The universe has handed all of this to you. It knows you are strong enough to figure out what is best. Your gut is guiding you follow it. And this new guy don’t wash your hands clean of him just yet. 20 yrs abused and now I have the most amazing man who came as a blessing when I was in hell.
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You went years without a baby cause your body was under so much stress . There’s a lot of us who survived this. Worked out perfect . Let it be . Don’t feel judged . It’s a baby . Your body decided it was the perfect time to give you something beautiful
Honestly . Been there . If you want to private message me then we can talk. I know all about the one and done deal . If you can see past your mind striving for perfection you may see the blessing in disguise . Don’t rush into a relationship. One thing at a time, a real man will be there even if your not ready for a relationship. You have 9 months to bond and 18 being stuck together for life lol. Go easy on your self . I see no need to rush. Especially when you guys can reset and do this the right way even if you don’t end up together . If he wants to be there for his child he can start by thinking about moving closer to you or vice versa. Just don’t rush to move in if you don’t want to .
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It’s your choice to keep or not it’s okay to get an abortion if your not ready or if your not both ready don’t let anyone tell you it’s not okay to get an abortion
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It sounds like he’d like the baby but doesn’t want to pressure you. He also sounds lovely. You can’t predict what will happen in your relationship. Some couples get married after years together and break up, some get engaged after a few months and are together for decades. This is where life has thrown you but it doesn’t sound too bad. I understand there is a time pressure but for now, just take some time out and see how things go.
I would keep it since you’ve been trying so hard. And you might not have another opportunity. I take it as a blessing. If he wants to stay with you then great. If not , it shows what kind of person he is.
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Fuck what people think of you! Do what makes you happy. And there is no timeline when you meet the right person. I knew within a week that my husband was the only man I ever wanted in my life, we were pregnant within 4 months of being together, we have now been together 6 years and have the best life. A life I never knew I could have bc of abusive and toxic prior relationships. The fact that u went so long not being able to get pregnant then boom, u meet a new guy and get pregnant right away may just be the universe telling you that you found mr. Right.
I’m not going to tell you what choice to make, that is for you. However from what I’ve read alone I feel like it is a blessing in disguise. I would just take it one day at a time and see where it takes you. You don’t have to rush a relationship because of this. Just see where everything goes. He sounds supportive so far which is great. Good luck
I too had same thing happen. Tried for 6 yrs with my ex. We split, I met someone else and 3 months later found out i was pregnant. Here we are 9 yrs later with 3 beautiful children!
Girl, the situation may not be ideal, but you are being given a baby!!
Consider it a blessing🥰
You do whatever you want to do and don’t worry about anyone’s judgment. This is your body and your choice. Also, congratulations! It may have not been planned but neither was my baby girl and she is absolutely the best thing in my life🥰
Do whatever you feel is best for yourself and the child you already have.
Fucj yea !@! You got your baby!!! Woot !! It All happend for a reason:) just be happy
All I’m going to say is things happen for a reason the timing may not be perfect but this is how it’s meant to be in my opinion xxx
Well I got pregnant with my first after knowing his dad less than 3 months and I was on birth control, we lived in the same apartment building so that made things easier I guess, we were also together for 6 years after our son was born (he’s 14 now) and are great friends now. We’ve got each other’s backs. Something to do is just continue how you’re doing it and don’t label anything but make sure he knows you’re not having sex with other guys if that’s his concern. Shit happens to be honest. 
Met current boyfriend mid-March 2011…started officially dating in early April 2011 and had unprotected sex ONCE. A month later found out I was pregnant. I was almost 34, he was 39. He had an almost 18yo and a 14yo (same mother)…I had an almost 15yo and a 9yo. My oldest’s father was abusive and I left him when she was 3 months old. Met future hubby but were on again off again for years…and got pregnant while he was in town visiting from Florida for his brother’s wedding. Got married when our son was 18 months old…and then lost my husband to brain cancer a year and 2 days later. Let somebody say something to me about my 3 kids having 3 different fathers…
Things work out the way they are supposed to and screw anybody who gives you a hard time about it! 
You should be having protected sex and you probably wouldn’t be faced with this situation! Make better life decisions
Do not t worry what anyone thinks of you. Do not be ashamed.Hold your head high. Do your best to care for yourself. So you give birth to a healthy baby, a gift from God.
You keep that baby everyone deserves to see the sun come up in the morning. God is giving you the baby and love it. Things will work out. Please don’t disappoint God.
No one can make this decision for you and I’m so sorry that you are in this. I just want to point out, IF you are in a good place AND you feel like you can you MIGHT want to consider keeping the baby ONLY Because of the struggle and maybe this baby is really meant to be here if it happened despite the struggle you were expecting. I am a firm believer in what is meant to happen will. With that being said IF you think he is a good father and friend that’s really the only foundation you need, IF the relationship picks up and goes somewhere and you and he are great then awesome. A few months doesn’t really mean much if a connection is a connection… Personally. But you need to do what’s right for you. I am so happy your life is getting better.
Oh a more selfish side note… My bff can’t get pregnant so if you choose adoption she’d make a great mom.
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My advice is do what your instincts are telling you and dont listen to ANYONE trying to persuade you into a decision based on their personal beliefs or choices. Do what is right for YOU. I’m glad to hear that the guy is being stand up and supportive in whatever decision you make though.
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You must think long and hard about this. If you decide not to have the baby but knowing your medical history, can you live with that decision later on if you find that you’ll never be able to to have another baby? On the other hand, can you afford to raise another child on your own if this guy that you really don’t know decides that he has no responsibility towards the child. Remember, court orders can be ignored. If you think that you can go it alone, go for it! Sometimes men are here today and gone tomorrow. Would your parents be willing to help if you ever need it? When my daughter got in the same situation I told her that if she felt grown up enough to get pregnant, then she’s grown up enough to deal with it herself. She was a bit mad at me for not being there with her when she delivered but I wasn’t willing to commit to supporting her as I have been struggling for years. Evaluate your situation and I’m sure that nobody will hate you for doing what is best for you.
Don’t worry what others have to say. Just take it one step at a time. But always remember it you first before everyone else. You do what good for you and nobody else. Be strong.
Hun you do what ever you are comfortable with, stop reading half these comments because they wont help, at the end of the day none of us are perfect and the shit we do is our business. You already sound like a strong woman and even tho your new friend n you don’t know each other very well dosen’t mean anything, its your body and its your choice.
Did ur ex ever have a sperm analysis??? Are you sure that it was solely you that was the reason of not being able to get pregnant within that time of being with ur ex?? Don’t beat yourself up mama!! Thankfully now you can have this baby in peace without worry about yours and your children safety. If you decide to have this baby, enjoy every second. Look at this as you starting a new chapter…a better chapter.
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You can do this. Babies have a way of bringing joy. You won’t regret your baby
Fuck what everyone thinks… What do you want? What do you feel is best for you and your child now? You are stronger and more capable than you know. Do what sits right in your soul.
Adoption if u don’t want ur baby!!!