Imagine Your partner is on Snapchat, and they just flipping through, then they come across this sexy girl promoting her Onlyfans; from the corner of your eye, you see them checking the girl out before they notice you watching; they hurry up and remain flipping through. Do you find that disrespectful towards your relationship? Or do you think you are just feeling insecure?
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That would hurt my feelings definitely:/
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Disrespectful.
We become insecure when we are disrespected
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No, he is attached not dead, youâre telling me you never have checked out a hot guys profile or even in public?
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Itâs insecurity. It is 100% normal to be attracted to people. Just because heâs your partner doesnât mean heâs not human. Just because youâre on a diet doesnât mean you canât look at the menu.
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I see it as neither disrespectful nor as though he is insecure. Just because you are in a relationship doesnât mean you canât find other people attractive.
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I am personally unbothered by that but if its upsetting to you just talk to him about it and let him know that makes you uncomfortable.
Not disrespectful to look at other people and find them attractive. It does show how insecure you are in your relationship though 
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Its not a great feeling but men have eyeballs. We can recognize and appreciate a good looking person just as much as they do. As long as he just looks and keeps it moving I donât see how its disrespectful to notice beauty when we see it
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I mean as long as he isnât intentionally seeking that sorta thing out, then itâs not entirely on him and all men look at women lol I would be a little bitchy if he was liking the photos or intentionally looking at that kinda stuff but for him to he scrolling and pause for a second Iâd mostly get over it. Even tho Iâd be upset cz itâs annoying thatâs my own insecurities
Even if it is ânormalâ it still hurts your feelingsâŚand I am definitely insecure so I get that too. Even if people say insecure like it a bad thingâŚinsecurities happen like it or not. I also think that it could open the door to other things even if your not necessarily thinking about cheating a moment of weakness can lead you there.
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It would definitely hurt feeling
But thats how it works
Often I know my man enjoys looking at other women that obviously are more attractive then me
But when it comes down to it us women do the exact thing they do we will feel hurt or insecure
I let my man look but I told him clear as day if he touches another women sexully
im done !!
It happen
Iâm sure your beautiful
Gourgus women
Its ok to feel insecure when you notice your man checking out another women its the way it works
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Depending on your relationship, itâs not disrespectful to look if you donât have those boundaries. However, I find it super disrespectful that he tried hiding it from you.
They can find someone attractive but not act on anything. Being in a relationship doesnât suddenly stop that. Itâs possible to find people attractive, but not be attracted to them.
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Your feelings are valid but they do not represent your man, they represent you. I think itâs super normal to look at others. Heck, I will stop scrolling for a bikini pic and I am 100% straight. I think making it a big deal leads to making him hide and will lead to a lot of distrust.
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It depends on the agreement you have with your partner.
Polyamory can be respectful.
You need go communicate with your partner about your expectations & boundaries, and allow him to express those same values to you.
My husband and I are always joking around when we find other people attractive. Itâs to the point we point who the other one might find attractive out. We say we can look but canât touch. We arenât insecure about it so donât make a huge deal about it or you could make it worse.
If heâs hiding it it is disrespectful. If you donât like it and he does it itâs disrespectful. I honestly would just discuss it with him.
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Iâve never understood people that âdonât letâ their partner watch porn or get offended by stuff like this. If you think your man doesnât watch porn or find other women attractive youâre seriously delusional and yes very insecure. Like unless the girl is someone you know, why are you letting that bother you?
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Well everyone is an only fans model now a days so he may just not have to have a Snapchat if it bothers you
That is more of a personal boundary. If YOU feel disrespected, than its a boundary YOU have to set. Whether is because youre insecure is kinda irrelevant.
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Ur insecure it was probably by accident
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I wouldnât care 
I would have been like let me see too lmao I wouldnât call you insecure but over sensitive for sure.
Ladies, one thing we need to learn⌠men are visual creatures⌠even when they not with us they checking other females out
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You can be in a relationship and still look at others. After all we are only human. It is whether or not we act on those impulses that would be disrespectful. That is more of a insecurity. But you need to figure out why you are insecure about him looking at other girls. Is it because he has given you reason to believe he would stray? If you answer yes. Than that is a trust issue and you would need to reevaluate the relationship. Because if there is no trust there is no reason to continue. Unless you can break down to the very core of why there is no trust and try to change whatever the cause is. Like are you insecure about someone that has done you wrong or cheated in the past. Some self reflection and communication with your partner will go a long way
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If it hurts you it hurts you. Others may think youâre being oversensitive/insecure but youâre not. You have every right to feel upset I know I would.
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I agree with people saying guys and girls check out other people while in a relationship BUT I find it disrespectful when they do it front of their partner. Thatâs a big no no for me
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No I donât people are allowed to look but not touch. Sounds like self esteem issues to me. No different to looking at someone on the street
My father in law used to say⌠it doesnât matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home! Him and my mother in law were married almost 40 years
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Itâs ok to look and be curious. But if he tries to go on her only fans thatâs not cool.
Micro managing is not a good thing
Men look, we all look but its insecurities, idk how to change it, other than I just say they canât have that lol
I donât care if my bf watches porn, but Iâd care about only fans.
your relationship you kniow how you feel you knew answer before you asked for me its disrespect not everyone have own theroy
My man tells me when he sees a woman whoâs sexy as hell and I laugh cause I do the same thing with guys. I check out guys and Iâm sure he does the same. As long as heâs mine Iâm not worried
Its both.
You guys obviously need to talk. Iâm a window shopper. If I wasnât allowed to check people out id leave.
Its not for anyone else to comment on really hunny. Someone will be fine with their fellas looking at other women whilst others (myself included) think it is disrespectful and rude especially when you are sitting right there.
Some women say we are all human and look but ive never actually felt that. If your in love with someone you only have eyes for themâŚits not that hard xx
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Iâd knock him out personally lol
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I mean. I wouldnât personally care. Its kinda like tik tok. My husband has it and I know he watches it. And I know girls shake their butts on there. Heâs gonna see it. But you have to be okay with it. If you arenât then say something.
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He gonna do what he wants anyways sis. You cannot control what he does. I donât care as long as they donât cheat but thatâs me. I use to be extremely jealous but not anymore
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Insecure or not it is disrespectful in my opinion. Isnt that what their one hr shits in the bathroom are for lol. Yes all men are visual creatures n it doesnt mean he is cheating or wants to cheat but he should have respect enough to control himself when with you. He needs to be scoping you out if you two are together wtf.
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You obviously have bigger trust issues than just this one thing.
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In all seriousness, if you came across a picture of a naked man, or just one showing his abs Iâm sure you would be taking a second to look. Weâre all human. As long as he doesnât physically cheat I wouldnât make a huge deal about it. Itâs not like he was actually searching for it.
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It hurts but its normal
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I donât care if my partner looks as long as he doesnât touch. 
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Just let him catch you looking at hot guys on your snapchat and put him in his place
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Maybe just my opinion, but Iâd rather my dude pay the 10$ a month for some OnlyFans than go out and cheat. Iâd rather my dude look at attractive girls on the internet than go out and cheat.
As long as theres no intention to cheat or to hide it, no biggie. My man shares sexy ladies on FB all the time, itâs fine to appreciate someoneâs attractiveness. Itâs when secret convos and meetups start, Iâd be worried.
Plus I guarantee he swiped real quick cause HE DIDNT WANT YOU GETTING THE WRONG IDEA
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Insecurities are created by disrespect.
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It bothered youâŚso talk
Insecure or not, thatâs disrespectful as hell.
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Nope I donât care Iâve been with my husband for 12 years. It would be crazy to think that he doesnât check out other girl shit sometimes Iâll point out a nice ass. Heâs human I donât care what gets his engine going as long as heâs only parking in my garage lmfao
Girl I look at dudes all the time dnt mean I want them. Sometimes ur eye wanders a little 
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Disrespectful. Talk to him. My man would never.
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Sounds like it was a trigger either from him or a past relationship in my opinion. I get that it might sting a little if your self confidence is low, but if everything else is ok Iâd chalk it up to being human Iâd just be honest and say yeah that hurt my self image a little. It makes me uncomfortable. You feelings regardless of everything else are VALID and IMPORTANT.
Looking is a natural instinct. If they act on it itâs a whole new thing. I feel you are over reacting at just a lookâŚ
First things first. Iâm absolutely against only fans. If I find my man paying for girls, Iâll flip but I also know he wouldnât. So thatâs why thereâs pornhub. I canât always be there for him, so Iâm okay with him doing his thing instead of resenting me for it.
So, me and him work together. Thereâs a rep that comes in every couple months for a product they sell. Sheâs absolutely gorgeous, like⌠wow. Iâve caught myself checking her out, so one time I was walking behind him from a distance and the rep was in our walking path. So I just see him do a double take, was I upset? A bit. But I mentioned that I seen him and he legitimately asked me what I was talking about.
So my point is, guys like to look, as do girls. Itâs not a big deal. But everyoneâs going to be different.
Its okay to find someone attractive. His feelings towards you donât change
Yeah. id feel sone kind of way. Prolly start a whole argument to be honest.
I mean⌠itâs an ad. They pop up automatically on Snapchat. Maybe figure out why you got so hurt over an ad.
He didnât click on it.
Also, we are human. We can find people attractive, and still be respectful to our spouses by not acting on anything.
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Unpopular Opinion: Itâs important to understand the true differences between male and female sexuality so that you donât cause insecurities within yourself based on unrealistic expectations.
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Iâd have him delete her. Itâs disrespectful if heâs looking at her. If he was respectful, and really didnât know that was gonna be posted, he shouldâve immediately turned it off the second it came on.
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No? I look at attractive people still. Iâm married not dead.
I just donât oogle and pursue.
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Disrespectful!!! Period! Please for the love of God donât let anyone let you believe otherwise. It is our job as a husband or wife to safeguard our relationships. I read through some of these comments shaking my damn head. They donât surprise me. Youâre just jealous and insecure. Donât you look at men? HONEY if it bothered you donât take any of these peopleâs advice!! Just talk to him kindly. Tell him it hurt you. It doesnât have to be some huge issue or problem. Communication is something a lot of people canât do because they canât get their own heads out their ass long enough. Your feelings matter honey and these new age broads will tell you oh yeah let him look itâs totally normal. Relationships nowadays blow my mind. My grandma would have knocked my grandpas block off 
but then he only had eyes for her.
Ever looked at a pair of shoes while walking through a store? Or do you only look at shoes in stores when youâre barefooted? People look, itâs natural. Get over it.
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Mmm 
I donât even know lol
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Youâre getting a lot of answers all over the board. The answer can only come from you. I for one find it rude to be sitting next to you donât that but thatâs me. So thatâs a personal boundary for me. But everyone has different comfort zones and it comes down to you voicing it and him respecting it.
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We always send each other nice asses when we see them because we donât want each other to miss out!
Itâs insecurity 
I donât understand the logic of people needing to completely shut off WHATS NORMAL when they get into a relationship or get married. Itâs OK to find someone else attractive. Long as theyâre not doing anything to step outâŚlooking is harmless. I check out girls asses all the time does that make me disrespectful? No. I donât wanna have sex with them I simply find them attractive and thatâs it. No harm or shame. Iâm not ugly and Iâm certainly not the prettiest so I find someone attractiveâŚso what.
Thatâs not disrespectful. We are human and still find people attractive no matter what relationship we are in.
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Depends. Has he cheated before? Is he ok with you ogling someone? Does he get defensive when you catch him/you do it? Whatâs good for the goose is good for the gander. Me personally, I would be pissed. Iâve been with my husband for almost 15 years. He doesnât like when I comment on guys, he donât do it either. I know all his friends on his social media just like he did mine. You have to talk to each other. Yall discuss what is expected from each other. If you allow him to do it but he doesnât allow you to do it those red flags need to be addressed. If not then suck it up and deal. You deal with what you want to deal with.
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Looking is one thing, interacting is a completely different topic!
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Id be a little mad he tried hoding it BUT maybe he knew it would make u feel some type of way. Me and my fiance literally check people out together lol asses and all. He watches porn it doesnt make me mad but we dont hide it either. So i mean maybe just tell him it bothered you that he hid it unless the girl part bothered you to but like above its human as long as they know its looking and not touching then 
thats just my opinion tho. Either way open communication is key
Disrespectful my husband values me too much to do something like that
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Some men Ignore it, some donât.
Ask yourself how Many fine men we ourselves ogle on FB, online, magazines, on TV, movies, romance books. Itâs human nature to look and appreciate what we feel is attractive.
If you are insecure because of past or just donât like it communication is key. Let him know it hurts your feelings so avoid that in your presence. And to remember that anything other than looking is a deal breaker.
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My bf just the other day showed me a girl he went to school with that is promoting on her Instagram her only fans. I honestly didnât care that much and looked at her pictures myself just to see. Is he interacting with it? Does he have a history of looking at porn/only fans? If yes, then it may be a problem. If itâs someone heâs known for a while, I guess it depends on if youâve ever felt threaten by her? If heâs never interacted with a girl online before, I wouldnât worry about it. However, only you can decide what is disrespectful in your relationship. If you find it disrespectful to continue to follow that girl, you need to voice your opinion. Donât be mad. Tell him how you feel, and only after youâve told him (calmly), if he still follows her then it is disrespectful. But maybe he doesnât think itâs disrespectful especially if itâs someone he was already following, and then started to promote her onlyfans. If he followed her because she is promoting/on onlyfans, you might have a bigger issue that you need to discuss with him.
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Itâs ok if you find someone else attractive as long as you donât do anything about it. Same would go for him in my opinion.
honestlyâŚeveryone looks
its human nature
Jealousy isnât my thing. If looking at someone profile ignites a flame then there are deeper concerns to worry about.
People need to realize that just because someone is in a relationship or married it doesnât mean they donât find other people attractiveđ¤ˇđźââď¸youâre insecure it sounds like. Unless he is physically touching them, talking to them, or seeking them out there shouldnât be an issue with just looking. Thatâs why we have eyesđ
Personally I believe if your are truly happy with the person you are with you wouldnât care to even look. Know all to well that it starts off Innocently just looking (we are all human right)? Problem is when that person they start looking at starts giving them attention and they believe there is something out there better, thatâs when things start to happen. Iâm lucky enough to have found someone that only has eyes for me and vice verse. Iâm happy and content in my relationship and so is my partner so there is nothing else I want to look at. I may be old fashion, but we have to ask ourselves why so many people today split or get divorced? And I know a lot of you will not agree with me, but this page is for our opinion, am I right?
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Long ago i felt it was disrespectful but years have past & were still together. Theres nothing wrong with looking you just cant touch i look when i see somebody looking good an my husband does too. Now looking & starring are different. Just let it go but dont feel bad for checking somebody out yourself 
So he sees a hot girl and pauses to look a second? Itâs almost as if he is humanâŚdefinitely insecure.
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Itâs fine donât over think it
Looking without touching is completely ok. I mean, when something is appealing, itâs hard not to look. However look only. Donât obsess, donât disrespect our thing by looking for someone else. No one can be the thought police. My thoughts are mine, just as his are his. However, if heâs paying for any sort of interaction, when thereâs perfectly good interaction right in front of him, well, weâre gonna have a problem.
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Hes allowed to find others attractive, as are you
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Long as heâs only looking at the menu and not ordering off of it, youâre good. Let your insecurity go until you have something to truly worry about.
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A little bit of both.
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Insecure⌠he didnât contact her or anything like that. Itâs impossible not to see attractive people on social media. Hell even tv commercials have women in lingerie or underwear. Is he not supposed to watch those because heâs checking the sexy women out?
Itâs ok to look itâs very natural and human nature as Iâm sure if you spotted a hot guy or even a hot girl you would stop to look I know I do I canât help it. If this is making you feel insecure and that to is only human everyone feels like this at some point. take some time to think about what makes you feel sexy this is a good opportunity to explore your inner goddess maybe go get some sexy photos done for your own confidence Iâm sure your man would like sexy photos of his woman a lot more than some random pic.
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Insecurity for sure. Itâs okay to look in my book.
Even when you are on a diet you can look at food. Same thingâŚlooking is normal.
I struggle with this too, but itâs my own insecurities.
Hubby was a book guy. I was watching a Jerry Lewis telethon when Chica was doing her hooch cookie and her top was slipping. Hollered across the house to hubby to hurry. Camera man was watching too. Swung away at the last second. Even bought him a subscription to Playboy. I TRUSTED HIM AND HE NEVER BETRAYED ME.
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Both honestly, bc its disrespectful to you that they felt the need to stop and stare and then pretend like nothing happen and youâre welcome to be insecure bc of it now if he were to say a ego boost to you instead of pretending like he wasnât then maybe you wouldnât need to feel insecure
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Feeling insecure. You would do the same thing. Everyone looks. Human nature
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Men & Women are going to check out other men & women from time to time. In a relationship or not. I think itâs normal.
As long as thatâs all you are doing. 
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It is very disrespectfulâŚmine doesnât only look at girlsâ pictures but he always tells them how sexy & beautiful they are (in the meantime he does NOT tell me that) & he messages them & thatâs why we are having so many problems & are in the middle of a breakup after a year & a half but he always says he doesnât know what Iâm talking about when I confront him about it so I tell him would you like me to send you all the screenshots of your comments that people send to meâŚwell he changes the subject!! 
Have some respect for your partner or stay single
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Everyone looks. As long as thatâs all that your partner is doing. Men joke w their friends, just like we do. Now if you start noticing other behavior. Then ya. Youâre husband needs to be put in check. Otherwise itâs no big deal
I think if you are asking this question thereâs a definite feeling of insecurity but possibly your partner has given you a reason. Certain things when done in isolation is completely OK. However, when something occurs regularly or when you feel your partner dismisses your feelings about something it is definitely disrespectful.
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