Put her in a baby chair in the bathroom, babies love the sound of the shower and the steam helps them 
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Take your shower mama thereâs a difference between a 5 to 15 minute cry versus letting a baby cry it out for hours you will get to learn your baby and know whatâs best itâs okay to ask advice from other people but remember you know your baby and you know you do what works for both of you donât beat yourself up over this over the course of this childâs life this is a grain of sand
She will be fine while you take a shower.
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Why not shower when partners home. A shower should be relaxing. Hearing baby cry for any mom is heart breaking. #momof5
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& i may be alone in this , but iâve never been so selfish to worry about myself over my child . why not wait until sheâs sleeping ? or ask , why is she crying ?
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I took mine in a bouncer in the bathroom and I would peek out to play with them. If they cried, then Iâd let them and try to hurry lol
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Check out Biologically Normal Infant Sleep group!
Letting a baby thatâs still that young cry it out is ok!! It helps strengthen their lungs!!!
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CIO is only suggested after 6 months.
I dont suggest it period. But đ obviously its the internetâŚ
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Itâs ok to let her cry, make sure sheâs fed and comfortable. Babies cry just bc they want comfort.
I only have one child and so I guess Iâm a first time mom too, mine is now 4⌠So all I can say is donât panic your baby is ok. 
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Ours always fell asleep in the bathroom with the sound of the water and the lights low when we showered
I actually sleep trained my daughter at four months and used the crying method and now she sleep perfectly fine by herself and does not wake up in the night. If youâre worried about it, you could always bring a bouncer to the bathroom and sit it near the shower. Thatâs what I did and it kept bub quiet. Youâre baby will be fine. Itâs not a big deal to let them cry a little
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Take your shower. Shave your legs, condition your hair. Your little baby will be fine. Screaming or not, you need to wash your ass. 
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Sometimes babies cry just to exercise their lungs which is why you shouldnât jump at every little whimper. By three months, I would think, you should know the difference between a hungry, frightened, hurt or bored cry! Also, babies have fussy periods where absolutely NOTHING you can do will make them stop! My daughterâs was around 4pm almost every day!
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Youâre doing the right thing. Your baby will be fine. And donât let anyone tell you otherwise. Make an effort to sleep train now. I used the Ferber method, modified for my own comfort. Enjoy.
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Why canât you make sure the baby is sound asleep for you take a shower? I would hope you have a baby monitor with you if you do not have another person in the home with you to listen for the baby.
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Take her with you in the bathroom in her little bouncy seat, that way you can sing or talk to her while you are showering and she can hear you and you can peek around the curtain
I just asked my 16 yr old if he remembers crying while I showered or if he felt abandoned for 10 minutes while I showred. He said no hes doesnât even remember. Silly millennium moms
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I try to either put my son in his bouncy seat in the bathroom with me where he generally stays content or I put him in his crib in the next room over if he seems content (and still try to rush because he usually is crying by the time I return because heâs dropped his binky out of his mouth). Take your shower mama!
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I was never one to be able to let my kids just lay there and cryâŚI think it creates issues in kids
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Just take her with you into the bathroom maybe before her actual bedtime. In a bouncer or activity chair or bassinet. And leave the door open so she doesnât get too warm
I think itâs a bit unrealistic that some here are expecting baby to sleep during each and every shower. Even if they are asleep when Mom gets in, babies wake up for whatever reason and they arenât always happy about it. As long as the babyâs needs are met I donât see a problem if you need to finish up. Things donât always line up to shower while the babyâs asleep. Ive been taking my baby in the bathroom in his bouncer and playing music for him while I shower, but heâs 6 months
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Donât even worry about it!! My son cried for the first 9 months non stop! Colicky nightmare⌠I coddled him every wimper he made, steady on the boobâŚnext kid Iâll be doing things differently, sometimes a little crying is ok. You need to shower woman lol so do what u need to as long as babyâs safe donât beat yourself up
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You are teaching your child self sooth itâs good for them to learn it. You should know the difference between her cryâs by now.
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Mines 2 months and when I want a shower I take it if sheâs crying sheâll cry for about 15-20 minutes before she falls asleep
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I am speaking as a grandmother. My son and daughter-in-law had told me to put her in her crib and she will cry herself to sleep. Well, as a âMimiâ I was not up for that. I rocked her and I sang to get and I prayed her favorite music and I tried walking with her, none of it worked so I heard the words âLet her cry in her cribâ. As much as I hated to do it, I put her in her crib and waited just outside her door. What took me about 40 mins to put her to sleep took under 30 seconds to do the same. I donât get it but it worked. She just loves her crib but takes her a couple minutes to realize thatâs where she is. 
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I would move the pack n play in front of the bathroom door(I felt bad too lmao)and play peekaboo with my boy he would cry too but momma had to showerđ¤ˇđťââď¸ that or I would wake up at 5am to shower before he was awakeđ
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The short answer is no. I donât ever remember getting to take a shower when any of my babies were actually sleeping. The solution is a baby swing lol! Also like the other suggestions bring the baby into the bathroom if it helps you feel better. There is no perfect way to parent just do the best you can.
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Iâd always bring baby along in the bassinet. I never did any cry it outs. Especially not that young. But thatâs me.
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Some of these comments geez. Itâs okay to do whatever you need to. Only you know best what your baby needs and can handle. My pediatrician used to let her baby cry it out up to an hour! As long as they are checked in on and youâve done everything you can before hand then itâs really up to them. You may be a mom but you still have to take care of yourself
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Hey. Itâs okay.
You need to take care of you, too. If I donât shower, my whole day is kinda sucky.
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She is too young to CIO. They usually say 6-8 months.
I put mine in a bounce/vibrating chair and brought her into the bathroom with me. I couldnât let her cry or leave her alone and not be able to hear her. Most of the time she showered with me anyways.
nothing wrong with putting your baby down for self care⌠showers, cooking, toilet breaks⌠my kids never come in the bathroom with me an they are well adjusted non traumatized kids
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girl, if your baby cries it out only while you shower, youâre fine. donât let people make you feel bad. I promise youâre not gonna give your child abandonment issues from letting him or her cry while you shower. my son is 4.5 months old and sometimes he cries while i shower. itâs just a part of life. just shower, mama. itâll be okay.
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Nothing wrong with letting the child crying while youâre taking a shower. It also May teach your daughter that youâre not going to be parked under her when she cries.
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I put my daughter in a laundry basket with a blanket under her for cushion and had her right next to the tub while I showered just so I could see her for peace of mind. She was awake and happy she could see me. Iâm also a first time mom, but my daughter is now 2 and just fine. Sometimes you canât wait until theyâre asleep to care for yourself, and thatâs ok. Happy mama = happy baby.
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I think its okay if you need it. But I used to put mine in a car seat outside the tub and also play peek a boo lol
how long is the damn shower that she has to CRY herself to sleep? you canât shower when sheâs napping?
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Take the shower let her cry sheâll be fine ⌠probably falling asleep with the noise of the water
Happy mumma happy bubba
I tried to never let my kids cry themselves to sleep because Iâve done it as an adult⌠And that shit hurts.
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Iâm a stay at home mom and my one child just turned 5 on the 26 of this month when I needed a shower and the baby didnât want to sleep but she has been fed and changed I would play a movie or music for her while she was in her crib and she was quiet but my Dr told me as well itâs ok to let them cry it teaches self soothing and also teaches them how to occupy them selfâs
I brought my sons portable bassinet into the bathroom with me. I would keep the bathroom door open too so it wouldnât get steamy. He would cry if he didnât see me so Iâd poke my head out of the shower and heâd crack up laughing. I also had baby shark song on and sing along
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I had twins and always took them into the bathroom in their swings and would talk to them.
Self care, hunny. Everything is fine. If sheâs completely taken care of, thereâs nothing to worry about. Sometimes mamas gotta take a few minutes to themselves. She forgot about the crying when she woke up, she still loves you, and your hair is clean. Thatâs what matters
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Canât pour from an empty cup. It wonât hurt her to cry a bit. Hugs!
Crying it out isnât healthy. But growing up with a miserable, B.O.-ridden mother isnât healthy either. Youâre doing your best.
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Iâm a single mom of an 18 month old and 3 month old. Iâve had to let me son cry on several occasions to get things done. I try to make sure heâs asleep before I do things but sometimes that just isnât the case. Iâll give him a pacifier and if it falls out, he starts crying. I canât always come to his aid immediately. If I know that heâs fed and changed, I donât worry about it too much. I do still try to hurry with whatever Iâm doing but he has cried himself to sleep a couple times. Youâre not a terrible mother for doing things that are necessary for yourself. You arenât always gonna have time while theyâre napping to get everything done. Mom shaming over something simple like this is just ridiculous
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I always bring my 4 month old into the bathroom with me. She sits in her bouncer and usually falls asleep while Iâm showering. I donât let her cry it out, but to each their own. You could always shower while baby is napping.
She is fine. If your responsive to her most of the time a couple times of her crying herself to sleep isnt gonna hurt her. That first year is hard. Dont beat yourself up for taking a shower.
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Itâs ok for babies to cry
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Try a pram in the bathroom so she can still see you. Its what ive done many times. Or the highchair ir whatever else bub likes.
Why donât you shower when she sleeps? Iâd never do that and let my baby cry herself to sleep 
Well to be honest with u crying develop they lungs but u can always geta bouncing chair and take it with u to the bathroom or try making sure u put her to bed before showering but I donât think that by doing that she going to feel abandoned she just want to be picked up by u since she or he knows u not in the room âŚ
I always put my son in a bounce chair and carried him to the bathroom when i showered.
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Why not put her in the carrier where she can see you or bumbo/seat in shower with you. We have always bathed with our son. Either bathes with me and my husband takes him out so I can finish or vice versa. When by myself, I put him in the office Bumbo or other seat like thing. It was the only time I ever used the infant bathtub, was to hold him while I bathed.
Girl Iâve got a 23,21,19,14 yr olds & 5 & 2 yr old grandbabies im now raising Iâve let all my cry on more than one occasion and they are all well adjusted collage graduates, have good jobs, & starting their on familyâs no abandonment issues at all. No mom is perfect as long as that baby knows sheâs loved sheâs going to be fine I promise, you need a few mins to yourself every now & again and it not only benefits you at the baby as well because it will make you a better mom to her. Donât listen to all these âperfectâ moms who would never let their babies cry or always take their kids to every room they are in cause they canât be alone for 10 mins cause those are going to be the kids living in their parents basements and sponging off mom and dad until theyâre 30 cause they canât do anything for themselves.
Your doing a good job hold your head high & donât lose any sleep over such silliness.
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If you need to shower then please mama just shower. Baby will be alright. Just make sure sheâs safe. You donât need to feel too guilty itâs not like youâre neglecting her needs. Looking after yourself is included when looking after baby! Sometimes itâs gotta be done
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Why do people think that their babies arent allowed to cry 
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If she is fed, changed, warm, & safeâŚcrying bout nothing, let her cry herself to sleep. She probably crying becuz she tired anyways. You are doing nothing wrong.
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My baby had lots of food allergies and had awful tummy pain from them. She cried most of time time even when she was held. She was only settled when I was bouncing on an exercise ball. She would only sleep in my arms while I bounced on my exercise ball or when I baby wore In a hug a bub wrap. I use to put her in a bouncer or swing in the bathroom while I showered so I could still see her. She still cried the whole time I showered but at least I could see her. It was literally the only 5 minutes I had to myself.
I personally would not use the CIO method for my children but I wouldnât say you are doing that if itâs only happening once a day while you shower. You need to look after yourself too and 5 minutes of self care is perfectly fine. As long as you know your baby has a full tummy, is in a clean nappy, is not too hot/cold, is comfortable and is somewhere safe it is perfectly okay for you to let them cry for a little while. They wonât have abandonment issues from it happening once a day.
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I am a registered nurseâŚit is perfectly fine for a baby to cry themselves to sleep.
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Babyâs need to cry. It helps their lungs develop. Iâve raised 4 children who have occasionally cried themselves to sleep and I promise not a single one of them have any abandonment issues! Donât listen to people tell you that you shouldnât let your baby cry. If you know he or she isnât hungry, doesnât need a diaper change and isnât sick or hurting. Take your shower, go sit on your porch and enjoy a few moments of alone time. Do not let yourself get overwhelmed. You have to take care of yourself as well. Yes, your baby is the most important but as long as you know your baby is good. Take care of you!
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Iâd usually just bring my girl into the room with me on a bouncy chair, so sheâd still see me and the sound of the shower would help her sleep also. But donât feel bad about leaving them and letting them cry, sometimes you need that break. Youâre there most of the time for her to cuddle, once or twice every now and again isnât bad. Youâre doing great !
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Shes fine, she will get used to not seeing you while you do necessary things for yourself. If you try to fit in all the self care necessities only while baby is sleeping, it wont be pretty. Every doctor, midwife and naturopath we have seen agrees. Dont worry about the naysayers. I allowed myself showers even if they cried and guess what? 10 & 8 years laterâŚTotally amazing girls, still open and bonded with me, healthy, smart and all good. Itâs good for baby to slowly adapt to what life is actually like, and crying while mom takes a shower will never negate or undo consistent quality care elsewhere. You got this mama.
I would do it. I havenât had a shower in 3 days cause my son is clingy he is 18 months
Of course she is crying for 15 mins wnt harm her x
I think as long as you donât do it every single day or every time sheâs trying to sleep, it will be fine. They do need learn a sense of independence but also need the snuggles and love as much as possible.
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She will be fine. She will learn you will come comfort her. Itâs just a phase.
I personally donât do the âcry it outâ thing, but I think that it happening twice is not going to cause your daughter to have abandonment issues. I think thatâs more like if itâs a regular thing.
Has she been fed when youâre showing or is it near her feed time? I find with my baby boy whose two months, if I have a shower around half an hour after his feed, I can get away with a ten min shower with him in a bouncer in the bathroom
Itâs ok. Youâre ok. Itâs scary being a 1st time mom. Nice that you have the internet for information and support until it evolves into arguments and personal B.S.
Always remember one thing -
NO ONE knows your baby better than you do. Better than friends, family, and Doctors as well. Keep asking for support, but know that youâre doing a great job so far because you ARE asking for help. Youâre a very good mother. It will be ok.
Yup!!! If she doesnât cry blood sheâs fine
Totally fine hun I used to put my twins in a automatic bouncer so they could see me they still cried but I knew they were ok x