My teenager doesn’t even get grounded that long!
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Maybe you should talk with your spouse. If your uncomfortable with it you start there. Everyone has an opinion on these things. But really only you and your husbands makes a difference for your family. Find common ground, work together and provide a better outcome you both can live with. 
Kids YouTube is better. And yes a whole month is a bit harsh. Sorry 
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Honestly we didn’t even have electronic when I was a kids it will be good for her now if it was for like a month in her room obviously that’s abuse this seems legit but he does realize that means he now has to interact with her more lol it will be good for the both of them 
Okay, well it’s not a month. It’s more like 2 & a half weeks. It’s never too early to learn about consequences, how exactly do you ground a 6 year old anyway? Force them to use their imagination instead of a TV? Just curious. It’s not like a 6 y/o has much of a social life.
No it’s completely fair, hopefully next time she will listen
That’s just stupid, way too long, 6 days would be long enough
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A month is long for 6 years old. She was told not to be on it and she didn’t listen so she has to know she can’t just do what she wants .
I feel it is harsh, but I feel even more strongly that if he told her that, that is exactly what he must follow through with. And you must back him up in full (when she is present or can here you). She needs to know what he says goes while you are not home. By changing the consequences you are taking away his parental power and your daughter will walk all over him. It will just lead to more frustration in the long run.
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Pretty harsh for a month.
The general rule of timeouts I was taught was one minute for every year of life. So I feel like six days for a six year old for a first offence- I’m assuming this is a first offence anyway- seems reasonable. The rest of the month is a long time for a little one. If she does it again then sure, but it seems like “grounding” for that long for that age seems like it might be a lot to manage.
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Yeah that seems excessive. Just take away the electronics for a week. Geez.
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A month is a long punishment but I bet she’ll remember that and think twice before disobeying again. I think it’s more important to teach her not to hide things, especially YouTube which can be so dangerous for a child. But in the end, you both have to be comfortable with the punishment and be a united front for the kids. Good luck! And thank you for your service!
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My sons banned from youtube completely . Its been 3 month’s and he’s fine
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I don’t like youtube for my son (5) and before i figured out how to block it on his tablet he went behind our back and was watching videos on YouTube, we grounded him from tv and tablet 3 days and set more parental controls on tablet and tv. rest of the month seems long especially for a 6 year old, ultimately you need to do what you think is best for your kid, maybe try compromising and meet in middle, 2 wks?
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Nope, youtube kids is garbage. its been banned in my house. nickjr and games on our ipad. thats it for mine. mine had terrible attitudes and talked back one too many times. much better now that we cut it out. to each their own.
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I wouldve done at least a week or few days but shit just block the app until the month is up. Kids aint gonna remember after 30 days. They be like huh? What video?
Too harsh IMO … but I do recommend parental controls or kids apps only … My 6 year was trying to sneak & listen to WAP … I bout died!!!
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Seems too long to me ! But , I was a softie . Either way , my kids turned out great ( 31 , 27 and 23 ) . She’s a bit young for that lengthy time IMO but of course , she may find much better things to do . We didn’t have any of that stuff when I grew up and I feel I was much better off .
Bit harsh yes. Sounds like hes a bit of a control freak
That could save the child’s life. Some things on YouTube is very dangerous for our small children.
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He gonna entertain her for the rest of the month? 24/7?..the longest groundings I give my 7 y/o are a week tops.
I agree with a lot of the other moms. Its not like he is putting her in a room to stare at wall for a month, he’s taking away her tablet. Its not gonna kill her to have to watch TV or play outside. She really doesn’t need to be on a tablet that often at her age anyways in my opinion.
She probably got punished the first time she disobeyed him and that obviously didn’t work, so in his eyes i think he feels like he needs to show her he is serious. If you don’t support your husband and change his punishment she is gonna see that and any time it happens she will run to you and try to go over his head and that will just cause problems between you. I promise. I know its hard being deployed and still trying to remain united but its important that you do so and besides more then likely he will cave in and give it back to her early anyways so is it really worth the fight?
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depends on the crime
Thats excessive in my opinion
With everything that is on YT now I don’t think it’s harsh. Our girls did the same thing but I worded it differently. We just found other activities for them to do. It honestly was a week or two before they even quit asking for electronics. A month is a good amount of time to get them more focused on activities that can be better for their brain development
Wonder how long he will ground her for going out and drinking when she’s a teenager (not saying all teens do that but the majority) that is minor to what what will come 
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My nephew is 6 and he lost electronics for 3 months.
Somehow he’s still alive and thriving.
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Way too long for a 6 year old, he’ll do good to make it through the weekend
I can’t see that a 6yo would have much of a social life so what is she really going to miss out on… personally I would take away the item she used to disobey him so tablet ect for the rest of the month… its only 3wks tops
I wouldn’t challenge his punishments. Let him handle it. The rest of the month is only 19 days.
Yeah that’s harsh. I wouldn’t even ground my kids for that. She’s 6 FFS. If you don’t want them watching YouTube then block it/remove the app or turn the internet off whilst she’s on the tablet.
Six is young to have access to the internet
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Lollllll:joy: I would’ve been banned from my computer for 3 months and gotten my ass paddled if I did this shit. She was told not to do something, she blatantly disobeyed and now she has to pay the consequence. 
maybe next time she’ll listen. She won’t die because she isn’t going to be able to watch YouTube for 19 days.
To harsh. Shes 6 not 18
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Too harsh…ridiculously…
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Thats really harsh. More than a day and she will have no idea why she isn’t watching TV.
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It’s fair. She’s not going to be any worse off for it. So why not. Hopefully she will take it seriously & get the right lesson out of it.
…Or at least get better at sneaking:sweat_smile:
harsh for a 6 year old yes…
As the parent left behind during deployment…what punishment he decides.#31yearsin!
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My daughter is 7 and she disobeyed me by going on YouTube when she wasn’t supposed to so I took her phone and Nintendo away. It’s been over a few months now. She only can watch tv. Netflix,pbs,gonoodle. YouTube is GARBAGE. She has a better attitude now.
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my honest opinion is when they are about young you sit down with them and supervise it. You can’t just let them sit there by their selves!! They also have parental controls for reasons like that. Use the parental controls turn commenting off things like that.I still do these things and my daughter is 11 years old. My daughter likes tik Tok okay and I really have to supervise and watch that.my daughter had adults that were shaming her for living in a trailer park after losing her home to hurricane Michael I had to report adults calling my eleven-year-old a s*** things like that. and I was like what business does an owl don’t have doing this to any child on social media??? anyways no matter what your kids have to be supervised. My daughter is really good at not watching sexual things she will let me know that’s what’s going on or she stopped the movie because of that or it’s too scary for her. And she’s 11 years old. my daughter usually doesn’t go on bad things or watches bad things which I’m pretty thankful for that! But for the punishment I would say at least a week for a 6 year old! Sometimes six-year-olds don’t really understand what consequences are yet unless you sit down and actually talk about also is your child mentally able to handle something like that that is something to think about to??? I say just disable that YouTube in the device that she’s using.they also have YouTube for kids why don’t you download Netflix and Disney plus and stuff like that for your child! Disney plus is 699 a month and it has everything in the world that Disney has ever made done for your child to watch everything from the 90s and back everything right now is on there.all the princess movies everything maybe that is something that will keep your child away from YouTube.
I feel like it is too long and is he even going to stick to it sometimes we make punishments in the heat of the moment and over do it then reconsider when we have cooled off, and then we don’t stick to it and it let’s the kids know we don’t mean what we say.
I removed YouTube, blocked the website, and downloaded YouTube kids. I trust my kids but I also don’t like setting them up for failure by leaving off limits sites as options on their devices.
I personally think that’s incredibly harsh. A day or 2 for 1st offense and more from there. U have to be able to escalate your disciplines as your child matures and escalates what they do wrong.
If u go that extreme for a small breaking of the rules, where do u escalate from there?
But I also have been the parent at home with the other deployed and really didn’t take I fly to him questioning my parenting decisions from halfway around the world during the rare 5 min phone calls he got so that’s a tough spot.
She should t be on YouTube at all.
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Depending how many times they were told not to or how many times they did it. Imo they don’t have a social life anyhow. They’re probably just grounded from devices. Won’t harm them any.
I don’t think it’s harsh 
the less kids are on the internet the better.
Ladies, you should all watch childhood 2.0 on YouTube. Eye opening. And 100% needed.
That’s definitely harsh for a 6 yr old
harsh I mean a day is enough
no one ever perished from lack of YouTube. she will live.
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Every one is gonna have their own opinion, most will say it’s too harsh, others will say it’s not. Shes 6 years old she should know how to listen by now, if she doesn’t want to then she should face the consequences no matter how ‘drastic’ they are
Way to harsh!!! He is picking his battles and at this rate should be preparing for a major war when she hits her teens!
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Not super experienced with the age but I feel like anything longer than a week or so is a bit harsh… gotta get to the heart of the matter and if you want her to focus on other things then you need to sign her up for other things or find things to do together to occupy her time
I’ve done the same thing. 6 year olds know right from wrong especially if they have been told no. I’m a teacher and I assure you know they know more than we give them credit for. So, I would support your husbands decision.
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I think it is abit too long to be grounding her when I was little it’d only be for a week and that’s if I did something really bad definitely over reactingx
That’s not harsh… kids learn horrible things from YouTube… Even kids YouTube… there are other options she can watch… kids Netflix… disney… or actually do something productive like an activity or playing… she will be fine without kids YouTube for a month.
Take away the internet. She’s six! Grounding for that long is a lot!
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It can’t harm her to lose electronics, period. So, no the punishment isn’t unfair. The length is, however, irrelevant at some point for a 6 year old. They don’t have a good enough concept of time for that length to register the same as it would for an older child.
It’s like time out. A 6 year old should get 6 minutes. Going over 6 minutes doesn’t make it more potent. It actually becomes less effective because by the time the parent lets them out and goes over why they were in time out and what is expected next time, they’ve probably forgotten why they’re even there. A week or a month is pretty much the same thing to a 6 year old. He could easily give her a few days to a week off and be just as effective, but it’s not harming her for it to be a month.
That is way too harsh for six-year-old I say Like a couple days maybe🤷♀️
She knew she shouldnt and she did it anyway… doesn’t matter what it is! By sticking to the bigger punishments now she’s 6 it will teach her a valuable life lesson about the consequences of doing what u were explicitly told not to do! It means you won’t have to try and suddenly tighten up when she’s older and true rebellion kicks in, she will already have a full understanding of what happens if she chooses to do it anyway!
Its so crazy how people are saying its to long he took a tablet away from her calm down, its not to long maybe she will learn to listen when he tells her not to do something, she will survive
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That is no where near a harsh punishment Jesus Christ people it’s a tablet not food
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I think the punishment should fit the crime. Is the problem her watching Youtube, or the fact that she did it behind his back? And what is the lesson supposed to be? I feel like if tablet privileges are taken away the lesson she’s learning is to be more sneaky next time 
. If it were me I’d say “since I can’t trust you to make safe/appropriate choices outside of my presence, you are going to have to stay by me for the next ___ days/weeks so I can help you make choices.” Meaning when dad is making dinner she’s sitting at the table coloring, when dad is working on the yard shes in the yard, when dad is watching TV shes sitting in the room with toys, etc. Whenever she asks to do something, dad will have to decide if he wants to do it with her, and if he doesn’t then “sorry, you have to stay by me and I’m doing _____ right now.” The lesson being, act right when no one is watching (its called integrity) or you will have to always be supervised.
By the way I’m not pulling this out of my a**, I’ve made a career out of managing behaviors in young children (mostly those living in therapuetic environments). Research says grounding or timeouts aren’t effective with all children.
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We don’t allow our 6or 7 year old to watch YouTube , they know this rule if they were to go behind on our backs and watch it they would definitely get atleast a week or two idk about a month I would get soft but you tube is definitely a no no in our house
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That’s very harsh… she’s still pretty young and still learning but grounding for one whole month is absolutely ridiculous.
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This book saved my sanity and relationship with my SO & 6 yr old daughter. They have an audio book as well if he won’t read it he might listen to it 
I have a 5year old and when he disobeys I ground him, but only for maybe 2 days tops the rest of the month? Is a tad ridiculous
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That’s like forever for s child. Way to harsh!! I’d do like a weekend tops but mine usually lose things for a day unless it’s bad! But just disobeying yikes.
A month is a long time for a six year old.
My kids are allowed 2 hrs on at one sitting no more than 4 a day. If it’s a school night I unplug the internet and take away the devices. They also have to be outside for at least 2 hrs a day.
Um yea wtf… I would say 6 days if you’re gonna do it at all it’s not like she was doing drugs or watching porn
Grounding her from what? Just electronics, no the rest of the month is not unfair.
If it’s kid YouTube I see no reason for grounding my kids watch it regular YouTube 6 days should be fine
Theres YouTube KIDS. That’s rather harsh in my opinion. Mine is in time out 6 minutes and forgets why
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The rest of the month mmm no that’s crazy
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The longest I’ve ever punished my 6 year old from his tablet was 2 days. I personally think a month is way too long.
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That’s a little excessive… the next day she’ll forget why she can’t watch TV… she should be punished 2-3 days at least and 6 is too young to have access to youtube, there’s all kinds of inappropriate videos on there
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Have you seen YouTube these days? Even on the safety and child settings horrible disgusting and sexual videos get through so not too unreasonable. If my kid sees any it’s supervised. She knew the rules and CHOSE to disobey.
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yep. too harsh! he sounds psycho! is that his daughter too?
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It depends on why he doesn’t want her watching it and what she watched. And if she’s previously been in trouble for it. If she deliberately did it, then it’s not harsh. It’s teaching her it is a privilege to have it and she needs to respect the rules.
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Well he is the one holding down the fort while you are gone so let him decide whats best and hope he keeps his foot down
I dont think it’s that long she can find other ways to entertain her self
Books
Color
Barbies
Outside
Bike
Other toys in general
She will survive 3 weeks without internet at age 6
I am the proud owner of a 7 yr old daughter and she knows right from wrong and knows when I tell her not to and she does it anyways there’s gone b hell to pay my opinion is lady this is ur child u do what u see fit no 1 else’s opinion really matters but urs and ur husbands and so she don’t have internet for a few weeks probably do her sum good it does mine good when I take internet away she’s on it all the time she’s not in school soooo the internet’s a scary place for kids so young shell live I say punishment not to harsh she’ll find sumthn bttr to do with her time for the time the internet’s gone I promise!!! Prayers and good luck to ya
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Too much for a 6 year old
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The punishment must exceed the crime, if not they will do over and over.
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I have a 5 year old and isn’t allowed on YouTube at all.
That’s way to long for a 6 year old!!!
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Depends on what she’s grounded from. If it’s electronics that can get her to see YouTube then thats not really unfair.
1 week is basically 1 month in the perspective of a 6 year old.
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Terribly excessive. What’s he going to do when she sneaks out at 14? Ground her till she’s an adult? Thank you for your service. I hope you get home soon for her sake!
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Sounds harsh to me. I usually only take away thing for a day or so for a younger child. Good for all the other parents that don’t allow YouTube. I have youtube kids and there are some great learning videos and guess what, a lot of preschools and elementaries use youtube for learning.
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No. The sooner you get them to understand that the parent means business the easier your life will be as they get older.
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That’s a little much. Maybe a couple days but that’s bs
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My 4 and 5 year old kept watching youtube when I told them not to…
I disabled it off all devices they come into contact with, even mine
I think that’s too harsh I also think there’s other things she could do with her time as well though
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I think it’s not a big deal! It’s only YouTube! But the child will definitely feel that it’s unfair and actually it is not effective because the kid will forget what was the reason why he/she was punished. So I think reconsider the time. And the best is to set punishment levels based on conditions that u both agree on let it be written and signed (mine are so committed to such contracts) gd luck!
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6 is pretty young. The sense of reason isn’t even fully developed yet.
I think a good compromise would be for you guys to load her up with videos she CAN watch. There are parental controls and playlists that can be created.
Maybe they could watch TOGETHER. best of both worlds.
A month grounding is a lot for 6.
Thank you for tour service. I wish I had some advice.
Is she even going to remember what she did when the punishment is over? A month is ridiculous for a 6 year old.
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Not harsh at all, if that is the only part of her groundation. She can find other ways to occupy her time than watching videos.
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Nope. Not at all. Grounded from YouTube for the rest of the month. Your daughter would hate me as a mom. My 4 year old was disobeying me and his daddy right after Christmas. Guess what? His brand new toys got taken for a month then he had to earn them back.
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