap rings if they’re breaking her out. I’d put the original rings on a necklace.
I’ve been married 42 years & my ring cost £23 it’s beautiful & I wouldn’t change it for the world, bad luck happens when you start changing your wedding ring!
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The price of the ring doesn’t really matter but you mentioned it gives you a rash on your skin. I had that happen and it was because there was too much nickel in it which is what I was most likely reacting too. I stopped wearing it and the rash went away. Talk to your husband about this. Explain that they give you a rash and you can’t wear them and would like something new that you can wear without giving you a rash. Even tell him that it bothers you that the ex got this big ass ring and he can’t even do that for you it doesn’t have to be as expensive but something that won’t give you a rash! Say you want to go with him to choose one and to give a budget so you know what to look for. If it’s still a $200 budget I’d squawk about it! Sorry I know it’s not the a,Lunt that matters but if the ex is worthy of $6000 then yours should be somewhere close to that and not $200. Personally I don’t care about the price I’ve picked my own rings on my own and I rather prefer some of the simple classy rings for a few hundred dollars. I’ve had the big expensive ones and they just get tangled in my hair I bang them on everything so I like the simple ones. I have both my rings fused together and I absolutely love them.
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Sounds a little ungrateful. That was his FIRST marriage. It’s always done big the first time
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Jealous much 
. You’re extremely petty & ungrateful.
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Not trying to accuse you of anything, but seems like envy and jealousy to me over the ex’s ring vs your own. If it’s making you break out, that’s one thing. But why don’t you just discuss with your husband on upgrading it.
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No I think how you feel is reasonable. However, maybe he feels you’re too materialistic and won’t buy them because you’re making such a big deal about it and won’t even wear the ones you have? Him not buying new ones AND you not wearing yours both shows you are not valuing the marriage.
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But are you happy? That’s the important thing not rings on your finger. I’ve been with my SO for 41 years and never had rings on my finger and it’s just fine by me.
Take your man and buy some new rings and get over it.
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Go buy the rings you want
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So it’s a matter of price? That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.
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Again I would inform my husband about the ring situation and ask him if he wants to go along with you to pick out the ring that he’s gonna give you. If he wants to go then fine, if not then, “Oh well”. Prior to going to the jewelry store, I would have some idea of what I’m looking for and my price point. Don’t try to break the bank…stay within your income level…you can always upgrade. I don’t know your income level, so I’m not sure whether you’re in a position to purchase the ring outright or if it’s better for you to give a down payment and make monthly payments until you pay it off. But whatever way that you choose, your husband will have “given” it to you and you’ll have something you’re proud of. Don’t cry about…get up and get it done!
If you’re this upset over your rings go and buy you another one. My wedding ring were on clearance sale at Walmart but I loved my husband enough to cherish them anyway. I am his third wife and yeah his mistakes might have gotten a better ring than me and a better house but I know that he loves me more than he’s ever loved anyone and that is what’s important. Maybe just ask him to buy you a nice ring.
Do you deserve rings that don’t cause you to have a rash? Absolutely. However, that seems like an afterthought since you’re harping on the fact that his ex got a $6k ring that she’s still wearing. First, you stated that his mother bought that ring for his ex as a gift for her, so you can’t compare her ring and yours in the same way. Please stop obsessing over the exes ring. Now, he should buy you a ring that doesn’t give you a rash, and that you can wear proudly. Don’t insist that it be equal to the exes ring. She’s an ex for a reason. Remember, she only got that ring because his mother paid for it. He probably wouldn’t have spent a whole lot on her ring if he paid for it. It’s pretty sad that she’s still wearing a remnant of a failed marriage. Does he treat you, and your children, well? Is he a good husband and father? Are you happy with him? If your answers are yes, count your blessings. Sit him down and talk. Let him know you want to wear a symbol of your marriage proudly, and unfortunately the rings you have, you are unable to wear. Decide on a budget for the rings together, then go looking. No matter what, please let the exes ring go. Her ring has no bearing on your marriage, unless you make it an issue.
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Go get a job and but you’re own rings!!!
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I don’t think how much a ring cost should matter I told my husband I didn’t even need a ring and if anything don’t spend a lot on one bc I love him and that’s all that matters
This isn’t gonna go down well😅
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“And we are living in a material world and I am a material girl.”
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If this is right and they are causing rash etc he won’t get decent ones or accept grabs as “it’s not the same” then I’d literally take the bank card and go buy the ones I want If he moans say you were fed up of waiting and if he wanted more cheap rings he should’ve taken your gran up on her offer
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I’d buy my own x everyone’s saying the price or quality of the ring doesn’t matter I actually whole heartedly disagree I wouldn’t want to wear a crap/cheap ring for the rest of my life you must be joking. I’d rather buy my own and be proud of wearing it than have some mixed metal garbage that reacts with my skin. People are honestly touting on here like they would be happy with it, like fuck would you be 
Get off of Facebook and go talk and spend time w/ your husband.
What does his financial situation matter if his mom paid for the previous ring?if he didn’t pay for it why is he getting blamed for buying you a cheaper ring?
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The fact that he didn’t stay with her and he married u had kids with you is more than enough. Who cares about a ring you have his loyalty
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Get over yourself …. go buy what you want - with his money! No one cares for a whinny
Person!
This is why I would never write on a page for any help at all!!! People are so nasty and opinionated these days! You poor woman! I dont think you look jealous or ungrateful your just upset because you wanted to feel like number one especially to a man youve given children too! I bet each and everyone of you that has put something nasty all preach to " be kind" and act like youd help anyone out when in reality humans are disgusting and this justifies it for me! What a world we live in! Where people love jumping on others and making them feel more shit than they already feel!!! Shame on some of you spiteful cows
Screw all these comments from negative women. Js!! Geesh. Didn’t see that coming. People can be so mean.
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As a wife you are expected to be cook, maid, nurse, caregiver, clothes mender, child bearer, teacher, personal shopper, financial advisor, sex partner. …the list goes on.
Every wife should have a banging ass ring. It’s advance pay. If he thinks that’s all you deserve, then he can cook his own meals and wash his own clothes too.
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If it gives you a rash, throw it away, go buy what you want, hand it to your husband and tell him to put it on your finger in that wifely tone of voice you women eventually find. Don’t bring the ex into the conversation unless he bitches about the cost.
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You are with him not her isn’t that enough?
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You have been a solid wife, partner and mom. You deserve a nice ring you can be proud of. But do not waste any more time obsessing over what his ex has on her finger. You are wasting so much energy on someone who isn’t even important.
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If it were me, I tell my husband that by x date either we could pick out a new ring together or I would buy one myself.
I’d be pissed the cheapskate your the mother of his children demand a day of ring shopping together as a treat for yourself tell him how much it means to you and how he’s making you feel second best!!!
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If the current rings are causing rashes etc, I’d just go out and buy my own rings 
It’s a bit shitty he isn’t acknowledging that the rings he gave you are causing skin issues; however the other reasons I don’t see as a major problem but totally understand your feelings and I’d probably be jealous of the ex wife’s rings too.
I been married for years and I wear 1$wedding ring because the price of the ring doesn’t matter
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I just can’t with some peoples ignorance 
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Was he giving you what he could afford at the time? $200 can be a lot to spend on something so materialistic for people sometimes. Been with my partner 13 years, no ring, 2 children, no complaints because a ring isn’t anything other than a symbol to others. (And maybe sometimes a reminder for some) Stop comparing your relationship to an ex, they are an ex for a reason. This just sounds really jealous and ungrateful for what I’m hoping is a happy and healthy marriage.
Go out buy ur ring you wanted let him know, don’t be stressed over ring , and anyway his with you his loyal to you have a wonderful kids , be thankful what you have
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I’d be unhappy with it too. Demand a new one or buy one yourself.
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you are going threw how much he loves me or how much he does not the ring is not that big a deal you need to focus on important things that truly matter is he a good husband is he a good father do not worry about someting that he did not give his ex wife his mother got and paid for her ring he got yours
It’s the Thought that counts, You’re jealous the ex wife Got a better ring? Really? Perhaps she deserved it as you’re being rather materialistic and ungreatful infact it’s abit childish too sorry But if the rings are that bad don’t wear it. A ring and piece of paper don’t make a marriage
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He needs to buy you new rings then for sure
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First of all stop comparing yourself to his ex. It’s beneath you- well it should be.
Second, the fact that you two have been married for so long should be reason enough to get you your upgrade.
Plain and simple.
Your grandma is very nice to offer you her set and I would be flattered. If he can’t step tf up then take matters into your own hands. Either you’ll accept your grandmas rings and he can be reminded DAILY of his failure or he’s gonna need to go with you to purchase your own beautiful set. You’ve done your time in waiting.
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Glad I never got married.
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Glad I never post in here. I thought it was for support not to get bashed. She stated plainly that it’s not about the dollar amount. Geeze!!
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Just maybe he realized any girl that values a ring over his love isn’t worth his time and was so happy to find someone who values his love over a ring…maybe he hasn’t a clue you value material things over feelings of love and how he takes care of you…so by all means tell him the truth
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If he knows that it is upsetting you so much, he needs to step up. I don’t mean he needs to go out and spend 6k plus, just buy you better that you love and can tolerate.
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Yes you have a right to feel like that
But on the other hand 
stop your to late you should of send this a long time ago now you got to hint for a new pair of real rings and pick them ( maybe you could lose 
rings)
You should be embarrassed just writing this pathetic status!! If that’s all you have to worry about in life then your a very lucky person. Or just cheap and nasty like the rings your banging on about 
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Personally me if I would have said something to my husband in the status that you are at at this point and he never went and did it. I would go open a credit card at Kay Jewelers and by my own damn ring under both of our names.
I don’t think you should lose sleep over it but you should discuss it with him that this is your dream and because you’ve been married for a while then get set to buy new ones for an upcoming anniversary. He probably hated that his other wife and him only married for 1 year and he wasted all this money on someone.
Oh my gosh ,get a grip ! If that’s all you got to cry about ,you don’t deserve him !
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Try an put a positive spin on the situation…you got the guy…
Don’t wear a ring and hopefully people ask why while he is around…let him be embarrassed.
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You sound awful. Marriage isn’t about rings. If you want a ring buy it yourself.
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The ex got the ring. You got the kids. You win.
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Unpopular opinion…
You sound petty and jealous of the ex. Maybe your approach on the subject with him needs work.
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Get over the x. He’s married to you, not her. Continuing to use what happened in past relationships will do you no good. This is your relationship. It is different. Besides you don’t want him to do the same things, seeing they didn’t last.
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The ring is irrelevant. The ceremony is irrelevant. Having a marriage license is irrelevant. It’s how you treat each other every day and the love you share that makes it a marriage.
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I understand he wants it to have meaning, however a family ring has a lot of meaning. He’s being unreasonable when you don’t have a ring you can actually wear. Not liking a ring is one thing but if it’s breaking you out or whatever then he should be willing to replace it.
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If he refuses, buy one yourself. No law saying he has to buy it. Buy something that reminds you of how you feel about him or just because you like it.
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You seem to care mostly about the value even displaying jealousy over the x having a “better” one because it was more expensive. That’s actually really petty.
Been married 25 years and I have the big expensive ring that I honestly never wear. And it has huge sentimental value. It’s his dead moms ring that died when he was a child. So him giving it to me meant the world. But it’s not practical for every day. And that’s why it’s sitting in a box waiting on our son to need it one day to propose. So I have one from Amazon. Not real diamonds but I like other stones and not gold (because I can’t wear gold). At $30 he can buy me a new one every year for Christmas or just because he’s thinking of me. My favorite one is actually a fidget spinner out of the band. So it gives me something to fiddle with. And I get compliments on it every where I go. It’s just a moon stone set in silver.
If he feels so strongly about you keeping the wedding ring could you, maybe, suggest an eternity ring? And choose it together, maybe even get it blessed?
Tbh I would be really hurt if my husband suggested he got another wedding ring but I think there’s a compromise in there somewhere. :))
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You want a different ring buy it yourself. My mother gave me the first ring my father gave her that the band wore out on.
My ring my ex gave me was not large, but it was special because he picked it out. The size or cost shouldn’t matter, it is the feelings behind it that did.