Ok… wait a minute…see if I have this right…you can’t afford to feed a kid for two months,but are gonna have one soon that will need diapers,formula, etc. Where is the dad to that kid? Or is he gonna pay child support. Seems like need to consider giving the new baby up for adoption bc selfish if don’t want to put out money to see your own kid and whine about feeding him. What a situation…
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There are plenty of food banks giving out food right now. He should be able to spend time with you. Shop sales, sell items unused in your house on marketplace, etc. There has to be a way you can make this work. I mean he’s your son
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Sorry. So many cheap meals out there. Apply for foodstamps and make it work.
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Just say you want to try and justify a child free summer because yes it’s wrong. You’re essentially abandoning your child.
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wow just wow 
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I was homeless with 3 kids no job no support nobody to help so I could work and my kids still ate we lives in a hotel room they had clothes diapers and were clean. Your excuses just appear to be you not wanting to seem like a bad mom but not really wanting your child around because it’s an inconvenience. The father is not totally responsible for the kid.
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Please stop having children. This post made me sick.
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If the OP sees this please pm me…
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Maybe look into summer lunch program in your area. Food pantries, church food give aways, coupons, WIC if available to you maybe apply for food stamps. There has to be way you can spend time with your son and being able to feed him should not stop you if any of these options is within reach
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Why is everyone so jugdemental read the post properly she is having another baby an struggling as it is just don’t pay child support an use that to pay for food so you can see ur boy n dont pay attention to the bad comments
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What happened to the child support he owed you for 8 years?
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Some of these comments 
. Although I don’t know your situation, no one really does on this thread. If you know you can’t afford to properly feed your child, then it probably is best you don’t take him, and unfortunately that is the good parenting choice you will have to make in this situation. ALSO as a reminder, MANY people have lost jobs, been furloughed, or laid off very recently. Not everyone can just up and get a second job, many people live pay check to pay check. As easy as the advice of getting a second job and saving money is, sometimes life isn’t that easy for some of us. I would take this as a learning experience though and set yourself up for your next visitation better or try to go back to court if you see this as a long term issue.
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This whole post is about nothing but money. I feel bad for y’alls son.
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Sorry but you sound cruel that just because he will not give you money he never does anyway as you said
You will not wanted to see your own son ? Your own son ?
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You can’t get food stamps ? I would do anything in my power to see my son if I was in that situation…
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Are you serious? Wow.
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Blessings to you. I hope you can get child support modified. You should have been awarded back child support. I hope your son knows that you love him.
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You need to decide whats more important… Youre going ruin what relationship you have left with your son… As a mother… I would do anything for my kids… Ive starved in order to feed my kids… Ive slept against a wall for my kids to have a bed… I wouldnt give up my time with my kids for anything or anyone… Period… As a mom you figure shit out…
I would have no problem feeding him since you clearly dont want too
Im so.confused you cant have ur son for 2 months. But you can have a baby and have the money to take care of a baby. Why keep having kids. Good thing ur child is with his father and not you.
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If you can only afford to feed yourself barely & have another child on the way; You’ve got problems! Sounds to me like you feel bad for not wanting him around for the fact that he chose to be with his father & not you. You’re a Woman not a little girl. So please straighten tf up! You act like there isn’t any help out there!
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NO! DO NOT GIVE UP THE TIME WOTH YOUR SON!
I would check of you are mandated to pay if you have your son. If you petition the court to have it suspended for the summer. If you don’t have to pay $260 a mn then you can afford to ha e him this summer.
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Do NOT disappoint your son
you are not wrong, however you should take him back to court. A parent that is paying child support should not also have to pay for the child to spend three months with said parent, on top of paying for the child for those three months. Take him to court and modify. I see this from both sides- As a parent that received child support, no the bills don’t stop at the primary home, but the food, clothing and shelter will increase the bills of the non custodial parent
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This is your child. You find a way to make it work.
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I would go to a food bank if it meant be able to be with my child and ask others if they could help me . I’m not judging at all I’m just saying .
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I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time, but nothing should stand in the way of you and your children.
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Girl I’ll give you $100 extra, you definitely need your kid with you this summer
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You are going to give up time with your son for 100 dollars? 25 dollars a week? Wow. I feel bad for this child…
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We literally get my step son every summer and we have 4 kids who live with us 2 we have custody of no child support from BM and 2 of ours together. 5 kids during the summer and I could never imagine asking his mother for money to feed him. We have borrowed money if needed to feed all of them but we make meals and 1 extra doesn’t eat that much that I would even need 100 to feed him. Spaghetti is cheap and you can make a lot, really any pasta dish you can make a lot of. When you want to see your child you do what you have to, yes people lose jobs all the time but it’s been 5 months and after going through the court system a million times it is very hard to take a child away from a bio mother that easy at 8 years old.
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He’s your son. I raised my two oldest by myself for 6 years with no child support. I made it happen we ate eggs and pancakes cup o noodles day in and day out. We made the best of it. Not taking your son just because dad won’t give $100 a month for groceries is not cool. My oldest are now 18 and 17 and their dad is now fully involved financially. It wasn’t easy but you do what you can with what you have. Sorry I couldn’t be more compassionate but that’s your son.
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The court should make this fair.
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Get help of any kind for those two months. Please.
Hang on…you can’t afford to feed a child so your solution is to have another one? Who do you think is gonna feed that one??
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Hubby pays child support every month. $376. We are a household of six and I’m a stay at home mom. Money is always little tight here. We get SS every summer for 2 1/2 months and the time he is here hubby still pays child support plus I send him back with all his school supplies. What about asking for help at your local churches? Maybe food stamps??
You can’t afford to feed “another human being” but your “expected to give birth at the end of the month’” WOW
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Go back to court and have them make a final judgement on paying and the dispute should be settled. They usually don’t have you pay when the child is in your custody.
Isnt your child support calculated to show the amount of days hes with both parents? So $260 a month would also include the days hes with mom. I havent heard, unless support was established out side of court, where it changes through out the year.
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Figure it out. What do you think all of the single parents who don’t get any support do? You can’t keep your child for 2 months… over $200? Please.
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Yes it is wrong. Find a way. Your son needs both parents in his life and should be allowed time to get to know his new sibling
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Child support is for the upkeep of said child. If the boy is with you, why send money to your ex? Get your son, enjoy the summer together, introduce him to his new sibling and send him home in the fall with a check dated September 1st.
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No one or anything could keep me away from my child. Even if I didnt have any “extra” money as you call it I would find a way to make it work.
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There’s more to this story. It’s very hard to take a child away from a mother.
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Talk to child support office or go back to court
It seems to me like all either of you care about is child support and its pathetic. If you cant afford to feed the child you already have you shouldnt be having a baby. Please consider adoption because that baby deserves so much better and I pray for your sons sake that you’re exaggerating about his father and hes a better father than you are mother. Smh. I cant even wrap my head around this shit🤦♀️
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Personally if u can’t afford to feed another child how do u plan on feeding a new born? Oh u just expected wic and food stamps to pay all that too… suck it up buttercup life is hard… having children is harder… if u can’t feed them don’t have them
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I would go with out food just to have my child and I love my food 
lol
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something isnt adding up to me. youve had the kid for 8 years without help and he just comes in and magically takes him from you? money doesnt always mean he will get his way and if he had all this money to fight with and spoil your kid with, than what happened to the 8 years of back support he would have been ordered to pay you? also $260 isnt a lot for 1 kid. getting pregnant when you have another to pay for isnt very smart either. there are plenty of resources out there right now with covid going on so you should be able to feed another mouth. maybe the new babies daddy can help with that. i wouldnt go that long without seeing my kids. your son isnt even old enough to decide where he goes so its not like he told the judge oh i want to go live with my dad. sounds like you gave up on your kid and youre trying to do it again.
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You either want to see your child or you dont.
If you cant afford to feed the children you have, im not sure why you’re having more…
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I hate to say this year but it might be in your best interest to give up your parenting rights. It sounds like the x doesn’t want to pay you for the child that you guys both hand when you have them over the summer. He seems like a narcissistic a****** and you don’t need that stress being pregnant right now. I know it’s a bad scene this ain’t coming from a fellow parent but my best friend had to give up her parental rights to her two children. The father was brainwashing the kids into thinking that the mother was bad. It was the hardest thing she ever did she still regrets it to this day but it’s something she had to do.
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Sorry over 100 dollars ur not gonna take ur son over summer lol id starve myself ! Surely if it were 25 dollars a week for food u could even do small jobs or even sell something u have for a few hundred dollars to be with ur son wth!
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Typically child support continues as normal when the child is with the noncustodial parent, unless something else has been arranged in court. So you would still be responsible for it, and the father would not be required to send any to you during the summer.
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How did you lose custody of your son after 8 years of having him? Did he prove you unfit? Why didn’t you file for child support legally thru the court system?? I feel so sad for you. If you can’t afford to take care of him then do not take him. It’s not wrong. You just can’t afford to do it
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Child support is calculated for the whole year and broken into 12 monthly payments. It’s foes not end for breaks or weekend visits. He does not have to pay you for the few weeks you have your son. If you can’t afford to have him the forfeit the visit. But there is definitely more to this story. He didn’t just buy some gifts and suddenly get full custody.
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Ya your child is more important than eating, sorry, I would never not want my son for the summer
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Wow I myself would figure it out sounds to me your just taking the easy way out
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Here the court grants an amount for a year and split in into a monthly bill. It gets paid all year no matter who has the child. It’s not about the money. If you don’t have other kids get another job or whatever it takes to see him.
If u can’t afford another mouth why r u having another child
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WTF did I just read? People out there losing their babies or not being able to have one and it seems like you’re just playing games with yours? Nah sorry hun, fix TF up and do whatever you have to do to provide for YOUR son for the summer! Jesus what would’ve happened if he stayed with you, still can’t afford to pay for his food? Why have another. Nah sorry this is bad AF and I feel sick that anyone would be using money as an excuse not to see their child. Hell, I’d starve myself if it meant I could provide extra for my kid. Wow.
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Child support doesn’t stop just because the child visits the other parent, even if it’s for a prolonged set of time. The court order doesn’t state that you stop paying. The father doesn’t have to give you money and help you out, unfortunately. Do what you have to do to spend time with your son. Otherwise you are giving the father every opportunity to modify your current order for more child support from you since you aren’t taking your court ordered time. And then you may actually lose time, legally, with your son in the future.
Why are you letting him decide when or if he pays support? That’s for the court to decide.
I would do what I need to to see my child honestly. As a mother there are a lot of support groups, search for ones in your local area. Food banks/churches can help out a lot!
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Yes it is wrong
You haven’t seen your son in months and as a mother NOTHING should stop you from taking him for the summer
I’m assuming you are outside the US because you used km but don’t other countries have food closets/pantries?
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Can’t afford to feed another human being, but you’re pregnant. Priorities right there.
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Sounds to me like u need to just let him be with dad cause you can’t afford him
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That’s your child. If you want him you will find a way to see him otherwise you don’t really want to see him in the first place
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Go to court- why is he saying what happens when.
I didnt recieve any child support when my daughter was with her dad for the summer. I received very little like 30% just because I pay her health insurance.
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Then you say “summers” like you plan this for the rest of the summers that your supposed to have him! I hope this is a tad bit exaggerated! I’m not one to judge, and times are hard for everyone! But if you have already made plans with your son to see him for the summer…please don’t back out now! That’s crushing to a child, to be let down!
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Sounds like both of you (at least by your “story”) are more concerned about money than your kids. I can’t imagine that you didn’t know you’d have your son for the Summer and saved a bit to prepare for that. If I haven’t seen my own kid in months I’d have a damn stock of peanut butter and bread to live on so that I could afford to have him!
I will adopt the new baby so you can have time with your son. Problem solved
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Something wasn’t right if his dad got custody!! Usually it’s always 50/50 unless your unfit!
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Sounds like there is a VERY VALID reason behind dad having custody or son choosing to be with father. Perhaps he should stay there and avoid being hungry!?
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There is literally no situation in which I would let $100 worth of groceries a month keep me from seeing my child, ESPECIALLY if I hadn’t seen him in months. It sounds like you’re looking for an excuse to not have to keep him for the summer, in which case please just remove yourself from his life completely.
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I don’t understand how you can’t afford your ten year old son for a summer but plan to afford a newborn.
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Don’t you turn your back on your child. You figure something out but don’t you dare turn your back on him.
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Guess it was better your son lives with dad if you cant afford your son for a month or two. how are you buying baby items?what if your baby needs formula? What about diapers? How can you afford one kid but not the other
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My ex husband did not have to pay me child support during the summer bc he had them 50% of the time.
TBH it sounds like you just don’t want to deal with YOUR SON while you take care of your NEW BABY
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Well a lotta this makes no sense. Buuuut how are you gonna feed your new kid when you can’t even feed your son??
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Nothing would keep me from seeing my child. I’d move closer, I’d starve and eat leftovers or whatever to make it work. You’re pregnant but can not afford to feed another child? I’m confused. So are you going to be able to pay for the newborns needs? I’m concerned about a lot. Please don’t let your son down
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You can’t feed a kid for the summer so how you gonna feed the other ALL YEAR ?
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This whole story is fishy. You don’t lose your kid due to gifts and you don’t pay child support unless you don’t have 50/50 and there’s more than likely a reason for that.
My bf still has to pay his CS when his son is down. Doesn’t make any difference
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You shouldn’t have to pay child support while he is living with you for 2 months. Contact child support enforcement & talk to them
I can NOT wrap my head around this. What? You can and shoud DO EVERYTHING you can to see your son.Sell plasma,anything. Just get him for the summer. There are cheap meals you can fix. I can assure you, he want remember eating cheap,but he will remember not being with you.
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Wow! If you can’t have him because it would cost you $25 a week, he’s better off with his dad…
Once you have a baby, you’ll anyways get busy and not have time to think.
Wonder why you’re having another baby when you can’t afford the one you made 10 years ago?
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You find away. It’s your kid.
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This may be your sons final straw…if you put off not seeing him…if his wish was granted to live with dad…he may just say it’s so easy for her to not want me during the summer I will stay home
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We’re obviously not getting the entire story and I feel like you are lying about something. No reason to respond to this situation other then that your son should stay with his father. You got it really twisted and he deserves better then what your giving him. And now you’re having another baby 
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How do you not have custody but keep having babies …my conscience wouldnt let me
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Yes, you are wrong and selfish. Your son probably has been looking forward to being with you all summer. As a Mom you find a way to provide, just like your about to provide for a new baby. Think about it before you make a decision you will regret and your son will resent you for.
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The way child support works, at least in Florida, is the number of overnight stays with each parent is calculated into a total estimated cost of raising the child. Each parent is responsible for a percentage of that cost based on the number of overnight stays. Meaning he doesn’t pay you when you have him, since he supports him for his percentage already. What you pay is your percentage and he gets it because he is primary.
Mothers make a way. If I did not have my kids for any reason… better believe I’d have every single minute of my visitation time.
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I couldnt the child i birthed let go and not see at all. It goes both ways. As a mother a true mother you find ways to make it without any help…
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I could never, ever in any situation give up my daughter. I can’t wrap my head around how any parent could. I would go without anything I need for survival to meet her needs.
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If you pay $260 in child support while he is with his father then don’t pay that $260 when he is with you and buy groceries. Look for food banks, ask for help. I’d sell my soul to afford time with my kids if they weren’t with me. My soul.
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$260/month is nothing. My ex pays over 800 amd it doesnt stop when he has h because it is calculated by year not by month
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Wtf did I just read??? As a mom you make a way.
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There are food banks you could access. Contact the board of social services they will provide you a list of local food pantries also you may be eligible for food assistance…
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As a mother you figure out how to make it work! Sounds like you need to looke at things a little different and take some responsibility for your actions. $260 a month is nothing! There is nothing in this world that would keep me form seeing my kids for 6 months. How will you suport this baby if you can’t feed your son!
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Get him even if you have to get food from a church or something! You’ll break your sons heart
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