I am 100% pro choice but I got pregnant 3 months into meeting the guy I’m dating. We now have a second baby on the way 
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You dont have to do anything in the next 24 hours, so just take a moment and breathe, you will know the right thing to do. The guy sounds like he is beside you no matter your decision.
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My only thought is everything happens for a reason. Trust the guy upstairs has a plan for you and your growing family.
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I agree with Tiffany Welch on this 
! Everything does happen for a reason! Take a deep breath and be thankful it didn’t happen when you thought you wanted it, considering the abuse! Your new guy apparently has experience with having children, so maybe that will work in your favor no matter what the outcome is. Trust that this is where you are meant to be and tackle it with all that you are:smile:you got this!! Many blessings and prayers to you!
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Take a deep breath and trust that there is a plan for this little one. I remember when I found out I was pregnant with my fourth and in an abusive, loveless marriage. I thought about abortion for literally 1 second and knew it was something I could never do and I actually loved this baby that I didn’t even know. I ended up getting divorced a few years later and raised my 4 kids by myself. It wasn’t always easy, but it was so worth it. As for baby #4, she is a spitfire. She’s a 20 year old blue eyed blonde and she is fearless and determined and my best friend. Not that my other kids aren’t, but there has always been a connection with the two of us. She’s always been my biggest cheerleader encouraging me in every hard time we had. I can’t imagine my life without her.
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You can’t live your life worrying about what people think of you or you’re not going to have much of a life.
A baby is a blessing whether it was planned or not.
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What is there to be lost about. At least you didn’t get pregnant with the abusive guy that would have been horrible as you would be forever tied to him. This guy gives you space lets you make up your own mind. You have been given a gift.
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Not much advice but my now hubby and I fell pregnant very soon after we met too, unfortunately our little one didn’t make it but we have been together for going on 10 years… Everything happens when it’s meant to happen not when we choose… But take time and think of everything. Good luck
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Things happen for a reason. Just breathe. You don’t have to make a choice right now. But remember, you are a good person and maybe this is God’s way of making your life better. He always has a plan for us. Itll be okay:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
you got this
Honey. Tbh he doesnt seem like a dead beat. Give it tkme. That baby isnt a mistake but a blessing in disquise. You couldnt get pregnant because 1 your body knew it wasnt safe and 2 maybe deep down you also didnt want to be pregnant. Pregnancy is a funny thing
Now you found someone who is safe (to your knowledge)
No one’s gonna think less of you no matter what you decide. If they do then theyre not there for you.
Youll know in your heary what to do. 
I actually went through this. Got pregnant after knowing the man 3 weeks. My son is now 4, has an amazing father and I’ve decided this was just Gods way of showing me where I was supposed to be. I couldn’t have picked a better man if I had tried. Screw what others think, this is your life to live and you were given this opportunity for a reason.
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Everything happens for a reason hun!! This little one was given to you for a reason!!! Hold your head up and don’t let what others think of you get you down
I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years and never once had a baby. I got out of that into a new relationship and got pregnant right off the bat in a similar fashion… I was very panicked but I began to see it as a blessing. You wanted a baby for a long time with the wrong person and it didn’t happen. Maybe this time its just a sign this is the right person. Try to look at the bright side of things. Look into ways to get help in your area as a single pregnant mother just in case he doesn’t work out. Im sure you will be fine. Just take it as… the universe giving you what you wanted in a very weird way
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Everything happens for a reason even at that moment in time we don’t know what the reason is. But one day when your baby is older an your looking at him or her it will click an say wow that’s why you happened. People will laugh but God will blessed you with this baby because he knew you were ready.
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Not a bad choice at all
God sent you an amazing blessing. So hold your head high love every minute of this pregnancy and be happy.
All that matters is what YOU want. What other people think is none of your business. Their shitty opinions are a them issue, not a you issue. Do whatever you feel is right and screw what everyone else may think. Wishing you all the best!
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Sweetheart follow your heart, fuck what everyone else thinks , you do what what’s you happy/best for you
God is Good and Babies are blessing! Good luck and many prayers whatever you choose to do! 
One door closes & another opens! Sounds like your dreams are coming true! Never worry about what others think! Take care of your family! He sounds very supportive!
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Don’t be scared, make decisions you won’t regret. Happy realtionship and a baby is what you wished for years and now you have both 
IF you don’t feel you are ready for a baby there is always adoption. I was adopted and realize my biological mother did it for my well being.
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Prayers that it all works out for you.
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My mom said life changes and you have to change with it
Good luck
God NEVER gives you want you cant handle. It’s a blessing.
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Only thing l will say is…follow your heart
At the end of the day. In all seriousness, this has got to be your decision & yours alone. Nobody knows your story, your struggles, what you’re willing to put up w or not. No disrespect at all. We could give our opinion of course. However, we would be giving our opinion thru our scope of lenses. From our perspective of life. Based upon what we’ve done or haven’t done
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My second child came from a 2-3 week fling. We had already stopped talking by the time I found out I was pregnant. When I told him, he had hinted towards abortion, however it was ultimately my choice. I kept the baby, we decided not to pursue a romantic relationship and now have a beautiful 2 year old and the best co-parenting relationship I could ask for.
Also, I was in a hard place & rebuilding my life when I found out I was pregnant … I had even had to move back home to my parents for a bit to get back on my feet. I met someone I will spend forever with, we have a beautiful blended family and another 
on the way. Things have a way of working out and when they are meant to be.
Best of luck
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Do whatever you need to do. If you want to keep the baby, to hell with what anyone else thinks. If you don’t feel you’re capable of being a good mother to another child, abortion or adoption are always options. If you abort or adopt out because of what other people might think of your relationship with the father, you will regret it. If you keep the baby only because you feel obligated, you will regret it, and likely do more harm than good to the child. There is no perfect answer to this question. It requires serious soul searching. Best of luck.
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I’m sorry bug I genuinely don’t believe adoption is the greatest idea your strong enough girl!
I got pregnant with my now husband 4 months into the relationship and we are still together couldn’t be happier was a bit hesitant at first to but we are 3 years in (I know it’s stil early) happier then ever be strong minded I know you feel all over the place especially with hormones n all listen to your gut it’s never wrong. Relax as much as you can try and get your head cleared (meditation helped me) weigh out the pro and cons I know it’s easily said then done but I believe your stronger then you think don’t let your mind and stress fool you be strong you got this mama! message me if you need to talk
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Honestly babe if u can cope with 2 kids then go for it… you’ve experienced a shit run with your ex and now are free to live your life and have your choice on whatever you decide to do… people will judge that’s a given but ultimately your gonna get that it’s just life. So enjoy your new chapter and bugger what people think like u said you’ve struggled to fall pregnant so this baby seems like a blessing in disguise 
you have 9 months to work out if you want the relationship or not before bub comes along. Take it easy on yourself you’ve done the hard yards now time to reap the benefits xoxox enjoy your life as much as you can your free now
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I’d say just go with having a baby and figuring out the co-parenting thing. Maybe stop trying to date for the sake of your little one or just do whatever you feel is right.
Never thought I’d have another. I was divorced out of a horribly toxic relationship, raising my 2 daughters (13&17 at the time) . Met my youngest daughter’s father. Was waiting until the next time i saw him to break up and found out I was pregnant. Unhealthy pregnancy, baby had major issues for the first 18 months of her life. I could count on one hand how many times I heard from her father. After medical intervention, she got better. Had to then take him to court for support and…I don’t regret a moment. She is the light of my life. She has brought joy back into my life. Bottom line, do what’s in your heart and you’ll never regret it.
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being pregnant is NOT always a blessing, and neither are babies. Think long and hard about whether you want another child because that’s the question you have to answer. Really it’s not about where you are with the guy bc thats new and frankly could blow up at any minute. You need to decide stat, whether you want to continue with the pregnancy. There is limited time in which to do that. Also are you willing to raise this child on your own, since you can’t know what this man will do. It’s difficult. Nobody who matters will think anything of you that’s bad. If they do, it’s on their narrow little minds. ITs about you and what you can handle.
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I fully support you decision to take your present situation ( and any future one) into your owns hands. You can pm if you’d like- I’ve had to have an abortion and I know how you feel. Big hug love 
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Have a good think about it. I fell pregnant 6 months into a new relationship after being basically told the same, that I’d need IVF and that and my partner had another kid already. We had spoke about kids but when we actually found out, I don’t think we really spoke to each other for 2-3 weeks and we lived together. We now have a 3 year old daughter x
All I can say as someone who went through infertility due to pcos and had to do ivf is that I know you’re scared BUT this is YOUR miracle!!! If the guy is willing to be there great! Regardless it doesn’t mean you need to commit if you’re not ready and accept this as the miracle you have waited for regardless of anyone else including a guy!! Good luck !
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I got pregnant 1st time i slept with a guy. Our son turns 19 in March. Was not how I planned… But he is the best thing ever happened in my life. The best person in this world. Its scary… But please think it over. Beautiful things happen when least expect
The first thing you do us stop caring what other people think.if you want to abort, that’s your choice. If you want to keep the baby, then keep it. If you don’t want a relationship with dad, then, don’t have one. That doesn’t mean keep him from seeing the baby. Do what you need to do, and forget about the opinion of others .
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First of all, who the hell cares what other people think of you? That baby will love you unconditionally like you’re the only person on the planet, and that’s all that should matter.
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I’m sorry you’re in this situation that doesn’t seem to be ideal right now. You’re in a difficult spot and I don’t think anyone on the internet commenting can truly tell you what is best because it’s not their life nor their decision to make.
My advice to you is to sleep on your options. Try not to make a rash decision that you may end up regretting later on. It does sound like he will support you no matter what. But at the end of the day, this is your body, your life and your choice to make.
I hope you are able to read past some of the hostility in these comments and remember you don’t owe anyone an explanation. You do you
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Babies are a absolute blessing. Maybe not being able to conceive with your ex was for a reason only God will ever know. But only you know what is best for you.
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Take the relationship part slow. If it doesnt work out you can be better coparents
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I honestly think this will be a good thing for you. Just take one day one step at a time. It will work out for you. Do not worry about other people. Thats what brings you down. Just do you and your family f### the rest. Good luck. If you ever wanna chat you can always hit me up!!! Dont worry and finally be happy!!
This lady is asking for advice on how to handle the situation and all you can do is presume she’s just going to have an abortion. What a world we live in aye instead of women sticking up for one another you can just shame them thinking they’ve already made a choice when clearly she’s stated she is in shock and it’s still news to her.
Tbh; if you’ve wanted and tried for a baby for so long and finally got one now in testing positive to pregnancy and still feel like you would adore and cherish having another child then I don’t see any issue in continuing with it especially if this guy is as supportive as he says he’s going to be.
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Dont worry about what people think of you! They don’t matter. Do what YOU want to do. Best of luck x
What an other women does with her body is no one else god dam business regardless of your beliefs keep your nasty arse options to yourself! You don’t know anybody reasons for wanting to get an abortion she’s already stated she’s struggling with her mental health if she doesn’t feel ready thats fine she can do what she pleases. You don’t need to come here and make her feel worse or upset her!
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Keep the baby. God knows what he’s doing. There’s a reason you didn’t get pregnant by the man you was with. It was meant to be that way. If this man is good like you say, take it as meaning something good. The baby is meant to be!
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This baby isn’t an accident. He/she is a blessing. There is help if you need it to get through the pregnancy & if you don’t want the child there are couples who can’t have one that would love to do an open adoption which would allow you to still be part of the child’s life as much or as little as you choose. Aborting your baby deprives you of a tremendous blessing & doesn’t solve the problem. It just makes you the mother of a dead baby. Adoption is a far better option for both you and the baby if you don’t want it, as you won’t have the guilt of knowing you paid a doctor to kill your child.
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Your 9-year-old son should be your priority. Talk to him. How does he feel after all the trauma he’s been through?
You didnt make any bad choice. I got pregnant 3 months relationship and we ended up staying together 7 years. It happens. Make the choice that is right for you.
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As for you Sandy Race , seriously do you have any idea of what you just said… maybe you need to grow up. Your actions suck.
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If hes the one honey he will understand. You can be in a relatiinshio without living together and doing the full platter. You can still take things slow while allowing him to be a father for the baby
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Listen, I am not a you get pregnant and its God’s miracle blah blah blah. But honey, you were blessed with this baby. It’s special. Take care of that honey with everything you’ve got. Baby daddy is second. You got it? If it works out with him, AWESOME.
Nobody can make this decision for you hun. You need to take time to think and not rush the decision in a day 
I was with my man 4 months before I found out about my daughter I my self have pcos I know how hard it can be but do what’s right for u u had been trying for a long time and now u have it
I got pregnant of my child after dating a guy for 4 months. He abandoned me and never cared about his son. You have a good man besides you. Take any decision you feel comfortable with. If he supports you either way, feel blessed for it. It’s up to you and everything will be fine.
Babies are blessings. But you do that feels best!
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The lady is asking for advice, not your opinion on abortion 
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Please- if you don’t want to raise another child- regardless of who the father is-- adoption! Please. There are enough babies being aborted already. I would happily take that baby myself!! I’ll pray for you and your little girl or boy.
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Don’t worry about what anyone thinks . Do what you want that fills right to you .
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Who gives a shit about anyone else thinks about you!??..… you need to remember this you are the one who has to live with yourself for the rest of your life for the decisions does that you make…
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I was married I ran from my husband was married 11 years no kids then I met someone a coworker then friend, during my divorce we found out I was pregnant.
Just breathe and take things one day at a time.
You need to heal first and focus on your son and your futures.
It’s awesome that this man is supportive.
Thank him and ask him to take it one day at time become friends before a relationship
You’re doing great stay strong and always remember your kids come first.
Good luck! 
Girl if tried for years & it didn’t happen then all of a sudden you’re pregnant with this man’s child, it’s a blessing from god
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There are too many couples out there childless that would happily raise the baby. Private adoptions include the couple paying all expenses plus groceries and much more. Some even want you living with them to ensure your taking care of yourself and the baby.
Just today our preacher talked about, the first person to rejoice over Jesus’ birth was an infant. Just pray. Daily. And you’ll get your answer.
I know a great couple looking to adopt.
It sounds like he’s a really great guy. Of course things can always look great when they aren’t but if he’s willing to try and you are comfortable with it I think it’s worth a shot to try to have the baby and work it out together. That of course doesn’t mean y’all have to have a relationship or anything but I feel like it’s worth a shot. After everything you’ve been through I feel like you deserve some happiness. I was in a very toxic mentally abusive relationship before getting with my current fiancé. I almost had a baby with the last guy (unplanned) but it ended in miscarriage. When I first got with my fiancé we got pregnant right away (not planned) and we were both happy but it sadly ended in miscarriage as well. We are now having our rainbow boy in March and he always says we have 3 kids even though my first child wasn’t biologically his he has never in any way made me feel shame or alone in acknowledging his existence (his bio father said that I lied and our son never existed which isn’t the case at all). But of course the decision is yours and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for whatever you choose to do.
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You do what you feel is best.
Wow I really can’t believe some of these comments. Some u people just blow my freakin mind. Shes already struggling enough and some yall go and say what u say. I hope she honestly dont read these comments cuz of what some yall said.
Girl do what is best for you. And dont worry bout what other people think. I spent half of my life worried about what people think. They say everything happens for a reason. So what if u just met him. He might end up being a great man and father. Just take it slow and see how it goes.
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I don’t think you made a bad choice. I mean sex is a natural thing and it happens. I too was diagnosed with PCOS and was told I’d never have children. I started dating a man and 7 months into our relationship I found out I was pregnant. We continued dating and after 3 years I finally yes to his marriage proposal. We’ve been together 14 maybe 15 years now and have three beautiful children. I say if he wants a relationship with you maybe give him a shot. I didn’t marry my guy until I was absolutely certain that I could unconditionally love him as I loved the child we created together. ( I had been in toxic relationship prior.) Whatever you end up deciding is your own business and nothing to be ashamed about. I hope you figure it all out. <3
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I’m so sorry I wish I could tell you what to do but here’s a thing I totally feel what you’re feeling I’ve got three baby daddies they’re spaced out for years apart I have six kids mixed in with all that oh I am single and doing it by myself I’m doing just fine and I don’t give two shits what anybody else thinks about it because I have a good head on my shoulders and I take real good care of my kids that’s the only advice I can give you is do what you think is right nobody else can make this decision for you And honestly you need to pray about it because when you pray you’ll know
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I started all over. My oldest was 13 when I got pregnant again. I worried about starting over. I worried what people would think of me. I thought my 13 year old son would hate me. He was very happy and excited and is the best big brother ever. They are now 16 and 3 and are BFF. I know how you are feeling. I went through all those thoughts plus more!! I could not be happier with BOTH my boys. It wasn’t easy. But it was so worth it. Feel free to private message me if you need someone to talk to about what you’re feeling and thinking. I won’t push any one decision on you.
Easy. Sign the baby over to him if he wants it. If not, adoption is the best option. All babies are conceived for a reason. That reason could be to bless a loving family thru a reputable adoption agency. It could be the most amazing thing you ever do in your life.
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I was with a guy for 2 years and never got pregnant. Then Met my husband and got pregnant in the first few months we met. Our daughter is 15 and our 13th wedding anniversary is Feb 5th. God blessed you at this exact time for a reason. Don’t block your blessings.
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Just coz you’re having his baby doesn’t mean you both have to move in and get married…you have 9 months to get to know him and date him…if he is what you want in life then commit otherwise leave…if you both commit and give birth to ur baby you all will be a family…if not atleast you’ll hav your kids. But what if you have abortion and he turns out to be the one and you both commit…then you’ll always think of this baby and regret ur decision.
The thing is the happiness you feel now is not because you’re single its because you’re independent, safe and living life how you wantef…you can be independent, feel safe and live life to the max while commit to the right person. Life is beautiful when you’re sharing it with your soul mate…
Don’t worry about whatever people will think, if you want to keep the baby, which I encourage haha, but no, seriously, if you want a baby, keep the baby and make sure to tell the guy you don’t want to be in a relationship, he will understand, believe me… however, then you have a baby with a stranger, and have no idea what challenges you’ll be facing with rasing a kid with someone you don’t know and also, you have no idea what he’s capable of… but anyways, hope you make the best decision for you and your family!
God gives you what you need and no more then you can handle.
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Never listen to what doctors tell you
ABORTION? Neither of you KNOW where babies come from? You want to murder a baby for YOUR irresponsible actions? SERIOUSLY??? GROW UP! Your NOT a child!
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God chose you to be that child mother. It’s up to you to give it a healthy father and lifestyle.
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This is your body, your life, so it’s your choice. No one here has a valid opinion on that. There is no guarantees when it comes to relationships so weigh your options and think about if you can handle raising two children on your own.
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My now husband and I found out that I was pregnant 3 weeks after we started seeing each other. Scary yeah, but we both agreed to keep the baby and try for a relationship. Fast forward 3 years and we have the best little boy anyone could ever ask for. We became parents before we truly even dated, but hey sometimes things just fall together differently. We’re now expecting our 2nd and our relationship and love just keeps growing every day.
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Girl thats a blessing. Fuck what people think. Unless they pay ur bills. Or wipe ur ass when u shit. They can keep their opinions in their throats and swallow it. Good luck mawmaw
Fuck what other people think first of all!!
Second, good luck in whatever you choose to do!
Awh hun. This does sound scary.
Whatever you decide to do will be perfect for you. If you are still struggling mentally, then maybe now isn’t the best time for a baby. I definitely understand how hard it is having mental health issues and new borns… ESPECIALLY if dad is an hour away. 
I think it’s wonderful he is standing by your side with whatever you choose. Just pray (or whatever you do) about it. The right answer will come to you, and in a year you will know your decision was right. 
Much love, Mama.
You can do this. 
Keep the baby please 
since this has been your dream. Take it slow with the guy if you are both confused. The important thing now is your baby
All the times ,You tried for a baby, Now you have you inside of you.And your confused because of a man?It is your child with or without him.I would abort or give up for adoption.
I grew up as a child you described as a bad decision. Its effects the child’s whole life even when they are a adult
I’m just studded by the support this adult woman gets. She had unprotected sex ,Umm the child if she keeps it.Will pay the consequences. I no longer want to be a part of this group. For the record get on birth control.
It was God Speed for you to get pregnant. Maybe hr is the one for you!! I feel this is God sending you a blessing!!
He sounds like a decent man girl, if you decide to keep this baby it seems like hes gonna be there for the kid. Maybe give him a chance too, but whatever you do, do NOT worry about the opinions of others because screw them.
Congratulations. Although you are struggling, it seems as though it is something you wanted deep down.
Not every circumstance is ideal.
Who cares what everyone thinks. They are not living your life.
I send you best wishes and hope you can come to terms with your pregnancy and enjoy some of It!
If a different decision is made. I send you the best of wishes for that as well.
Xoxo
You got this.
Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise. You tried so long with a guy who ended up not being the right one. Maybe that was fate keeping you from being stuck in a bad situation and now you’ve found a great guy who is father material and now fate is saying “it’s time”
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God gave you a miracle baby and he sounds like a good guy. I understand you feel like the timing is bad, but I think the fact that you were not able to conceive with your former abusive partner because it was God’s protection. This may be a gift in the most wonderful way.
As hard as it is, dont care about the judgment! I got out of a horrible relationship and a month later started seeing somebody. 4 months into our relationship, I got pregnant. Now its been 3 years together, we are engaged, and expecting our next baby in april! Sometimes life knows what you need before you do. Consider it a blessing and just stay open minded, you never know what this could turn into for you! Congratulations mama💓
I say, if you’ve had such a hard time getting pregnant in all those years, this baby is meant to be, have your baby, get to know the guy better, date or not its your choice.
My husband and I got pregnant after 3 months and got married the next month after finding out. I was in a horrible abusive relationship with a guy for 4 years before him. Its scary but honestly think God put my husband in my life for a reason and gave me 2 boys. Not every circumstance is ideal but it happened, do what you know is best for you and your children
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There was a reason you never conceived with the other guy - God’s protection and now God has gifted you with what you tried for for so long - don’t worry what others say or do it’s none of their business after all - this is your body, your child, your gift from God - and the dad seems like a very reasonable person and supportive - even though abortion was mentioned he really doesn’t seem like he wants that either. Cherish this little bundle that God gave you because there is a reason for it. Be happy with yourself you did nothing wrong and and no child conceived is a bad choice. God Bless in whatever choice you make.
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Go with what your instincts tell you to go with, don’t worry what others think because they won’t have to deal with any of your choices!! You and only you will!! Do what is best for you and don’t look back!! Never allow your past to stop your present and future!! You have a destiny and only you can follow your path!! Good luck
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Please keep or seek adoption for your baby.
Dont take his/her life because its caused a surprise in yours.
There are so many resources to help pregnant moms that continue to help into toddler years.