Imagine Your partner is on Snapchat, and they just flipping through, then they come across this sexy girl promoting her Onlyfans; from the corner of your eye, you see them checking the girl out before they notice you watching; they hurry up and remain flipping through. Do you find that disrespectful towards your relationship? Or do you think you are just feeling insecure?
That would hurt my feelings definitely:/
We become insecure when we are disrespected
No, he is attached not dead, you’re telling me you never have checked out a hot guys profile or even in public?
It’s insecurity. It is 100% normal to be attracted to people. Just because he’s your partner doesn’t mean he’s not human. Just because you’re on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t look at the menu.
I see it as neither disrespectful nor as though he is insecure. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t find other people attractive.
I am personally unbothered by that but if its upsetting to you just talk to him about it and let him know that makes you uncomfortable.
Not disrespectful to look at other people and find them attractive. It does show how insecure you are in your relationship though
Its not a great feeling but men have eyeballs. We can recognize and appreciate a good looking person just as much as they do. As long as he just looks and keeps it moving I don’t see how its disrespectful to notice beauty when we see it
I mean as long as he isn’t intentionally seeking that sorta thing out, then it’s not entirely on him and all men look at women lol I would be a little bitchy if he was liking the photos or intentionally looking at that kinda stuff but for him to he scrolling and pause for a second I’d mostly get over it. Even tho I’d be upset cz it’s annoying that’s my own insecurities
Even if it is “normal” it still hurts your feelings…and I am definitely insecure so I get that too. Even if people say insecure like it a bad thing…insecurities happen like it or not. I also think that it could open the door to other things even if your not necessarily thinking about cheating a moment of weakness can lead you there.
It would definitely hurt feeling
But thats how it works
Often I know my man enjoys looking at other women that obviously are more attractive then me
But when it comes down to it us women do the exact thing they do we will feel hurt or insecure
I let my man look but I told him clear as day if he touches another women sexully
im done !!
I’m sure your beautiful
Its ok to feel insecure when you notice your man checking out another women its the way it works
Depending on your relationship, it’s not disrespectful to look if you don’t have those boundaries. However, I find it super disrespectful that he tried hiding it from you.
They can find someone attractive but not act on anything. Being in a relationship doesn’t suddenly stop that. It’s possible to find people attractive, but not be attracted to them.
Your feelings are valid but they do not represent your man, they represent you. I think it’s super normal to look at others. Heck, I will stop scrolling for a bikini pic and I am 100% straight. I think making it a big deal leads to making him hide and will lead to a lot of distrust.
It depends on the agreement you have with your partner.
Polyamory can be respectful.
You need go communicate with your partner about your expectations & boundaries, and allow him to express those same values to you.
My husband and I are always joking around when we find other people attractive. It’s to the point we point who the other one might find attractive out. We say we can look but can’t touch. We aren’t insecure about it so don’t make a huge deal about it or you could make it worse.
If he’s hiding it it is disrespectful. If you don’t like it and he does it it’s disrespectful. I honestly would just discuss it with him.
I’ve never understood people that “don’t let” their partner watch porn or get offended by stuff like this. If you think your man doesn’t watch porn or find other women attractive you’re seriously delusional and yes very insecure. Like unless the girl is someone you know, why are you letting that bother you?
Well everyone is an only fans model now a days so he may just not have to have a Snapchat if it bothers you
That is more of a personal boundary. If YOU feel disrespected, than its a boundary YOU have to set. Whether is because youre insecure is kinda irrelevant.
Ur insecure it was probably by accident
I wouldn’t care I would have been like let me see too lmao I wouldn’t call you insecure but over sensitive for sure.
Ladies, one thing we need to learn… men are visual creatures… even when they not with us they checking other females out
You can be in a relationship and still look at others. After all we are only human. It is whether or not we act on those impulses that would be disrespectful. That is more of a insecurity. But you need to figure out why you are insecure about him looking at other girls. Is it because he has given you reason to believe he would stray? If you answer yes. Than that is a trust issue and you would need to reevaluate the relationship. Because if there is no trust there is no reason to continue. Unless you can break down to the very core of why there is no trust and try to change whatever the cause is. Like are you insecure about someone that has done you wrong or cheated in the past. Some self reflection and communication with your partner will go a long way
If it hurts you it hurts you. Others may think you’re being oversensitive/insecure but you’re not. You have every right to feel upset I know I would.
I agree with people saying guys and girls check out other people while in a relationship BUT I find it disrespectful when they do it front of their partner. That’s a big no no for me
No I don’t people are allowed to look but not touch. Sounds like self esteem issues to me. No different to looking at someone on the street
My father in law used to say… it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home! Him and my mother in law were married almost 40 years
It’s ok to look and be curious. But if he tries to go on her only fans that’s not cool.
Micro managing is not a good thing
Men look, we all look but its insecurities, idk how to change it, other than I just say they can’t have that lol
I don’t care if my bf watches porn, but I’d care about only fans.
your relationship you kniow how you feel you knew answer before you asked for me its disrespect not everyone have own theroy
My man tells me when he sees a woman who’s sexy as hell and I laugh cause I do the same thing with guys. I check out guys and I’m sure he does the same. As long as he’s mine I’m not worried
You guys obviously need to talk. I’m a window shopper. If I wasn’t allowed to check people out id leave.
Its not for anyone else to comment on really hunny. Someone will be fine with their fellas looking at other women whilst others (myself included) think it is disrespectful and rude especially when you are sitting right there.
Some women say we are all human and look but ive never actually felt that. If your in love with someone you only have eyes for them…its not that hard xx
I’d knock him out personally lol
I mean. I wouldn’t personally care. Its kinda like tik tok. My husband has it and I know he watches it. And I know girls shake their butts on there. He’s gonna see it. But you have to be okay with it. If you aren’t then say something.
He gonna do what he wants anyways sis. You cannot control what he does. I don’t care as long as they don’t cheat but that’s me. I use to be extremely jealous but not anymore
Insecure or not it is disrespectful in my opinion. Isnt that what their one hr shits in the bathroom are for lol. Yes all men are visual creatures n it doesnt mean he is cheating or wants to cheat but he should have respect enough to control himself when with you. He needs to be scoping you out if you two are together wtf.
You obviously have bigger trust issues than just this one thing.
In all seriousness, if you came across a picture of a naked man, or just one showing his abs I’m sure you would be taking a second to look. We’re all human. As long as he doesn’t physically cheat I wouldn’t make a huge deal about it. It’s not like he was actually searching for it.
It hurts but its normal
I don’t care if my partner looks as long as he doesn’t touch.
Just let him catch you looking at hot guys on your snapchat and put him in his place
Maybe just my opinion, but I’d rather my dude pay the 10$ a month for some OnlyFans than go out and cheat. I’d rather my dude look at attractive girls on the internet than go out and cheat.
As long as theres no intention to cheat or to hide it, no biggie. My man shares sexy ladies on FB all the time, it’s fine to appreciate someone’s attractiveness. It’s when secret convos and meetups start, I’d be worried.
Plus I guarantee he swiped real quick cause HE DIDNT WANT YOU GETTING THE WRONG IDEA
Insecurities are created by disrespect.
It bothered you…so talk
Insecure or not, that’s disrespectful as hell.
Nope I don’t care I’ve been with my husband for 12 years. It would be crazy to think that he doesn’t check out other girl shit sometimes I’ll point out a nice ass. He’s human I don’t care what gets his engine going as long as he’s only parking in my garage lmfao
Girl I look at dudes all the time dnt mean I want them. Sometimes ur eye wanders a little !
Disrespectful. Talk to him. My man would never.
Sounds like it was a trigger either from him or a past relationship in my opinion. I get that it might sting a little if your self confidence is low, but if everything else is ok I’d chalk it up to being human I’d just be honest and say yeah that hurt my self image a little. It makes me uncomfortable. You feelings regardless of everything else are VALID and IMPORTANT.
Looking is a natural instinct. If they act on it it’s a whole new thing. I feel you are over reacting at just a look…
First things first. I’m absolutely against only fans. If I find my man paying for girls, I’ll flip but I also know he wouldn’t. So that’s why there’s pornhub. I can’t always be there for him, so I’m okay with him doing his thing instead of resenting me for it.
So, me and him work together. There’s a rep that comes in every couple months for a product they sell. She’s absolutely gorgeous, like… wow. I’ve caught myself checking her out, so one time I was walking behind him from a distance and the rep was in our walking path. So I just see him do a double take, was I upset? A bit. But I mentioned that I seen him and he legitimately asked me what I was talking about.
So my point is, guys like to look, as do girls. It’s not a big deal. But everyone’s going to be different.
Its okay to find someone attractive. His feelings towards you don’t change
Yeah. id feel sone kind of way. Prolly start a whole argument to be honest.
I mean… it’s an ad. They pop up automatically on Snapchat. Maybe figure out why you got so hurt over an ad.
He didn’t click on it.
Also, we are human. We can find people attractive, and still be respectful to our spouses by not acting on anything.
Unpopular Opinion: It’s important to understand the true differences between male and female sexuality so that you don’t cause insecurities within yourself based on unrealistic expectations.
I’d have him delete her. It’s disrespectful if he’s looking at her. If he was respectful, and really didn’t know that was gonna be posted, he should’ve immediately turned it off the second it came on.
No? I look at attractive people still. I’m married not dead.
I just don’t oogle and pursue.
Disrespectful!!! Period! Please for the love of God don’t let anyone let you believe otherwise. It is our job as a husband or wife to safeguard our relationships. I read through some of these comments shaking my damn head. They don’t surprise me. You’re just jealous and insecure. Don’t you look at men? HONEY if it bothered you don’t take any of these people’s advice!! Just talk to him kindly. Tell him it hurt you. It doesn’t have to be some huge issue or problem. Communication is something a lot of people can’t do because they can’t get their own heads out their ass long enough. Your feelings matter honey and these new age broads will tell you oh yeah let him look it’s totally normal. Relationships nowadays blow my mind. My grandma would have knocked my grandpas block off but then he only had eyes for her.
Ever looked at a pair of shoes while walking through a store? Or do you only look at shoes in stores when you’re barefooted? People look, it’s natural. Get over it.
Mmm I don’t even know lol
You’re getting a lot of answers all over the board. The answer can only come from you. I for one find it rude to be sitting next to you don’t that but that’s me. So that’s a personal boundary for me. But everyone has different comfort zones and it comes down to you voicing it and him respecting it.
We always send each other nice asses when we see them because we don’t want each other to miss out!
I don’t understand the logic of people needing to completely shut off WHATS NORMAL when they get into a relationship or get married. It’s OK to find someone else attractive. Long as they’re not doing anything to step out…looking is harmless. I check out girls asses all the time does that make me disrespectful? No. I don’t wanna have sex with them I simply find them attractive and that’s it. No harm or shame. I’m not ugly and I’m certainly not the prettiest so I find someone attractive…so what.
That’s not disrespectful. We are human and still find people attractive no matter what relationship we are in.
Depends. Has he cheated before? Is he ok with you ogling someone? Does he get defensive when you catch him/you do it? What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Me personally, I would be pissed. I’ve been with my husband for almost 15 years. He doesn’t like when I comment on guys, he don’t do it either. I know all his friends on his social media just like he did mine. You have to talk to each other. Yall discuss what is expected from each other. If you allow him to do it but he doesn’t allow you to do it those red flags need to be addressed. If not then suck it up and deal. You deal with what you want to deal with.
Looking is one thing, interacting is a completely different topic!
Id be a little mad he tried hoding it BUT maybe he knew it would make u feel some type of way. Me and my fiance literally check people out together lol asses and all. He watches porn it doesnt make me mad but we dont hide it either. So i mean maybe just tell him it bothered you that he hid it unless the girl part bothered you to but like above its human as long as they know its looking and not touching then thats just my opinion tho. Either way open communication is key
Disrespectful my husband values me too much to do something like that
Some men Ignore it, some don’t.
Ask yourself how Many fine men we ourselves ogle on FB, online, magazines, on TV, movies, romance books. It’s human nature to look and appreciate what we feel is attractive.
If you are insecure because of past or just don’t like it communication is key. Let him know it hurts your feelings so avoid that in your presence. And to remember that anything other than looking is a deal breaker.
My bf just the other day showed me a girl he went to school with that is promoting on her Instagram her only fans. I honestly didn’t care that much and looked at her pictures myself just to see. Is he interacting with it? Does he have a history of looking at porn/only fans? If yes, then it may be a problem. If it’s someone he’s known for a while, I guess it depends on if you’ve ever felt threaten by her? If he’s never interacted with a girl online before, I wouldn’t worry about it. However, only you can decide what is disrespectful in your relationship. If you find it disrespectful to continue to follow that girl, you need to voice your opinion. Don’t be mad. Tell him how you feel, and only after you’ve told him (calmly), if he still follows her then it is disrespectful. But maybe he doesn’t think it’s disrespectful especially if it’s someone he was already following, and then started to promote her onlyfans. If he followed her because she is promoting/on onlyfans, you might have a bigger issue that you need to discuss with him.
It’s ok if you find someone else attractive as long as you don’t do anything about it. Same would go for him in my opinion.
its human nature
Jealousy isn’t my thing. If looking at someone profile ignites a flame then there are deeper concerns to worry about.
People need to realize that just because someone is in a relationship or married it doesn’t mean they don’t find other people attractive🤷🏼♀️you’re insecure it sounds like. Unless he is physically touching them, talking to them, or seeking them out there shouldn’t be an issue with just looking. That’s why we have eyes😂
Personally I believe if your are truly happy with the person you are with you wouldn’t care to even look. Know all to well that it starts off Innocently just looking (we are all human right)? Problem is when that person they start looking at starts giving them attention and they believe there is something out there better, that’s when things start to happen. I’m lucky enough to have found someone that only has eyes for me and vice verse. I’m happy and content in my relationship and so is my partner so there is nothing else I want to look at. I may be old fashion, but we have to ask ourselves why so many people today split or get divorced? And I know a lot of you will not agree with me, but this page is for our opinion, am I right?
Long ago i felt it was disrespectful but years have past & were still together. Theres nothing wrong with looking you just cant touch i look when i see somebody looking good an my husband does too. Now looking & starring are different. Just let it go but dont feel bad for checking somebody out yourself
So he sees a hot girl and pauses to look a second? It’s almost as if he is human…definitely insecure.
It’s fine don’t over think it
Looking without touching is completely ok. I mean, when something is appealing, it’s hard not to look. However look only. Don’t obsess, don’t disrespect our thing by looking for someone else. No one can be the thought police. My thoughts are mine, just as his are his. However, if he’s paying for any sort of interaction, when there’s perfectly good interaction right in front of him, well, we’re gonna have a problem.
Hes allowed to find others attractive, as are you
Long as he’s only looking at the menu and not ordering off of it, you’re good. Let your insecurity go until you have something to truly worry about.
A little bit of both.
Insecure… he didn’t contact her or anything like that. It’s impossible not to see attractive people on social media. Hell even tv commercials have women in lingerie or underwear. Is he not supposed to watch those because he’s checking the sexy women out?
It’s ok to look it’s very natural and human nature as I’m sure if you spotted a hot guy or even a hot girl you would stop to look I know I do I can’t help it. If this is making you feel insecure and that to is only human everyone feels like this at some point. take some time to think about what makes you feel sexy this is a good opportunity to explore your inner goddess maybe go get some sexy photos done for your own confidence I’m sure your man would like sexy photos of his woman a lot more than some random pic.
Insecurity for sure. It’s okay to look in my book.
Even when you are on a diet you can look at food. Same thing…looking is normal.
I struggle with this too, but it’s my own insecurities.
Hubby was a book guy. I was watching a Jerry Lewis telethon when Chica was doing her hooch cookie and her top was slipping. Hollered across the house to hubby to hurry. Camera man was watching too. Swung away at the last second. Even bought him a subscription to Playboy. I TRUSTED HIM AND HE NEVER BETRAYED ME.
Both honestly, bc its disrespectful to you that they felt the need to stop and stare and then pretend like nothing happen and you’re welcome to be insecure bc of it now if he were to say a ego boost to you instead of pretending like he wasn’t then maybe you wouldn’t need to feel insecure
Feeling insecure. You would do the same thing. Everyone looks. Human nature
Men & Women are going to check out other men & women from time to time. In a relationship or not. I think it’s normal.
As long as that’s all you are doing.
It is very disrespectful…mine doesn’t only look at girls’ pictures but he always tells them how sexy & beautiful they are (in the meantime he does NOT tell me that) & he messages them & that’s why we are having so many problems & are in the middle of a breakup after a year & a half but he always says he doesn’t know what I’m talking about when I confront him about it so I tell him would you like me to send you all the screenshots of your comments that people send to me…well he changes the subject!! Have some respect for your partner or stay single
Everyone looks. As long as that’s all that your partner is doing. Men joke w their friends, just like we do. Now if you start noticing other behavior. Then ya. You’re husband needs to be put in check. Otherwise it’s no big deal
I think if you are asking this question there’s a definite feeling of insecurity but possibly your partner has given you a reason. Certain things when done in isolation is completely OK. However, when something occurs regularly or when you feel your partner dismisses your feelings about something it is definitely disrespectful.