Nope. I always went to mine, cuddled mine, slept with them, whatever they needed when they needed it. They did not become insecure brats…quite the opposite. And as a mom facing a daughter headed to University, and a soon to be 12 year old son who needs me less and less, I wouldn’t change a damn thing!!
He is a baby. He needs comfort. Wear your baby! Best thing I ever did. I do not agree with the “cry it out method”.
Try a bit of both. Try it o it 10 min go in reassure give love less than 3 min then leave. Give lovey or play music when gone. Then cry it out 10 min. Repeat repeat repeat. Until baby asleep 3 days I bet you have a new routine. First night hardest. Stick to it.
This is the age at which a child learns to trust. If you called for your husband to help you, and he didn’t come you’d be upset. So go and soothe your baby, but do not sleep with him. Rock him to sleep, then put him to bed. Pat or rub his backrock until he settles down. Change him, feed him, then back to bed. There is no greater joy in life than rocking a baby
Hungry he’s hurting he needs love there’s a whole bunch of resins for him to cry attend to him I’m sure this is coming from a mom or a mom in law but do u
Not a believer in letting them cry it out. We only have them for so long and before you know it theyve outgrown you and wont need their mamas comforting and cradling in your arms. So i am making the most of it.
By the way my kids were never big cryers at all and i kid you not, they never threw any tantrums. I have 3 amazing kids (15, 6 and 5). Probably because i’d always cuddle them.
I’ve never let my children cry it out. It’s my job to tend to my children’s needs & their cries are their main communication to alert me that they need something from me. Whether it be food, fresh diapers, warmer or cooler clothing… or simply just comforting cuddles… My babies never cry it out. The mommy classes I took while pregnant with my 1st born taught me that a crying baby needs me or dad. If they are left to cry, their anxiety increases, heartrate increases, sense of comfort decreases along with their sense of security & love… and so much more. I could never let my precious littles cry it out after taking that eye opening class. I love them too much to let them feel neglected… even if it’s just for a little while.
I believe a certain amount of self-soothing is good, but if the baby is crying, its for a reason. It doesnt mean you jave to pick them up every time. Them knkwing youre there and your soothing voice helps. They’ll know they can count on you. 
Hold your baby all the time. Let your baby sleep with you. They grow out of it on their own in a few years. But there’s no such thing as spoiling a baby, and why does baby need to self soothe when they have mommy to begin with.
Your the mom so you do what you want.
My personal choice was self soothe once she was about 4 or 5 months old. She sleeps in crib because she sleeps better in her own bed and in her own room. She is 10 months now, and I let her soothe herself back to sleep unless she seems really cranky or hungry. Most of the time she will play with a small stuffed animal and then lay back down. During the day when she’s playing I make her play by herself in the play pen for an hour or so, so I can clean. She can see me and I check on her.
Babies will learn independence in their own way. And just because my patenting style is different from yours, does not mean my parenting style is the correct way. It simply means this is what works for me and my child. Do what you feel is best and parent the way you want and are comfortable doing. At the end of the day, we all just want our kids to feel loved and be happy. Who cares how they get there?
It’s perfectly healthy for him to cry and to learn to self sooth just let him know your there every couple minutes and about after 10 minutes of crying then go sooth him. I know your feeling cause I almost lost my little guy and it is so hard but it is the best thing you can do for him sweetie
Babies are meant to self soothe. They need all the attention they can get. Your not doing anything wrong. The bonding period in the first year is the time that your attachment is formed. People that ignore their children cries are the ones that have children develop RAD or attachment issues. Dont listen to naysayers.
I ran to each of mine and picked them up no matter the age. They know they are loved and needed. And now they are all independent. Your fine. Do what your heart tells you.
When you put him down for a nap if you can’t stand hearing him cry run the vacuum it will help drown out the sound depending on how old he is time it five minutes then check
Children can’t self soothe for about the first six months.
How old is this baby u don’t have to stop running to him a little baby is crying for a reason
You can do a mix- they’re only babies for a bit and then as tweens you can hardly get a cuddle! I’m glad I went to them when I could, so long as I was ok doing it.
I’m a firm believer babies cry for a reason even if that reason is just for touch or attention. But every mom should do what her gut tells her!
I can’t see all the comments. I’m in my late 70s. I’ve raised 3 children. I now have 7 grands and 3 greats. My advice to any mother would be with an infant check everything out. Do they need diaper change, are they hungry maybe they have tummy ache. Comfort them, love them. Older child, ask them why they are crying. Make sure there’s nothing going on and try to distract them, give them direction to take their mind off problem. Maybe they need some of your time. Read to them, play a game. Hug them. Assure them of your love. Sometimes that’s all they need.
We didnt ever make our youngest self-soothe. (She was the 3rd … we were too tired. She cried we picked her up and/or put her in our bed.) She is 10 now and still runs to us for every tiny little thing. We were much better at teaching our two oldest to self-soothe. (When they cried we would talk to them or give them a soothing object but didnt immediately ‘rescue’ them.) They are both very independent. Coincidence?
For self sooth there is a happy medium. I would let them cry for a few minutes because I needed them to know I will come but not the second you start to cry( 1 to 2 minutes at most cause it hurt my
) and as for the sleeping with babies part! Lol I slept in bed with everyone of my babies and also still do! I currently am laying with all 4 of my babies. But if you want time with spouse then well it makes it tough lol so I say to each their own
Cuddle them as much as you want. You are the mama and you know your child. Don’t ever let anyone tell you how to raise your kiddos. I ran to mine everytime they cried. They are almost 4 and 2. They are very secure and can settle down for naps and bed on their own. You do you mama.
I think it depends on the age and what their crying about… My daughter is 7 months and most of the time when she cries ill pick her up and love on her… But there are times when im holding her and i know shes not hungry and nothing is wrong and shes happy as can be and then i have to put her down for a minute to get something done and she screams (and its not a upset scream its a mad scream) the minute i put her down… And ill let her cry and scream and usually within a minute or 2 she stops and starts playing and doing her own thing… But i never let her go more than a few mins… Also at bed time i will let her cry it out sometimes… And the nights i do that are the nights ive fed her, loved on her and shes just over tired and shes crying and fighting sleep even with me holding her and shes pushing away from me… and i will put her in her bed and walk away so she cant see me …and again within a min or 2 she usually stops and passes out… Again i never go more than a couple of mins…
So im not against letting a baby cry it out but i do think you need to be able to tell the differences in the types of cries and over all i think it depends on your baby… But i am against letting a baby cry it out for more than a few mins.
If your child wanted to be picked up. Why wouldn’t you for the price of golden silence 
I slept with all my kids. My oldest is 17. Bought her own car, took a job as a nurse aide and works 60 hours a week. She applied on her own for dozens of scholarships and actually got some. She’s goi g off to college . in the fall. She was in the bed with me until 3 yo. She’s very independent! Do not worry
You can’t hold a baby too much. He’s building trust right now. Don’t feel guilty lovin’ on him
We did a gentle cry it out at 6 mos. 5 mins crying, 5 mins soothing, etc…
Isn’t that what Robert Dinero said about his grandchild in the movie Meet the Fockers doesn’t work in real life or movies😁
They grow up to fast…spend as much time as u can with them…let them cuddle. Let them hug…let them want u xxx
It’s healthy to let a baby cry a little. If you just wait a few minutes before running in to pick baby up not necessarily let them cry til they stop. I tried cry it out with my now 9 year old and it didn’t work, it isn’t worth the stress. But you’re also working out how to be a parent which is frikken hard. Cut yourself some slack and take a deep breath because you are a great parent, if you weren’t you wouldn’t be worried you’re doing the wrong thing.
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You hug and hold and soothe that baby… he’s learning you will protect him that’s your bonding time, and lastly he won’t be that small forever
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At 5-6 months, they should learn to self soothe or neither of you will get any sleep. The hardest thing I had to teach myself was that the crying would cease if I stuck to a structured plan. Within 3 weeks of letting him fuss in phases of 10-15 mins, not picking him up, only patting him to soothe a little every 10-15 mins, he was self soothing himself to sleep within 10 mins every night around the same time. I’d set a timer and refuse to go in his room until the timer went off (unless of course he truly needed me like he was hurt but I made sure he wasn’t hungry or wet before bedtime). You know your baby’s cries. Use common sense and you’ll be fine. It’s not easy for ANY mom to listen to her baby cry and just sit on her hands. But it’s worth it in the long run for you both.
Edit: my son is 9 now and is in no way psychologically damaged. He was sleeping on a schedule by one year old and got way more sleep at night because he didn’t need a comfort bottle to go back to sleep. He grew and thrived and stayed in the 90th percentile in growth so I knew he was getting enough nutrition during the day. I don’t remember when we stopped doing middle of the night feedings but it was some time after he started soothing himself, he’d wake up, fuss quietly for a couple mins and fall right back asleep. He kicked his own nighttime feedings BECAUSE of self soothing and got more sleep every night which I guarantee was beneficial to his health. Some of you people are ridiculous and judgmental.
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You know your baby!! You do what your heart tells you!! If your baby needs you than you go to the baby!! There is no right or wrong way!! It’s your baby you have motherly instinct,you do what you think is BEST!! THIS IS YOUR BABY,REMEMBER THAT!! YOU ARE THE ONE WHO HAS A BOND WITH THIS BABY!! GOD BLESS!!)
Trust your instincts as a mother people will give you lots of bad and good advise but you already know what your baby needs
Do what makes you happy and comfortable there is no “right” way just be careful for SIDS when co-sleeping. With that being said, you are delaying the inevitable, eventually you will want your bed back and for them to sleep in their own room and be more independent so it’s your choice if you want to do that now, or later. Later is harder because at that point they can get up and move on their own so really it’s deciding if you want to put in harder work later or now, but don’t feel guilty for loving on your baby all the time. Find what works for you some people don’t mind dealing with a few days of a screaming child so they can self sooth, some won’t let their child cry at all, and some find different ways that work for them. I would recommend starting a routine though. Maybe bath, baby massage, read a book, and then some quiet time in the dark while rubbing their belly to sleep, then transition to just standing near the crib, then transition to just being in the room, then transition to right outside the room until baby feels more comfortable. Just a recommendation though, but remember do what works for you and your family forget everyone else. If they aren’t getting up with the baby then their opinion doesn’t matter.
Do what u feel best…with my 4 kids I let them self soothe
No pick the baby up for goodness sake. Silf soothing is wrong on all accounts,just my opinion. They are only babies once.
You are doing fine. You can never hold a baby too much.
You should sooth your baby and enjoy this time together. Babies cry for a reason. Love will get you through.
Please keep that baby safe.
Share your bedroom with baby but, not your bed. AAP does not recommend co-sleeping. Join the evidence based safe sleep for babies group.
They get that independence all too quickly. You’re not wrong for following your heart and gut and going to your baby when he needs you. I have 4 boys. 2 are adults already and the other 2 teens… i held and cuddled all that I could when I could. They will eventually stop wanting to sleep with you or be held all together.
I slept with all my babies. I kiss and I love them on the daily. I want to teach my boys to love fiercely. I don’t see anything wrong with that. My oldest is 11 and he started sleeping in his own bed when he was 4. It gets uncomfortable sometimes but if they grow up to not shy away or hide their feelings I’m cool with it.
My mother always said babies need to cry yo exercise their lungs. Babies sleep a lot and the lungs don’t exspand . almost all babies have a fussy hour around supper time and bed time . don’t feel guilty just help your baby to feel safe and loved
With my first child I had an emergency c section, I couldn’t bond with him, his dad was very protective of him and always did everything, when I asked to hold him, he replied with he is my son not yours, of course he is my son I carried him for nine months, he made me feel like I couldn’t manage our son without help, when I managed to change his nappy, he stood over me to see if I was doing it properly, I knew I could do it, but with him standing over me I couldn’t stop shaking, in the end I told him to back off, I know what I’m doing I have changed my nieces nappy, u don’t need to watch me every 5 minutes, what are you going to do when you go back to work, his reply is I will tell your mom to phone me and ask me to come home because you can’t cope, she never did, as I managed well without him being stood over me every 5 minutes.
Good advice Hannah McGillic
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Crying is the only way the baby can communicate. Period. Any adult that doesn’t get that is an ass and shouldn’t have children. A baby is only a baby for a short time… fuck what the crazy moms are saying about let them cry. Now when that baby gets older like toddler age then you can ease it because the communication is different. Work with the kid… we are their first role models, teachers, their first love, let them know that you are there for them. That is not spoiling. And the stay away from the idiots that think letting a baby cry for more than a couple of minutes is a douche. ( By the way, don’t get anxious, if you are driving and alone and baby starts crying because again… infancy will not last forever.