Why or why are you still together…
He’s not your life mate
Put the lease in your name if you can afford it by yourself cause sooner or later you’re going to be tired of this and want to leave and that’ll save you some headache. Some guys need to be told directly what you need help with but the fact that he gets all huffy when you do ask nah. To me it’s less frustrating to be alone than expect someone to help you and they don’t let alone give you attitude instead.
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That is not your boyfriend! That is your child. You have two children not one. Get rid of him now you’ll be saving a whole lot more money! He’s using you he’s living off of you and he’s treating you and the baby like shit! Kick his ass out! All he’s doing all he’s ever going to do is bring you down! Obviously you don’t need him for anything as him being in the same place with you is a complete waste of time we’re cleaning up and taking care of two children.
I dealt with this for 8 years. I had 2 kids with my ex and was taking care of them plus taking care of his 3 kids from his previous marriage alone. It never got better just worse. I also was a domestic violence victim but I finally got the courage to walk away and it was the best thing I could have ever done. I am married now to a man who makes me happy, works, pay bills (we both do) and He helps me with my kids. My stepkids and I even still have a very strong bond. They were 2, 7 and 14 when I got with him so they saw what I went through and respected me for all the sacrifices I made. If you are having to do everything by yourself u might as well be single cuz I promise you, you will be happier.
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OK well first off don’t get pregnant again with him. And I wouldn’t be moving to the next place w him cuz nothing is going to change
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My ex was similar. I was angry all the time because he refused to pull his weight. Then he’d gaslight me if I got mad and told him I was mad , vs just silently fuming.
Hence, ex.
It was easier being single - I wasn’t fuming constantly and I didn’t have to pick up after him on top of the kids.
If he’ll go to therapy, go. He kind of sounds like the type who won’t.
Starr documenting everything you do for parenting now and if you ask him for help and he refuses. Then if you do leave and he tries to get full custody or some BS, you have detailed info about how you do literally everything.
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Wow he sounds a real princess… some guys need to be told what to do, you are not sacrificing your money for your child what you are doing is helping your child to socialise with other children and people…she will benefit in her life, be proud that you are being a good mother, and your child will look up to you … if your husband needs to be told he may have had a mother who did everything for him, so you have to guide him that this relationship is for two people to work together that is what parents do… all the best to you am sure things will work out, it could take years …
Just be a single mum,
He will never change why are you paying for everything when he has a job.
I would be asking for half and if he doesn’t change leave 
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Literally stop doing anything for him. No more cooked meals, no more clean laundry, wash the towels you and your child use and then put them somewhere so he can’t use them. Literally at like he doesn’t exist
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Give him a honey do list. And if he can’t help out still don’t do his laundry tell him that you will each do it separately and he will do the dishes after each meal.
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Get professional help soon and get on with your life with your kids.
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Id say either his mum did literally everything for him or hes just bone idle anyway, if u was just a stay at home mum he would have a little bit of saying well u dont work i do, but either way he should have input with the baby when he comes home, take turns in bathing, bedtime stories etc, and he could clean the dishes while you shower/bath then when baby is in bed thats when adults get their time together, as a couple that is very important
Let him stay behind and go to the new place on tour own. You are doing g it alone already.
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Kick his useless butt to the curb and file for child support
Having a bad dude around is bad for you and your child. But you keep saying you are sacrificing for your child. Honey that is being a parent. It goes on forever. Even when they’re grown up. So get use to it. Kick the lazy a$$ out of the way and get on with your and your babies life!
Get rid of the whole damn man.
And precisely WHY are you moving in together??? It’s NOT going to get better. I would just move, not take his stuff and collect child support. Let him know that this IS an option. You really don’t need TWO Children !!!
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You picked a real loser.Haven’t heard any good qualities.Does he have any!!!
Don’t move with him. Move on. He is still in singkes,kid mode. Difference between kid and adult. Kid has to be told,adult does it ! You don’t need this . Kick him to the curb. Then he can just pay child support. And you can quit being his “mommy”.
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Sweetheart if you don’t leave that man … My man works 14 hour shifts and still helps me out with anything I need help with when he gets home … I’m not currently working so I’ve taken on all the housework mainly because that’s the way I’m helping out until my job finally starts … I don’t understand why he is expecting you to do everything … Please leave … You can do better on your own … 
He is a leach! It’s disturbing that he shows no interest in his own child. I’m sorry he shows no interest in you either… a good loving man would never do this to you. You are basically supporting 2 kids. Honestly you need to leave! And I say this with no doubt, mainly because he dosen’t seem to love his daughter… that is extremely strange!! It really breaks my heart to see how many women here post similar stories. Thankfully I got out of my extremely toxic marriage after 5 years. … they don’t change… especially after they know they can get by with it… however I don’t have any kids, so I do understand the hardship… however like you said he is barely contributing at all. The fact he dosen’t automatically buy groceries for you and your daughter is disgusting! By leaving You would loose nothing, and gain everything. You would have your daughter, your freedom, and the weight of a man child lifted! Do what you know is right. There’s a reason you vented.
Why are you even with him? What the hell does he bring to the table? Have a good d!ck game aint worth it, baby girl. Staying in a TOXIC relationship (which is what this is) for the ‘‘sake of the child’’ is a HUGE mistake. Do you want your daughter growing up thinking its ok for a man to treat her like this? big no no. This man has no love or respect for you. If you arent going to break up then its time for tough love. Sit down and discuss bills and money. split everything equally. If he doesnt want to help out around the house, dont cook him dinner. Only you and your child. You are working too so there is no need for him to be a lazy parasite like this
He’s not going to change. You need to change how you deal with him.
Sounds like you’re already a single mom. So give him an ultimatum since you’ve expressed that you’ve talked before with no luck.
I’d take my baby, And run fast. Don’t move in together. I guarantee everything will only get a lot worse. You are already doing it by yourself. Take your baby and leave him behind. I wouldn’t even let him see her. EVER! Good Luck & Best Wishes!
One question, what the Hell are you thinking? Does your old place have a curb??? That’s where he needs to stay!
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He has and is showing you exactly who he is. You have set up unrealistic expectations for him. As YOU have stated, he does not/has not helped you out. You may want to try moving on without him. Allow him to be apart of the baby’s life. Also, TALK to him about your expectations. Seems like you do well without him. Then make a decision as to where y’all stand relationship wise.
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He is your other child.
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I was married to my wife for 45 years before i lost her. But i helped all the time and still worked my job
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Why is it in this society women have such a hard time raising kids? If you feel your sacrificing your life then don’t have kids. For thousands of years men worked and women raised the kids and enjoyed doing so. I loved being a mum and would never say I sacrificed my well being. I’d do it again in a heartbeat