How old is your baby? Should he or she be around lots of people with the covid19 rules in place? Bars can also get loud and naybr smokey if its allowed. I would sit this one out. How old is the birrhday niece?
If it was quick and in the afternoon early evening, we would make an appearance, then go home. But he should be allowed to go by himself no problem.
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Just go to the birthday party, quit being so judgmental about it being at a bar. Who gives a crap what anything thinks. As long as you’re not giving your baby a bottle with booze in it, then honestly what’s your issue here?
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That’s just silly, your there for a birthday not a night out. Showing face to the birthday would of been enough.
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Hey, you can have your opinion. For me it would depend.
What kind of place is it? Bar only. Restaurant/bar?
What time of the day/evening?
If it’s afternoon (before say 6pm) Should be ok for a bit. Show your face then say gotta go! But if its like… Tina’sbar on the corner straight up corner bar, eehhh… I’d get a sitter for 30 minutes to show your face. Then u have a reason to leave! 
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Depends, my uncle owned a bar and because of the size we had many functions and dinners there, they are not drinking or touching the alcohol I don’t see the problem
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I’ve had a couple of my children’s birthdays in a pub and they had a great time lots of games and dancing and all the adults had a good time too as long as it’s a family oriented place and the guests aren’t going to get hammered I don’t see an issue with it at all !
I think for me just the fact that it seems you are supportive of his family. This"no" shouldn’t be such a big deal. I didn’t go to every family gathering but my husband and kids went. The reason was I was tired and that was respected. Now as far as the venue, you do what you feel comfortable with.
Maybe realize there are other issues at work here
It really depends on what you mean by a bar. A lot of restaurants have bars in them, but are set up so that family’s are welcome too. I wouldn’t take my kids to the local hangout joint but I would take them to a restaurant that has a bar.
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Your baby, your choice. No opinion matters except yours on this one. Stay home and feed your baby. There will be more parties.
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If it’s a family party and a no smoking bar it would probably be fine for you to take the baby for a hour or two.
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If it’s an afternoon thing I don’t personally see a problem with it. If it’s after say 7pm or so, I wouldn’t. That’s just my opinion though.
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You are not wrong, your opinion is how you feel. If you’re uncomfortable bringing your child to a bar, then you do not have to. Personally, I would not bring any of my children to a bar being infant or otherwise. A restaurant where alcohol is served is a bit different, unless they plan to sit only in the bar section. It is a childish view to tell you you just dont like his family now, especially when thats obviously not the case. If you are in a state that its legal, its ultimately up to you and your comfort level.
Sorry I couldn’t resist. If you’re gut is telling you it’s not a good place to be with a baby go with it
I agree with you a 1000%. There is absolutely NO reason to bring a child into a bar. Who tf throws a party for a child at a bar to begin with? Pathetic
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Guessing that it’s a young baby I see no problem but also does this bar have tables and serve food? Or is it bar seating only? We spend almost every weekend at a bar in our very small town. Where there is birthday parties and things like that.
Do what you feel is best… I personally would make an appearance for short time and be on my way home… if u need to feed stop out
No it’s not trashy. It’s a common place of business and a family event.
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In my opinion I would feel uncomfortable about taking a baby to a bar around a bunch of drunks. Things always happen in bars. I grew up in a bar. My grandmother had me sit there all day while she worked. I got to also play the arcade games back in the day and drink shirley temples. But u are the mom and u do what is best for ur child and for urself.
I say if the bar has high chairs then it’s fine.
It’s a few bars (always have the good food) they have high chairs so it’s kid friendly.
But do what you feel is best for you 
Can you get a sitter for a few hours? With all the stress & mess going on in relationships, this seems so petty and solvable.
Some bars allow smoking inside still so it definitely wouldn’t be safe!
My daughter sang in bars at 10 lol!
Anyway, depends on the bar but it not trashy. Possibly illegal if there are no seats away from the actual bar itself.
Nothing wrong w going to a bar w a baby esp since there is no smoking. Its just people, just like a restaurant. If it was a strip club maybe
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Why can’t he just go without you? I wouldn’t really wanna take my baby out to a bar either. Maybe if it’s like a sports bar and early. Especially in Covid times I’d rather not take my baby many places with a crowd
I was at a bar with my mamaw papaw and dad all the time as a kid and my daughters grandma was a bar tender so she was up there too
I always went to the bar w my dad. One of my fav memories. Pretzels and Shirley temples so big with extra cherrys. Never after dark or if there was a crowd though
My first thought was if the event is being held in a bar, they don’t want kids present. Kind of a no brainer in my book.
If it’s during the day I don’t see the problem if it’s night time yea I wouldn’t bring my kid
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My son has been to a party in a bar a few times. I don’t see any issues with it
You are allowed to say no, especially when you are uncomfortable. Stick to your Mommy gut!
I would send my hubby with a card and stay home with the baby.
It depends on the bar .I have had lunch in a bar during the day .bit never at night time
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I dont think its trashy if you’re not going to get drunk. But to each their own. Some bars have dining too.
Depending on the time of the party the baby may not even be allowed in anyway
Feels like there is more underlying issues here.
You should do what you think is best…its your baby. Let him go if he wants
I’m not sure where you’re located but there’s minor laws in Oregon for bars so it wouldn’t be an option 
All you need is a manual pump or Hakka. But if it’s only the party there id say it’s fine to bring baby.
I don’t think you’re wrong I don’t believe a bar as a child place to be
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i wouldnt take my baby to a bar
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Your relationship has .ore issues than taking a baby to a bar… issues of control have reared their ugly heads. Marriage counseling or therapist for you, because you deserve it.
He’s nuts! Please do not take your child to a bar.
I would never take my infant to a bar
If it’s like a pub/bar/restaurant, I would go. If it’s strictly a bar, nope.
Well…depends on the bar. If it’s for a birthday party not really late at night…nothing wrong with making an appearance. As long as it’s early in the evening and there’s no smoking. Visit for a bit and then leave when everyone starts getting trashed.
I’ve been to a bar for a baby shower. It’s still counted a haul to rent, especially if it’s actually a room separated from the pool tables and bar.
Also, I have two pumps. Both are free for pickup.
sounds like you are married to an asshole
Ur their for a party not to get shit faced…ur the mom ur the responsible one…not this person with their opinion…u know u will be responsible m…kids are around alcohol at regular family house gatherings…do they drink? No. It’s silly it’s just another location
With booze. The only thing that matters is being responsible. And u clearly will be. So that’s just silly. This person just wants to cause issues.
As a Veteran Bartender and Mom, Iev worked plenty of BENEFITS that had Lots of food, games, auctions and kid friendly activities, bouncy house, apple bobbing ect, come dusk 8 PM NO ONE UNDER 18 for many Reasons, Any bar Iev worked at enforced it, For so many reasons 1st is SAFTEY /Legal liability 2nd and my personal favorite is ADULTS go to a bar to get a Break from thier kids ,with a reasonably expectations to enjoy thier whiskey , suck thier cigar use the word Fuck several times in a sentence Without being ask to put thier cigar out and PLEASE watch your language OUR kids are at the table. As a Mom KID friendly events during Afternoon ours are FINE when ppl attending and participating EXPECT the presence of kids, AS a BARTENDER At exactly 8:01 Expect me to enforce Bar Policy
Yeah, I wouldn’t like that either.
Is it a sports bar or an actual bar because you wouldn’t physically be able to have a birthday party for a child and a bar
And if it’s a small town then that’s different they let anybody into those places
I guess I’ll be the only person to agree with you and say yes, I do think that’s trashy. A bar is no place for a baby!
I never took my child to bars either and it’s your choice. Besides all Covid views,I don’t personally like it. If kids are older and there is a play section and other kids, different story. I don’t really think children should be exposed to how some people behave at bars either. The swearing etc is far worse and depending on the bar, all the smoking is a problem for me. I just think you are trying to be the best mom you can be🤗
I agree it seems there should be a better place for a gathering including children.
Don’t look for support, just make your own decision and stand your ground.
Don’t do favors you want praise for.
Give yourself a good talking to and become the person you want to be not someone who is shaped by other people’s opinions
I think it’s up to the parents. I personally wouldnt . I dont think i would have fun and I don’t think my baby would have fun 
Your are entitled to your own opinion. Marriage is a two way street not one way. Sounds like he is being selfish not to understand your feelings.
Bottom line its your child, your choice and decision. With that being said, take the baby and enjoy the party. I was raised in a bar so of course I turned out fine. I exposed my girls to realitu and occassionally took them to the local tavern during the day. They would sit politely at a table and thought it was “cool” to get sodas and chips!
Most bars won’t even allow children that I know of. I would not take my child to a bar because it makes me look like a bad parent so no I wouldn’t feel bad for saying no. If he don’t like it he can not like it
I don’t drink in front of my son, I don’t think its ok at all, Absolutely not ok. Kids shouldn’t see that.
Bring the kid! Not like the baby is going to be sitting at the bar getting cut off after too many shots
I personally bring my baby to bars. We won’t bring her into dive bars or anything but like a bar/grill, we will go to the bar side and especially breweries. Times have changed and it’s more acceptable now, and if it’s more of a family friendly place than it shouldn’t be a problem. I feel like you’re kind of being a Karen tbh. With the in-laws and just in general. If it’s your husbands family and he wants to go and bring the baby, let him go. It doesn’t mean you have to.
Yes I say so to .They Could realy get hurt bad.
Sounds like a toxic thing with going back and forth about who likes who, you shouldn’t say no to your family for him and he shouldn’t say no to his family for you. You both should talk about being on the same page.
A bar is a place for adults not children. You do the right thing by saying no
I mean, I went with my mom. It was weird seeing her dancing and such, so I hardly drank. I don’t think it was bad in my case
Yeh i was raised in a bar. My parents were bar owners so. I say thats why i dont drink today.
Speaking as a child raised in a bar… id say you’re not in the wrong… when I was very little I didn’t mind it because. I guess the novelty… or maybe I felt special. Older. I dont know. But I look back at it now, and whether it was a kids party or not. If there was other adults there… I shouldn’t have been in the bar… it was uncomfortable. I can feel now how uncomfortable I was then. And now to this day. As a full grown adult, if I walk into a bar similar to the one I pretty much grew up in, I get really uncomfortable, anxious, and irritated. This may not happen to some. But the question I find I ask myself most, being a new mom, “is this going to affect my child when she’s a teen. Or adult?” I dont think you’re wrong.
Also. Im from Canada. I dont think I’ve ever been go a bar that is willing to host a CHILDRENS party… there’s a reason they’re specifically for 19+ …